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  • My Boyfriend Sold My Body And Made My Children Watch

    12 years ago I was a single mum to my little boy Callum I was living in a dingy bed sit and was struggling to cope.

    One day just before Christmas I took a taxi to Toys r us to get my baby a few gifts I couldn’t afford much but I was adamant my boy would not spend his first Christmas without anything.

    I bought him a ball that span and a musical rattle, the taxi driver on the way home was so friendly and chatty we hit it off straight away.

    His name was Craig and I stupidly invited him in for a coffee but it just seemed so right, he ended up not leaving, 3 months into the relationship I moved into his house and quickly fell pregnant.

    Once our daughter was born he changed he became obsessed with money, he wouldn’t even give me any for nappies.

    One night when my daughter was 6 weeks old Craig brought home 2 friends with him, he forced me to have sex with them whilst he sat in a chair with a huge smirk on his face.

    Once the men had left he gave me £20 for nappies and wipes and he kept what he called the daddy fund he had sold me for £50 each turn.

    I was a mum and my babies needed to be fed and clothed, Craig made me work for my money, he took great pride knowing he had full control of me.

    By the time my son was 4 and daughter nearly 3 I was sleeping with men most nights it had become the norm.

    Craig came home just before my daughters 3rd birthday with 4 men and rope, Craig tied me up in a star fish position he then brought my babies out of their room and made them watch mummy be raped.

    Craig had the biggest grin on his face and I could see he was aroused, my children kept trying to get to me and were crying and calling my name but Craig held them em to watch.

    Once the men had finished with me Craig took his turn, my children hugged me as I was being raped for the 5th time that night.

    Craig then untied me and went off for the late shift at work, I sat on the sofa covered in their semen, my blood and my children’s tears.

    I had a shower and then packed my childrens stuff and fled into the dark night, with only £50 then Craig had chucked at me before he left and no idea of where to go, I walked around my town in the hope of some salvation and prayed that Craig wouldn’t drive passed us.

    I thought to myself maybe I should take mine and my children’s lives I began giving this a lot more thought, I started to walk towards the bridge holding my children’s hands tightly I got closer and closer.

    Someone must have been watching over us as a street pastor approached us and asked if I was ok, I hadn’t realised I had blood running down my leg.

    My son looked at the pastor and said “Craig and the bad men hurt my mummy”.

    The street pastor called the police, after giving my statement the police found me a woman’s refugee I felt safe for the first time in years.

    It’s been a hard long road but I’m finally safe and happy, I am single and plan on staying so, my children spent years not wanting to leave my side and sleepless nights crying, but now they are the most kind caring and brave teenagers.

    If you are in a violent or controlling relationship there is help out there, I stayed for my children but now I realise me staying did them so much more harm

     

  • Raped and Tortured I’m Now Left Broken and Empty

    Towards the end of August last year, my now ex, raped me.

    We had been living together for over a year, I loved and trusted him more than anyone I had been with previously and for the first time in my life, I was considering his requests for the future involving marriage and children. Despite my feelings I ended our relationship, he is an alcoholic and I couldn’t take the lies that stemmed from his addiction any longer.

    He moved out, he was dating other girls and I had started to see someone else. The first night i finally allowed the new man in my life to spend the night in my home, my ex got drunk and over a period of hours sent a barrage of abusive messages. He then showed up at our apartment around 5am,stating he was there to comfort me after all the nasty things he had sent, his attitude quickly changed when i told him I had someone over.

    I did not want to hurt him, i still loved him deeply, I was horrified that he had returned to our apartment to find someone else there. He stayed and we argued, he told me I should kill myself, amongst other hateful things and I wept and begged him to stop. He waited around until my date left for work, when we were alone he did not hold back any longer.

    He enjoyed seeing me cry and begging him to stop being so hateful and I failed to see that his arousal that followed, was from seeing me pleading and hurt. The last thing he said before he proceeded to rape and torture me over the course of several hours, was that he, “was a bad person and was going to enjoy this”.

