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  • Never Buy A Cake In An Alley Behind Wilko

    Incase you were tempted never buy a birthday cake from somebody off Facebook in an alley behind Wilkos, you probably deserve what happens next.

    This woman bought a birthday cake from somebody she found on Facebook and met in an alley behind Wilkos, and has learned the hard way.
    She also paid them fifty pounds for it. Up front.
    And – let’s not beat about the bush here – from certain angles, it looks like an BUTT.

    “We met in a back lane next to Wilko off Shields Road. She suggested there as she was going out and I was lucky to catch her after I finished work.
    “She asked me not to open the box up because of the rain – it was really heavy rain so I thought I’d better not.”
    So she took a bus home, and…
    “It’s absolutely shocking for £50. Some people say it looks like a fetus, some say a baby, a frog or even an alien.”

    So, you ask, what on earth is it supposed to be?

    Never Buy A Cake In An Alley Behind Wilko
    Never Buy A Cake In An Alley Behind Wilko


     

    The lady was hoping for a flexed muscular arm, like a bodybuilders for her partner whom is big on weightlifting and entering competitions

    Never Buy A Cake In An Alley Behind Wilko
    See could have saved herself a lot of time and money by finding a proper cake maker, there are many geuine cake sellers out there, even on Facebook sales pages or even bought a shop bought cake and everybody would have gone home happy.

    And of course, the drive-by baker has “disappeared” from Facebook.

    The have a go cake maker blocked the buyer and is believed to have changed her name on Facebook.

    Our advice to anyone wanting a special cake for any occasion is to never meet the seller in an alley way behind Wilko and if you do, check it out first, actually look at the cake before you hand over any amount of money.

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  • Intense Sexual Intercourse Breaks House

    A 640-lbs man and his 450-lbs wife had a rather unusual accident this year as the floor of their apartment collapsed during  intense sexual intercourse, causing the couple to fall three stories lower.

    Michael Davis and Theresa Walker from Liverpool, England were having rampan sex in their bedroom on the third floor of an apartment building when the structure collapsed.

    The couple and their bed fell through three floors before bursting through a wall and ending up in a laundry room in the basement of the building.

    Emergency services were rapidly called on the site and they were able to extract the unlucky lovers from their uncomfortable position.

    Miraculously, the couple suffered only light injuries and no other residents of the building were injured as almost half of the 250-year old building collapsed.

    Tom Watson, another resident of the building, claims the accident was predictable and could and should have been avoided.

    “This couple had very loud sex a few times a week and the entire structure would shake every time. The walls cracked and the light flickered. This is an old building, it clearly wasn’t built to endure this kind of stress!”

    Mr. Watson says the landlord was aware of the situation but did nothing to correct it.

    “He said the fact that they were overweight didn’t justify their expulsion and he offered to build an additional support beam in my living room. Even if the rent is cheap, most of the other tenants had already left because th situation was unbearable”

    Indeed, the two apartments below the couple have been unoccupied for months, a fact that explains the absence of casualties.

    The Liverpool City Police have opened an investigation and some forensic engineers have been called to the site to determine the exact cause of the collapse and whether the landlord is to blame for an unstable structure.

     

  • My Baby Could Of Survived-Hospital To Blame

    A Mum whose baby died 70 minutes after being born has been told her baby could have survived, four years after the tragedy.

    Chloe Turner, of Dovercourt, Essex, had to have an emergency C-section at Colchester Hospital when a normal pregnancy suddenly turned to tragedy in April 2013.

    Her daughter Lola-Rae was born very unwell and despite attempts to save her life she was pronounced dead just 70 minutes later.
    An inquest in 2014 ruled Lola-Rae died of natural causes after she suffered impaired oxygen delivery during labour.

    But Colchester Hospital University NHS Foundation Trust has now admitted that earlier intervention could have prevented the death and save Lola-Rae’s death and paid an undisclosed out-of-court settlement.

