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  • The Truth About The Flu Vaccine

    Welp, I went and did it. I read the comments on someone’s flu vaccine post and in the process lost 5,642 brain cells that I can never have back. I’m going to say this real clear so that hopefully someone hears my voice louder than Lindsey the bartender who identifies as a ‘health wellness coach’ because she was “certified” by DoTerra essential oils company. At least I can sleep at night knowing that my friends list (and whomever they share this with) heard the voice of an ACTUAL certified medical professional.

    1. You cannot get the flu from the flu vaccine. Ever. No matter what anyone’s told you. You CAN get an immune response such as low grade fever, mild inflammation, or local redness and swelling. This is GOOD. It means your body is fighting the inactivated virus it’s been exposed to and it will build immune cells specific to fighting that virus if it ever sees it again….. hence the entire premise behind getting vaccinated. It takes your body about two weeks to build fighter cells and for the vaccine to reach its maximum protectiveness. If you get sick within a week or two of receiving the vaccine, then you were exposed to influenza and hadn’t yet received protection from your vaccine. Crappy timing.

    Period.

    2. The vaccine does NOT cause strokes, auto-immune diseases, or severe allergic reactions. There is a very small percentage of people who’s bodies do not react normally and therefore those people should not receive the vaccine. Let me put it this way; I swell up like Violet in the Willy Wonka factory if I eat avocado. I think we can all agree that avocados aren’t dangerous, my body is the problem, not the food. Likewise, the vaccine is safe but like all things (even avocados) it can be dangerous for certain people. I cannot stress enough how rare this is, even though literally every online guru with a degree in alternative wellness claims to know someone it’s happened to.

    3. If you’re healthy, good for you. No, seriously, good for you. You have the luxury of deciding whether or not you want to get poked. If you get the flu, you’ll miss a couple days of school, maybe a week off of work and then you’ll return to your life. That’s not the case for many people in our community. When healthy people vaccinate, we protect the newborns and the grandparents and the chemo patients and the ones who truly cannot receive the vaccine. It’s called herd immunity, and it’s the cornerstone of a healthy society.

    4. You did not get the “stomach flu” from the influenza vaccine. The stomach virus commonly called the “stomach flu” is not a flu at all. Stomach viruses are commonly caused by novovirus or norovirus , not influenza. If you have symptoms such as vomiting and diarrhea with a fever right after receiving the flu vaccine you are the unfortunate recipient of a sad coincidence. This sad coincidence is not uncommon since peak seasons of these virus’ activity overlap. I know you don’t want that to be true, but, science. In that same vein, if you get “the stomach flu” on a year you’ve received the influenza vaccine, your vaccine did not fail. The vaccine you received does not protect against stomach virus. Stay tuned though, vaccines for these viruses are all but guaranteed to be common in the coming years!

    5. The drug companies and the CDC and all doctors and all nurses and everyone ever who advocated for vaccination are all paid by and/or brainwashed by big pharma to sell these vaccines by convincing others. Yeah… just no. I’ve never received a check or any other compensation from anyone to advocate for vaccinations of any kind. I don’t know a single person in the medical field (and I know a lot) who has ever received a bribe. I’m just about the most cynical, skeptical human out there and I require a lot of research & data to formulate my opinions, again, most of my colleagues are no different. If I really wanted to look out for number 1 (me) wouldn’t I try to drum up business at my ER by convincing others NOT to get the flu shots? Wouldn’t I WANT people to become sick so that I had job security?? $$ think about it people. This rationale is just ass backwards. I advocate for vaccines because I’ve held a newborn with fever while the doctor does a lumbar puncture. Because I’ve put a grandfather on a ventilator who couldn’t breathe and because I’ve put the final drape over a mother of 3’s face after she beat breast cancer but died of the flu. I did all of this knowing full well that it was preventable. We had the ability to save those people as a society and we failed because of the Lindseys in this world that prey on people’s poor understanding and fear.

    So, who are you going to trust on this one, me or Lindsey?

    XOXO- save each other- vaccinate!!

