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  • My Wife Will Never Touch My Penis

    My Wife has never actually touched my e.nis

    So this is the first time I have ever done this.

    So My wife and I are both 32 years old and have been together for about 10 years, and married for 7 years. We had both had a few partners before we were together.

    We have a great relationship and love and care for each other.

    The only problem is that when we have sex she doesn’t touch me. not once in the whole time we have been together has she ever touched me or given me oral.

    I haven’t bothered too much about it until now. Yea I long for head or even just to have her hold my member in her hand.

    See the thing is she never ever talks about sex. I have tried to talk to her and she gets embarrassed and shuts down.

    When we have sex I always am the one doing the foreplay. It is very one-sided. I kiss her everywhere, I touch her, I give her oral, and pleasure her and she goes wild for it. But she never touches me. I have tried directing her hand down there and she stops. I have dealt with it for years, but now it is becoming a problem because when we start a session I do the usual foreplay but because it is getting a bit boring not receiving and feels a bit unfair I loose the erection before we can even have sex. It is happening more often now and it is leading to having less and less sex. she takes offence to the loss of erection.

    Because it is happening more often I am getting performance anxiety which is creating a huge problem.

    I am now so sexually frustrated and have even considered straying. Not that I ever would but am finding myself fantasising about it.

    Anyone in the same boat or have any advice?

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  • Being Ugly Is The Source Of All My Problems

    Being / feeling ugly seems to be the source of all my problems

    It’s easier said than done to say “just don’t let it bother you”. That seems to be the top piece of advice on the “I’m ugly” topic, and it’s demeaning and hardly motivational. Because it does bother me, all the time. And I can’t just switch that off.

    I’m losing confidence, because I think I’m ugly, I don’t know why my husband is with me, he deserves someone better someone beautiful. And the thing is, it doesn’t matter what the ‘truth’ is. Because I know what my truth is and it’s my truth that’s holding me back. I think I’m ugly and you can tell me I’m beautiful but I won’t believe it.

    This is how I truly felt 8 years ago I had no confidence in myself, I did not see my self as others saw me, but when my daughter was 9 she began to tell me how ugly and fat she felt, I could see myself so much in her, my constant putting myself down was rubbing off on her, she would look at her self in the mirror and say how fat she was. What on earth was she saying she is absolutely beautiful inside and out.

    When I stood back and saw how I was affecting her I looked at myself and saw me for the first time, yes i had stretch marks these were a gift from my daughter, yes I have bags under my eyes these are from sleepless nights from either my little boy waking in the night, or from the man I love snoring next to me.

    I saw the likes on my pictures on Facebook. I saw the love that I had around me a realised I am not ugly, I am not fat, I am me, I am unique, I am my own worst enemy.

    If you feel you are ugly, fat, unattractive, stop!!! You are perfect, you are loved, there is no one else like you and you don’t know who may be watching you and think that it is normal or acceptable to hate yourself

     

  • Amazing Trick To Ease Ear Infection Pain

    What I’m about to share with you, is a coveted family secret given to my mom from aunt Mer. Because as a child/ teen and now adult.. with ears prone to infections and broken eardrums.. I use this all the time.

    Your child ever wake up screaming in pain of an ear infection?

    Because it takes 30 minutes for pain meds to kick in, this is the handiest trick you will ever learn.

    1. Take a face cloth and heat it up in water as hot as your hands can stand, and ring the water out..

    2. Place the hot wet face cloth in a mug.

    3. Place mug in the microwave for 20 seconds until the cup is warm and cloth is burning hot..

    4. Place open end of mug on your child’s head, around the ear being careful the hot cloth does not touch your child’s ear.

    The pressure from the mug, will help relieve the pressure built up in the ear- VOILA- back to sleep and calmed /not crying.. and then the pain meds will kick in. 😍 you are welcome.

    -echo

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  • Shocking Treatment Of Beautiful Animals

    I literally HATE posting this picture, but if collectively we don’t see what goes on…it continues to go on.

    “We brutally shoved an electrode into the anus and put another in the mouth of this sensitive little animal.

    He’s scared, he’s already hurt…”

    He cries, not knowing what will happen next.

    In seconds, electricity will pass through his small body and he will slowly burn inside until death follows…

    Why is this method, cruel, barbaric?

    To make sure his fur isn’t damaged.

    – Because if we shoot him, we’ll damage the fur

    – If we stab him, there will be blood on the fur.

    We need to share this information, so that people walking around in Canada Goose and other fur, feathers and skin might come to understand how unfathomably cruel this is…and that they are complicit.

