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  • Don’t Add Me To Vaccination Groups-Autism and MMR

    So today I was added to a group. I was added by a friend as they were debating about autism and it being caused by the Mmr vaccination.

    Many believe this scaremongering, which is scary.

    So many children are now at future risk of a serious illness due to being told incorrect facts. Please do your own research before making such a huge decision. It isn’t your life, it’s your children’s life being put at risk.

    The worst I heard on this thread was that the Jews were to blame…..so instead of just blaming professionals they take it out on a whole religion, surely that isn’t on?

    I have three wonderful children, all vaccinated. I have one with autism. Do I believe this was caused by the mmr? No I don’t!! There is a huge genetical link in my family. Besides, what is more important than protecting your children against everything you can?

    Autism comes during pregnancy and during the first 6 months of life. This could be genetical or even environmental factors that trigger it. So there for this before the mmr, how can it cause it.

    At 12-18 months a young child starts to learn social behaviours, including language development…unfortunately this coincides with when the vaccination is given which is why people started blaming it. If mmr was the cause wouldn’t the whole population of children having had the vaccination be autistic?

    Would I change my son having autism? No I wouldn’t! He is an amazing little boy who I wouldn’t change for the world. Some days can be tough, very tough but he truly is amazing. He has an incredible mind and is extremely clever for his 4 years of age. He has an amazing mind and I love seeing the world from his eyes. I love learning about how he sees the world.

    As a family with an autistic child we will continue to learn, continue to love and continue to show the world how amazing he is! Hopefully we can teach the world that autism really isn’t a bad thing.

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  • Mummy Is My Face Scary, Can I Get A New Face?

     

    “Mummy why do people stare? Mummy is my face scary can I get a new face?”

    This is what my 4-year-old Alexi asked me today whilst walking back from nursery and having several people making comments about her, none overly nasty but things like “aww poor little thing”, or “did you see her hand as well”, my beautiful daughter shouldn’t have to feel ugly or have grown adults staring and whispering about her.

    Mummy Is My Face Scary, Can I Get A New Face?
    Mummy Is My Face Scary, Can I Get A New Face?

    Alexi has Nevus (spelt Nevus or Naevus)

    It is a skin growth present at birth, basically a birthmark.

    It is a rare disorder that affects around 1 in  20,000  newborns  in  some  form and  as  few as 1 in 500,000 in its most severe form.

    It is composed of a special  pigment producing cells called melanocytes, which  are  the pigment producing cells normally found in skin.

    They can exist on any part  of  the  body,  and grow  in  proportion  to body  growth.

    Alexi has nevus on one hand a small mark below her eye and one on her cheek and spots on her lower back she feels no pain from it, just her self-esteem and confidence is knocked, I understand children talking about it and asking questions (out of the mouth of babes and all that) but adults should know better.

    On one occasion a middle-aged lady approached us and rudely said “surely you shouldn’t take her out in public like this anyone could catch it”.

    Please if you see a child or adult with nevus don’t stare, smile it may make that person feel better that day, ask questions we love people being curious as long as they are kind.

    Mummy Is My Face Scary, Can I Get A New Face?

    Alexi is beautiful inside and out she is a happy loved child who is finding ways to deal with the stares and whispers and shy we have found that adults notice it and comment far quicker than children.

    one of her little friends even coloured in her hand to be like Alexi, Children don’t see it as ugly, scary or weird most think she looks cool, adults please don’t shy away, please don’t whisper, just look passed the nevus and see my beautiful little girl whom has the most precious smile.

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  • New Mums Have It Easy Give Me A New Born Any Day

    New mums have it easy, give me a new born any day, I often see new mums complaining how hard it is, now I understand new babies awake during the night and feed on demand and poop and cry but I’m sorry but new babies are easy.

    I’m not disputing that having a new baby isn’t a huge change and tiring especially one  with colic or reflux is hard work but the real struggles are yet to come.

    A baby whom can crawl but has no understanding of danger is terrifying, everything is a hazard.. EVERYTHING.

    A toddler who is tired and can’t understand why you have to pick up their siblings from school is no fun, not to mention the tears and screams when they have to put shoes on, public meltdowns, refusing to eat, to sleep to listen arghhh.

    Roll on to when they start school, they suddenly know it all, yet still can’t be reasoned with, this phase will last years, the worry if they are making friends, are they being bullied, are they achieving, are they eating enough?

    Then we get to the time when your child starts secondary school, they suddenly demand their complete independence but you still have to remind them to wash their hands after using the toilet. They spend more time on the internet and you spend most of your own time checking up on them, making sure you know who they are speaking to, where they are and who with.