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  • Look At This White Girl, Tryin To Wrap Her Head Lookin All Stupid

    Dear McDonald’s worker who will probably never see this….,

    Ur drive thru windows aren’t sound proof. Ur probably wondering y I had tears in my eyes when u handed me my iced coffee… or maybe not, judging by the words u said after handing me my oatmeal…

    “Look at this white girl, tryin to wrap her head. Lookin all stupid”

    As u and ur coworker laughed and passed judgement on my poor head wrap job, I hope ur day gets better. I went to McDonald’s for an iced coffee and oatmeal to try to make my day better, but u made it worse. I hope u never get sick. I hope ur healthy and thriving for ur life. I hope ur family members r healthy and happy. Cuz I didnt wrap my head to try to be anything in particular… I wrapped it cuz I shaved my head when my hair was falling out from chemo and having a baby, and yesterday my stepson told me he liked it. I wrapped it cuz the scarf was given to me from a woman at the office I get radiation treatments from. I also wrapped it cuz I haven’t showered in 2 days cuz I’m a mom who is still trying to figure out how to juggle everything.

    So, thank you for reminding me to be careful with my words… and to not judge a book by the cover.💜

    Sincerely,

    That “stupid white girl”

    **edit** I love that my friends and family members have commented and messaged asking which one so they can call and take up for me, but I really posted this as a reminder to be kind- not to get anyone in trouble or to have them inadvertently lose their job that pays their bills. So, please… just be kind!

    Love your neighbor as yourself Mark 12:31💜💜

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  • How To Be A Supportive Partner During The Becoming Parents Phase

    “I’m now 29 and have 3 kids with my wife, Franziska, who carried and birthed them all like a pro. Here’s what I would tell my childless 24-year-old self about how to be a supportive partner during the ‘becoming parents’ phase:

    1. Wifey carried baby IN her belly for 9 months. So, you carry baby ON your belly for 9 months every chance you get. Not only does it help her recover but it bonds you to your kid more than imaginable.

    2. Wifey is breastfeeding and–while beautiful and fulfilling for her–it’s exhausting. So, you change EVERY diaper you can. From diaper #1 onward. You will get over the grossness fast. And you will prevent imbalances and resentment in the relationship; in fact, when all your wife’s friends are complaining about how absent and unsupportive their husbands are, your wife will be bragging about you.

    3. Make her the decaf coffee every morning. Even if she leaves it cold and forgets to drink it most mornings because she falls back asleep while you’re working or (later) taking the kids to school. She was up all night feeding the baby so help start her day in a way that helps her reset.

    4. Tell her she is beautiful and help her see that in the moments when she is feeling most self-critical and hopeless about her body. Remind her of times when she achieved goals in the past. Remind her she is a superhero. She literally just moved all her organs around and gained 20 + pounds to give you a child that will be a gift to you for the rest of your life. Help her see past her body image issues and stay focused on a positive goal, one day at a time.

    5. Take the heat. Hormones are crazy, both pre and post birth. She won’t seem like herself every day and sometimes she will say things she wouldn’t say if she didn’t feel like she was hungover, caffeinated, and on steroids every day. Remember your job is to be her rock through all of this, so toughen up and keep perspective when her tongue is sharper than you know her best self intends. Normal will return soon and you want her to be grateful that you kept it together when she wasn’t, not resentful and disappointed that you hijacked her emotions by making her problems yours.”

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  • Why Doesn’t She Just Leave

    Wʜʏ ᴅᴏᴇsɴ’ᴛ sʜᴇ ʟᴇᴀᴠᴇ?

    Because he has her so brainwashed that it’s all her fault and that she’s no good to anyone and no one will want her or love her and there’s no way she can possibly make it on her own.

    Wʜʏ ᴅᴏᴇsɴ’ᴛ sʜᴇ ʟᴇᴀᴠᴇ?

    Because she thinks that if she just tries harder and if she’s a better wife and a better mom that maybe he will be happy with her and he wouldn’t get so angry with her. And maybe he will be the same sweet, charming man that he was when they first met.

    Wʜʏ ᴅᴏᴇsɴ’ᴛ sʜᴇ ʟᴇᴀᴠᴇ?

    Because he has her convinced that if she tries he will hurt or kill her or her family. Because he has threatened to tell the judge that she is a bad mom and will take away her kids and she will never see them again. Because he has taken away her money and convinced her that she has no good job qualities to make it on her own financially and she will always need him.

    More people are concerned with why women stay in abusive relationships than why men are abusing women. Unless you’ve been in an abusive relationship people have no idea how hard it is to escape. Abusers are able to fool those outside the home because they usually only abuse those inside the home.

    They need your support.

    They need your love.

    They do not need your judgement.