    Prolonged use of drugs given to induce labour and meconium staining caused Lola respiratory distress.
    And the trust has said if a c-section had have been carried out in the hour and 20 minutes after her heart rate first dropped Lola would have survived.
    Chloe, 23, said: “Even if they hadn’t said it, in my eyes it was always their fault but the fact they admitted it gives some closure.

    “I didn’t do it for the money, I wanted justice and I didn’t want it to happen to any other parent or child.
    “Of the settlement money, for Lola’s life they paid £1,500 – I think it’s disgusting for a life.
    “It was all down to them.
    “People say time is a healer but I don’t buy into that, the more time that goes on I feel I’m missing her grow up.”

    Chloe also has a 15-month-old daughter Maci and five-year-old daughter Ruby who she says are also missing out on knowing their sister.
    “My oldest asks all the time where her sister is, it’s heartbreaking.”
    Jerard Knott, associate solicitor at Curtis Law Solicitors said: “This is a tragic and entirely avoidable event.
    “Proper monitoring, treatment and intervention would have meant that Lola would have been born healthy.
    “For Chloe the impact is that save for some mementoes her other children will never have the sister they should have had.”

    My Baby Could Of Survived-Hospital To Blame
    My Baby Could Of Survived-Hospital To Blame

     

     

     

     

  • I Nearly Lost Custody Over A Silly Mistake

    Jackie Lilley of Maldon Essex nearly lost custody of her little boy Brayli for one silly mistake.

    Brayli aged 21 months had just been picked up from nursery by his mother Jackie, 24.
    Brayli was tired and cranky but Jackie still had errands to run, the tired toddler had fallen asleep in his car seat.

    Jackie had to pick up Her medication from the local pharmacy before it closed.
    Jackie made a big mistake she decided to leave Brayli asleep in his car seat and run into the pharmacy, after all she would only be gone for a matter of minutes.

    Jackie knew he could come to no harm, he was in plain sight, strapped in his car seat and fast asleep and it was not a hot day.

    Little did she know a PCO was walking past and spotted the child, he jotted down her number plate and searched for the mother whilst radioing into report it.

    Jackie pleaded her case to the community officer and after giving him her details she was able to leave, still in shock she drove home.

    Jackie thought that was the end of it, but social services called, to check up on the welfare of Brayli, she was asked multiple questions and felt scared, she was warned not to leave her child alone in the car even for a minute.

    Although there is no written law stating what age a child can be left alone if those in power deem it unsafe or neglectful you run the risk of losing your child.

    Jackie wants to warn other parents to never leave their child in the car, even though it can be a hassle to unbuckle them or have grumpy children or temper tantrums, it is not worth the risk of losing your child or being in big trouble.

  • My child is Gay and that’s not okay

     Grace Reynolds told us her story which actually made us feel sickened and sad that people still have this outdated view, her thoughts and views are hard to believe but please note we at Mums advice do not share these views ourselves.

    Grace said:

    My son Jamie is 18 and a homosexual, Jamie was such a sweet handsome little boy, who loved his trains and cars, as he grew he was always out with his friends playing football or on his bike, such a smart, bright well behaved boy.

    This year my baby boy, my only son, sat me down to tell me something that would change my life and ruin my relationship with my son.

    He is Gay!!!!

    Society tells me I should be happy and even proud of him, PROUD OF WHAT?

    Proud that I will never have a daughter in law?

    I will never have biological grandchildren, and knowing my son is doing ungodly acts.

    He has brought shame and embarrassment to my family and I.
    Everyone wants to be all accepting of gays but surely all this is doing is encouraging them.
    Bring back Jesus into our country, pray out the Gay, teach children that it is a mortal sin and stop putting gays on a pedestal.
    I will never accept my son’s life choice, if he wants to lay with a man he won’t be supported by me.

    Mums advice tried to explain to Grace how her thoughts and views were wrong and no matter what her son is, he is still her son, she should support and love him, no amount of prayers can change him, it is not a choice to be gay he was born this way.

