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  • I’m Being Left Like This, No Anus And No Pain Relief

    A lady named Tanya-Rebecca Evans has taken to Facebook to beg for help and share her story.

    Tanya said in her post:

    This Is My Story..

    I Had An Episiotomy.

    She Also Cut Into My Rectum & Didn’t Stitch Me Up.

    So I Was Left With No Anus After A few Years Of Incontinence. 

    Then I Was Severely Constipated For 18 Months. After Months Of My GP Begging Surgeons To See Me.

    I Went For A Second Opinion. 

    I Was Dying My Body Turned Yellow.

    & I Was Throwing Up Poo. 

    I Was Seen On Friday I Had Surgery Monday Morning. On 10th February 2014 

    & I Had My Loop Ileostomy..

    Because I’d Be Left For So Long..

    They Couldn’t Just Fix My Anus.

    I Also Have 3 Bowel Prolapses.

    Because I’ve Had My Bag For Life For 3 Years My Anus & Bowel Needs To Be Removed Due To It Dying. Which Puts Strain On My Other Organs.

    Also I’ll Be Having Mesh Stitched Inside Me To Repair My Strangulating Parastomal Hernia 

     & I’ll Be Having A Brand New Stoma.

    So I Seen My Surgeon In June!!

    & Was Told To Come Off The Morphine 

    & Steroids & He’d Do My Surgeon In August. (Summer Holiday). 

    So I’ve Had Scans & Now My Pre Op. Bloods Are Fine. 

    Now I’ve Been Told My Surgeon Is Retiring In November!! Having A Month Off Then Back Part Time.

     So Can’t Do My Surgery Then.

    I Went To My GP & Because There’s Nothing She Can Do She Sent Me To Hospital. 

    I Seen My Surgeon & 3 Weeks Ago He Agreed That He’d Operate Before He Retires. .

    I Was Rung This Morning. 

    He’s Fully Book For October With Cancer Patients. No Other Surgeon Wants To Do My Surgery Because I’m Still Under Him.. Until January. 

    Is There Anything I Can Do?!

     I’m Just Being Left To Suffer With Out Pain Relief & Steroids & My Parastomal Is Strangulating 4x A Day.. 

    I’m Also A New Mum.

    & My Fiance Has To Do Everything For Me..

    Please Share Away! <3


    Can you imagine being left like this? 

    I'm Being Left Like This, No Anus And No Pain Relief
    I’m Being Left Like This, No Anus And No Pain Relief

    We hope she gets the operation she needs as soon as possible. 

     

  • Mum Wakes From C-Section To Find Both Her Legs Amputated 

    Mum Wakes From C-Section To Find Both Her Legs Amputated


    Not even in your wildest dreams would you want anyone to go through this terrible trauma what Ella Clarke, 31 of Torquay, Devon has experienced. Clarke was pregnant with her eighth baby but she had a condition called placenta previa, also known as a low-lying placenta. Midway through her pregnancy, Clarke was told she would have to deliver via C-section.
    Mum Wakes From C-Section To Find Both Her Legs Amputated
    No big deal for this mum who has delivered six of her babies the same way. But what happened after labour has changed her life forever.
    Clarke was put to sleep for scheduled C-section. The procedure didn’t last long but she woke after six days to see both her legs amputated below the knees.


    How could this happen?


    Well, a medical negligence cost her legs.
    About 30 minutes into her C-section, Clarke’s placenta embedded itself deeply into her uterine wall. 

    A complication called placenta accreta caused massive hemorrhaging which lead to an emergency hysterectomy. After five blood transfusions and an induced coma, she delivered a beautiful and healthy baby girl – Winter Rose.


    Due to the negligence of the hospital, as supposed to be monitored every hour for blood clots, she was not under observation. Six hours allegedly passed without being monitored. This deadly mistake cost her legs – clots formed in her legs and deprived her lower limbs of blood supply. It was too late to save her legs. Ultimately, her legs were amputated below the knees to save her life.

    Clarke was clueless about her induced coma. She woke up and waited for the nurse to pass the baby but she was in for a shock.
    She said, “I remember the moment I woke up. I thought I was waking up from my C-section. I expected my beautiful little baby girl to be passed to me. I had no idea I’d been in a coma.”
    The hospital has apologized for the mistake and is held for thorough investigation. 

