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  • Toddler Badly Burnt Whilst At Nursery

    Distraught mum’s horror as Toddler Badly Burnt Whilst At Nursery

    Little Reuben’s face was scalded in the accident at Bridge End House Nursery, Fixby

    Reuben’s mum has told of how she was left feeling “hysterical and distraught” after her toddlers face was scalded following an accident at a Fixby nursery.

    Sarah Jane Walker, 29, of Deighton said she couldn’t believe what she was hearing when the manager at Bridge End House Nursery told paramedics what had happened  to her 18-month-old son Reuben Adams.

    Sarah said: “I was working in Huddersfield town centre when I got a call from the nursery manager at 3.30pm. I was told he had been burned. I put the phone down and went as fast as I could to Huddersfield Royal Infirmary where an ambulance had taken him.

    “I got there and Reuben’s key worker and nursery manager were there. He was in an awful state. I got hold of Reuben and took him out of the nursery nurse’s arms and they left.

    “I was in hysterics. I was crying. I didn’t want him to see me so upset. He was given morphine and transferred to Pinderfields General Hospital. My mum was there.

    “He has had some more morphine to clean the wounds. He couldn’t sleep and I was with him all night.

    We are hopin with time the scars will fade and that he grows up with no memory of this pain.

    Toddler Badly Burnt Whilst At Nursery
    She said paramedics were told by nursery staff that her son had apparently opened the safety gate and went into the kitchen area and has somehow been injured by a bowl of boiling water used to warm a baby bottle.

    “Reuben is my only baby and I’m mortified that this has happened in the care of a qualified Ofsted registered nursery that I researched before registering him.

    “I had put my trust in this nursery so I could go to work to give Reuben everything possible.

    “Reuben will not be returning to the nursery ever again.”

    Toddler Badly Burnt Whilst At Nursery
    Toddler Badly Burnt Whilst At Nursery

     

     

  • Dad Tearfully Kisses Daughter Goodbye

    If there is such a thing as mother’s instinct, a mum named Sanda Alibabic doesn’t have any of it.

    The Slovenian woman, along with her new boyfriend Mirzan Jakupi, are now being accused of murdering her daughter.

    Alibabic decided to leave her husband, Senad Kardasevic, last year to be with Jakupi. This left the divorced couple co-parenting their little daughter, Arina.

    Dad Tearfully Kisses Daughter Goodbye

    Meanwhile, Alibabic and Jakupi moved in together. A short while into their new arrangement, Kardasevic began to notice bruises, scratches and marks on his daughter.

    Of course, every child gets bruises from playing and general clumsiness, but these seemed more sinister and deliberate. The little girls dad reported this to local child protective services but nothing came of it.

    Social services were unable to find any evidence of abuse and dropped the case. Unfortunately, the situation soon escalated.

    Kardasevic was on his way to visit his precious little girl Arina when he received the worst phone call of his life. On the other end of the line, doctors were telling him that Arina was in the hospital’s intensive care unit.

    Her mother, Alibabic, had called an ambulance claiming that the toddler had run into a radiator. But Arina’s broken bones and bruises told a different, much more harrowing story.

    Doctors at the hospital did everything they could to save Arina. Meanwhile, they called the police, leading to the arrest of the despicably abusive couple.

    Dad Tearfully Kisses Daughter Goodbye
    Two days later, Arina passed away from her injuries. Her father sat by her and kissed her as the precious two-year-old took her last breaths.

    Dad Tearfully Kisses Daughter Goodbye

    The dad wants to raise awareness of child abuse and wants social services to investigate claims of child abuse more seriously, if they had his precious little girl would still be here.

    If you suspect a child is being abused please do not hesitate to report it https://www.gov.uk/report-child-abuse 

     

  • Things Not To Say To Parents After The Loss Of A Child

    Losing a child is the hardest thing a parent can go through. There are often no words to describe the pain and anguish the parent feels. As a friend, you want to reach out to them but you often feel like you don’t quite know what to say.

    Reaching out in love is the best thing you can do to help your friend who has just lost a child. Mums advice asked bereaved parents what things are better left unsaid.
    Here are eight things Things Not To Say To Parents After The Loss Of A Child:

    1. “Your child/baby/fetus that passed away recently…”
    Never refer to the child that passed away in impersonal ways. One of the biggest fears parents have is that their child will be forgotten. It is best to call the child by their name and talk about the great memories you had of him/her.
     