    We hope in time she sees the error of her ways but if not we hope Jamie finds love and happiness.

     

  • Mum dies alone in cold house – wrapped up in a coat and scarf

    Grieving relatives of a loving mum stated she died alone and cold in her freezing cold house after her benefits were stopped because she was too ill to attend a benefit meeting.

    Elaine Morrall passed away whilst wearing a thick winter coat and a scarf indoors because she couldn’t afford to pay for heating and had switched it off until her children got home from school, her priorities were keeping her children warm and not herself.

    The 38-year-old, who suffered from an eating disorder and mental health problems, was found dead at her home earlier this month.

    In recent days, a fundraising campaign has been launched to raise money for her devastated four children and help ease some of their burden.

    Elaine’s mum, Linda, sent a raging and “brokenhearted” letter to her local councillor in Halton.

    In in an open letter on Facebook, she wrote:

    “How many people have got to die before this government realises they are killing vulnerable people?”

    Her plea has gone viral on social media.

    Linda said: “My daughter lived in Boston Ave. She died on the afternoon of 2 November, 2017 at home on her own. She was 38yrs.

    “In the cold with her coat & scarf on. Because she wouldn’t put her heating on until her kids came home from school. Why?? Because she couldn’t afford it.

    “Because she was severely depressed. Suffered from eating disorder & many other problems for many years.

    “Mainly due to authoritarians of one form or another. I can give you details. Was in & out of hospital in recent months in intensive care.

    “But was deemed not ill enough for ESA [Employment and Support Allowance]. Had her benefits stopped numerous times, which in turn stopped her housing benefit.

    “No income but expected to be able to pay full rent. Was told being in intensive care was not sufficient reason for failing to attend a universal credit interview.

    “I went to the job centre to inform them that she couldn’t attend. But benefits stopped again.

    “Uncaring housing taking her to court. She’s due to go to court on Monday. Is being dead now enough reason? Is that what’s had to happen to prove she was ill?

    “How many people have got to die before this government realises they are killing vulnerable people??

    “What are you and your fellow councillors going to do to protect your constituents?”

    Mum dies alone in cold house - wrapped up in a coat and scarf
    Mum dies alone in cold house – wrapped up in a coat and scarf


    Halton MP Derek Twigg , who is now working with the family, said: “It is a very tragic case and I am providing assistance to my constituent.

    “The family are grieving and request that they are given the privacy, time and space they need at this time.”

    A Department for Work and Pensions spokesman said: “Our thoughts are with Ms Morrall’s family at this difficult time.

    “We understand that people can’t always attend appointments, which is why we will re-arrange alternative times.

    “Assessment decisions are made with consideration of all the information provided, including supporting evidence from a GP or medical specialist.

    “Anyone who disagrees with a decision can appeal.”

    Jonathan Horsfall, Halton Housing Trust debt recovery manager, said: “We always follow strict procedures around arrears.

    “We strive to find solutions with our customers and have intensive support workers who enable us to do so where possible.

    “Our support services are on offer to those who we know are in arrears, and are always reached out to for support.

    “If customers are concerned about arrears we always encourage anyone to get in touch with us as early as possible in the arrears process so we can do all we can to help.”

     

  • Husband Blindfolds Wife And Cuts Off Her Fingers

    ‘I’ve got a surprise for you’: Husband blindfolds his wife…. and then chops off her fingers to stop her studying for a degree. A jealous husband is facing life in prison after chopping off his wife’s fingers because she began studying for a degree without his permission.

    Rafiqul Islam, 30, blindfolded his wife Hawa Akhter, 21, and taped her mouth, telling her he was going to give her a surprise present.
    Instead he made her hold out her hand and cut off all five fingers. One of his relatives then threw Ms Akhter’s fingers in the dustbin to ensure doctors could not reattach them.