    He hit me till I was dazed, then dragged me by my hair, ripping chunks out and hung me over the edge of our bed, he poured rum down my throat and when I choked or tried to spit it out he hit me again. He continued forcing alcohol upon me and hitting me around my head throughout the attack. He beat, raped, sodomizied and tortured me for hours, until he passed out drunk. I cried the whole time, he kept asking if it hurt, then saying, “it doesn’t matter how you feel, it doesn’t matter what you want”. At one point he grabbed my wrists and said to me, “this isn’t you, you’re a fighter, why aren’t you fighting me?”

    I have wanted to kill myself everyday since then, I felt constant horror that he could have done that to me and I felt sick because I still loved him.

    On November 30th I was assaulted at work, a glass was smashed in my face, knocking out most of my front teeth and either dislodging or fracturing the rest, my teeth are now wired into my mouth. I have had nothing but time for over a month now and I find myself constantly reliving both the rape and the assault.

    I cannot bear that he just gets to walk away and continue on with his life, continue seeking happiness and fulfilment while I am left broken and empty. It weighs me down so much but I don’t know what I can do, I am not strong enough to go to the police and go up against him whilst also dealing with the assault trial. I just want people to see him as he truly is; a sociopathic monster and I am plagued by the thought that if he hurts someone else in the future, it will be my fault. I feel so helpless.

     

  • Ed Westwick Fired Over Sexual Assault Allegations

    Ed Westwick has been fired from the BBC’s adaptation of Agatha Christie’s Ordeal By Innocence.

    The BBC made this decision after sexual assault allegations were made against Westwick.

    The TV drama had already been filmed, however Westwicks role will now be played by Christian Cooke – who is believed to be filming the new footage this month.

    In November, Westwick outright denied allegations of rape, which had been made by two different women.

    Ordeal By Innocence was originally meant to air on BBC during the Christmas season.

    White Gold, another series starring Westwick, has had filming paused.

    Westwick had this to say about the accusations he is facing of sexual assault:

    Via Twitter

  • Raped Whilst I Was Having a Epileptic Fit

    In June 2016 I went travelling for three months in europe prior to beginning my year abroad studies in Spain. Whilst travelling in Hungary I met a guy who was also travelling and he was from the Netherlands, we became friends, he asked for more but I said no and that was fine.

    After I moved to Spain and settled in he asked to come visit me for a few days because he would be travelling in Barcelona which was not far from where I was living. I said yes, I enjoyed his company so I saw no problem in it.

    One morning I found that whilst I had slept he took money from my purse and the keys to my flat and left, when I called him he came back quickly with coffees and said he only took the money for coffee and took my keys so not to disturb me that I wouldn’t have to let him back in. Needless to say I was annoyed but I had classes to go to, so I got ready and we both went about our days separately.

    After my classes finished I was still annoyed and didn’t want to meet him right away so instead I went for a run. When I returned to my flat after the run I was talking to my flat mates and I suffered an epileptic fit (this is normal for me).

    My flat mates were aware of my condition and after the seizure stopped they helped me to bed. They waited with me whilst I was still fairly incoherent but whilst this was happening, the friend who was staying with me knocked on the flat door and my flat mates who were not aware of our earlier falling out, let him in to the flat and then into my room. Whilst they were all there I suffered another seizure (again multiple seizures are normal for me), but whilst it happened this guy told my flat mates to leave and that he would take care of me.

    Thinking nothing sinister in it, they left him to it.

    Next when I began to gain consciousness I can feel his naked body pressed against mine from behind, his hands all over me, kissing my neck and he had slightly undressed me. In my pod sizars state I was confused, scared and very weak, I could do nothing but lay there as he did all he wanted to me and wait until he was finished with me.

    After he finished he got dressed and left the room. Once I composed myself following the effects of the seizure and the shock of what he did I went to the kitchen where he was sat talking happily with my flat mates. Of course I immediately asked him to leave and I made my flat mates know not to let him back in again although I did not tell them why. But before he left, he managed to steal my handbag which contained all my money and my passport.

    I returned home to the UK so I could get a new passport and whilst there I had to tell my mother and father what happened. I then reported it to the police and they have reported it the inter-poll but I have not pushed it any further.

