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  • Myths And Truths Of Breastfeeding

    🤱Whether you have chosen to / are able to breast feed or bottle feed let us start by saying we respect you just for loving your baby!

    Outdated advice and misinformation is deterring mums from breastfeeding and making them feel like they are doing something wrong.

    So…for the breastfeeding Mummas among you please see the below myth vs truth and feel free to message us for any advice!

    ❌MYTH❌ Babies feed every 3 hours on the hour!

    ✅TRUTH✅ Babies usually feed between every 2 and 4 hours however, it is not unusual for babies to feed more often, almost constantly in fact, during a growth spurt or to boost your milk supply.

    ❌MYTH❌ If your baby still seems hungry after a feed you should feed them a bottle.

    ✅TRUTH✅ Giving your baby a bottle after a feed could deplete your milk supply and could hinder your latch in the early weeks. If your baby has lost a certain % of body weight then your midwife may recommend supplementing with a bottle.

    ❌MYTH❌ Babies should sleep through the night once they are eating solid food.

    ✅TRUTH✅ It is perfectly normal for infants, breastfed or not, to wake up in the night for a feed or comfort.

    ❌MYTH❌Breastfeeding is easy for everyone.

    ✅TRUTH✅ It all goes swiftly for some Mummas but for others there can be a minefield of issues from a shallow latch, tongue ties, a baby with a bubble pallet, low milk supply, and much much more. So think before you label a Mumma as a quitter! And in fact…some Mum’s just don’t want to breastfeed and frankly…that is nobody elses business 🤷‍♀️

    EDIT : To echo the words of the inspiring lady below…It is indeed a myth that every woman is able to exclusively breastfeed! For those that can’t it does not have to be all or nothing! See pic in comments of Ella using an amazing system that allows her to both breastfeed and supplement at the same time. 💛

     

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  • Today Was A Difficult Day Said Pooh

    “Today was a Difficult Day,” said Pooh.

    There was a pause.

    “Do you want to talk about it?” asked Piglet.

    “No,” said Pooh after a bit. “No, I don’t think I do.”

    “That’s okay,” said Piglet, and he came and sat beside his friend.

    “What are you doing?” asked Pooh.

    “Nothing, really,” said Piglet. “Only, I know what Difficult Days are like. I quite often don’t feel like talking about it on my Difficult Days either.

    “But goodness,” continued Piglet, “Difficult Days are so much easier when you know you’ve got someone there for you. And I’ll always be here for you, Pooh.”

    And as Pooh sat there, working through in his head his Difficult Day, while the solid, reliable Piglet sat next to him quietly, swinging his little legs…he thought that his best friend had never been more right.

    Credits: I Know, I Need To Stop Talking

     

  • Children With Learning Disabilities Were Ineducable

    When Judy Fryd took her three year old daughter, Felicity, to the doctor she knew there was something “not quite right”. Felicity wasn’t able to use her language to communicate in the way that other children her age were. The doctor concluded that Felicity had an IQ of 43 and seemed content to leave the matter there, not offering support or solutions as to how best to help her or her family.

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    Angry and frustrated, Judy wrote a letter in 1946 to Nursery World Magazine asking parents on similar journeys to get in touch. There was a huge response, with over 1,000 parents responding! Together, the group challenged their local health and education authorities and eventually went on to become the origins of Mencap.

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    During the 50s and 60s, Judy continued to lead the group’s advocacy initiatives in support of the potential of people with learning disabilities. Amongst her biggest achievements was a campaign that led to the 1975 Education (Handicapped Children) Act, which reversed the previous stance that children with learning disabilities were ineducable. #advocatelikeamother #shouttheirworth #connectingmoms #ablefinder

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  • You Do Not Want That Puppy Its The Runt

    A farmer had some puppies he needed to sell. He painted a sign advertising the 4 pups and set about nailing it to a post on the edge of his yard. As he was driving the last nail into the post, he felt a tug on his overalls. He looked down into the eyes of a little boy.

    “Mister,” he said, “I want to buy one of your puppies.”

    “Well,” said the farmer, as he rubbed the sweat off the back of his neck, “These puppies come from fine parents and cost a good deal of money.”

    The boy dropped his head for a moment. Then reaching deep into his pocket, he pulled out a handful of change and held it up to the farmer.

    “I’ve got thirty-nine cents. Is that enough to take a look?”

    “Sure,” said the farmer. And with that he let out a whistle. “Here, Dolly!” he called.

