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  • I Wish I Could Be Raped Again

    I wish I could be raped again.

    I wish I could go back to the moment I was raped again.
    I was 13 years old and lived in a small village. There wasn’t much to do and very few shops, just a wine merchants, village store, co-op, a Chinese and an Indian restaurant.
    Most of my friends were well off and they would catch the train at weekends and go to the nearest town to the cinema or McDonald’s.

    My father worked very hard to support our family but money was tight.
    I decided if I wanted to be like my mates I needed to make my own money not have it handed to me like my friends.
    I asked the shops for jobs but at 13 no one offered me anything, my last resort was to ask in the Indian restaurant.

    They seemed so friendly and said I could help do some washing up on Saturday’s for a whole £10, I was so excited about it.
    I turned up on the Saturday at 10am and had planned to go to the local town in the afternoon for the first time ever, I was beaming with pride.
    I walked into the restaurant where I was greeted by an employee called Abaz, he was so chatty and friendly and offered me a Pepsi.
    After I had drank my drink he asked me if I had ever had “ziggy ziggy”, I was baffled, what on earth was he talking about?

    He told me it was time to get started; he showed me to a store room filled with spices, sacks of potatoes and straw on the floor. He grabbed me and threw me to the floor, he un-popped my adidas trousers and ripped off my top. 

    He held me down and shouted his friends.
    Whilst I was laying naked on the store room floor his friend and the owner of the restaurant Shilim set up a video camera.
    Abaz then kissed me hard, really really hard, he laughed at my small breasts and told me I was dirty for not shaving my pussy.
    He spat on me in between my legs, he pushed himself inside of me. I didn’t say anything, I didn’t move, I stared at the clock above the door and thought to myself, ‘why doesn’t it hurt the people I’ve seen on tv programs?

    Once he had finished 3 more took their turns stealing my innocence and laughing that I had never had ‘ziggy ziggy” before as I was bleeding.
    Shilim who had been filming me all this time came along, he bit me on my nipples and my lips, he pulled my hair and told me to tell him that I loved him.

    Once they had all had enough my clothes were chucked at me and a damp flannel, I was told to clean myself up as I looked a mess. They then closed the door and left me there.
    20 minutes later they opened it and told me I was a dirty whore, an unshaven slut. They were going to tell everyone what a filthy prostitute i was and if people didn’t believe them they would show them my porno.

    I was told I had to come back each Saturday or everyone would know, my parents would disown me and my friends would hate me.
    As a young girl I was naive and vulnerable. I returned at least 100 times, raped over and over again and sold to their friends.
    So yes, I wish I could be raped again for the first time just so I could shout NO, I could fight back, I could have kicked and punched and bite them.

    I could of told someone, gone to the police, I should of done more to protect myself.
    I am not blaming myself for being raped but I am blaming myself for letting them win, for letting them continue the sexual abuse for so long.
    I wish I could go back and shake and slap my teenage self so I could tell her she is beautiful, strong, brave and this doesn’t need to happen.
    But I cannot change the past, I allowed it to consume me for so long and now I have to find away to let it go away to move forward. 
    I have never had justice or the revenge I so wanted but what I do have is pride, love and a kind heart and a strength to carry on.

     

     

  • Advice To Men About Their Pregnant Wife

    ADVICE TO MEN ABOUT THEIR PREGNANT WIFE…
    Men, today I want us to talk about PREGNANCY.

    Do you know that certain things you do when your wife is pregnant actually contributes to the state of health of the mother and unborn child?
    Listen, it bothers me a lot when I see men showing no concern to their pregnant wife or fail to adjust to some temporary changes.

    It’s just 9 months, not like its forever.

    Pregnancy is not bought in the market, neither is it a software downloaded from the internet. It’s a seed planted by you. There has to be a carrier of that seed while it grows, and women have been given the responsibility to carry it.
    Pregnancy is preparation to welcome a new member into the family. Pregnancy is a journey fun-filled, amazing etc.