    Husband Blindfolds Wife And Cuts Off Her Fingers
    Husband Blindfolds Wife And Cuts Off Her Fingers

    Mr Islam, who is a migrant worker in the United Arab Emirates, had warned his wife there would ‘severe consequences’ if she did not give up her studies.
    ‘After he came back to Bangladesh, he wanted to have a discussion with me,’ Ms Akhter told The Times.
    ‘Suddenly, he blindfolded me and tied my hand. He also taped my mouth saying that he would give me some surprise gifts. But, instead he cut off my fingers.’

    Mohammed Saluddin, the Bangladesh police chief said that Mr Islam had confessed after he was arrested in the capital, Dhaka, and will face charges of permanent disfiguration.
    Human rights groups are demanding life imprisonment.
    ‘He was enraged. He was jealous because while he only had a grade eight standard education, she was off to college to pursue higher studies,’ said Mr Saluddin.
    Ms Akhter says she is learning to write with her left hand and is determined to resume her studies. She is now back at her parent’s house.
    The attack is the latest in a series of acts targeting educated women in the Muslim-majority company.
    In June, an unemployed man gouged out the eyes of his wife, an assistant professor at Dhaka University, apparently because he could not stand her pursuing higher studies at a Canadian University.

     

  • Family Where Mum Is Dad, Dad Is Mum And 4-Year-Old Son Gender Neutral

    Family Where Mum Is Dad, Dad Is Mum And 4-Year-Old Son Gender Neutral
    Family Where Mum Is Dad, Dad Is Mum And 4-Year-Old Son Gender Neutral


    British couple Nikki and Louise Draven are one of Britain’s first families to raise their child, Star Cloud, in a completely gender fluid environment. Louise (Star’s Mum) was born as a man and is currently undergoing hormone therapy to successfully transition into a woman. Nikki (Star’s Dad) identifies as both male or female, and transitions between genders on a day-by-day basis.

    Both parents wish to raise Star in an environment that is neutral and fluid, straying from traditional gender roles. They allow Star to choose whatever clothing and toys he wants, or wear any colours he likes.
    Nikki and Louise met at an LGBT meet-up in 2011 and found that they shared very similar views about family and gender. The two of them wish to provide Star with the freedom of choice they wished they had while growing up in their homes. They want Star to be able to choose his own gender when he is older.

    Louise and Nikki want to raise Star in as ordinary a home as possible, but neither of them put much stock into gender roles defined by society.

    Family Where Mum Is Dad, Dad Is Mum And 4-Year-Old Son Gender Neutral
    Family Where Mum Is Dad, Dad Is Mum And 4-Year-Old Son Gender Neutral


    Star is like any ordinary kid, but instead of playing with only cars or trucks, Star also enjoys playing with dolls and barbies.

    Family Where Mum Is Dad, Dad Is Mum And 4-Year-Old Son Gender Neutral
    Family Where Mum Is Dad, Dad Is Mum And 4-Year-Old Son Gender Neutral

    Faced with challenges, the other children in Star’s nursery tell him that he can’t play with dolls because they are for girls, but Louise and Nikki carefully explain that Star is free to play with whatever he enjoys.

    Family Where Mum Is Dad, Dad Is Mum And 4-Year-Old Son Gender Neutral
    Family Where Mum Is Dad, Dad Is Mum And 4-Year-Old Son Gender Neutral


    Star will be attending school soon, which will require him to wear a boy’s uniform, but he gets to wear a pink vest and socks: his favorite color.

    Family Where Mum Is Dad, Dad Is Mum And 4-Year-Old Son Gender Neutral
    Family Where Mum Is Dad, Dad Is Mum And 4-Year-Old Son Gender Neutral


    When addressing Star in their home, Louise and Nikki use ‘him’ and ‘his’ but don’t put too much emphasis on the words.

    Family Where Mum Is Dad, Dad Is Mum And 4-Year-Old Son Gender Neutral
    Family Where Mum Is Dad, Dad Is Mum And 4-Year-Old Son Gender Neutral


    Nikki and Louise want to make it very clear that Star is allowed to wear makeup, put on a dress or even paint his nails if he wishes.