    Ella has taken legal action against the NHS hospital in Torquay; her family and friends strongly support her battle against the hospital. 

    The Life of Ella Clarke would never be the same again. 

    A Once active mum is now in a wheelchair and has prosthetic legs.
    All for what? A medical oversight that should have been easily prevented.
    “I knew the risks of blood loss, but I never expected to wake up three days later without my legs,” Clarke said.
    “Going into the hospital to have a baby should have been the best moment of my life. Instead, my world has been shattered. A thoughtless oversight has cost me so much. I will never stand on my own two feet again, and that makes me shudder,” she said.


     

  • Healthy family meals on a budget!

    Mealtime doesn’t have to be stressful or difficult.  It doesn’t have to cost a fortune or take hours to prepare.  We have listed 20 healthy yet delicious meals that can be enjoyed by the whole family!

     

    Breakfast for dinner!  Everyone knows a cooked breakfast is a great way to start the day, but why not enjoy this for dinner occasionally too?  Grilled bacon, beans, an egg with tomato and mushrooms or any of your families favourite breakfast item!

     

    The slow cooker is your friend!  It’s so simple to prepare a yummy chilli in the morning, then just leave it on all day to fill your home with those amazing dinner sense!  Mince meat, kidney beans, and a chilli sauce as spicy as you like it.  So cheap and easy!

     

    Jacket potatoes!   The humble jacket is more than just a side dish!  Let this bargain beauty be the start of the show, fill it with beans and serve with a basic salad.  It’s good any time of the year!

     

    Spaghetti and meatballs!  This meal it’s great to get the kids involved with if you want to make your own meatballs!  Just get some cheap mince, maybe an onion and any Italian seasoning you enjoy, form into balls then lightly fry off and cook in a yummy tomato sauce and served with spaghetti!

     

    A classic roast!  Typically served on a Sunday this meal doesn’t have to cost a fortune.  Get a small chicken which should easily feed a family of 4, or if you have a bigger family just pad out the dinner with some extra veggies, choose some nice colourful ones to make it look like a really full plate of delicious food!

     

    Pizza!  Who doesn’t have pizza?  Crazy People that’s who!  You can DIY this yummy fake away and the kids will really enjoy picking their own toppings and making it themselves.  The base is a simple wrap.  Just pop it under the grill for a few minutes and da-tah dinner is served!

     

    Pulled pork is an American classic which is making a big appearance in the UK now too!  Just buy yourself a cheap cut of pork and pop it in the slow cooker, you can find some nice barbecue sauce recipes online.  Leave the pork in the slow cooker for as long as you like then serve in rolls with any sides you like.  You should have plenty of leftovers which are tasty in a jacket potato the next day or sandwiches for the kids lunch boxes!

     

    Big Mac in a Bowl!  Ok this might sound weird but hear me out!  This diet friendly meal is so simple and really tasty!  Just simply fry off some mince with any season you’d usually use in a burger and serve on top of a bowl filled with salad, serve with chips.  You could either make your own burger sauce using Mayo and ketchup!

    Shepherd’s pie or cottage pie!  This is a family favourite can go along way!  You can pad it out with as many veggies as you want, using your preference of mince meat; beef, lamb, pork, turkey or chicken it doesn’t matter! Do it however you like it and then smoother yummy homemade mashed potatoes!

    Homemade soup!  This easy meal can be made on such a tight budget and is a little bit different every time!  Use any veg that you have in the fridge or get with ever cheap veggies you like, boil them up, add some stock and blend!   Serve with bread, rolls or chippies or dipping!  A perfect winter warmer.

    Noodles!  This might be the quickest meal you could possibly make! Just cook some noodles and add peppers and come cooked left other ham or chicken!  Easy peasy!

    Chilli con carne!  This is again so simple.  Just fry some mince, add loads of veg and beans, an easy tomato based chilli sauce and serve with rice!

    Carbonara but not as you know it!  This one does look a lot of a mess but trust me it’s really good.  Just cook some pasta, add chopped ham and any vegetables you like; onions, mushrooms, peppers that sort of thing then the strange part… add a tub of quark mixed in with one beaten egg.  Try at least once, I promise it will be become a family favourite!

