Tag: rape
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13 Reasons Why Should Be Banned
The Netflix series 13 Reasons Why is causing heated debates over the rape scene of Tyler.
In the episode Tyler is attacked in the boys bathroom and is raped with a broom handle.
Kirsty Dawn said ” I don’t understand how they can air that, it is very disturbing and as the series is aimed at teenagers I personally think is sick, the creators should be ashamed of themselves, and it should be banned”.
Carrie Chapel disagrees “YES what happened on the last episode was graphic.
BUT everyone is kicking off, saying it should be cut off and no more seasons because of that 1 mins and few seconds of that bit.
I didn’t see anyone going to this limit when it showed you Hannah been sexually assaulted in the hot tub…
So why because it’s happening to a man? What’s the difference, why shouldn’t it be shown and spoken about?
I honestly just can’t get my head around it, it’s bringing awareness that it DOES happen to men more than anyone even realises not just women and it shows that things affect your life in so many different ways!
People need to realise rape is fucking RAPE and is totally disgusting and not acceptable no matter what sex you are!”.
What are your vies should there be a third season? Did the writers go too far? or do you feel it is raising awareness of male rape?
Approximately 85,000 women and 12,000 men are raped in England and Wales alone every year; that’s roughly 11 rapes (of adults alone) every hour. These figures include assaults by penetration and attempts, In 2012-13, 22,654 sexual offences against under-18s were reported to police in England and Wales, Only around 15% of those who experience sexual violence choose to report to the police.
Approximately 90% of those who are raped know the perpetrator prior to the offence.
These figures come from An Overview of Sexual Offending in England and Wales, the first ever joint official statistics bulletin on sexual violence released by the Ministry of Justice (MoJ), Office for National Statistics (ONS) and Home Office in January 2013.
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No One Believes I Was Raped And I Don’t Know What To Do
I’ve been dealing with the aftermath of my rape for 2 months. It has been excruciating.
I’ve been a dancer for a little over a year. I work in upscale clubs where I only provide lap dances and bottle service. At my home club (where I began dancing) I was friends with everyone because I’m not a ‘messy dancer’. (I don’t do drugs, I don’t drink, I don’t sleep with my coworkers, and I don’t fight with other girls.) when I would go to work I would give a hug to everyone. I would smile at everyone. I would loan other girls anything they need and they would all greet me happily. It was a good place to work.
A new door guy (security and someone who brings people to the club) started working there. I was just as friendly with him as any other employee. I said hello, I gave him hugs, and we chatted on slow days or when there was nothing for me to do. A couple of weeks into our friendship he was telling me how he was going to have to wait 3 hours after close for the city bus, so I offered to give him a lift. I was having a bad night, had just gone through a breakup, and for some reason I couldn’t stop crying that night. When he got in my car he rubbed my shoulder and it didn’t seem weird.
When we got to his house I had offered to share my food with him and we sat in the driveway eating and talking. When I think back on this I remember how suddenly the topic changed to going inside. He told me his parents wouldn’t appreciate someone they didn’t know conspicuously sitting in their driveway. I had already been sharing my food so I went inside with him and after a while chatting he started making me uncomfortable.
Before I could do anything or make a move to leave he was over me, pulling my skirt up and forcing himself on me. He brutally orally raped me and I was paralyzed to do anything. He was about 3 times my size and I couldn’t imagine how I could get away. I cried and choked and he told me to shut up “about it” repeatedly. When he was done he ushered me out and didn’t look me in my face. Afterwards he texted me saying I should come over again. I ignored every text and never said a word. I didn’t go back to work.
Eventually I thought of the other girls around him daily and I made a call every ounce of me didn’t want to make. I called my boss and told him what happened. My boss and I had forged a friendship I thought, and I thought he would protect and care for me. Instead he said “what” and never said a word to me again. They put the man who raped me on company probation while they “investigated” what I had told them. They took his statement.
