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  • I Personally Think I’m A Perfect Mother

    I personally think I’m a perfect mother. Why do I think that? Because my child is happy, fed, watered and healthy. The mum who lives across the road, her kids are also healthy happy fed and watered. So she’s a perfect mother.

    I can’t stand pierced ears on babies as to me it’s cruel. And yes secretly I’d be a bit judgy but I would not go out of my way to push my views on people. But I also don’t like kids with great big bows on their head, kids in track suits or little girls in totally inappropriate clothes (hot pants and cropped tops). But would I force my opinion? No!!! Cos it’s none of my fucking business how others raise their children!

    My son has a happy meal now and then. He loves watching tv. He wears the same pjs for more than one night if they are perfectly clean still. He also has on more than one occasion heard me swear and runs around copying for example yesterday I hit my head and said oh cock. He ran around saying cock cock cock. (We managed to pass it off as clock😂) But he also loves walking for miles through the countryside, loves trying new foods, is so polite when meeting new people. So I don’t think I’m doing a bad job.

    And when the judgy mcjudgeface fuckers come along and tell you that you’re a shit parent it’s almost enough to make yourself doubt those snotty kisses, the times where only a hug from mummy will do, and all those giggles over fart noises. But no, I am a perfect mother to MY SON. And if others don’t like how I parent, then quite frankly my dear, I DONT GIVE A DAMN!!

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  • Misconceptions About PTA Mums (Parent Teacher Association)

    Misconceptions about PTA mums! (Parent teacher association)

    Why do people have the opinion that PTA mums are “stuck up” or “a clique”?

    What’s your opinion on PTA mums?

    I’ve been on my children’s schools PTA for 3 years now and I love it!

    Not only are we raising money for the school, putting smiles on kids faces with events (much to parents dismay of spending money) and getting to know the parents, we also have a laugh!

    We have people from all back grounds, friendships have been formed that perhaps wouldn’t have been in normal every day life, we go out for drinks, have lunch with the kids in the holidays, and would welcome any one to join us.

    We have a lawyer, a teacher from another school who is a parent, a school cook, a stay at home Mum, a bar manager, a child minder, and a bin man! A huge diversity of people.

    Take a look at your School PTA before you judge them.. pop and speak to them, see what kind of people are on the PTA, you will be shocked!

    An awful lot of work has to go into PTAs.

    Safeguarding, risk assessments of events, first aid training, planning events, fundraising prizes etc, finding people to help, organising dates and liasing with School, printing or designing posters, setting up events, clearing up events… the list is endless!

    Would you be willing to pop to your next PTA meeting?

    Would you be willing to help?

    Have you ever thought about what the money raised goes towards?

    Resources, Xmas crackers for kids at Xmas lunch, subsidising coach travel for trips so it’s cheaper for parents, musical instruments, out-door play equipment etc etc!

    Are you on your association? If so why? What do you enjoy?

    If not why not? What puts you off?

    GO….

  • When You Think About It We All Have A Favourite Child

    I know I shouldn’t admit it especially to a mum website with some seriously judgemental woman, but I have a favourite child. Secretly when you think of it we all do but most are too afraid to admit it in case of backlash from other parents. I know it’s wrong but I can’t help loving one more than the other.

    My son has always been trying screaming all night, fighting me for any reason, never doing as he’s told and not giving me a minutes peace. He’s been even worse since i had his sister 3 years ago now the constant demand for attention wears me out. I thought once he started school it would be easier but no, my daughter on the other hand is so placid and loving. Shes so much easier and better behaved than her brother that I can’t help favoring her.

    Is it wrong that i prefer to play with her and not her brother, even her toys are more interesting, when I walk round the shops I am drawn to the pretty outfits for my baby girl, but hate buying nice outfits for my son, he is so messy and any clothes will quickly be stained.

    I love both of my children but i can’t help loving one more than the other. I would never let anyone know how I feel and hope one day I can love them both equally but until then I’ll love my daughter more in secret. I would never see any harm come to my son and will do everything in my power to make sure he doesn’t know I favour his sister over him.