    I am ashamed to say that I have yet to tell anyone else and this is why I do my want to push it forward legally. I am scared and still so long after it happened it haunts me constantly. I am still not ready for anyone else to know but after my mother died six months ago I now feel very alone with it. My father is so very very supportive of me but following the sudden death of my mother, his wife, he is so fragile also and he does upset him greatly what happened to me and I feel guilty to burden him further.

    I know my story is long and complex, I hope it does not cause upset that I have written in such detail but truthfully I wanted to share my story in a way that is anonymous and get it off my chest.

     

  • My child was sexually assaulted but the abuser gets more support.

    My child was sexually assaulted but the abuser gets more support.

    A few years back my son then aged seven was at school, he came home and was very quiet, he didn’t eat his tea and just stayed in his bedroom.

    I thought he was coming down with something, a few days later I was speaking with a mum at the school and she said her son was also being very quiet.
    I sat my little boy down and told him, he can tell me anything, absolutely anything and I will support him.

    He burst into tears, I held him in my arms for a good ten minutes whilst he sobbed his heart out.
    When he calmed, he spat out some words that still haunt me today “mummy a boy pulled my willy hard and made me have his willy in my mouth, he pee’d in me mummy, he said he would Butt fuck me if I told, mummy I’m scared”.

    We went to the police and my son said who had done it, a child of eight, a bloody eight year old.

    The school gave the abuser far more support than my child, nothing would be done because of his age, he had attacked four children the youngest being only five years old.
    My son has had to move school and sees a councillor, he still has nightmares, my once happy child is a shell of his former self, now I completely understand that the abuser may himself have been abused or hurt but surely the victims should be shown more love and support.

    My sons old school were more worried about it getting out to the press than the damage done to the children. We have never even received an apology from the child, his parents or the school. We are left here alone trying to pick up the pieces.

    If you think a child is being abused please don’t hesiate to report it, https://www.gov.uk/report-child-abuse

     

  • Nicki Minaj to Give Evidence in Child Rape Trial

    Superstar singer and rapper Nicki Minaj will be a star witness to defend her brother as he is on trial for the alleged rape of his 11 year-old step daughter.

    Nicki pictured with her Brother.
    Credit – Instagram

    Back in 2015 Nicki Minaj’s brother; Jelani Maraj, 38, was accused of the repeated rape of his new wife Jacqueline Robinson’s 11 year old daughter. The horrible assault apparently took place up to 4 times a week for 8 months.

    However in a twist Maraj’s lawyers told jurors in New York on Thursday that the horrific charges against Mr Maraj were all part of an elaborate plot to extort money from his sister Nicki.

    Robinson allegedly told the famous artist: ‘I can make the charges go away for $25million’.

     

  • I Wish I Could Be Raped Again

    I wish I could be raped again.

    I wish I could go back to the moment I was raped again.
    I was 13 years old and lived in a small village. There wasn’t much to do and very few shops, just a wine merchants, village store, co-op, a Chinese and an Indian restaurant.
    Most of my friends were well off and they would catch the train at weekends and go to the nearest town to the cinema or McDonald’s.

    My father worked very hard to support our family but money was tight.
    I decided if I wanted to be like my mates I needed to make my own money not have it handed to me like my friends.
    I asked the shops for jobs but at 13 no one offered me anything, my last resort was to ask in the Indian restaurant.

    They seemed so friendly and said I could help do some washing up on Saturday’s for a whole £10, I was so excited about it.
    I turned up on the Saturday at 10am and had planned to go to the local town in the afternoon for the first time ever, I was beaming with pride.
    I walked into the restaurant where I was greeted by an employee called Abaz, he was so chatty and friendly and offered me a Pepsi.
    After I had drank my drink he asked me if I had ever had “ziggy ziggy”, I was baffled, what on earth was he talking about?

    He told me it was time to get started; he showed me to a store room filled with spices, sacks of potatoes and straw on the floor. He grabbed me and threw me to the floor, he un-popped my adidas trousers and ripped off my top. 