    Women differ in body changes. Although Pregnancy makes women do certain things in common.

    ■Once in a while she would nag and moan

    ■Once in a while she would request for things unimaginable e.g she wants to eat a sponge with marmite.

    ■Once in a while she will be to tired to make you your meals

    ■Once in a while she would want to stretch her legs on your laps. Please pardon her… carrying the baby ain’t easy.

    Her needs may be unsatisfiable at times.
    The first Trimester of the journey can be so annoying. Like I say women differ from each other during pregnancy.

    ●While most women are busy vomiting.

    ●Most of them sleep like a log, they nod off anywhere with the slightest chance even in the kitchen.

    ●While most women feel terribly hot.

    ●While most women put on weight, some will have swollen ankles as well.

    ●She will hate you and love you and cry over anything

    Please tolerate this, it’s beautiful afterwards.

    Her attitude becomes annoying, most times you can’t stand her. But I get annoyed when I see men neglect their pregnant wife. She’s not an abomination, neither is she a curse. I must say, it’s not an easy journey for all.

    The last Trimester is when you need to be extra patient, loving, enduring and understanding.
    NOTE… 

    1) Always observe your wife’s feet while pregnant, it swells often. Please give her a basin of water to soak her feet once in a while, it’s one of the best treats women enjoy during pregnancy.
    2) Ask her regularly how she feels and how the baby is. She’s the carrier so she feels him/her move.
    3) Tell her how beautiful she looks during pregnancy e.g ” This pregnancy is making you glow”.

    Even if she has grown bigger in size cause of the pregnancy, celebrate her.
    4) Don’t be upset if she ever wakes you up by 2am to help massage her feet. You need to feel a little bit of her discomfort and pain. She shouldn’t carry it alone, it’s your baby you need to carry it together. (I don’t mean physically though).
    5) No rule book stopped sex during pregnancy, in short it’s the best sex…. do it. It’s not like the vagina stopped working during pregnancy. o boy continue the work that brings the pregnancy.
    6) Don’t be ashamed to take her out. Take her out once in a while to those lovie dovie places you used to go together. They love it…
    Most times I wonder what crosses the heart of men when they see their pregnant wives. Carrying a child for 9 months isn’t easy.

    I urge all men to get closer to their spouses during pregnancy because that’s one of the times she needs you most.

    A big shout out to all men who fully stand by their wife during pregnancy. God bless you all.

     

     

  • This Mums Amazing Tip Is A Game Changer!

    This mums amazing tip is going viral and it’s clear to see why!

    We parents understand the struggle when our babies are ill, it’s horrid to see our children unwell and sometimes they refuse to take their medicine!

    So when Helena Lee shared how she managed to get her little one to keep her medicine down we were so happy!

    Credit: Helena Lee via Facebook

    FOR ALL MUMMIES…
    So for the last 24hours ive struggled to get alfie to take calpol, he has ended up covered in half of it where he spits it at me……

    Then i remembered seeing this trick..

    Not 1 bit got wasted 👌👌 and no tears 👌👌

    please feel free to share with any baby mummies you know xxxxx

  • My Husband And His Energy Drink Addiction

    Brianna and Austin were so excited to meet their new baby boy. 

    But one morning, Austin’s mum phoned with life changing news.“Austin had an accident” she told the worrier mum to be.

    After a long drive to the hospital, Brianna learned that Austin had had a brain hemorrhage.

     But the reason behind the sudden horror was just as unexpected.

    Austin had been drinking energy drinks ever since he’d started picking up over time and had to commute more regularly.

    Brianna learned that Austin had had a brain hemorrhage. But the reason behind the sudden horror was just as unexpected.

    It became a regular habit and soon, Austin was drinking them excessively. Doctors say they’re ultimately what caused Austin’s brain hemorrhage.

    Brianna said Austin had to have a lot of brain surgery to save his life, everyone was terrified. 