    Out from the doghouse and down the ramp ran Dolly followed by four little balls of fur. The little boy pressed his face against the chain link fence. His eyes danced with delight. As the dogs made their way to the fence, the little boy noticed something else stirring inside the doghouse.

    Slowly another little ball appeared, this one noticeably smaller. Down the ramp it slid. Then in a somewhat awkward manner, the little pup began hobbling toward the others, doing its best to catch up…

    “I want that one,” the little boy said, pointing to the runt.

    The farmer knelt down at the boy’s side and said, “Son, you don’t want that puppy. He will never be able to run and play with you like these other dogs would.”

    With that the little boy stepped back from the fence, reached down, and began rolling up one leg of his trousers. In doing so he revealed a steel brace running down both sides of his leg attaching itself to a specially made shoe. Looking back up at the farmer, he said, “You see sir, I don’t run too well myself, and he will need someone who understands.”

    With tears in his eyes, the farmer reached down and picked up the little pup. Holding it carefully he handed it to the little boy.

    “How much?” asked the little boy…

    “No charge,” answered the farmer, “There’s no charge for love.”

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/delynne.schneider

     

  • Here’s Why Your Child Misbehaves Just For You

    Have you ever had one of those days where you wonder what you’re doing wrong because your child is so well behaved for everyone else, but isn’t for you?

    Challenging behaviour, pushing boundaries, screaming, crying, not listening, shouting, you get the idea.

    People will say you’re too soft and need to get tougher.

    Or that you’re not disciplining them properly and need to gain more respect.

    Or that you have lost control.

    Or that you are a rubbish parent.

    Want to know what I think?

    Its because your child knows you understand them more than anyone else.

    It’s because your child knows that they can show frustration, anger and emotions that we all have and you will still unconditionally love and support them.

    It’s because your child knows that you’re the one person who can make everything better.

    It’s because your child knows you’re the person they can always go to with all of their problems and will never be silenced.

    It’s because your child knows that if they want to cry then they can when you’re there.

    Next time you pick your child up from nursery or from school where they say they’ve been angels all day and once home their behaviour becomes challenging maybe it’s because they’ve been holding it together all day and with you they can let all of their emotions out. Because they know you are never going anywhere. Because you’re their mum.

    So why do they behave differently for you?

    It’s not because you’re their soft touch.

    It’s because you’re their safe place.

    You’re not doing anything wrong, in fact you’re doing everything right. You’ve reassured your child that they can share their feelings with you and that whatever those feelings are, you will love them unconditionally.

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    Children’s mental wellbeing means the world and I’ve started sharing what I do at home to encourage my kids to talk about their feelings and emotions through play – have a look here www instagram.com/thenofiltermum

  • The Many Great Uses For Peroxide

    Got this from a friend.. Who knew?

    The many uses of Peroxide 🤔

    My friend has a friend who’s dad is a doctor. She was over recently and smelled the bleach, I was using to clean my toilet and counter tops.

    This is what I learned that day:

    She says,

    ‘I would like to tell you all of the benefits of that plain little ole bottle of 3% peroxide you can get for under $1.00 at any drugstore. What does bleach cost?

    Most doctors don’t tell you about peroxide.

    Have you ever smelled bleach in a doctor’s office? NO!!! Why? Because it smells, and it is not healthy!

    Ask the nurses who work in the doctor’s offices, and ask them if they use bleach at home. They are wiser and know better!

    Did you also know bleach was invented in the late ’40s? It’s chlorine, folks! And it was used to kill our troops.

    Peroxide was invented during WWI.. It was used to save and help cleanse the needs of our troops and hospitals.

    Please think about this:

    1. Take one capful of hydrogen peroxide (the little white cap that comes with the bottle) and hold in your mouth for 10 minutes daily, then spit it out. (I am doing it when I bathe.) No more canker sores, and your teeth will be whiter without expensive pastes. Use it instead of mouthwash.

    2. Let your toothbrushes soak in a cup of peroxide to keep them free of germs.

    3. Clean your counters and table tops with peroxide to kill germs and leave a fresh smell. Simply put a little on your dishrag when you wipe, or spray it on the counters.

    4. After rinsing off your wooden cutting board, pour peroxide on it to kill salmonella and other bacteria.

    5. If you have fungus on your feet spray a 50/50 mixture of peroxide and water on them (especially the toes) every night and let dry.

    6. Soak any infections or cuts in 3% peroxide for five to 10 minutes several times a day. Her husband has seen gangrene that would not heal with any medicine but was healed by soaking in peroxide.