    Star knows that he is a boy, but Nikki and Louise want him to know that they don’t want to put limitations on his gender in any way.

    The couple has had multiple run-ins with bullying and public criticism, but remain hopeful that others will keep an open mind about their family

    Family Where Mum Is Dad, Dad Is Mum And 4-Year-Old Son Gender Neutral
    Family Where Mum Is Dad, Dad Is Mum And 4-Year-Old Son Gender Neutral

     

  • To the Lady Ashamed of Being Pregnant With Her Fourth

    To the Lady Ashamed of Being Pregnant With Her Fourth
    To the Lady Ashamed of Being Pregnant With Her Fourth

    I met you in the elevator on my way back from the pediatrician’s office. It was just me and Wren, and you looked at her fondly in her stroller. When the elevator doors opened, you very kindly held the doors open for me. As I clumsily maneuvered the stroller past you, I accidentally ran over your foot. “Don’t worry about it,” you assured me over my profuse apologies. “I have three children myself,” you revealed to me.

    My eyes traveled to your big belly. There was an awkward pause as I wondered if I could assume you were pregnant. “And I’m expecting my fourth,” you admitted. “Congratulations!,” I told you. “That is wonderful!” I saw the relief spread across your face. “Thank you!” you said, and I could tell you meant it. “You have no idea how many people offer their condolences when they find out this is my fourth. Or they ask me if this was planned.” “How rude of them,” I replied. “All children are a blessing.”

    As we parted ways, I felt an immense sorrow for what our society has become. When did having a large family become equivalent to a tragic event? Why do people think that seeing a mother with lots of children automatically entitles them to make rude comments concerning her family planning?

    Countless strangers in grocery stores have seen me with my three little ones and impertinently asked me how many children I am planning on having. I don’t know, person I have never met before. Tell you what: How about next week, I will bring my husband here and all three of us will discuss our family planning and come up with a number you find suitable. Or figure out which ones to eliminate if you feel I have too many already. But honestly, the only answer for the impertinent question of how many children I am going to have is all of them.

    And why are people so obsessed with whether a pregnancy is “planned” or not? Does the child from a “planned” pregnancy have more value than the child of an “unplanned” pregnancy? As to the answer to this other impertinent question, my only answer is yes, God planned for this child from time immemorial, and I will do my best with this life that is entrusted to me.

    There seems to be some unspoken rule that you are only allowed to have two children: one girl and one boy, about 2-5 years apart. If you mess up and fail to meet the gender quota of one of each, you are permitted to go out on a limb and have a third. However, you will risk endless ridicule from strangers if you really mess up and end up with (God forbid ) THREE of the same gender. I have never understood this stock portfolio approach to child-bearing. If you are looking for variety, you get plenty of that within the same gender, trust me. Besides, I hate to point out the obvious, but no matter what you plan on having, you get what you get. As much as we want to, we can’t control everything. Especially when it comes to child-bearing. I’m OK with that mostly because I’m religious, but I’m digressing from the point of this post.

    I have three girls who are each about a year apart. This, for some reason, makes people feel uncomfortable. They are constantly trying to rationalize my unconscionable decision to have that many children so close in age with either: 1) that we kept unsuccessfully trying for a boy, or 2) we are “getting it out of the way quickly.” To be honest, I don’t even know what no. 2 means. We’re having children, not going in for a root canal.

    I have stopped even trying to explain to people that no, we just like having children. That just doesn’t compute. Who would have three children close together ON PURPOSE? Because, I mean, isn’t it difficult? And so not worth it? Maybe if I told them I am a rebel who is swimming against the stream I will garner more support. Being rebellious is always cool, right?

    Benjamin Franklin was one of 17 children. Beethoven was one of seven, and JFK was one of nine! Every child has the potential to do something great in the world. So please, give the mother of these children the support and encouragement she needs whether it is her first child or her ninth. Because your last child deserves just as much excitement as your first.
    And to the lady in the elevator, a thousand times congrats. You are truly blessed.