    Let’s raise awareness 💜

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  • Stop Saying At Least It Was Only Early

    Please stop saying “at least it was only early”

    Please stop saying “it wasn’t the right time”

    Please stop saying “you can always try again”

    Please stop saying “everything happens for a reason”

    Please stop saying “at least you weren’t THAT pregnant”

    Please stop saying “you are so young you can just try again”

    Words hurt.

    Whether you lost your baby at 6 weeks.

    Whether you lost your baby at 12 weeks.

    Whether you lost your baby at 16 weeks.

    Whether you lost your baby at 20+ weeks.

    Your pregnancy loss matters.

    Your grief matters.

    Your tears matter.

    You matter.

     

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  • The Unneccassary Touch Must Stop

    The “impertinent and unnecessary” touch in week 37 (or 38, or 39… 41)

    Nothing disgusts me more than taking advantage of the vulnerability of a term pregnant.

    Making a vaginal touch before the beginning of labor does not offer any advantage, it does not predict when you will be in labor and only increases the risk of infections, produces fear, uncertainty, loss of confidence in the woman, in addition to being completely exposed to Professionals without criterion perform the maneuver of Hamilton (Mechanical method of childbirth induction)

    Just out of curiosity, I got to read some of these online magazines for pregnancy, to go groping the information they deliver about the touches in consultations with the obstetrician in recent weeks.

    And I’m finding myself with a big surprise. Hundreds of women stranded, anxious, full of doubts and lamenting the imperfection of their bodies because with 37 or 38 weeks ” the baby was still not fit ” ” it wasn’t dilated or a little ” ” the baby is too high ” And there are not few who, in addition, leave the consultation with a hospitalization order for caesarean section or induction. No touch should be made before the start of labor! Their bodies are perfect for birth, hormonal signs of the body and baby have not yet triggered. I wouldn’t have to have dilatation or baby fit. You have to have patience and a lot of support of some doula, some respectful midwife, the couple well informed, but who encourage her to trust her body knows how to give birth and at her own time.

    But we continue reading stories of obstetric violence. Many women mean that they made a very painful touch and came out bleeding from the consultation. Most likely it was a Hamilton maneuver, without before explaining the risks and waiting for your authorization or consent.

    That is a serious violation of the rights of us as patients and we must denounce them. Let’s go, don’t play with our bodies.

     

     

  • Looking For A Way To Keep Your Kids Still…

    Looking for a way to keep your kids still….

    Buy them glow in the dark pjs. Tell them they have to lie really still under the light to “charge” them…..

    I’m not even sorry 😂😂😂😂

    ****Update: To expand on the trickery I’ve started putting the pjs back into their drawer when they get dressed in the morning……unexposed to light all day they dim and do not glow in the dark when they tried to test me last night until they laid down again. Reinforcing the need to lie quietly under the light before bed

    Again #notevensorry

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  • Facebook Mum Groups Be Like…

    Facebook Mom Groups Be Like: 🤣🤦🏼🤷🏼

    Mom A: “My house is on fire and my child is inside screaming. What do I do?! Picture for attention!”

    Mom B: “Try changing his diet. We cut out everything except kale and it’s done wonders for our kids.”

    Mom C: “Essential oils. Unrelated: I sell them.”

    Mom D: “He’s fine. Helicopter moms ugh. I didn’t even use a car seat when I was a kid and I’m fine! 🙄”

    Mom E: “He’s NOT FINE. My friend’s sister’s 2nd cousin had this happen and it was cancer. Google it!”

    Mom F: “I’m a realtor and I’d love to help you find a new home!”

    Mom G: “SAVE YOUR CHILD WHY ARE YOU ASKING STRANGERS ON THE INTERNET?!”

    Mom H: “Rude ^ Have you tried separating the child from the fire?

    Mom I: “Squirt some breastmilk on your child. Breastmilk cures everything”

    Mom J: “Since there’s so many ppl commenting here, can you tell me if this preg test is positive?! I’m only 2 days post ovulation but my boobs are sore and I’m nauseous”

    Mom K: “I think there’s more to the story that you aren’t telling us. Please tell us your story from when you were born till now so we can evaluate your life and show you where you went wrong”

    Mom L: “has he had his fire vaccinations yet? That will herd immunity protect him from the flames.”

    Mom M: “I wish death upon you!^ How dare you believe in science and expose your child to heavy metals, autism, and ignorance by suggesting fire vaccinations!! Have you not seen Vaxxed?”