    Following this were strokes, seizures, swelling, and more things we weren’t prepared for.

    “Then the time had come for me to deliver our baby”.

    “I’m not going to lie to anyone, it was so hard. I had planned on Austin being a part of this huge moment. Being by my side. Holding my hand. Being there to cut the cord. Being there to welcome our son into the world. It didn’t feel right”.

    “But a beautiful miracle happened as I delivered our son. Austin woke up”.

    Austin was still too weak to see his son and was in and out of consciousness.

    Brianna said ” At a little over 2 months old, our son finally met his dad. A day I wasn’t sure I would ever see. That was the day that my heart gained some of its happiness back.

    Some time after that he could finally come home to me. Our life isn’t normal. There are doctors visits and hospital trips — so many that I lose count”.

    “But we are here. Fighting”.

     My Husband And His Energy Drink AddictionMy Husband And His Energy Drink Addiction

      

     

  • Dirty Men Watching Children On This App

    URGENT MESSAGE TO PARENTS WE NEED YOUR HELP TO GET THIS OUT THERE . 

    I’ve just been on this app and there is a little girl aged about 9 or 10 currently streaming live laid on her bed innocently singing one of her favourite songs.

    All her viewers are MEN who are making inappropriate comments and sending her hearts, this girl is innocent.

     😡 PLEASE CHECK YOUR CHILDRENS DEVICES FOR THIS APP AND OTHERS LIKE IT ASAP THIS MIGHT JUST BE YOUR DAUGHTER OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW.

    Children this young shouldnt be using this app but if they are it should be made safe for them to do so, stricter privacy rules should be put in place. 

     I am in absolute shock and totally disgusted at what I have just personally witnessed and I certainly will not be sleeping tonight,  yes I commented and demanded they stopped and left this poor girl alone but it fell on deaf ears, I have also reported the app but yet to recieve a response.

    Please share this to anyone with a child, lets keep our babies safe from these internet predators, It’s a scary time we currently live in and these apps are certainly not helping.

    The app is called bigo live and is free from the app store, so easy to get and use without a parents knowledge.

    Dirty Men Watching Children On This App
    Dirty Men Watching Children On This App

     

     

     

     

  • Beautiful Baby Names Inspired by Nature

    Beautiful baby names inspired by Nature

    We have created a list of what we believe are some of the most beautiful baby girl names inspired by Nature.

    Autumn
    Bloosom
    Brooke
    Clementine
    Daisy
    Dawn
    Ferne
    Hazel
    Holly
    Ivy
    Lilly
    Meadow
    Misty
    Petal
    Poppy
    Summer
    Willow
    Wynter

  • Beware Of Ben and Jerrys Ice Cream 

    Curling up on the sofa with a tub of Ben and Jerry’s is the ideal night for many.
    However, you could be doing more than just piling on the calories with the ice cream, after tests revealed traces of the weedkiller glyphosate in some of the makes.
    The chemical, better known under the brand name Roundup, is widely used on food crops around the world.
    According to the Daily Mail, a test of 14 samples found that 12 brought from across Europe contained glyphosate.
    Three of the samples were brought in the UK and were from Half Baked cookie dough and chocolate ice cream, Peanut Butter, and Chocolate Fudge Brownie.

    Contamination is thought to have come from the ingredients, such as wheat in cookie dough, used to flavour the ice cream.
    The levels were very low and well below the levels set by food safety authorities in the US and Europe.
    However glyphosate is at the centre of controversy around the world with some studies suggesting it is a cancer risk.
    The UK samples of the ice cream were collected by the campaigning group Beyond GM, which is critical of GM farming.
    Its director, Pat Thomas, said:”The industrial food system is failing us all and people are frankly sick of having the word ‘food’ associated with words like ‘risk’, ‘scare’, ‘poison’, ‘fraud’ and ‘contamination’.
    “‘Big companies like Ben & Jerrys have a big responsibility that extends beyond marketing jargon. We’d like to see Ben & Jerry’s switch to an organic supply chain which would ensure the safety and integrity of the products they produce.”
    Unilever told the Mail: “The bottom line is that our products are safe to eat and the trace levels of glyphosate detected were significantly below all allowable US and European standards.”
    It said that, currently, the glyphosate is sprayed on crops, such as wheat and corn, before harvest as a drying agent.
    However, the firm said it plans to phase out the use of any crops produced with glyphosate as a drying agent by 2020. It also promised to lobby for other firms to do the same.