    Beans on toast!  Such a great example of classic English food!  You could make your beans on toast a little bit more exciting by popping some of your favourite veggies on top, maybe scatter some cheese too!  Do it how you like it and it can be a meal!

    Slow-cooked beef stew!  It’s not winter without a stew and it can be so easy and cheap!  This is something you can really make how you like it.  Add whichever veggies you enjoy the most, make a basic beef broth and then just leave it!  The slow cooker will work its magic and you’ll have a delicious meal to look forward to.  Serve with  potatoes, rice, rolls or dumplings!

    Omelette pizza!  Again this is one of those things that people think I’m crazy for but trust me it is nice!  Just make yourself a basic omelette then cover in tomato puree and add any toppings you like.  It is something that children can really get involved in too, decorating and making how they like it!

    Homemade burger and chips!  Don’t always waste your money on a takeaway or fast food restaurant, making your own burgers can be much tastier and far healthier!  Just form the patties using beef mince and seasoning then make your own chips or wedges!  You’ll enjoy it so much more than any takeaway!

    Fully loaded omelette and chips!  Eggs and potatoes are two of those things that you can make so many meals out of!  Fill your omelette with anything you like; ham, tomatoes, onions or cheese then serve with some healthy homemade chips!

    Spag bol!  An Italian dish we Brits have claimed for our own!  Everyone has their own way of making spaghetti bolognese, while I prefer to make my own sauce, there is no judgement in a jar sauce  of course!  Add in some mushrooms, onions, peppers, celery and carrots to really pad it out with loads of yummy veg, some of my friends even had a tin of baked beans to the mixed too!

    Ham, egg and chips!   This can be such an easy and cheap meal, make your own chips, open and tin of beans, fry an egg and pop some ham on the plate!  Job done!

     

    What do you think of our list of family meals?  Is there anything listed that you’d like to try?  Can you think of any other classic meals you enjoying your house? 

    Let us know in the comments. 

     

  • I Wish My Sick Wife Would Take Her Last Breath

    I Wish My Sick Wife Would Take Her Last Breathe

    I hate my wife, I literally hate her, I wish I had never met her, I hate that she is so ill.
    Now you may think I’m a cruel heartless man and you may well be right, but please hear me out.
    I met my wife in 2011 she was the most beautiful woman I had ever laid eyes on, we instantly hit it off and things moved quickly.

    By 2013 we were happily married with one son, it seemed like a perfect life but it was all to collapse all to soon.
    You see I love my wife but she knew she was ill when she met me, she never disclosed this to me and I have now been given a life sentence in caring for her.
    My wife finds it hard to get out of bed, she has short-term memory loss and muscle weakness, sex is something that rarely happens as my wife constantly has urine infections. 
    Yes I’m a bad guy for hating her and wishing her dead, but I’m still here, I’m still caring for her.
    I’ve given up my life, my happiness, all for a woman who couldn’t even inform me of her condition.

    When we were stood at the altar she knew what she was signing me up for.
    So here I am 26 years old caring for a four-year old and a disabled wife. 
    If I could turn back time I would have run from that church and never looked back.

    I am not ashamed, I wish she would take her last breath now and release me from this hell.

    I receive little help and have to live off of social fund, my son is missing out on so much, we cannot afford trips out or any luxuries, so I have gone from a high paid job, nice cars, fancy holidays and a good life to this, this existence, it is not a life, if she was gone me and my son would be so much better off.

    I will look after her until the day she dies, I have stood by her it doesn’t mean I have to be happy about it.

     

  • I Will Spend Less Time Viewing My Children Through An App

    When I was growing up back in the 90’s my mother would only bring the disposable camera out for special occasions such as family holidays, first day at school or ready posed photos.

    Looking through my families collection of photographic memories, they are all pleasant, or sweet, myself and my brother playing in a pool, me in the clothes my nanny had knitted, the whole family standing in Trafalgar Square or us all smiling round or Christmas table wearing paper hats.

    Now today, Facebook reminds me of posts I have put up “on this day” in the years since I first joined the social media site.
    I came to realise that I have hardly printed any of these wonderful memories off, I have no hard copy, will my child have to log into my Facebook to see many of their childhood memories?