    2. “I just don’t know how you’re managing to hold it all together”
     Quite often  the grieving parent is just putting a face on to make it through the day. You bringing it up will often tear down the facade they have built up that day to go out and get things done. They are obviously heartbroken; you don’t need to be the one to tell them that.

    3. “Well at least you’re still young”
     The loss a baby or child is heartbreaking it doesn’t matter how young or old they are and if they can have more, no child can replace their angel baby.

    4. “He/she is in a better place”
    Often a person believes this statement, but they would rather not hear it. The parent would rather their child be here on Earth with them. It isn’t bad to bring up religion, but maybe focus on listening to the parent share how they are feeling instead.

    5. “Well what you’re going through is just like that time I….”
    Never trivialize their pain with your own story. Yes, you have pain and yes, they are feeling pain, but it probably isn’t the same pain. It is better to just listen to them share their feelings and the experience they are going through right now.

    6. “It’s been a while; maybe you should get over it”
    This is a very blunt way of saying what a lot of people think: “How are you still grieving?” or “Why haven’t you gotten over it?” Never keep a clock on someone else’s grieving. It takes us each a different amount of time to deal with pain, and it is unfair to expect everyone to overcome grief in a certain time frame. The loss a child isn’t something you just get over.

    7. Dark jokes
    Some people grieve by making terrible jokes about the situation. It is not a good idea to jump in and start making these kinds of jokes.

     8. Nothing
    Reach out in love. Not saying anything will make the parent feel alone. Ultimately, whatever you say, as long as it is said with love, the parent will feel that love.
    It is a terrible thing to lose a child, and it is important that those who have experienced this type of loss are surrounded by love. This is a hard thing to go through, and you can help erase some of that pain by reaching out with open arms.

    If you are looking for support Mums advice have a special group, where we offer love and a companionship with other parents who have also  lost their precious angel https://www.facebook.com/groups/1838309873119464/

     

  • Pregnant Woman Almost Died After Baby Kicked Through Her Uterus

    Pregnant Woman Almost Died After Baby Kicked Through Her Uterus

    A pregnant woman narrowly avoided death after her unborn child “kicked” through her uterine wall. Fortunately, the mother and newborn baby both survived this exceptional mishap.

    The uterus is connected to the fallopian tubes and the cervix

    The woman, was in her 36th week of her pregnancy. She was sent to Hospital on the 17th of October 2016 after suffering from severe stomach pain, the hospital reported in as long with her intensifying abdominal pain, doctors also noted problems with her blood pressure, pulse, and breathing.

    The mum had  surgery, just a few months before becoming pregnant, to remove fibroids from her uterus. These are non-cancerous growths that can grow along the wall of the uterus. After discovering this in her medical notes, the doctors quickly carried out a scan where they diagnosed a “high degree of suspected scar rupture of the uterus”.


    After making this diagnosis, it took doctors just 5 minutes to rush the mum into a operating theatre. They found the babies legs poking into her abdominal cavity through a 7-centimeter rip in her uterus.

    The doctors said the woman’s previous surgery left scar tissue in her womb, leaving the uterus wall far more at risk of breaking/ripping. This is known as a rupture pregnancy.

    These are thought to affect less than 5 in 1,000 pregnant women who have previously had a C-section, the risk is far lower for first-time mums and for women who haven’t previously had a C-section. It’s even rare to experience this after having surgery for uterine fibroid.

    In this case, both mum and baby were at a huge risk of infection. Thankfully, doctors managed to deliver the baby with complete success. The mum and her baby are now said to be happy and recovering well.

    This phenomenon is exceptionally rare but not unheard of, we are all just thankful that the doctors worked so quickly and mum and baby are doing well.

     

  • I Am An IVF Baby, Don’t Judge My Mum

    My name is Sophie and I was born in 1996.

    One Evening in March, when I was twelve, my mum and dad sat me down sat.