    Curling up on the sofa with a tub of Ben and Jerry’s is the ideal night for many.
    However, you could be doing more than just piling on the calories with the ice cream, after tests revealed traces of the weedkiller glyphosate in some of the makes.
    The chemical, better known under the brand name Roundup, is widely used on food crops around the world.
    According to the Daily Mail, a test of 14 samples found that 12 brought from across Europe contained glyphosate.
    Three of the samples were brought in the UK and were from Half Baked cookie dough and chocolate ice cream, Peanut Butter, and Chocolate Fudge Brownie.

    Contamination is thought to have come from the ingredients, such as wheat in cookie dough, used to flavour the ice cream.
    The levels were very low and well below the levels set by food safety authorities in the US and Europe.
    However glyphosate is at the centre of controversy around the world with some studies suggesting it is a cancer risk.
    The UK samples of the ice cream were collected by the campaigning group Beyond GM, which is critical of GM farming.
    Its director, Pat Thomas, said:”The industrial food system is failing us all and people are frankly sick of having the word ‘food’ associated with words like ‘risk’, ‘scare’, ‘poison’, ‘fraud’ and ‘contamination’.
    “‘Big companies like Ben & Jerrys have a big responsibility that extends beyond marketing jargon. We’d like to see Ben & Jerry’s switch to an organic supply chain which would ensure the safety and integrity of the products they produce.”
    Unilever told the Mail: “The bottom line is that our products are safe to eat and the trace levels of glyphosate detected were significantly below all allowable US and European standards.”
    It said that, currently, the glyphosate is sprayed on crops, such as wheat and corn, before harvest as a drying agent.
    However, the firm said it plans to phase out the use of any crops produced with glyphosate as a drying agent by 2020. It also promised to lobby for other firms to do the same.

    The Crop Protection Association, which speaks for Monsanto and other chemical companies, insist glyphosate is safe.
    It said: “Glyphosate is amongst the most thoroughly tested herbicides on the market, and those studies by expert regulators have consistently concluded that glyphosate does not pose a risk to public health.
    “Glyphosate is a crucial tool in a farmers’ armoury. To put things in perspective, glyphosate is less toxic than baking soda, table salt, the caffeine in our coffee and many other products we all use or consume regularly.”

     

  • Rapist Awarded Joint Legal Custody

    A  judge in America has granted parenting time and joint legal custody of an 8-year-old boy to a convicted sex offender who allegedly raped the child’s mother nine years ago.

    Christopher Mirasolo, 27, was awarded joint legal custody by a Judge after DNA testing established paternity of the child.

    It was prompted after the county surveyed the victim regarding child support she had received this past year.

    The victim’s lawyer said “He was never properly charged and should still be sitting behind bars somewhere, but the system is victimizing my client, who was a child herself when this all happened.”

    According to Kiessling, Mirasolo forcibly raped and threatened to kill her client, now 21, nine years ago when the woman was 12. Mirasolo was 18 when the incident occurred in September 2008.

    “She, her 13-year-old sister and a friend all slipped out of their house one night to meet a boy and the boy’s older friend, Mirasolo, showed up and asked if they wanted to go for a ride,” said Kiessling. “They thought they were going to McDonald’s or somewhere.

    “Instead, he tossed their phones away, drove to Detroit where he stole petrol from a station and then drove back to Sanilac County, where he kept them captive for two days in a vacant house near a relative, finally releasing the older sister in a park. He threatened to kill them if they told anyone what happened.”