Eventually he was let go because of the accusations. I couldn’t bring myself to work at the club I was at anymore. It made me sick to my stomach to be treated so coldly. No one asked me anything, no one spoke to me about it. Everyone I had been so friendly to wouldn’t speak to me. Soon the entire company knew about it. I started working at an affiliated club so that I could continue paying my bills and he started coming into the club I moved to. Every time I saw him I would feel panicked and leave work after having them kick him out. He hasn’t been barred completely and has come back 3 times. My heart is broken by how no one is supporting me or cares what I’ve gone through. No one believes me because I can’t provide proof it happened.
I’ve never felt so alone in my life and I’ve never felt so disgusting and humiliated. I have no support group and I can’t bring myself to talk about it in person. Every part of me hurts.
I don’t know what to do.
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Police Hunting Man After Raping A Teenage Girl
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POLICE are hunting a Bradford man who is on the run after being convicted of raping a teenage girl!
Imran Khaliq, 38, was found guilty at Bradford Crown Court last month of raping a 17-year-old girl last year.
He failed to appear for the verdict and a warrant was issued for his immediate arrest.
Police have made extensive enquiries to trace him and are now issuing a public appeal to assist with their efforts. He is described as Asian, of slim build and around 5ft 6in tall. He has links to the Greater Manchester area but could be any where .
Detective Chief Inspector Paula Bickerdike, of Bradford District Police, said: “We are appealing to the public to help us trace Khaliq, who is due to be sentenced in his absence later this year. It is important that he faces justice for this serious offence and enquiries to trace him are ongoing.”
If you know the whereabouts of a wanted fugitive please contact the independent charity Crimestoppers anonymously, via the online form or by calling 0800 555 111.
If you feel you are in danger then please call 999
Crimestoppers guarantee your anonymity; no-one will ever know who you are, you will not have to give a statement to the Police and you will never have to go to court.
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I Can’t Have Been Raped As He Was My Boyfriend
Last September, I was raped by my (then) boyfriend. He booked a hotel for the night near me (he lived 2hrs drive away) so we could spend some time together. I’ve got some health conditions and chronic fatigue so I’m always in quite a bit of pain. He wanted to try different styles etc but I didn’t and he got a bit annoyed.
He said if we weren’t going to have sex, I could perform oral sex on him. I said no because I don’t like it but he wouldn’t listen and he deliberately tried to sit on my face and force me to do it until I pushed him off and he called me a b***h. I thought it was weird at first but then he started laughing and said it was fine and that he was going in the shower.
When he came out, he seemed in a mood and asked for sex and I said I felt too tired but he said I owed him because he paid for the hotel and we hadn’t had sex that night yet. I felt uncomfortable but still said no. He was annoyed and said he was going to sleep. I knew I would be up all night over thinking everything so I took some sleeping pills (they were prescribed) and went to sleep.
I often wake up with sharp chest pain and pressure so when I woke at 2am with this pressure on me, it didn’t startle me too much. It wasn’t until I was becoming more aware that my (then) boyfriend was on top of me and was forcing himself inside me. I said no but he told me I had already said yes and couldn’t change my mind and I owed him anyway. (Sometimes I sleep talk so don’t know if I said yes when I was asleep).
I tried fighting him off but I couldn’t and I tried shouting out but he kept on kissing me over and over and I was struggling to breathe. In the end, I gave up and waited for it to be over. When it finished, I got changed out of my pyjamas (he fell back asleep) and I went to the garage over the road from the hotel for some air and a drink. I didn’t have enough money on me for a taxi, my mum thought I was with friends and she doesn’t drive and wouldn’t have been able to afford a taxi for me anyway.
I went back to the room and stayed awake all night, I sat in the chair. The next morning, he had to drive straight back home (he is in the RAF and was on duty that afternoon). I decided to let him sleep as long as possible so he would have to rush and not have time to talk. I pretended I didn’t feel well and didn’t really say much. He dropped me off at a chemist, which I thought was weird, but he said he didn’t use a condom and I needed to take the morning after pill.
I got out of his car and we haven’t spoke again since. I got the pill, went to the sexual health clinic, where they done a full STD panel and reported everything. I was started on prophylaxic Hepatitis B injections, at first I wasn’t sure if I was raped, I was naive and thought that if you are in a relationship it isn’t rape, but after speaking to my mum she made me see clearly .