     You may think what I’ve said is bad but if you think of it are you sure you haven’t got a favourite too every parent does don’t they?

  • Parents Of Children In Dance Classes Read This

    One of my friends asked “Why do you pay so much money and spend so much time running around for your daughter to dance ?” Well I have a confession to make: I don’t pay for my daughter’s dance lessons. Or her pointe, Jazz & tap shoes. Or her hundreds of costumes.

    So, if I am not paying for dance , what am I paying for?

    – I pay for those moments when my girl becomes so tired she feels like quitting but doesn’t..

    – I pay for the opportunity that my girl can have and will have to make life-long friendships.

    – I pay for the chance that she may have amazing instructors that will teach her that dance is not just about movement but about life.

    – I pay for my child to learn to be disciplined.

    – I pay for my girl to learn to take care of her body.

    – I pay for my daughter to learn to work with others and to be a proud , supportive, kind and respectful team member.

    – I pay for my child to learn to deal with disappointment, when she doesn’t get that score she hoped for , or fell during a move she has practiced a thousand times, but still gets up and is determined to do her BEST next time…

    – I pay for my girl to learn to make and accomplish goals.

    – I pay for my daughter to learn that it takes hours and hours and hours and hours of hard work and practice to create a champion, and that success does not happen overnight.

    – I pay so that my daughter can be in the studio instead of in front of a screen…

    I could go on but, to be short, I don’t pay for dance; I pay for the opportunities that dance provides my child to develop attributes that will serve her well throughout her life and give her the opportunity to bless the lives of others. From what I have seen for many, many years, I think it is a great investment!

    Author and full credit  : S.Martin

  • You’re Not Dad Of The Year For Posting One Photo

    Ciara Moore’s Views having gone viral and for good reasons.

    Moore said” Having a baby is all cuddles & about family until things hit the fan with your child’s father and he up and leaves. BOOM now you’re a single mother, left to do it all by yourself, while he MIGHT* ask to see the child once or twice a week and change a couple pampers a day but still gets his beauty sleep while months down the road were STILL feeling like a zombie.

    You get to sneak away once a week at night if your lucky to catch up with old friends (the two you have left 🤷‍♀️) and get SHAMED for it . You’re now a bad mum lol. While he lives his regular life with no responsibilities & drinks and hangs out every day but is still quoted “ Best Dad of the Year” JUST because he posts one simple picture with your child he took the last time he saw the kid bc in reality it’s been like a month 😂.

    You’ll sit at home after work each day with your child and be happy but still slightly alone because you are. You have a beautiful little person that you take care of but when you rest your head at night and realize “wow my phone hasn’t gone off at all …” and no ones even checked on you or offered to bring you a bite to eat to catch up or ANYTHING small just to make you feel a little less lonely … that’s when reality hits you. And you even start to blame yourself bc now your child is either being raised in a split family , has a revolving door of a father OR no father at all.

    I guess that’s a part of growing up is realizing it’s not all that people make it out to be. A picture says a thousand words BUT there’s a thousand more behind it. Dads can drink their feelings away while we have no choice but to face them and pick ourselves back up each day for our child. Especially dealing with some** of the things above or seeing people** i know deal with it .. it’s SAD . But exactly why I admire women/ mothers . We cry all we want but that’s a sign of strength. Somehow we ALWAYS pull through. #notalldadsarethesame !!#dontarguewithme#momsareamazing 👩‍👧👩‍👦

  • Why Should I Have To Get A Job?

    Why should I have to get a job?

    I was a happily married stay at home mum raising my three precious children Oliver 8, Joshua 6 and Poppy 3.

    I loved being able to take my eldest two to school and spending time with my little girl, then every day being in the playground to collect my boys.

    I never missed an assembly or sports day, my children could have friends over and I would always have a healthy home cooked meal on the table for when my husband came home.

    I always wanted to be a mum and a housewife, I was very happy.

    However my husband can’t have been happy as he ended up cheating on me and left me for his mistress.

    I was stuck, I had always been financially supported by my husband but now I had to claim benefits.

    But why should I get a job, I didn’t ask for my husband to cheat, I didn’t get pregnant to claim benefits, I have done no wrong!