    Mirasolo was arrested a month later, she said, when her client was pregnant.

    Mirasolo was sentenced to one year in the county jail but only served six and a half months before early release so he could care for his sick mother.

    Meanwhile, the rape victim’s family suggested abortion or giving the child up for adoption. She did neither.

    “To her credit, she said she didn’t want the baby to be a victim, too,” said Kiessling. “She dropped out of school, went to live with relatives out of state and worked jobs to try and support herself.”

     

  • Furious Mother Hits Out At Facebook For Banning A Photo Of Her Sick Daughter

    Furious mother hits out at Facebook after a photo of her toddler is banned – because her rare skin condition looks ‘undesirable’ and would make others ‘feel bad about themselves.

    A furious mother has hit out at Facebook after it banned a photo of her one-year-old daughter, who suffers from a rare condition that causes her to break out in blisters at the slightest touch.

    Rhiannon Atkinson, 30, posted pictures of Pippa’s feet to raise awareness of epidermolysis bullosa (EB) – which strikes one in 50,000 people.
    But she claims the social media giant sent her a message branding one image of her daughter, who is left in unbearable pain due to the condition, ‘undesirable’.
    Facebook told Mrs Atkinson, who can’t cuddle or even hold her daughter’s hands, that such pictures are banned because they make users ‘feel bad about themselves’.
    The offending image is of Pippa’s foot and reveals the extent of her condition – around 90 per cent of her hands and feet are without skin and red raw.


    Mrs Atkinson has previously spoken about how she has to restrain Pippa when she dresses her in bandages to stop her catching any deadly infections. She finds it upsetting as it goes against her motherly ‘instinct’.


    Mrs Atkinson, from Cwmbran, South Wales, said: ‘I went back to them [Facebook] to say that’s ludicrous and that we were trying to highlight my daughter’s condition.
    ‘Even after they reviewed it they were still not willing to change their minds.
    ‘People have told us the images make them feel sick – that’s fine some people have nothing better to do than pick on a baby.
    ‘But for a huge corporation to say that – that stunned me.’
    What did Facebook say? 
    Facebook said that the image Mrs Atkinson was trying to use ‘depicts a body or body parts in an undesirable manner’.
    It also said that adverts should not depict certain body weights as being ‘perfect’, or any health conditions as being ‘extremely undesirable’.
    As examples, it used ‘close-ups of “muffin tops”, where the overhanging fat is visible’, people with tight clothes and conditions painted ‘in a negative light’.
    It also said that ‘adverts like these are not allowed since they make viewers feel bad about themselves’.

    Furious Mother Hits Out At Facebook For Banning A Photo Of Her Sick Daughter
    Facebook has been contacted but did not respond at the time of writing.
    Pippa gets 50-60 blisters a day. She has to have nappies lined to stop them rubbing and numerous different creams applied in an attempt to reduce friction.
    As she grows, and develops the urges to crawl and walk, her hands, knees and feet constantly have to be bandaged, Mrs Atkinson said.
    Pippa takes morphine and paracetamol to cope with the pain. Some days she needs sedatives to relieve her.

    A nurse and carer rolled into one 
    Mrs Atkinson said: ‘I am Pippa’s nurse and carer all rolled into one. In some ways when I am dressing her she must hate me because I am causing her so much pain.
    ‘But on the other hand, if she’s upset, I’m the person she looks for.
    ‘I dread the day when she can tell me to stop doing something because you always have to get her dressings finished.’

    Mrs Atkinson, speaking last month, said: ‘As soon as she was born her hands and feet looked as though someone had taken her and dipped her in boiling water.
    ‘They were red raw and she was whisked off to intensive care.
    ‘Being told your child has an incurable condition is incomprehensible, it broke my heart.
    ‘But then not being able to touch her, or cuddle her for five months was torture.
    ‘I’d never known anyone with this condition so it was a complete shock when we were told it was going to get worse.’