    He held me down and shouted his friends.
    Whilst I was laying naked on the store room floor his friend and the owner of the restaurant Shilim set up a video camera.
    Abaz then kissed me hard, really really hard, he laughed at my small breasts and told me I was dirty for not shaving my pussy.
    He spat on me in between my legs, he pushed himself inside of me. I didn’t say anything, I didn’t move, I stared at the clock above the door and thought to myself, ‘why doesn’t it hurt the people I’ve seen on tv programs?

    Once he had finished 3 more took their turns stealing my innocence and laughing that I had never had ‘ziggy ziggy” before as I was bleeding.
    Shilim who had been filming me all this time came along, he bit me on my nipples and my lips, he pulled my hair and told me to tell him that I loved him.

    Once they had all had enough my clothes were chucked at me and a damp flannel, I was told to clean myself up as I looked a mess. They then closed the door and left me there.
    20 minutes later they opened it and told me I was a dirty whore, an unshaven slut. They were going to tell everyone what a filthy prostitute i was and if people didn’t believe them they would show them my porno.

    I was told I had to come back each Saturday or everyone would know, my parents would disown me and my friends would hate me.
    As a young girl I was naive and vulnerable. I returned at least 100 times, raped over and over again and sold to their friends.
    So yes, I wish I could be raped again for the first time just so I could shout NO, I could fight back, I could have kicked and punched and bite them.

    I could of told someone, gone to the police, I should of done more to protect myself.
    I am not blaming myself for being raped but I am blaming myself for letting them win, for letting them continue the sexual abuse for so long.
    I wish I could go back and shake and slap my teenage self so I could tell her she is beautiful, strong, brave and this doesn’t need to happen.
    But I cannot change the past, I allowed it to consume me for so long and now I have to find away to let it go away to move forward. 
    I have never had justice or the revenge I so wanted but what I do have is pride, love and a kind heart and a strength to carry on.

     

     

  • Rapist Awarded Joint Legal Custody

    A  judge in America has granted parenting time and joint legal custody of an 8-year-old boy to a convicted sex offender who allegedly raped the child’s mother nine years ago.

    Christopher Mirasolo, 27, was awarded joint legal custody by a Judge after DNA testing established paternity of the child.

    It was prompted after the county surveyed the victim regarding child support she had received this past year.

    The victim’s lawyer said “He was never properly charged and should still be sitting behind bars somewhere, but the system is victimizing my client, who was a child herself when this all happened.”

    According to Kiessling, Mirasolo forcibly raped and threatened to kill her client, now 21, nine years ago when the woman was 12. Mirasolo was 18 when the incident occurred in September 2008.

    “She, her 13-year-old sister and a friend all slipped out of their house one night to meet a boy and the boy’s older friend, Mirasolo, showed up and asked if they wanted to go for a ride,” said Kiessling. “They thought they were going to McDonald’s or somewhere.

    “Instead, he tossed their phones away, drove to Detroit where he stole petrol from a station and then drove back to Sanilac County, where he kept them captive for two days in a vacant house near a relative, finally releasing the older sister in a park. He threatened to kill them if they told anyone what happened.”

    Mirasolo was arrested a month later, she said, when her client was pregnant.

    Mirasolo was sentenced to one year in the county jail but only served six and a half months before early release so he could care for his sick mother.

    Meanwhile, the rape victim’s family suggested abortion or giving the child up for adoption. She did neither.

    “To her credit, she said she didn’t want the baby to be a victim, too,” said Kiessling. “She dropped out of school, went to live with relatives out of state and worked jobs to try and support herself.”

     

  • Women Now Need To Buy ‘Rape Insurance’ If They Want Abortion Covered

    Texas women have to pay extra insurance premiums if they forsee being victimized and needing an abortion

    Women in Texas will now have to buy additional insurance policies for coverage if they think they might need an abortion some time in the next year. If that sounds absurd to you, it’s because it is. Who the hell plans to have an abortion? No one.


    The ban signed by Gov. Greg Abbott, a Republican, applies to insurance plans on the exchanges by the Affordable Care Act (ACA) and also any plans sponsored by employers or purchased on the private market. A plan would only be allowed to cover an abortion if the pregnant woman had a life-threatening health emergency.