    Being the kind of kid I was, I thought I was in trouble. They both looked anxious and very serious. In the months prior she had been giving me educational books and little mum and daughter talks about reproduction. Now, in retrospect, I realise it was to prepare me for this very moment.
    I came into the world a different way

    Together my Mum and Dad told me that I wasn’t conceived the way that my sex education teaching was teaching us about. They told me that I was very special. I was an IVF child, and what’s more, I was conceived using a donated embryo. To be honest, I was confused at first, but eventually I felt proud and happy that i must have been very much wanted.

     My mum couldn’t have children due to very early menopause. Doctors never found out why this happened, it wasn’t genetic.

    Her five sisters had never had a problem.
    As for my biological parents, for their privacy, I won’t disclose what led to their need to access IVF. However, after accessing IVF treatments they were blessed with triplets.

    They were left with eight embryos, which they kindly decided to donate. I spent four years as a cluster of frozen genetic material before my parents were granted access to these donated embryos. I was the only embryo to survive and be successfully transferred.

    It wasn’t until I was a grown woman that I realised that some people thought I was a freak of nature or my mother as a lesser being.

    As a student midwife, I often found myself when on placement asking parents of multiples if they were IVF.
    I remember asking one mum who had twins if they were from IVF. Her face filled with a kind of shame or fear and she looked at me like she wished at that exact moment I would disappear. She finally confirmed that they were IVF. I smiled and told her that I was to, she instantly looked relieved and the tension fled her face.

    It was that moment I began to feel upset and even angry at the ridicule people like her and my mum would have experienced.
    I know what it took to get me here, IVF is not an easy process, but these babies are much wanted.

    Being a person of IVF has never made me feel ashamed or somehow lesser than others.

    At times I felt it’s given me strength that I otherwise wouldn’t have.

    I have never doubted that I was very much wanted, I’ve always known I was meant to be here on this earth.

    It shouldn’t matter if a baby is conceived “naturally”, through IVF,insemination or surrogate, every baby is a blessing, do not judge our mums!

     

  • Smacking Children Aganist The Law

    Smacking  children will shortly be banned in Scotland, the Scottish Government has just confirmed.

    Ministers have announced they will ensure that a Bill brought forward by Green MSP John Finnie would become a new law.
    The legislation will remove the defence of ”justifiable assault” in Scots law, which allows parents to use physical punishment to discipline a child.
    The move will make Scotland the very first part of the United Kingdom to introduce a ban on the smacking of children.

    Should smacking be banned in England, let us know in the comments?
    Scottish Labour announced earlier this week it would also support the bill as “the right thing to do”.

    A spokesman said:

    “Giving children equal protection against assault will send a clear message to all of us about how we treat each other and underpin Scotland’s efforts to reduce violence”.
    “The physical punishment of children is already illegal in 52 countries and the proposal will give children in Scotland the necessary protections to flourish in a healthy environment and encourage the building of stronger relationships between children, their parents and others who care for them.”

    “The NSPCC has long campaigned for children to have the same protection against assault as adults and we strongly believe a change in the law would be a common-sense move.”

     

  • This Picture is Causing EVERYONE to Double-Take!

    The human mind is an amazing thing.  It can make us see some strange things and this is a great example!

    Shared with us on Mums Advice Private Chat by mum Áine this one has many of us scratching our heads and taking a double-take!

    I was at the doctors today, and on his desk was this container of antibacterial wipes. When I first looked I seen one image, then I looked back and seen something totally different. It tripped me the f*** out lmao.
    What do you see?

    Pregnant lady or baby?

    What did you see first?

    Let us know in the comments.

  • This Mums Amazing Tip Is A Game Changer!

    This mums amazing tip is going viral and it’s clear to see why!

    We parents understand the struggle when our babies are ill, it’s horrid to see our children unwell and sometimes they refuse to take their medicine!

    So when Helena Lee shared how she managed to get her little one to keep her medicine down we were so happy!

    Credit: Helena Lee via Facebook

    FOR ALL MUMMIES…
    So for the last 24hours ive struggled to get alfie to take calpol, he has ended up covered in half of it where he spits it at me……

    Then i remembered seeing this trick..

    Not 1 bit got wasted 👌👌 and no tears 👌👌

    please feel free to share with any baby mummies you know xxxxx

  • My Husband And His Energy Drink Addiction

    Brianna and Austin were so excited to meet their new baby boy. 