    Plan of aftercare 
    Mrs Atkinson stayed with Pippa and husband, Damian, 36, in hospital for 23 days as nurses decided to best plan of aftercare for their baby.
    Once she was discharged from hospital, Pippa had to have her hands permanently bandaged for four months, and her feet bandaged for almost nine months.
    Mrs Atkinson added: ‘When she was born I couldn’t hold her for five months, she was always on a pillow.
    ‘Not being able to cuddle your new-born baby is the worst feeling in the world but it would have caused her too much pain.
    ‘When we would touch her, especially her hands and feet, she would scream out in pain and you could see the true agony on her face.’

    Bandaged up each day
    In hospital, Mrs Atkinson had to bandage her daughter’s hands and feet four times each day. She was trained by specialist nurses.
    She now knows how to bandage and clean Pippa’s skin thoroughly in the comfort of her own home to reduce her risk of infection.


    Mrs Atkinson, from Cwmbran, South Wales, said: ‘I went back to them to say that’s ludicrous and that we were trying to highlight my daughter’s condition’.

    Mrs Atkinson said: ‘She now has blisters on every inch of her body – on her eyelids, in her hair, her mouth and up her nose.
    ‘So we have to clean the house at least 10 times a day, because if dirt gets into her blisters it can cause infection.
    ‘Whenever she gets a blister me and Damian have to restrain her so that we can get the fluid out of her skin.
    ‘That goes against every natural instinct in your body – having to hold your baby down and know that you’re hurting them.’
    Alongside all of the maintenance that the family have to endure to keep Pippa safe, it is also a struggle to let her do simple day-to-day things.
    Mrs Atkinson said: ‘For months she could only wear her clothes inside out, as the seams caused her to blister.’
    Now she has clothes which are custom-made without seams. Every day Pippa has full dressing changes. These can last up to two hours.
    Her blisters are lanced with scissors, dead skin and scabs softened to remove them without damaging new skin underneath.

    Mrs Atkinson, who gave up her banking job to care for Pippa, said: ‘She is now nearly 14 months old and hasn’t started to crawl or walk yet.

    Furious Mother Hits Out At Facebook For Banning A Photo Of Her Sick Daughter
    ‘Because of her blisters the pressure on her knees or feet would cause too much pain.
    ‘Every normal process takes ages too – it takes over 20 minutes to change her nappy because of all of her creams and lotions and 45 minutes to have a quick bath because we’ve got to get all of the scabs off of her.
    ‘I have to change her clothes six times a day too, because her skin bleeds so easily.
    ‘She wakes up at least four times every night screaming out in pain because she’s moved and hurt a blister or touched her skin in her sleep.’
    Her condition is slowly improving 
    Despite Pippa’s condition covering her whole body, Mrs Atkinson has noticed that she is slowly getting better.
    Mrs Atkinson, who is now trying to raise awareness of the condition, added: ‘Luckily, we can cuddle her every day now as her EB has slightly improved.
    ‘Because Pippa’s condition is genetic, I’ll never have any more children just because of the risk.
    ‘I wouldn’t change her for the world and we are doing everything in our power to ensure she leads a long and happy life.’
    Earlier this year Pippa fought off Streptococcal A which can cause meningitis. She is battling that again at the moment, along with Streptococcal G.
    Pippa’s family are now raising money to build a one-bedroom specialist extension to make looking after the toddler easier.
    If you would like to donate towards Pippa’s cause you can do so via their Just Giving page.

     

  • Forget ‘The Dress’ this picture really has people talking!

    Back in February 2015 the world was a blaze with controversy.  Was it black and blue or was it white and gold? Everyone had an opinion, you couldn’t go on a friend’s timeline or Twitter feed without seeing the discussion!

    The picture that started and million debates!

    Well friends, it here again!  This time the image comes to us in the form of a trainer, and again has the world arguing; is it grey and turquoise or is it pink and white?

    What colours do you see?

    You decide and let us know in the comments!