     

    Originally appeared om Tales from the mommy trenches

     

  • Why This Photo Of A Dad Eating Dinner With His Daughter Has Been Shared Nearly 50K Times

     

    Why This Photo Of A Dad Eating Dinner With His Daughter Has Been Shared Nearly 50K Times

    Most of us don’t think about the people behind our food. The people planting, growing, and harvesting our food. Many of us don’t realize the backbreaking, brutal, lonely work that goes into that one sack of potatoes you might pick up for pennies at the shop.

    Some of us might not think twice about the sugar we spoon into our morning coffee. And certainly not all of us contemplate the existence of the beef that we bite into with a big, delicious burger.

    But the men and women who are clocking in hours as farmers are the very people that make the world go `round, and one farmer’s wife recently shared a sweet look inside the sacrifice — and sweetness — of life on the farm.

    I snapped this picture the other night at the end of a long day. I was tired. I was irritated. I had sent my husband a text telling him that I knew it wouldn’t make a difference, but I wanted him to know that I was feeling fed up with how much he works and with all that I have to do everyday by myself. The full time job, cooking dinner, bathing kids, weekend trips without him, keeping up a home, you name it I was resenting it. I have to have these little moments.. more

    Katie Spence Pugh, a mum of three, including twins who were born in 2010, and pharmaceutical rep who lives in West Tennessee America, posted a picture to Instagram and Facebook about the hardships of being a farmer’s wife. In her family blog, Pugh described how she and her husband, Eugene, had been college sweethearts before getting married. When Eugene decided to help run his family’s farm, Pugh also made a commitment to shoulder the sacrifice that comes with shouldering many of the responsibilities of parenting solo.

    “I snapped this picture the other night at the end of a long day,” Pugh wrote. “I was tired. I was irritated. I had sent my husband a text telling him that I knew it wouldn’t make a difference, but I wanted him to know that I was feeling fed up with how much he works and with all that I have to do everyday by myself. The full time job, cooking dinner, bathing kids, weekend trips without him, keeping up a home, you name it I was resenting it.” 

    Pugh went on to describe that she gave into those (very normal, I might add!) feelings of resentment several times over the grueling planting and harvesting seasons, when it’s typical for farmers to work until the wee hours of the mornings, only to stumble in for a few hours of sleep before climbing back into a tractor. And it was in one of those moments, when Pugh was feeling overwhelmed, that she had an epiphany.

    “He came in, fixed his plate and sat down to eat all alone. He was tired. He was hot. He was exhausted. Rather than complain, he said he was sorry I was tired and felt that way. Charlotte joined him and talked his head off and even ate most of his dinner. He didn’t complain. He shared, and it hit me. Do I wish that we saw him more than an hour or so a day? Yes. But, the love he has for his craft is something to envy. Farmers work in a thankless profession.

    It’s always non GMO this and organic that, and let’s not even talk about the stress from Mother Nature. This is a man who is working to uphold 4 generations of blood sweat and tears and showing his children the value of hard work and discipline. So while I felt frustrated, I really should have felt thankful.

    I got to sit down to dinner and hear all the stories from the day with the kids. I got to give them a bath and hear their squeals and giggles. I got to snuggle and love on them for 3 hours more than he did. He is the one sacrificing, not me. We will keep on keeping on until the next rainy day when we get a few extra hours with our hard worker.”

    Pugh’s words have resonated with farmer’s wives, and us mere mortals, all around America and the world, as it has been shared over 48K times.

     
    If nothing else, Pugh’s words are an important reminder to remember the sacrifice of those who work so hard to provide for us all.
    “The next time you slip into that comfy cotton shirt or eat delicious farm fresh food, thank a farmer. Where would we be without them?” asks Pugh.
    Consider this our thanks to you, Eugene, and to you, Katie. Because farming, like parenting, is always a team effort requiring sleepless nights, endless patience, and a whole lot of comfort food.