    Another realisation, all my childhood photos are nice or pleasant, yet many of the photos I have taken of my children will be embarrassing for them in years to come and here I am plastering it all over social media. 

    How many of these photos have I actually been fully involved in?

    How many of these photos have I thought of the perfect caption whilst taking it?

    How many different filters have i tried?

    When did I stop seeing and feeling the moment?

    Today I have decided to spend less time seeing my children through my camera app and more time face to face, actually living the memories rather than documenting them.
    The embarrassing photos will be printed off and kept and not placed on show for everyone to see.

    My children will only be young for so long and although I want phones to keep I also want them to remember me and not the back of my phone, I will find a happy medium.

     

  • This Amazing Photo Shows What Really Happens When You Give Birth!

    This brave mum and body positivity advocates Instagram post about her postpartum body has been going viral and it’s clear to see why.

    Let’s talk postpartum bodies! I asked @belleverdiglionephotography to take this photo, just hours after giving birth to Willa, in my rawest and most vulnerable state. I was in pain and I was overcome by a flood of emotions. Elated to have welcomed our beautiful girl and so empowered and proud of what my body and I had just done! It’s a strange feeling to look down and still see a bump, even though you’re holding your baby in your arms, even after doing it three times. It’s not easy to go home with a baby and still have to wear maternity clothes. With my first I was adamant I would just “bounce back”. Everyone would say “you’re young, you’ll loose the baby weight in no time!” But you know what, I didn’t, I never have in fact. With each baby I’ve gained a few more kilos and a few more stretch marks. I used to feel the need to cover up in this newborn stage, I didn’t want to see my body in this state, so why would anyone else? It’s taken me three babies, but I’ve finally realised this postpartum body isn’t something to hide! I am beyond proud for what this body has given and sacralised. I am thankful that my body is able to carry and birth babies naturally. I am NOT ashamed of my (many) new stripes and my postpartum body. And neither should you! Let’s celebrate postpartum bodies, in all their glory. The female body is incredible and I am so proud of what mine has done!

     

    Elise Grossman is an Australian mother of three, and a real advocate of realistic bodies and body positivity. 

    Grossman shared this photo along with many others in the summer and the response has been amazing with many women also sharing their own postpartum bodies with Elise.  

    Well done to Elise for sharing these beautiful photos and bringing more positivity into the world. 

     

     

  • Surprising facts every woman that has been pregnant should know!

    Pregnancy; that magical time in your life when everyone says you’re glowing but you just feel like all you do is spend your time in the bathroom, either because you have to pee or you have to vomit!

    Take a look and see how many of our surprising pregnancy facts you already knew!

    If you are less than 12 weeks pregnant when you go for your first scan you run a very high risk of the scan being internal. While this might sound scary, it’s actually just slightly awkward and uncomfortable, especially if it’s something you’re not expecting.

    While we’re on the subject of scans, as much as you want to see your baby bean as often as possible most women only get scanned twice during the entirety of their pregnancies. Once at 12 weeks and again at 20 weeks.

    Obviously some instances will result in more scans. For example you may have dating scan if you don’t know how far along your pregnancy is or if your doctor or midwife is concerned the baby isn’t growing as he should be you will most likely received another scan later on in your pregnancy.

    Baby brain is a real thing! Nobody puts their keys in the fridge and the milk down the toilet because they want to! But the most likely reason for the dreaded baby brain is simply fatigue. Pregnant women do not get nearly as much sleep as they actually need, so by all means use this as an excuse for an extra nap wherever you can.

    While eating for two might seem like a fantastic side effect of pregnancy it’s not actually the case. What you will actually need during pregnancy is just an extra 300 calories. That’s the equivalent of 2 large bananas or three Freddo bars, so choose your calories wisely.

    Morning sickness is a very common side effect of pregnancy and unfortunately the name can be quite deceiving. I guess morning, noon and night sickness just doesn’t have quite the same ring to it. But most women that suffer with morning sickness will tell you it can hit you at anytime of day! Be at bedtime, lunchtime or whenever they smell something that turns their stomachs.

    Also on the subject of morning sickness you might have been to told that the sickness will go away or subside by the end of the first trimester, unfortunately I’m afraid for some women this is simply not the case and you will still be getting morning sickness all the way up until the day you deliver.