    But one morning, Austin’s mum phoned with life changing news.“Austin had an accident” she told the worrier mum to be.

    After a long drive to the hospital, Brianna learned that Austin had had a brain hemorrhage.

     But the reason behind the sudden horror was just as unexpected.

    Austin had been drinking energy drinks ever since he’d started picking up over time and had to commute more regularly.

    Brianna learned that Austin had had a brain hemorrhage. But the reason behind the sudden horror was just as unexpected.

    It became a regular habit and soon, Austin was drinking them excessively. Doctors say they’re ultimately what caused Austin’s brain hemorrhage.

    Brianna said Austin had to have a lot of brain surgery to save his life, everyone was terrified. 

    Following this were strokes, seizures, swelling, and more things we weren’t prepared for.

    “Then the time had come for me to deliver our baby”.

    “I’m not going to lie to anyone, it was so hard. I had planned on Austin being a part of this huge moment. Being by my side. Holding my hand. Being there to cut the cord. Being there to welcome our son into the world. It didn’t feel right”.

    “But a beautiful miracle happened as I delivered our son. Austin woke up”.

    Austin was still too weak to see his son and was in and out of consciousness.

    Brianna said ” At a little over 2 months old, our son finally met his dad. A day I wasn’t sure I would ever see. That was the day that my heart gained some of its happiness back.

    Some time after that he could finally come home to me. Our life isn’t normal. There are doctors visits and hospital trips — so many that I lose count”.

    “But we are here. Fighting”.

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  • Furious Mother Hits Out At Facebook For Banning A Photo Of Her Sick Daughter

    Furious mother hits out at Facebook after a photo of her toddler is banned – because her rare skin condition looks ‘undesirable’ and would make others ‘feel bad about themselves.

    A furious mother has hit out at Facebook after it banned a photo of her one-year-old daughter, who suffers from a rare condition that causes her to break out in blisters at the slightest touch.

    Rhiannon Atkinson, 30, posted pictures of Pippa’s feet to raise awareness of epidermolysis bullosa (EB) – which strikes one in 50,000 people.
    But she claims the social media giant sent her a message branding one image of her daughter, who is left in unbearable pain due to the condition, ‘undesirable’.
    Facebook told Mrs Atkinson, who can’t cuddle or even hold her daughter’s hands, that such pictures are banned because they make users ‘feel bad about themselves’.
    The offending image is of Pippa’s foot and reveals the extent of her condition – around 90 per cent of her hands and feet are without skin and red raw.


    Mrs Atkinson has previously spoken about how she has to restrain Pippa when she dresses her in bandages to stop her catching any deadly infections. She finds it upsetting as it goes against her motherly ‘instinct’.


    Mrs Atkinson, from Cwmbran, South Wales, said: ‘I went back to them [Facebook] to say that’s ludicrous and that we were trying to highlight my daughter’s condition.
    ‘Even after they reviewed it they were still not willing to change their minds.
    ‘People have told us the images make them feel sick – that’s fine some people have nothing better to do than pick on a baby.
    ‘But for a huge corporation to say that – that stunned me.’
    What did Facebook say? 
    Facebook said that the image Mrs Atkinson was trying to use ‘depicts a body or body parts in an undesirable manner’.
    It also said that adverts should not depict certain body weights as being ‘perfect’, or any health conditions as being ‘extremely undesirable’.
    As examples, it used ‘close-ups of “muffin tops”, where the overhanging fat is visible’, people with tight clothes and conditions painted ‘in a negative light’.
    It also said that ‘adverts like these are not allowed since they make viewers feel bad about themselves’.

    Furious Mother Hits Out At Facebook For Banning A Photo Of Her Sick Daughter
    Facebook has been contacted but did not respond at the time of writing.
    Pippa gets 50-60 blisters a day. She has to have nappies lined to stop them rubbing and numerous different creams applied in an attempt to reduce friction.
    As she grows, and develops the urges to crawl and walk, her hands, knees and feet constantly have to be bandaged, Mrs Atkinson said.
    Pippa takes morphine and paracetamol to cope with the pain. Some days she needs sedatives to relieve her.