Luckily everything was all clear. I had regular counselling sessions, was diagnosed with PTSD and prescribed more sleeping tablets and a short course of diazepam. 2 weeks ago, I finished counselling and have managed to put most of the incident behind me, I even found the courage to report him and get him convicted.
Even if you are in a relationship No still means No and Rape is Rape, if you do not consent get out and report it, you are not alone and you WILL be believed.
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Equal Rights Should Mean Equal Responsibility-Rape
Charlie Lucy took to Facebook with a post that made many people sit up and think.
Equal rights should mean equal responsibility.
The definition of rape stands as such:
“Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without that person’s consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority, or against a person who is incapable of giving valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, has an intellectual disability or is below the legal age of consent.The term rape is sometimes used interchangeably with the term sexual assault.”
So therefore why are females who violate children not charged with rape?
Women fought for the right to vote,work and be considered as equals to their male counterparts. They demanded change so as to be given the same rights and privileges.
With equal rights should come equal responsibility and yet because they lack male genitalia they escape being charged,tried and found guilty of the crime of rape. The very definition states that rape includes “other forms of penetration”-which female abusers engage in-and so why are they not charged as rapists,rather than it being classed as “assault by penetration?”
I will always class my female perpetrators as rapists. They groomed me,tortured and manipulated me,held and tied me down to be assaulted by male abusers,used objects and their body parts to violate my body,were party to recording these sickening acts. My foster-mother would take me to various homes to be violated and raped-she accepted money from these vermin in exchange for my innocence.
She and other female abusers assaulted and degraded me in every possible way,there were dozens-if not hundreds-of occasions where they penetrated and violently assaulted my body for their own sexual gratification and yet these vile excuses for human beings avoid being charged as the despicable rapist scum they are?
In no way am I saying that sexual assault isn’t as traumatic as rape-both violations are devastating and will change the victim forever-but rape is legally considered to be a more serious offence than sexual assault and females are evading being labelled as the monsters they are!
Sentencing in the UK is already highly questionable and does not reflect the severity of the crime. It’s about time female abusers faced the same consequences-however lenient any legal punishment maybe!
Peace to you all 💖
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Please Don’t Call Him A Rape Baby
Please Don’t Call Him A Rape Baby
Three years ago I had to work late due to dead lines on a project I was assigned to, it was around 10pm when I finally left the office, I was desperate to get home as I knew I had an early night and just wanted something to eat and to soak in the tub.
I made a huge error of judgement and decided to cut through a dark car park cutting off ten minutes of my journey home.
I was half way through the car park when I was pulled into a van, I don’t remember much other than his body on top off mine and being in pain, I must have blacked out!
I awoke 2 or 3 hours later two miles from home in a dark ditch, with no clothes and blood dripping down my thighs.
I crawled through the mud and grass to the side of the road and a lorry driver stopped, the kindest man who wrapped me in a blanket and held me as I sobbed, he wanted to take me to the hospital but I just wanted to go home.
The next morning I washed and dressed for work and god knows why but I pretended it hadn’t happened, I just carried on as normal.
I smiled, I joked, I socialized, until 14 weeks later I discovered I was pregnant, the rape really did happen, it all came flooded back to me, memories are vague but now I was carrying my rapist baby.
I visited my parents and poured out everything that had happened my mother was so great so kind so understanding, we talked about options but this baby wasn’t to blame, it was my child.
I eventually gave birth to a beautiful red-haired little boy called *John*, my family really supported me other than my sister-in-law who kept referring to him as the rape baby, always asking does my son look like the rapist, how can you love a baby conceived by rape? Even suggested I put him up for adoption as when he finds out how he came into this world he will hate himself.
He is NOT a rape baby, I do not see my rapist in my sons eyes, he is my light after a dark time, he is my hope, he is my heart, he is my son!
*name has been changed to protect identity*
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Man Who Sexually Assualted A Baby Gets Early Release
A North-east man who filmed himself sexually assaulting a screaming baby, then sent the video to his boyfriend was sentenced to 16 months in prison but was shockingly released after only serving 8 months.
Ryan Simpson, 29, admitted filming himself kissing and sexually molesting the screaming child before sending the video to his partner.
Simpson, also admitted possessing indecent images of children when he previously appeared at Elgin Sheriff Court.