    Have a birth plan but be prepared for your baby to have other plans! Being prepared is fantastic, if you know you want to use a birthing pool make sure you write it down and that your midwife is aware, or if you don’t want to use any painkillers, good luck to you, make sure the midwife and your birthing partner know what your plan is. But you also have to remember that you don’t know how your baby will be brought into to the world. With all the best intentions some labours end in an emergency caesarean, it might not be safe to use that birthing pool or it might hurt a lot more than you expect and you’ll be begging for an epidural! So be prepared and have a plan, but be prepared not to follow it to the letter!

    A very common misconception is that women that suffer with heartburn will be birthing a hairy baby and will it be nice to know that the horrible heartburn with suffering is because their baby will be born with flowing locks, there is actually a much simpler and less satisfying medical reason. During pregnancy the valve between your stomach and esophagus relaxes, this allows your stomach acid to rise up into your throat and causes that painful burning sensation. This is why you will say so many pregnant women carrying a bottle of Gaviscon in their handbags at all times.

    Which other facts about pregnancy surprised you?
    Did we miss anything important out?
    Let us know in the comments and don’t forget to like and share this with any other parents or expectant mothers !

  • It’s Only For Mothers You Sicko-Dad Shaming

    A woman has defended a man after he was shamed out of a parents’ room in an Australian shopping centre.

    According to a witness Mikaa Ives the man was trying to change his son’s nappy when another mother walked over to him, accused him of being a “sicko” and ordered him to leave.
    “There was a dad in the middle of changing his son’s nappy, already having a difficult time with his son not wanting to be changed,” Mikaa Ives wrote on a local parenting Facebook group page.


    The woman allegedly accused the father of “staring at her naked kids” and threatened to call security.

    “The lady piped up and started abusing the dad for being in the parents’ room: ‘It’s only for mothers, get out you sicko’, literally saying she would call security and say he was staring at her naked kids if he didn’t leave the room,” Ives said.

    “He picked up his son who mind you didn’t even have a clean nappy on yet and went to stand outside the door.

    “His son was hysterical and he’s just saying ‘its okay mate, we’ll go back in there soon.” 

    Ives, who was disgusted at the woman’s behaviour, walked over to the father and told him to come back inside and finish putting a clean nappy on his child.
    She said if the other woman called security she would back him up.
    “At this point I thought f*ck this, told the dad to come back in and finish changing his son, told the lady that if she wanted to call security to go ahead because I would 100 per cent back the dad up,” she wrote.
    “Old mate finished changing his son, thanked me and off he went.
    “I was absolutely shocked that the poor bloke felt he had no choice but to leave like she said … I was BEYOND disgusted.”
    Ives went on to say that the mother in question wasn’t even changing her children – she had just gone into the parents’ room to check her phone while her kids played.
    “ITS A PARENTS ROOM NOT A F***ING MOTHERS ROOM. If you’re one of the people who act like that when a dad is simply changing his child, then I suggest you stay the f*** away from the PARENTS room,” she vented on Facebook.
    The shopping centre website refers to its “parent rooms” being equipped with a microwave, lounges, change tables and toilets.
    More than 300 people have commented on the post with a number of fathers revealing they’ve had similar incidents happen to them.
    “Happened to me twice now. Thank goodness my little boy is out of nappies now,’ one father shared.
    Another wrote: “I’ve had security called on me for taking my daughter into a parents’ room to change her nappy. Security basically told her to pull her head in as I was clearly changing a baby.”
    “I’m a dad n copped the same when ever I had to change my son’s nappy. Didn’t move just told them to [do] whatever they needed to do to feel better about themselves,” one dad wrote.
    “When someone kicks you out of a parent’s room you literally have nowhere to go with your children, it’s good to know that there are people out there who care.”

     

  • A Day In The Life Of A Lazy Father

    Dear Diary,
    Last night was difficult – the baby woke up crying for a bottle and briefly woke me up too.
    I woke my partner and then pretended to be asleep, so she’d have to deal with her. I fell back to sleep within seconds, but I’m so knackered. 

    I’m sure she’s fine, she’s used to having no sleep. 

    This morning, I jumped out of bed, made myself some breakfast, I enjoyed a nice, hot coffee before having a relaxing poo, followed by jumping in to a hot shower on my own.