    A nurse and carer rolled into one 
    Mrs Atkinson said: ‘I am Pippa’s nurse and carer all rolled into one. In some ways when I am dressing her she must hate me because I am causing her so much pain.
    ‘But on the other hand, if she’s upset, I’m the person she looks for.
    ‘I dread the day when she can tell me to stop doing something because you always have to get her dressings finished.’

    Mrs Atkinson, speaking last month, said: ‘As soon as she was born her hands and feet looked as though someone had taken her and dipped her in boiling water.
    ‘They were red raw and she was whisked off to intensive care.
    ‘Being told your child has an incurable condition is incomprehensible, it broke my heart.
    ‘But then not being able to touch her, or cuddle her for five months was torture.
    ‘I’d never known anyone with this condition so it was a complete shock when we were told it was going to get worse.’

    Plan of aftercare 
    Mrs Atkinson stayed with Pippa and husband, Damian, 36, in hospital for 23 days as nurses decided to best plan of aftercare for their baby.
    Once she was discharged from hospital, Pippa had to have her hands permanently bandaged for four months, and her feet bandaged for almost nine months.
    Mrs Atkinson added: ‘When she was born I couldn’t hold her for five months, she was always on a pillow.
    ‘Not being able to cuddle your new-born baby is the worst feeling in the world but it would have caused her too much pain.
    ‘When we would touch her, especially her hands and feet, she would scream out in pain and you could see the true agony on her face.’

    Bandaged up each day
    In hospital, Mrs Atkinson had to bandage her daughter’s hands and feet four times each day. She was trained by specialist nurses.
    She now knows how to bandage and clean Pippa’s skin thoroughly in the comfort of her own home to reduce her risk of infection.


    Mrs Atkinson, from Cwmbran, South Wales, said: ‘I went back to them to say that’s ludicrous and that we were trying to highlight my daughter’s condition’.

    Mrs Atkinson said: ‘She now has blisters on every inch of her body – on her eyelids, in her hair, her mouth and up her nose.
    ‘So we have to clean the house at least 10 times a day, because if dirt gets into her blisters it can cause infection.
    ‘Whenever she gets a blister me and Damian have to restrain her so that we can get the fluid out of her skin.
    ‘That goes against every natural instinct in your body – having to hold your baby down and know that you’re hurting them.’
    Alongside all of the maintenance that the family have to endure to keep Pippa safe, it is also a struggle to let her do simple day-to-day things.
    Mrs Atkinson said: ‘For months she could only wear her clothes inside out, as the seams caused her to blister.’
    Now she has clothes which are custom-made without seams. Every day Pippa has full dressing changes. These can last up to two hours.
    Her blisters are lanced with scissors, dead skin and scabs softened to remove them without damaging new skin underneath.

    Mrs Atkinson, who gave up her banking job to care for Pippa, said: ‘She is now nearly 14 months old and hasn’t started to crawl or walk yet.

    Furious Mother Hits Out At Facebook For Banning A Photo Of Her Sick Daughter
    ‘Because of her blisters the pressure on her knees or feet would cause too much pain.
    ‘Every normal process takes ages too – it takes over 20 minutes to change her nappy because of all of her creams and lotions and 45 minutes to have a quick bath because we’ve got to get all of the scabs off of her.
    ‘I have to change her clothes six times a day too, because her skin bleeds so easily.
    ‘She wakes up at least four times every night screaming out in pain because she’s moved and hurt a blister or touched her skin in her sleep.’
    Her condition is slowly improving 
    Despite Pippa’s condition covering her whole body, Mrs Atkinson has noticed that she is slowly getting better.
    Mrs Atkinson, who is now trying to raise awareness of the condition, added: ‘Luckily, we can cuddle her every day now as her EB has slightly improved.
    ‘Because Pippa’s condition is genetic, I’ll never have any more children just because of the risk.
    ‘I wouldn’t change her for the world and we are doing everything in our power to ensure she leads a long and happy life.’
    Earlier this year Pippa fought off Streptococcal A which can cause meningitis. She is battling that again at the moment, along with Streptococcal G.
    Pippa’s family are now raising money to build a one-bedroom specialist extension to make looking after the toddler easier.
    If you would like to donate towards Pippa’s cause you can do so via their Just Giving page.