The court heard he had been in a long-distance gayrelationship when the sexual assualt took place. When his partner’s home in the south of England was raided by police in the summer, Simpson’s video recording was discovered.
The court heard that police seized all the electronic devices in the property, including a Samsung tablet which belonged to his then-partner, discovering a sickening trail of child sexual abuse images and films.
A “category A” indecent video showing Simpson assaulting his victim was found. The infant was distressed and crying in the footage.
Officers later discovered text messages Simpson sent his partner at the time the sick video was recorded.
The court heard a message sent from Simpson to his partner after the video which read: “I didn’t have much time, or I would have done as I wanted.”
It also appeared he had been sharing them with friends in a social media chat group.
Simpson earlier admitted charges of taking indecent images of a baby, distributing those images, and of possessing indecent images of children, the phone also contained footage of a boy aged between four and six being sexually assaulted, as well as other Category B material. .
He also admitted sexually assaulting a child under the age of 13.
Having only been in prison for such a short time and his trail of sickening images it is likely he will offend again.
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Rape Victims Clothing Placed On Display
An exhibition in Brussels is displaying items clothing worn by rape victims at the time they were assualted, the idea behind this is to show it doesn’t matter what you wear and no one is at fault being attacked other than the perpatraotor.
The exhibition,is held near the Belgian capital, is called “Is it my fault?” It refers to the self-doubt that many victims feel after an attack, the Flanders News website reports.
The clothes were leant to the organisers – victim support group CAW East Brabant – include track suit bottoms, pyjamas and dresses some of which are items of children’s clothing.
CAW’s Liesbeth Kennes told VRT1 radio “What you immediately notice when you walk around here: they are all very normal pieces that anyone would wear, some people assume that sexual assault victims tend to wear provocative clothing which is untrue, even if a woman is wearing what others class as “slutty” or revealing that does not give people the right to assault her.
There is even a children’s shirt with an image of ‘My Little Pony’ in the exhibition, which brings home a harsh reality, and a pink dress with the age 3-4 written in the label.
Victim blaming still remains a problem in sexual assault cases, where the victim may be questioned on the assumption that they were at least partly responsible for the sexual aggression against them.
No man, woman or child should ever be abused and it shouldn’t matter what they wear
While victims are accused of dressing provocatively,the only person to blame is the perpetrator, the victim is never to blame
The exhibition hopes to raise awareness that clothing doesn’t matter and that if you are sexually assaulted whilst wearing a short dress or skirt that is not a reason to be raped you are not to blame and a victim
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I Had To Choose Which Child To Keep
I had to choose which child to keep
I can only be a good parent to one of my two child and this kills me inside.
I have two children Shane who Is 13 and Chloe who is 3, I love them both so much.
Shane has always been a hand full, playing truant from school, hanging around with the wrong crowd and getting up to mischief, Shane was always so angry and quick to fly into a temper.
I have had the school, police and social services involved to try to control and calm Shane down and trying to teach me ways to deal with him.
Shane did have some good traits he dotted on his little sister always hugging her and playing with her, I never once thought he would hurt her, yes he had slapped me on a number of occasions but Chloe was his favourite person in the whole world.
Shane was already in his 4th secondary school after being excluded from others, just after Halloween I received a call from Shane’s new school.
It had been brought to a teacher’s attention that my son had been boasting to his friends that when he got home he was going to rape and drown his sister in the bath.
I will never know if he meant it or whether he was just showing off in front of everyone.
I wasn’t prepared to take that chance, I had no control of him, at the age of 13 he was bigger and stronger than me, had he tried to hurt Chloe I would have had little power to stop him.
I handed my first-born child over to the local authority to protect my youngest child.
Not a day goes by where I don’t feel ashamed and guilty, Shane won’t speak to me, the last thing he said to me before he cut contact was “you picked her over me, if you thought I was gonna hurt her why didn’t you give her up”.
I had to make a choice my violent son whom I loved but had failed or my innocent daughter.
Did I make the right choice, my daughter would have been loved by any family had I given her up, but my son needed me.
I don’t think I’ll ever come to terms with my decision but I did what I thought was right for my daughter.
I just hope my son grows up into a decent human being and we can rekindle some sort of relationship.