    I didn’t make her anything for breakfast, though – she’s used to doing everything on her own; she doesn’t need my help.

    I put my clean boxers and socks on, my freshly ironed work clothes and it was only 07:40 – I leave at 08:00. 
    So, with all this spare time I had before leaving for work, I sat scrolling through my phone and watched her feed the baby whilst listening to her complain that she misses having a hot drink and something to eat without stopping every five minutes.

    Probably hormones. She’s always moody.

    Well, with 20 minutes spare and nothing to do, I left early for work so I didn’t get stuck in shitty traffic; she had loads of housework to do anyway, better not get in the way of that. 
    I would help do a little bit, but I’d rather listen to the radio and have some quiet time before work.

    Work is so stressful. 

    Five days out of seven, I have to spend time with adults and socialise a bit. I get two fifteen minute tea breaks and an hour’s lunch – completely alone. 
    On the plus side, I get a career and I know I’ll always be financially stable, so that’s a perk I guess.
    My lunch was actually quite enjoyable – she packed my favourite snacks and made me a sandwich with my favourite filling!  
    With an hour spare, I had plenty of time to reflect on my thoughts and actually, plan a night out with the lads.

    I deserve it, I think. I only get two whole days and every evening to myself a week.

    She won’t have plans anyway, she has a baby to look after.
    Actually, I had a message from her on my break to tell me what was for dinner when I got home, that our baby had rolled over for the first time, that she loves me so much and and can’t wait for me to come home and spend the weekend with them as a family. 

    She’s so needy, I only left a few hours ago.

    I don’t think she’ll be happy when I tell her I’m going out with the lads at the weekend, but it’s tough. I earn the wage and put a roof over her head, I’m allowed. 

    She has no friends anyway, they seem to have ditched her since having our baby.

     
    I drove home from work after a tough day typing emails and speaking to clients, I could smell dinner as I pulled up, but was shocked to see her when I walked through the door.
    She was still in the same clothes as she was this morning, she’d had no wash, there was more washing piled up and now she’s asking me to take the baby aswell. 

    I told her that I couldn’t and I wanted to sort myself out after work. 

    God, can I just have a minute to myself, please?

    I took another hot shower and put my clean clothes on, sat down and complained at how hard my day’s been. 

    I’m allowed to complain, right? She doesn’t work, so she doesn’t know how it feels. 

    Out of nowhere, she burst in to tears and asked why I didn’t reply to her message at lunchtime; she asked if I still loved her and why I don’t help her out with our baby. 

    I ignored her, had my dinner and decided to nip out for a drive to get some space, I needed to vent to somebody. 
    Plus, the baby started crying again and needed rocking to sleep – I thought I had better leave her to it. 
    I came back a bit later and the baby was asleep. 

    Peace and quiet, finally.

    She was in a bad mood when I got in, so I just went straight to bed – I have work tomorrow and I need a decent night’s sleep. 
    Having a baby is hard work.
    Goodnight.

     

  • Beautiful and Unusual Baby Name Inspired by Places

    Finding the right baby name for your growing baby bump can be a very tricky thing. Do you chose a classic name, celebrity inspired name or something completely unique?

    Some parents have been taking to naming their children after countries, towns, states or villages.

    Brooklyn Beckham was apparently named after the place he was conceived.

    This isn’t a new trend, David and Victoria Beckham famously named their first born Brooklyn and even the very controversial Katie Hopkins named her daughter India.

    Katie Hopkins criticised parents for naming their children after places even though she has a daughter named India.

    So here is a list of some of the most popular names inspired by places!

    Arizona

    Brooklyn

    Carolina

    Chelsea

    China

    Dakota

    Dallas

    Denver

    Devon

    Egypt

    Florence

    Francisco

    Hudson

    India

    Indiana

    Jackson

    Jersey

    Jordan

    Kenya

    Kingston

    London

    Lincoln

    Marshall

    Memphis

    Milan

    Montana

    Orlando

    Paris

    Phoenix

    Raleigh

    Salem

    Savannah

    Sydney

    Troy

    Virginia

     

    Orlando Bloom named after the home of Disney World; Orlando in Florida.

    What do you think of naming children after places?

    What names do you like or dislike?

    Let us know what you think in the comments.