    7. Fill a spray bottle with a 50/50 mixture of peroxide and water and keep it in every bathroom to disinfect without harming your septic system like bleach or most other disinfectants will.

    8. Tilt your head back and spray into nostrils with your 50/50 mixture whenever you have a cold or plugged sinus. It will bubble and help to kill the bacteria. Hold for a few minutes, and then blow your nose into a tissue.

    9. If you have a terrible toothache and cannot get to a dentist right away, put a capful of 3% peroxide into your mouth and hold it for 10 minutes several times a day. The pain will lessen greatly.

    10. And of course, if you like a natural look to your hair, spray the 50/50 solution on your wet hair after a shower and comb it through. You will not have the peroxide-burnt blonde hair like the hair dye packages but more natural highlights if your hair is a light brown, reddish, or dirty blonde. It also lightens gradually, so it’s not a drastic change.

    11. Put half a bottle of peroxide in your bath to help get rid of boils, fungus, or other skin infections.

    12. You can also add a cup of peroxide instead of bleach to a load of whites in your laundry to whiten them. If there is blood on clothing, pour it directly on the soiled spot. Let it sit for a minute, then rub it and rinse with cold water. Repeat if necessary.

    13. I use peroxide to clean my mirrors. There is no smearing, which is why I love it so much for this.

    14. Another place it’s great is in the bathroom, if someone has been careless, has peed on the floor around the toilet, and it’s begun to smell of urine. Just put some peroxide in a spray bottle spray. In the blink of an eye all the smell will be gone and the bacteria eliminated! (I wish I’d known this years ago)

    I could go on and on. It is a little brown bottle no home should be without! With prices of most necessities rising, I’m glad there’s a way to save tons of money in such a simple, healthy manner!

    This information really woke me up. I hope you gain something from it, too. 😁

    Pass it on! Clorox v/s peroxide VERY interesting and inexpensive. 💥

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/sbctiffany

     

  • How To Get Out Of A Speeding Ticket

    A rookie police officer pulled me over for speeding and had the following exchange:

    • Officer: May I see your driver’s license?

    • Me: I don’t have one. I had it suspended when I got my 5th DUI.

    • Officer: May I see the owner’s card for this vehicle?

    • Me: It’s not my bike. I stole it.

    • Officer: The motorcycle is stolen?

    • Me: That’s right. But come to think of it, I think I saw the owner’s card in the tool bag when I was putting my gun in there.

    Officer: There’s a gun in the tool bag?

    • Me: Yes sir. That’s where I put it after I shot and killed the dude who owns this bike and stuffed his dope in the saddle bags.

    • Officer: There’s drugs in the saddle bags too?!?!?

    • Me: Yes, sir. Hearing this, the rookie immediately called his captain. I was then quickly surrounded by police, and the captain approached me to handle the tense situation:

    • Captain: Sir, can I see your license?

    • Me: Sure. Here it is. It was valid.

    • Captain: Who’s motorcycle is this?

    • Me: It’s mine, officer. Here’s the registration.

    • Captain: Could you slowly open your tool bag so I can see if there’s a gun in it?

    • Me: Yes, sir, but there’s no gun in it. Sure enough, there was nothing in the tool bag.

    • Captain: Would you mind opening your saddle bags? I was told you said there’s drugs in them.

    • Me: No problem. The saddle bags were opened; no drugs.

    • Captain: I don’t understand it. The officer who stopped you said you told him you didn’t have a license, stole this motorcycle, had a gun in the tool bag, and that there were drugs in the saddle bags.

    • Me: Yeah, I’ll bet he told you I was speeding, too.

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/MrKZombiie

     

  • I Had To Make A Choice Between Being A Mum Or A…

    Yesterday Molly over heard me saying that I was competing in my first track race in 6 years.

    She asked me why, and asked “is it because of me?”

    I answered honestly, and said, “well, Yes.”

    Her little face dropped and she appolgied.

    I then stroked her hair and said, “When you were younger we had to move out of Nannys house.

    It got too difficult being a single mama and trying to train for running so much, if your Dad was around it might have been different… but because it’s just me, I basically had to choose.

    I had to make a choice between being the best Mummy I could be, or being the best runner I could be.

    And I chose you.

    I’ll always choose you.

    Because you are my priority.

    You are the most important person and “thing” to me…

    I love running, you know I do, but I love you so much more.”

    Molly’s face lit up, she told me she loved me and she grabbed me in a big cuddle. 💗

    I continued, “So it’s not your fault at all.

    And you don’t need to apologise to me.