    Mom N: just put some coconut oil on it!

    Mom O: just latch him on demand to increase supply, lots of skin to skin.

    Mom P: have you considered CIO? We tried it during the last fire and he only cried for 10 minutes. Hasn’t complained since.

    Mom Q: I would NEVER let my child CIO. He is 16 years old and has never cried his whole life, not even for a minute. We still bed share and he nurses on demand 4-5 times a night.

    Mom R: Did you have him evaluated for lip/tongue ties? I had my LO’s revised last week and it has made a huge difference in his screaming.

    Mom S: Is he formula fed? The formula companies don’t want you to know that formula causes house fires. They work with the insurance companies, so it’s really your fault that the house is on fire and he’s screaming. I would NEVER feed that poison to my child.

    Mom T: sometimes when you’re feeling overwhelmed just walk away. Come back when you’ve had a chance to breathe.

    Mom U: Strip him down to just diaper. He’s probably too warm! If his rectal temp is 100.4 he needs to go to the ER immediately!

    Mom V: “Are you looking for a work from home option? Maybe if you were home with your child more you could’ve prevented the fire. Sending PM”

    Mom W: Don’t listen to any of this! Follow your mom gut! You’re a great mom!

    Mom X: let go and let God

    Mom Y: don’t stress. When he gets too hot, he’ll come out on his own.

    Mom Z: Girl use this alone time to get your hair done or go on a date night!

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  • If You Aren’t Prepared To Roll Around In Another Person’s Faeces… Use A Condom

    I’ve debated on sharing this, just because it’s so embarrassing and I failed as a mother on so many different levels. But….. I think it needs to be said, if only to serve as birth control for the younger generation. Fair warning…. TMI AND POOP! 😂

    Today after I picked up Sadie from school we went to the flood wall so I could run and they could play at the park afterwards.

    After my run, I’m sitting at the picnic table, exhausted, drenched in sweat, watching my babies play, vowing to join them as soon as I rest up. At one point Sadie goes down the slide and then walks in front of me and I see “wet” shorts. I think, “okay she’s peed out of her diaper, no big deal.”

    I go get her to change her and the closer I get the the more clearly I smell that it’s not pee. Still, not a big deal, what’s a poopy diaper? 🤷🏻‍♀️

    Then I start to change her and I realize it’s a poop-trophe. 😳 I’m talking one of them poops you usually see in a newborn, where it’s all up then back and down their legs and you contemplate just throwing the whole baby away. 😬

    Still…. I’m not panicked…. been there, done that, multiple times. 😏

    I get a diaper and wipes, the wipes feel light… 😬 I start cleaning her up and there’s only FOUR wipes. This isn’t a four wipe kind of poop it’s pressure washer or open fire hydrant kind of poop. So I start looking for more wipes in the van. At this point, Sadie’s just standing there naked in an empty (thank God) the parking lot, with poop up her back in her hair, down her legs to her knees, even on her shoes, because taking her clothes off did not go as smoothly as one would hope. 🙃

    If You Aren’t Prepared To Roll Around In Another Person’s Faeces... Use A Condom
    If You Aren’t Prepared To Roll Around In Another Person’s Faeces… Use A Condom

    I turn my back, frantically searching for more wipes. Nothing. I had just cleaned out the van yesterday. I got out any and all extraneous wipes, clothes, everything. I KNOW there’s no other wipes in there, but I search anyway. Then I hear it…. that painful SQQQUUUEEEAAAKKKKK of skin getting stuck to a plastic slide on the way down. I look up and yes, of course, it’s Sadie. 🤦🏻‍♀️ She’s going down the slide, butt naked, COVERED in poop, leaving a long skid mark of poop allllllll the way down on her way.

    At this point I just give up. I chase down Layla, wrap Sadie in a blanket and buckle them in their car seats and leave. 🤷🏻‍♀️

    But wait, ✋🏼it gets better….. 😂

    Leaving the poop there was not an option, first of all it’s poop, gross and needs cleaned up regardless. But second of all, Arionna is home deathly ill with a stomach virus (I think). What if Sadie’s getting that virus? There’s no way I’m leaving my kids slug trail of possibly contagious feces on this playground so some other kid can get sick. We live maybe 5 minutes from the park, so I rush home grab Clorox wipes, that are conveniently on my porch because I had used them yesterday to clean a few parts on the van, then rush back.