    And then the dreaded zone the teen years, the back chatting the constant worrying what they are up to, the grunts the groans, the teenage angst. The stress of exams, the peer pressure, hoping that their happy and worrying for their futures.

    So give me a new-born, a cute sweet bundle of joy, that screams all night, but smells so good, who loves you unconditionally and needs you, you know exactly where they are at every second of the day, and cries can be stopped with milk, a bum change or a cuddle.

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  • 7 Things About Miscarriage No one Talks About (but should)

    It’s hard to know what to say or do when someone you love experiences a miscarriage – it’s a touchy subject people don’t like to bring up. But amongst the awkward tension of not knowing how to react, there are things left unsaid that shouldn’t be.

    Here are seven things about miscarriage no one talks about (but should):

    1. It’s a lot more common than you think

    Between 10 and 25 percent of recognized pregnancies end in miscarriage. In fact, most healthy women have a 20 percent chance of miscarrying.

    2. Just because it’s common doesn’t make it any easier to handle

    From the time a woman sees those two pink lines on a pregnancy test, she begins to dream of the little bundle of joy growing inside her and what life will be like once the child arrives. Having that stripped away so suddenly is devastating.

    3. Many women experience depression following a miscarriage

    It doesn’t matter if you were two or 20 weeks along – the pain is still there. The bond between a mother and unborn child is strong, and losing that can bring emotions of anger, guilt, sadness and depression. If you know someone who has slipped into depression following a miscarriage, reach out to them and encourage them to seek counseling if necessary.

    4. Men grieve too

    Men don’t experience the same kind of grief as women, but they still grieve when their partner miscarries. Irving Leon, a psychologist who specializes in reproductive loss, says some men worry that if they show sadness, it will only bring their wife down more.

    Men typically don’t mourn on the outside, but they still battle their emotions on the inside. One study said men show less “active grief” on the outside compared to females, but they are more vulnerable to feeling despair and struggling to cope with the loss.

    5. It’s not the mother’s fault

    Some women feel betrayed by their body following a miscarriage and wonder what more they could have done to prevent it. They ask what would have happened if they went to the doctor earlier or watched their diet a little closer. But there are so many causes for miscarriage, and they typically can’t be identified.

    The most common reason for miscarriage in the first trimester is chromosomal abnormality. In these cases, it isn’t the mother’s fault, and recognizing that is a great first step to overcoming the overbearing grief.

    6. You’ll likely have a healthy pregnancy after a miscarriage

    You might be worried to try for another child after experiencing a miscarriage, but experts say about 85 percent of women who have suffered a miscarriage will go on to have a healthy, full-term pregnancy next time. They say it’s safe to wait at least two to three menstrual cycles and until you and your partner are emotionally ready to start trying again. Go at your own pace, and talk to your doctor about when it’s healthy to become pregnant again.

    7. You can receive help

    Don’t be afraid to speak out. Seek help from trusted family members, friends, experts and online sources. See our Facebook support site https://m.facebook.com/groups/1838309873119464?tsid=0.828228660088226&source=result

    To all the mothers and fathers out there who carry the heavy weight of losing a child, remember you are not alone. You can receive help from experts and loved ones. And although you will never forget your sweet unborn child, your pain can start to fade.

     

  • Beautiful Poem For Premature Babies And Their Families

    Beautiful Poem For Premature Babies And Their Families

    Time stands still, the day has arrived

    A baby born early, has he survived?

    Emotions are torn, what should I do?

    Lost in a world that’s so new to you.

    The baby is rushed into NICU care

    Mum on a table, it doesn’t seem fair

    A mother and baby, two floors apart

    Separated by distance, connected by heart

    You stand on the outside as the scene flashes by

    The team go to work, don’t let him die

    Tubes and machines keep him alive

    You pray for a miracle, let him survive.

    The doctors they tell you, prepare for the worst

    Your world tears apart your dreams are immersed

    He is far too small, he has a battle ahead

    You search for some hope in the eyes of the Ped.

    The day turns to night and the team goes away

    A doctor and nurse are the only to stay

    The clock goes so slowly yet the hours still pass

    Your try to reach out to that face behind the glass

    Your life is the monitor you watch every beat

    You watch every breath; you don’t leave your seat

    You don’t leave his side he is your blood and your life

    You would give your left arm and so would your wife.

    A father’s pain is hard yet it only seems token

    Compared to a Mum who lays battered and broken

    Her dream has been robbed and so has her joy

    Her only life’s wish is to hold her new boy.