    The job centre says as my youngest child is 3 I have to look for work, but why?

    How is this fair on my children to have to go without their mum being there for them when ever they need me, to have to miss sports day or get a paid stranger to collect my children from school.

    I do not want a job, I already have one it’s called being a mum.

    How can they expect me to leave my three children with a childminder just because my husband couldn’t keep his promise to love me forever.

    I didn’t do anything wrong yet I am the one who is being made to feel guilty for not wanting a job, but if I do not prove I’m looking for work they will stop our benefits.

    I understand many may not agree with me but I do not care, I set out to be a mum all the time not to miss out on watching them grow.

     

  • Child Maintenance Service Is It Failing

    Child Maintenance Service Is It Failing

    The child support agency (csa) has nearly completely changed to the child maintenance service (cms).

    There was promises of huge changes and improvements with this service, but many parents feel nothing has improved and they are still very much out-of-pocket.

    One mum said

    “Really starting to give up 😢why are they letting these dads not face there responsibilities it’s so wrong and not fair on us mums!😠”

    Another mum took to social media to rant about the injustice of the whole system and how the non-resident parent can lie and get away with it.

    “Got a letter in the post today. Yearly review. Kids so-called dad has finally declared an income to HMRC ÂŁ32.40 a week. WOW I mean WOW. What’s that like just over 4hrs a week at minimum wage he is getting away with declaring? He is self-employed and earning way more than that but can still buck the system. Let’s see if January 18th he makes the 1st payment I’m guessing I will never see a penny in my life from him”

    The child maintenance service can work if the non-resident parent is employer or honest, if he is employed the service can take money directly from his wages or bank account.

    Mums and dads who are self-employed are however fiddling the system and claiming they earn less than they do.

    One mum we spoke to said her ex is a self-employed taxi driver the mum knows he works a minimum of 60 hours a week but he claims he only earns £65.60 a week, which is impossible and is even more infuriating when he has had a full sleeve tattoo done, been on three holidays last year and manages to go out drinking at least 4 times a month, yet she only receives £7 a week in payments for two children and cms takes a percentage of that for themselves.

    Not only are they dodging their financial parental responsibilities but screwing over the tax man, little seems to be done about this though and parents are left feeling frustrated and helpless.

    When parents have contacted the cms they are told there is nothing they can do their ends and the parent is to prove that their ex is earning more, many people have complained about the child maintenance service and feel that many of the employees are incompetent and lack the resources to actually deal with their claim.

    Have you had a bad experience with the csa or cms? We would love to hear from you

     

     

  • Single Parents Are The Hardest To Love

    Single Parents Are The Hardest To Love

    There’s no hiding that there’s a stigma attached to single mums; they’re damaged goods, carry baggage, blah blah. 

    Like, what? This is 2017, guys. 

    It gets a little frustrating when you’re mid conversation and you mention your children to just be ignored or pushed to the back of the queue for ‘desperate’ times.

    As if women didn’t get enough stick for jumping to conclusions, men assume we need a father figure for our child, someone to breadwin and provide and to be taken under their wing.

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHA. No. We don’t. 

    We’ve taken rejection, we’ve had to stay strong even when we wanted to fall apart, we have to put someone before us every single day with no questions asked, we’ve had to manage money when times are tough and we’re experts at organising. 

    You see, we don’t need you. We want you. 

    There is a very big difference. 

    Living without a man is easier than living with one, I can assure you – one less person to tidy up after, ten less garments of clothing to wash, one less battle you have about who uses the bathroom the longest in the mornings, you get the jist. 

    That said, we’re still human; we love harder than anybody and we put up a good fight for the people we love and who are closest to us, but the longer we’re single, the harder we are to be loved. 

    When you’re so used to neglecting yourself for others and putting yourself last, you find it hard to make room for anybody else.

    So let’s get this clear – we choose you to be a part of our lives, you don’t choose us. 

    Credt: https://theunicorninblack.com/

     

  • Should Parents Have To Work At Christmas

    Should Parents Have To Work At Christmas

    I am a lone parent and up until last week was a respected night carer, having worked for 18 months for the same employer.