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/AnimalWelfareWatch/

    It is unlikely that the buyer of a fur coat is aware of how many animals were required to make that single garment. 100 chinchillas or as many as 60 minks are required to make one full-length fur coat; depending on the type of fox, 10 to 24 may be required.

    Eighty-five percent of the fur industry’s skins come from animals who were held captive on fur factory farms, where they were crammed into severely crowded, filthy wire cages. Many were later beaten or electrocuted—and sometimes even skinned alive.

    After an animal has been slaughtered, his or her skin is treated with toxic chemicals to keep it from rotting and decomposing in the buyer’s closet. According to The World Bank, the hazardous process of fur dressing is so problematic that the fur industry is now ranked as one of the world’s five worst industries for toxic-metal pollution.

  • Stay Away From The Alba Tablet From Argos

    For anyone thinking of buying an Alba tablet from argos, please don’t.

    I purchased these earlier in the year, I assumed that buying from argos I would receive a standard of quality and safety that’s not always guaranteed when buying online.. And with electronic items that are for my kids, safety is paramount.

    Well I plugged these in charge today and tried to turn one on and it popped in my hands.

    Bloody shook me up, I immediately pulled out the charger and looked closer to see the battery has expanded and popped open the casing. A quick google told me that the lithium battery exploded.

    Called argos customer services and they first asked me if id used the correct charger – yes.

    Then said I need to take it in store to let staff look and decide whether they will refund me or replace item.

    I don’t want a replacement. That could have gone so very wrong and been much worse.

    Stay Away From The Alba Tablet From Argos
    Stay Away From The Alba Tablet From Argos

    I just want to get this out asap. People will be buying Xmas presents and could very well be buying this dangerous item right now. I wanted them to halt all sales till its investigated properly.

    Thankfully it wasnt one of my kids holding it, thankfully I wasn’t holding my newborn and thankfully it didn’t catch fire.

    Credit Charlene jadeja

  • Rude Joke Of The Day

    A mother was working in the kitchen, listening to her five-year-old son playing with his new electric train set in the living room.

    She heard the train stop and her son saying, ‘All of You b*****ds who want off, get off now, ‘cos we’re in a hurry! And all of you b*****ds who are getting on, get on now, ‘cos we’re going down the tracks’.

    The horrified mother went in and told her son, ‘We don’t use that kind of language in this house. Now I want you to go to your room and stay there for

    TWO HOURS.

    When you come out, you may play with your train, but I want you to use nice language.’

    Two hours later, the son came out of the bedroom and resumed playing with his train. Soon the train stopped and the mother heard her son say,

    ‘All passengers who are disembarking the train, please remember to take all of your belongings with you.

    We thank you for travelling with us today and hope your trip was a pleasant one.’

    She hears the little boy continue,

    ‘For those of you just boarding, we ask you to stow all of your hand luggage under your seat. Remember, there is no smoking on the train.

    We hope you will have a pleasant and relaxing journey with us today.’

    As the mother began to smile, the child added……….

    ‘For those of you who are pissed off about the TWO HOUR delay, please see the fat controller in the kitchen.

    Credit Alan peacock

  • You Are Strong, You Can Walk Away From An Abuser

    An abusive person uses threats and violence to keep a victim compliant.

    To manipulate,.destruct and destroy.

    In a place where they have control

    Fearful to make eye contact for fear of retribution.

    They don’t want you to gaze at them

    If challenged.a coward will run

    They will see the pain in your eyes

    And perhaps

    They see themselves reflected back.

    Evil, cruel, callous and unkind.

    Then they lose the grip and over on you

    So please I’m absolutely begging you

    Left your head and see the world as a beautiful place

    See the abuser for what they are

    Cold staring ugly weasel eyes.

    No light will ever reach their soul.

    Only the fires that burn in hell

    Go back to the mirror please look again

    Detach the wounded inner self

    Love forgive and console your self

    Gaze upon a survivors reflection

    Look deep in to their eyes

    Deep down inside

    To go down to the absolute depths of despair.

    There’s only one way to go now

    Up up up up and up again

    Gaining control of your own destiny

    Please take heart things get better

    Let others love you and find out how special that you are.

    Let down the guard.

    Learn to trust your own instincts

    Draw upon your strengths

    There is no room at the inn to fail

    As my dear please believe in yourself

    Your worth a million bullies

    Strong dignified and pure inside.

    You didn’t want or ask for it

    Go into your soul and bring out the light

    With trust and compassion

    With your dignity and poise

    These are your gifts no one can destroy

    Please don’t believe ugly names toy we’re often called.

    Reverse your thinking strategy

    These names they shout is who

    They really are not you.