    As night starts to deepen you start to reflect

    You start to question what to expect

    You try to reason you try to make sense

    You feel joy yet your pain is intense

    The longest night in history draws to a close

    The day that stood still, the day where time froze

    The smallest human you have ever seen

    So tough, so hard, courage unseen.

    Hours become days and days become weeks

    Weeks become months, with falls and peaks

    The road is long the journey is hard

    The climb is tough your mind is scarred.

    But your family and friends are there, you’re not alone

    You soldier on regardless as NICU becomes your home

    Those brilliant doctors and staff are there on your ride

    With those Angels of MERCY there at your side

    How can one so little be so tough and brave

    And defy all the odds that once looked so grave

    A heart the size of the MCG in a body built so small

    He took on every challenge and answered every call

    Sometimes when he is sleeping, I sit there at his side

    And appreciate every second and watch him with such pride

    Our boy came home, his battle was hard, the lucky we were among

    Some Angels stay there forever, forever they are young.

    💙💙

    (Written by a preemie Dad Sean Simpson- 2007)

     

  • Mums Urgent Warning on Coca Cola

    Nola Larke of Southampton has taken to Facebook to warn other mums.

    My little boy Noah is 1 year and 3 months old.

    We have safety gates, corner cushions, locks on cupboards and taken multiple precautions in our home.

    Noah has an older brother Samuel who is 13 and visits me and his father at the weekends.

    Samuel adores his baby brother and is very cautious not to leave his electricals, chargers, lego, sweets etc where Noah can reach them.

    Last weekend we treated Samuel to a chinese take away and a can of Coke.

    We sat down to watch a film and it got later than expected, we didn’t clear our rubbish  as we normally do, you kow how it is, sometimes you just let things slide.

    6am as usual Noah awoke, I changed his bottom and then strapped him into his high chair ready for his breakfast.

    I left Noah alone in the dining room for a matter of minutes whilst i prepared his porridge, I didn’t realise the empty Coke can was in his reach.

    Noah placed his finger inside the can of Coca Cola, he ripped his finger back out, taking the skin with it.

    Noah was screaming in agony ad blood was pouring down his hand, I cleaned it and put a plaster on and obviously comforted my baby boy.

    Three days later it became infected, it was very red and swollen, we attended the Gp and were informed that a strong course of antibiotics was needed and a short stay in hospital, he added had we not been seen sooner he may have lost his finger or even his life.

    Mums Urgent Warning on Coca Cola
    Mums Urgent Warning on Coca Cola

    I urge you all to keep any carbonated drink cans away from babies and toddlers, the inside of the ring is as sharp as a razor blade, we learnt this the hard way.

     

  • My Baby Could Of Survived-Hospital To Blame

    A Mum whose baby died 70 minutes after being born has been told her baby could have survived, four years after the tragedy.

    Chloe Turner, of Dovercourt, Essex, had to have an emergency C-section at Colchester Hospital when a normal pregnancy suddenly turned to tragedy in April 2013.

    Her daughter Lola-Rae was born very unwell and despite attempts to save her life she was pronounced dead just 70 minutes later.
    An inquest in 2014 ruled Lola-Rae died of natural causes after she suffered impaired oxygen delivery during labour.

    But Colchester Hospital University NHS Foundation Trust has now admitted that earlier intervention could have prevented the death and save Lola-Rae’s death and paid an undisclosed out-of-court settlement.

    Prolonged use of drugs given to induce labour and meconium staining caused Lola respiratory distress.
    And the trust has said if a c-section had have been carried out in the hour and 20 minutes after her heart rate first dropped Lola would have survived.
    Chloe, 23, said: “Even if they hadn’t said it, in my eyes it was always their fault but the fact they admitted it gives some closure.

    “I didn’t do it for the money, I wanted justice and I didn’t want it to happen to any other parent or child.
    “Of the settlement money, for Lola’s life they paid £1,500 – I think it’s disgusting for a life.
    “It was all down to them.
    “People say time is a healer but I don’t buy into that, the more time that goes on I feel I’m missing her grow up.”

    Chloe also has a 15-month-old daughter Maci and five-year-old daughter Ruby who she says are also missing out on knowing their sister.
    “My oldest asks all the time where her sister is, it’s heartbreaking.”
    Jerard Knott, associate solicitor at Curtis Law Solicitors said: “This is a tragic and entirely avoidable event.
    “Proper monitoring, treatment and intervention would have meant that Lola would have been born healthy.
    “For Chloe the impact is that save for some mementoes her other children will never have the sister they should have had.”