    Last year I worked Boxing Day, New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day, fine by me.

    This year I was scheduled to work Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, Boxing Day and New Year’s Eve and day, night shifts.

    Now I understand I have to do my fair share but spoke with my employer and explained as a lone parent to three small children I would be unable to get child care for the Christmas Eve shift, even if I could have, my children’s Christmas would have been ruined, Santa wouldn’t come until I returned home, small children forced to wait several hours for me to get home and a very tired mum.

    My employer in his wisdom decided it was my choice to have children and he would not change the rota.

    Well I’d rather lose my job than my children, there was no one to look after my children that night and would never in a million years leave them home alone, I had no option but to hand in my notice, I debated just going “sick” for the shift but knew my employer would take disciplinary action.

    I spoke with a group of mothers at a playgroup and many thought my employer was being unfair, but one mum said “why would you get a job that requires you to work over Christmas to start with?, those without children deserve Christmas off as well.

    So this began a debate, should parents have to work Christmas?

    Should dads get as much time off as mums, should lone parents get priority?

    Well in an ideal world everyone would get time off, but hospitals, care homes, police and fire services and many other professions have no other choice but to remain open.

    I do feel that people should be given the option to work on which days suit them during the festive period, there are people who enjoy working other Christmas for the over time or simple do not celebrate it.

    If staff cannot come to arrangement to cover shifts then I do feel Christmas Day should be given off to those with small children.

    Let me know your thoughts in the comments, should parents get Christmas off?

     

  • It’s Only For Mothers You Sicko-Dad Shaming

    A woman has defended a man after he was shamed out of a parents’ room in an Australian shopping centre.

    According to a witness Mikaa Ives the man was trying to change his son’s nappy when another mother walked over to him, accused him of being a “sicko” and ordered him to leave.
    “There was a dad in the middle of changing his son’s nappy, already having a difficult time with his son not wanting to be changed,” Mikaa Ives wrote on a local parenting Facebook group page.


    The woman allegedly accused the father of “staring at her naked kids” and threatened to call security.

    “The lady piped up and started abusing the dad for being in the parents’ room: ‘It’s only for mothers, get out you sicko’, literally saying she would call security and say he was staring at her naked kids if he didn’t leave the room,” Ives said.

    “He picked up his son who mind you didn’t even have a clean nappy on yet and went to stand outside the door.

    “His son was hysterical and he’s just saying ‘its okay mate, we’ll go back in there soon.” 

    Ives, who was disgusted at the woman’s behaviour, walked over to the father and told him to come back inside and finish putting a clean nappy on his child.
    She said if the other woman called security she would back him up.
    “At this point I thought f*ck this, told the dad to come back in and finish changing his son, told the lady that if she wanted to call security to go ahead because I would 100 per cent back the dad up,” she wrote.
    “Old mate finished changing his son, thanked me and off he went.
    “I was absolutely shocked that the poor bloke felt he had no choice but to leave like she said … I was BEYOND disgusted.”
    Ives went on to say that the mother in question wasn’t even changing her children – she had just gone into the parents’ room to check her phone while her kids played.
    “ITS A PARENTS ROOM NOT A F***ING MOTHERS ROOM. If you’re one of the people who act like that when a dad is simply changing his child, then I suggest you stay the f*** away from the PARENTS room,” she vented on Facebook.
    The shopping centre website refers to its “parent rooms” being equipped with a microwave, lounges, change tables and toilets.
    More than 300 people have commented on the post with a number of fathers revealing they’ve had similar incidents happen to them.
    “Happened to me twice now. Thank goodness my little boy is out of nappies now,’ one father shared.
    Another wrote: “I’ve had security called on me for taking my daughter into a parents’ room to change her nappy. Security basically told her to pull her head in as I was clearly changing a baby.”
    “I’m a dad n copped the same when ever I had to change my son’s nappy. Didn’t move just told them to [do] whatever they needed to do to feel better about themselves,” one dad wrote.
    “When someone kicks you out of a parent’s room you literally have nowhere to go with your children, it’s good to know that there are people out there who care.”