    If You Aren’t Prepared To Roll Around In Another Person’s Faeces... Use A Condom
    If You Aren’t Prepared To Roll Around In Another Person’s Faeces… Use A Condom

    We get there and there’s still no one else at the park. I park on the gravel right by the slide, leave the van running with the a/c on, leave the babies buckled in, and go to clean the slide and rails.

    Easier said than done. 😐

    I got the bottom and the main top easily, but the middle of the slide I could not reach. I tried to climb up it, but was unsuccessful. Keep in mind I’m REALLY out of shape and just ran a mile and a half. It’s 90 °, I’m WEAK, uncoordinated. To say I was struggling would an understandment.

    Eventually, I get the brilliant idea to go down the slide and wipe as I go. Instead of risking a head injury I decide to go down feet first, on my stomach, holding on to the side to slow myself down with one hand and wiping with the other. This was not easy. I did not look elegant or attractive, I’m sure. I’m 254lbs of sweaty fat flopping around this children’s slide like a fish out of water. 🙄

    When I get to the bottom, I’m finally satisfied with my cleaning job. I turn and see a car parked, a family, all of them with glaring at me…. I dunno how long they were there. I never heard them pull up. They never got out of the car. I genuinely think that we’re afraid of me, after all, I was an overweight seemingly childless adult, on children’s playground equipment. 😂😬🤷🏻‍♀️😩

    Anyway, now dying of embarrassment, I rush to throw away my wipes and get in the van. I look down and realize there’s poop all over my shirt. Of course, I went down feet first. My clothes got the bulk of the poop. 😐

    I am NOT getting that on my seat belt.

    If You Aren’t Prepared To Roll Around In Another Person’s Faeces... Use A Condom
    If You Aren’t Prepared To Roll Around In Another Person’s Faeces… Use A Condom

    I am not getting a ticket or dying from not wearing a seat belt, no matter how short the drive.

    So,….. I do the only thing I can think to do….. I drive home in my bra. 🙃🤷🏻‍♀️ That family is scarred for life I’m sure… 😩

    We’re all home now; we’re alive, showered, traumatized, but okay. 😂 moral of the story? Always bring extra wipes, extra clothes, extra blankets, extra everything! 😂 Don’t clean out your car, ever. 😂 And if you aren’t mentally, emotionally, and physically prepared to roll around in another person’s faeces… use a condom. 🙂🙃😂 You’re welcome! 😂

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  • Why Did God Spend So Much Time On Woman

    WOMAN. . . . . . . . .
    When God created woman he was working late on the 6th day…….
    An angel came by and asked.” Why spend so much time on her?”
    The lord answered. “Have you seen all the specifications I have to meet to shape her?”
    She must function on all kinds of situations,
    She must be able to embrace several kids at the same time,
    Have a hug that can heal anything from a bruised knee to a broken heart,
    She must do all this with only two hands,”
    She cures herself when sick and can work 18 hours a day”
    THE ANGEL was impressed” Just two hands…..impossible!
    And this is the standard model?”
    The Angel came closer and touched the woman”
    “But you have made her so soft, Lord”.
    “She is soft”, said the Lord,
    “But I have made her strong. You can’t imagine what she can endure and overcome”
    “Can she think?” The Angel asked…
    The Lord answered. “Not only can she think, she can reason and negotiate”
    The Angel touched her cheeks….
    “Lord, it seems this creation is leaking! You have put too many burdens on her”
    “She is not leaking…it is a tear” The Lord corrected the Angel…
    “What’s it for?” Asked the Angel….. .
    The Lord said. “Tears are her way of expressing her grief, her doubts, her love, her loneliness, her suffering and her pride.”…
    This made a big impression on the Angel,
    “Lord, you are a genius. You thought of everything.
    A woman is indeed marvellous”
    Lord said.”Indeed she is.
    She has strength that amazes a man.
    She can handle trouble and carry heavy burdens.
    She holds happiness, love and opinions.
    She smiles when she feels like screaming.
    She sings when she feels like crying, cries when happy and laughs when afraid.
    She fights for what she believes in.
    Her love is unconditional.
    Her heart is broken when a next-of-kin or a friend dies but she finds strength to get on with life”
    The Angel asked: So she is a perfect being?
    The lord replied: No. She has just one drawback
    “She often forgets what she is worth”.
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