    Be true to you and only you

    Be brave and stand your ground

    Be your own saviour

    Remove the brick wall of isolation

    Let the hurt child in you move on

    Only then you can believe and dream

    Get help and close the wounded part

    There will always be scars and confusion

    But don’t let these people dictate

    Your life now free of aBuse

    Chin up and look up

    Be proud of all your little victories

    And rejoice breaking that cycle

    Of pain, confusion, and suffering.

    Be strong as you have survived

    And you are slowly starting to heal

    Don’t waste time on drink and drugs

    It doesn’t help and you will

    Just get arrested and locked up.

    The pain and heartache will

    Still be there in the cold daylight.

    Credit Diane Ginn

  • The Christmas Present Of Nightmares

    Let me share with y’all a massive mom fail I experienced tonight. So about a week ago, I noticed this toy for sale on Amazon. They’re called “Yellies” and the whole concept is that the louder you yell at it, the faster it goes. Being the mother of a naturally loud and boisterous kid, I thought it would be the perfect Christmas present… well I couldn’t wait for Christmas.

    So I crack it open tonight, and get a good look at it. I test it out. I’m amazed at how powerful the little motor is… how fast the little legs move… how its creepy little eyes glow a lovely shade of radioactive green. So I call Leo in. He looks at it, cocks his little head to the side. And then, obviously, I yelled at it. The spider ran for it.

    Leo starts screaming… the louder he screams, the faster the spider pursued him. He runs. And this is when we discovered the fun little feature in which the spider has a tendency to stop abruptly… pause for a couple of seconds… spin in several erratic circles… and then turn towards wherever it senses sound… and take off in that direction.

    More screaming. Spider runs faster. Leo is backed into a corner as murder glows green in the eyes of little “Skadoodle.” So, in short, maybe a little electronic spider that’s power source feeds off of screams of terror… is not the best Christmas gift for your small child. 10 years from now we’ll be discussing this in therapy. #merrychristmas #ontheseconddayofchristmasmymamagavetome #nightterrorsandalifetimeofanxiety

    Credit Hilary hard

  • We Need To Get His Face Out There-Someone Must Have Information

    💥💥💥WE NEED PEOPLE TO SHARE THIS POST – OVER AND OVER AGAIN! “Reacting” to it with sad faces etc. isn’t getting it OUT THERE!!’💥💥💥Liam Smith has now been missing for 15 days and the search for him continues – somebody, somewhere must know something!💥💥

    We Need To Get His Face Out There-Someone Must Have Information
    We Need To Get His Face Out There-Someone Must Have Information

    People all over the country have taken this young man into their hearts in an “unprecedented” public response and we need to get him home safe. 💙

    PLEASE, PLEASE CAN EVERYONE KEEP ON SHARING THIS 💥? – not just in the Aberdeen area but everywhere possible. Also set the privacy to PUBLIC. Thank you.💥

    Liam, a good friend of my daughter Eve, has been missing since Sat 17 Nov from his home in Aberdeen. This is the type of backpack and trainers he was wearing when he was captured on CCTV camera entering Union Square before boarding a bus to Banchory at 1:11pm that afternoon. ANY information at all – please contact Police Scotland on 101 quoting Ref no: 1302 of 18 Nov 2018.

    Evie tells me he’s “one of the nicest and funniest boys I have ever met”❤️

    Safe home Liam.

     

  • I’ve Been Fighting My Demons Now I’m Giving Back

    I’ve given myself 8 weeks to train for the hardest challenge of my life by attempting to burpee (The burpee or squat thrust is a full body exercise, basically you start in a standing position, move into a squat position with your hands on the ground,kick your feet into a plank position, return to squat position and repeat) around Abbey Fields in Colchester for 1.5 miles

    I’ve battled mentally for a long time in silence with my depression and suicidal thoughts. 
     
    To share before how I felt was a sign of weakness and would ruin my personal and professional life. But I no longer have anything left to lose.

    It’s so easy to fake your happiness over social media without realizing the ones closest to you are fighting the hardest battles    

    Exercise has always been my therapy and keeps my demons at bay and if I can help inspire others to reach out in times of need like others have done with me, then this physical challenge and pain will be worth every step.

    Samaritans do an amazing job at supporting those at when they need it most or when you feel you can’t turn to anyone for help or support so this is the charity I will be raising money for so that they can continue to help others in a similar situation to what I continue to go through 

    I appreciate all your support, kind words and love and when I feel I can’t keep going I remember all the people who love me and genuinely want to see me happy.

    To help support Gabriel Beckett please check out his just giving page below

    https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/gabriel-beckett