    The additional insurance a woman would need to purchase should she have a crystal ball and predict that she needs an abortion has been dubbed “rape insurance,” because it’s essentially forcing women to forsee being sexually assaulted and victimized, or their kids. It’s forcing them to pay extra for a horrific experience, just as a precaution. Can you imagine being faced with deciding whether or not to plan for your daughter being raped because it may be cheaper in the long run by doing so?


    “Women and parents will be faced with the horrific decision of having to purchase ‘rape insurance’ to cover them if they are victimized,” Democratic Representative Chris Turner said in a statement reported by Reuters last week. “This is not only ridiculous, but it is cruel.”


    It was an intensely debated bill and one that will severely impact the women who need abortions, especially women with lower income.


    “It will impact people who have coverage and will now be denied services,” Heather Busby, executive director of NARAL Pro-Choice Texas says, according to U.S. News & World Report. “So regardless of how big that number is, people who have health coverage should be able to get the services they need.”


    The bill came about because right-wing legislators and advocates in the state said they were forced against their will to help fund abortions because they happened to be taking part in a health insurance system that covers them.



     

    “As a firm believer in Texas values I am proud to sign legislation that ensures no Texan is ever required to pay for a procedure that ends the life of an unborn child,” Abbott said in a statement. “This bill prohibits insurance providers from forcing Texas policyholders to subsidize elective abortions. I am grateful to the Texas legislature for getting this bill to my desk, and working to protect innocent life this special session.”

    Texas is one of 25 states that limit coverage of abortion under the ACA, aka Obamacare, but at least 13 have exceptions for rape and incest victims, according to the nonprofit Guttmacher Institute. It’s horrific enough that legislators want to literally strip away the rights women won through Roe v. Wade. But it is downright sickening when reckless and thoughtless politicians don’t even think or consider exceptions for rape or incest victims. It’s reprehensible. Which is why activists have already filed lawsuits in Texas and are currently trying to figure out their next move.


    “I’m not sure what the strategy might be moving forward,” Busby says. “We already have two pending lawsuits now in Texas, so it’s just more of our tax dollars defending laws that deny people health care.”


    The fact is this: women don’t plan to have abortions. They don’t make their five year plans and say to themselves OK this year I’m going to have an abortion, and the year after that I’ll have two. No, just NO. Needing one and getting one is an extremely personal and emotional choice, one that Republicans apparently think is made lightly. Apart from that, women should not be forced to quantify their reasons for needing one. MY BODY, MY CHOICE means something. It’s a right women fought long and hard for, and the more we allow lawmakers to add stipulations and exceptions to that right, the closer we get to losing control over our reproductive freedom.

  • Mother stabs boyfriend six times after she finds him naked on top of her 12-year-old daughter

    A mother who found her boyfriend lying naked on top of her 12-year-old daughter stabbed him six times before calling the police.

    The woman, who has not been publicly identified, pulled out her pocket knife at her home in Cleveland and stabbed her boyfriend, 31, five times in the chest and once in the head.

    When the mother called the police to the scene, she said she had found her boyfriend trying to touch her daughter and stabbed him, Cleveland.com report.

    In an interview with police, the mother, who along with the boyfriend cannot be named, said she was heading to bed early on Tuesday morning when she saw her boyfriend naked on top of her daughter.

    She said that in a fit of rage, she grabbed her pocket knife and lunged at him. The couple then wrestled over the knife with the mother being grabbed by the throat and thrown against the wall.

    Both mother and daughter sustained cuts to their hands in the incident.

    The 12-year-old girl told police that her mother’s boyfriend fondled her under her clothes, took off her pants and stripped off his own clothes.

    He then told her, ‘This is what it is like in the real world when you have a boyfriend’, before sexually assaulting her, according to police reports.

    The boyfriend told police that the mother attacked him because she was jealous that her daughter had developed feelings for him.

    The man survived the attack and was taken to hospital for treatment.

    The case is still under investigation and as yet no charges have been made.