    I’m not upset or mad at you in any way.

    It’s been such an amazing gift to be your Mummy, and I wouldn’t change it.

    And now your older I can get back into running a bit anyway!”

    Molly then jumped in and said, “And I want to help you get to run!”

    I thanked her and we had the biggest cuddle.

    Then she lay her head down on my lap as I stroked her hair.

    She looked so content and warm inside.

    Reminded that she is important and loved.

    I do love running, but I love Molly more.

    And I’m glad she knows it. ♡

    **Picture: left, 2013 County Champs

    Picture: Right, 2019 County Champs**

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/rhiannon.v.griffin

     

  • You Have Missed Everything Daddy

    There was a time in my life that I thought you were the greatest man alive. I got pregnant with your child while we were both still children ourselves.

    I was scared, devestated and so mad at myself. You made things okay. You promised you would be there. You promised that we would make it. My first mistake was believing you. You kept your promise for awhile. You stuck by my side through the cravings, and the roller-coaster emotions, you held my hand through the delivery, you woke up with her at night, changed her diapers, worked to help support her.

    You were perfect. I was so grateful that you were there to help me, I was so grateful that our daughter had a family. Despite everything I had thought the day I took that pregnancy test, I was happy. I had my own little family and life was good. Little did I know how short lived my happiness would be. And little did I know that the person I trusted and loved so much would be the person to rob me of that happiness. When you left, I was devastated. I was devastated not for me, but for our daughter. For the little girl whose first word was dada, for the little girl who smiled so big every time you walked in a room.

    I was devastated that she wouldn’t see mommy and daddy together anymore, but I took comfort in knowing she would still have two parents who loved her, even if they weren’t together. But then you stole that from her. You walked away from her and never looked back. I would hold our baby and cry at night, wishing things could be different with her.

    With each and every day that passed with no phone calls or texts from you, no emails, no letters my sadness started to turn to anger. I was angry at you. I was angry that you left me to do it all alone. I was angry that I worked so hard but still had to stress about bills and buying diapers.

    I would get angry whenever I would see pictures of you partying on social media, without a care in the world. I was so damn angry at you. But here it is, 2 years later. I’m not angry anymore. I am so happy. Your daughter is 3 years old. You haven’t seen her for almost 2 years.

    You have never seen her blown out her 2nd and 3rd birthday candles, talk in sentences, learn her numbers and shapes or dance to her favourite songs. You missed her first day of school and her first school performance. You’ve missed everything. I guess I just want you to know that you lose. I have the greatest gift of all, the gift of child who loves me. And you will have to live with the regret of not knowing the most beautiful little girl that you helped create. And that was your choice.

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  • My Child Nearly Died Because Of This Common Household Accessory

    WARNING SENSITIVE MATERIAL BELOW! I have gone back and forth about posting this or not posting this but I believe if this post saves one child’s life it’s worth being vulnerable.

    Our sweet 3 year old boy is a survivor. On January 7th our son climbed up to the top bunk bed and wrapped the blind cords around his neck. He then began to walk down the ladder as the cords tightened he panicked and tried to yell for mom and dad but nothing came out.

    He scratched a the cords to loosen them but all he could grab was skin. At the last attempt to get free he jumped to come get us and that very jump saved his life! The cord snapped and freed him! We heard a loud thud (his jump) and then his loud scream! This was not just any scream it is one I have never heard in my life and it will forever be ringing in my ears.

    We took him to get checked out in the ER and they were very concerned and shocked. These blind cords are not meant to break. We are counting our blessings! God has big plans for our little boy, it was not his time to go. Please please please take my message and take action now!! Editing: NO CORDED BLINDS ARE SAFE! They now sell cordless blinds and they are worth every penny.

    Even if you cut the cords once the blinds are lifted up it creates a hazard. The cords can not be cut short to make them safer… there are still inner cords and if the cord is pulled so the blinds go all the way up, that pull cord will then be long enough to make a loop & strangle a child.

    My heart goes out the families that have lost their loved ones this way I am so sorry for that heart ache and can’t imagine the pain you have gone through. These accidents can be prevented let’s take action now!

    You can never be too safe in your own home. This is something I didn’t think my kids would do because I am constantly nagging them about not putting things around their neck. Kids will be kids and they explore, my son told me he was making a necklace and that’s why it was around his neck. Please help me save the next kid and share this message. Most importantly hug the people that mean the most to you. Be grateful you have another beautiful day with them. For more information about blind safety visit Parents for Window Blind Safety.

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