    My Baby Could Of Survived-Hospital To Blame
    My Baby Could Of Survived-Hospital To Blame

     

     

     

     

  • To the Lady Ashamed of Being Pregnant With Her Fourth

    To the Lady Ashamed of Being Pregnant With Her Fourth
    To the Lady Ashamed of Being Pregnant With Her Fourth

    I met you in the elevator on my way back from the pediatrician’s office. It was just me and Wren, and you looked at her fondly in her stroller. When the elevator doors opened, you very kindly held the doors open for me. As I clumsily maneuvered the stroller past you, I accidentally ran over your foot. “Don’t worry about it,” you assured me over my profuse apologies. “I have three children myself,” you revealed to me.

    My eyes traveled to your big belly. There was an awkward pause as I wondered if I could assume you were pregnant. “And I’m expecting my fourth,” you admitted. “Congratulations!,” I told you. “That is wonderful!” I saw the relief spread across your face. “Thank you!” you said, and I could tell you meant it. “You have no idea how many people offer their condolences when they find out this is my fourth. Or they ask me if this was planned.” “How rude of them,” I replied. “All children are a blessing.”

    As we parted ways, I felt an immense sorrow for what our society has become. When did having a large family become equivalent to a tragic event? Why do people think that seeing a mother with lots of children automatically entitles them to make rude comments concerning her family planning?

    Countless strangers in grocery stores have seen me with my three little ones and impertinently asked me how many children I am planning on having. I don’t know, person I have never met before. Tell you what: How about next week, I will bring my husband here and all three of us will discuss our family planning and come up with a number you find suitable. Or figure out which ones to eliminate if you feel I have too many already. But honestly, the only answer for the impertinent question of how many children I am going to have is all of them.

    And why are people so obsessed with whether a pregnancy is “planned” or not? Does the child from a “planned” pregnancy have more value than the child of an “unplanned” pregnancy? As to the answer to this other impertinent question, my only answer is yes, God planned for this child from time immemorial, and I will do my best with this life that is entrusted to me.

    There seems to be some unspoken rule that you are only allowed to have two children: one girl and one boy, about 2-5 years apart. If you mess up and fail to meet the gender quota of one of each, you are permitted to go out on a limb and have a third. However, you will risk endless ridicule from strangers if you really mess up and end up with (God forbid ) THREE of the same gender. I have never understood this stock portfolio approach to child-bearing. If you are looking for variety, you get plenty of that within the same gender, trust me. Besides, I hate to point out the obvious, but no matter what you plan on having, you get what you get. As much as we want to, we can’t control everything. Especially when it comes to child-bearing. I’m OK with that mostly because I’m religious, but I’m digressing from the point of this post.

    I have three girls who are each about a year apart. This, for some reason, makes people feel uncomfortable. They are constantly trying to rationalize my unconscionable decision to have that many children so close in age with either: 1) that we kept unsuccessfully trying for a boy, or 2) we are “getting it out of the way quickly.” To be honest, I don’t even know what no. 2 means. We’re having children, not going in for a root canal.

    I have stopped even trying to explain to people that no, we just like having children. That just doesn’t compute. Who would have three children close together ON PURPOSE? Because, I mean, isn’t it difficult? And so not worth it? Maybe if I told them I am a rebel who is swimming against the stream I will garner more support. Being rebellious is always cool, right?

    Benjamin Franklin was one of 17 children. Beethoven was one of seven, and JFK was one of nine! Every child has the potential to do something great in the world. So please, give the mother of these children the support and encouragement she needs whether it is her first child or her ninth. Because your last child deserves just as much excitement as your first.
    And to the lady in the elevator, a thousand times congrats. You are truly blessed.

     

    Originally appeared om Tales from the mommy trenches

     

  • Is My Child Ready For Soilds?

    Introducing solids too early can be extremely dangerous for little ones. It significant increases a child’s chances of developing many medical issues such as;
    ●respiratory illness
    ●digestive upset
    ●gas
    ●constipation
    ●food allergies
    ●iron deficiency
    ●future obesity

    When to know a child is developmentally ready for solids.

    1. The child is at least 6 months old.

    2. They are able to sit unaided for several minutes at a time.

    3. The child has lost the tongue thrust reflex.

    4. Has developed the pincer grasp which means food can be picked up using the thumb and forefinger.

    5. The child is willing and able to chew.

    6. Is eager to participate in meal times.

    Only when you are able to answer yes to ALL the above listed things will you know your child is ready to start trying solid foods.

    It is extremely important that a child is only fed breast milk or formula for at least the first 6 months as before this a child’s digestive system has not yet had time to mature.

    Please speak to a Healthcare professional before introducing solid food.