Tag: lonely
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Once He Wins Your Heart, Then He Can Play Games
When he treats you like a queen
Says his never loved anyone more than you
Buys you expensive presents
You end up falling for him too
It’s not until his got your heart
That he starts to play his games
You don’t realise it at the time
Not until it is too late
It’s a slow and gradual process
He makes you doubt things you supposedly said
He tries to stop you going out
And says it’s because he cares
You soon begin to feel lonely
Your friends and family drifting away
You got me, you don’t need them
Is what he might often say
Once his got you on his own
His behaviour will get worse
You don’t know where the man you met went
After his first violent outburst
If you go to up and leave
He will cry plead and beg
He will use emotional blackmail
And get inside your head
It will never happen again he says
He promises to change
Things go back to being good
But his made you feel afraid
His great for a while
Till he doesn’t get what he wants
He puts you down and calls you names
Then makes out it’s your fault
The violent outbursts start again
They become a regular thing
If anyone asks if you’re ok
You cover up and lie for him
This is just an outline
Of what abusive people are like
Just remember it’s not you’re fault
And that there is light
You are strong and you’re beautiful
You are better off without him
There is help out their to free your self
Speak out and let people in
It may take a while to recover
And even longer to trust again
Surround your self with positive people
That can help you as you mend
You will miss the happier times
And the man you thought he was and could be
It’s ok to shed your tears
You are allowed to grieve
You can do this believe in yourself
You will come out stronger than ever
And there will come a day where you will never look back
Because you are a true survivor
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Please Help Me My Teenage Brother Is Suicidal
Please can someone help me. My teenage brother is suicidal. He’s been going missing from school and sitting in woods, fields and even cemeteries, he has been hurting himself and looking n the internet of ways to end his life he is only 13.
He doesn’t speak for days on end and sleeps whenever he can, he is always looking down at the floor and doesn’t ever smile or laugh anymore.
He broke down in tears yesterday after he was found in a different town during school hours. He says he sits and thinks about hanging himself in the woods or drinking bleach.
My brother has always been a shy, quiet, kind-hearted boy, never in trouble but he is fully aware of right and wrong, three months ago he saw four 14-16 year olds pushing around a young child with learning difficulties, my baby brother stepped in and told them to stop.
This is where it all went wrong, he was targeted not just at school but via social media, soon these teenagers were spreading vicious rumours about my brother and people believed them, so even when he was at home in his bedroom he was being bullied via hs phone.
The school is offering support and the main bullies now leave him alone but the rumours are still there from other children, they cannot punish the whole school, my mum has taken him to the doctor and she’s now going to keep him off school so she can be with him, but what else can we do? How can I support him through this? We have taken away all his electronics so he can’t see what they are saying but now we feel we are isolated him even more, we cannot move, there is no money to go else where, please help us, how do we deal with this situation it is breaking our hearts that this sweet boy is being so hurt emotionally and we don’t know how to take it away
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To The Mum Hiding In Her Bathroom Needing Peace For Just One Minute
To the mum hiding in her bathroom, needing peace for just one minute, as the tears roll down her cheeks..
To the mum who is so tired she feel likes she can’t function anymore and would do anything to lay down and get the rest she needs…
To the mum sitting in her car, alone, stuffing food in her face because she doesn’t want anyone else to see or know she eats that stuff…
To the mum crying on the couch after she yelled at her kids for something little and is now feeling guilty and like she is unworthy…
To the mum that is trying desperately to put those old jeans on because all she really wants is to look in the mirror and feel good about herself…
To the mum that doesn’t want to leave the house because life is just too much to handle right now…
To the mum that is calling out for pizza again because dinner just didn’t happen the way she wanted it to…
To the mum that feels alone, whether in a room by herself or standing in a crowd…
You are enough.
You are important.
You are worthy.
This is a phase of life for us. This is a really really hard, challenging, crazy phase of life.
In the end it will all be worth it. But for now it’s hard. And it’s hard for so many of us in many different ways. We don’t always talk about it, but it’s hard and it’s not just you.
You are enough.
You are doing your best.
Those little eyes that look up at you – they think you are perfect. They think you are more than enough.
Those little hands that reach out to hold you – they think you are the strongest. They think you can conquer the world.
Those little mouths eating the food you gave them – they think that you are the best because their bellies are full.
Those little hearts that reach out to touch yours – they don’t want anything more. They just want you.
Because you are enough. You are more than enough, mama.
You. Are. Amazing. ❤❤
Credit: Latched and Attached
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How Dare You Complain About Being A Stay At Home Mum
Stay at home mum (SAHM) depression….
The elephant in the room nobody talks about
I mean, how DARE you complain after being gifted this opportunity to stay at home and raise YOUR own kids but it’s not that simple. Of course we SAHM’s are being grateful to stay home and raise our young BUT that it’s literally all we become.
No one talks about the isolation.
No one talks about the loss of identity.
No one talks about the loneliness.
No one talks about losing your sense of self.
No one talks about how you had to give up your career because it’s cheaper for you to stay home.
No one talks about how you cry in the shower because your day was overwhelming.
No one understands why you’re tired.
No one understands why you’re irritable.
No one understands why you need a mental break.
No one understands why you’re so aggravated with your kids.
No one understands why after you’ve been home all day, the house is a wreck still.
No one understands why you just need 5 minutes with no one speaking to or touching you.
No one understands why you’ve lost your sex drive.
No one understands why you’re completely & utterly exhausted, after all, you just sit at home all day
No one understands the feeling you have when you are told you don’t have a “real job”.
Most of us were working women at one point. We got to go to a job and interact with other adults outside our home. We contributed financially to our household. (Shoot, most of us want some kind of side hustle or part time job because it would sure help with financial relief) We didn’t feel like an endless maid. We got that break away (even though yes, work is a love/ hate relationship) that gives you space from the people you live with (children, spouse… Etc) because yes, EVERY relationship needs time away in it to not go crazy being around each other 24/7. That’s not healthy. Contrary to popular belief…
YOU NEED A BREAK DAILY
I can’t tell you how many women I meet or know that say “oh, you have to much time on your hands” “I sure wish I could stay home, I wouldn’t complain” good for you! I can guarantee you will change your mind 6 months in, unless you’re wealthy and have money to constantly go do things. I once was you. I wished upon a star I could stay home with my kids because I wanted to spend all the time I could. I didn’t realize what all came with being a SAHM.
Oh but YOU chose to have those kids. YOU should’ve thought about that before having them. If you didn’t want to go through all this YOU should’ve never had kids. & YOU said you want more????
Seriously…. Yup, heard those all before.
Next time you hear or see a SAHM venting her frustrations, listen and make her feel like she’s somebody. That her struggles are not invalid. You know just because she don’t have a “real job”.
Submitted by Sarah Castleford
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I Am A Dad And I Miss My Children
My wife recently left me I have two children 7 and 13, I miss them so much I speak with them twice a week and see them for 4 hours every other week. It’s just not enough I miss them so much it hurts. I find myself being emotional when I see and speak with them but I’m positive and always tell them I love them andI’m thinking of them.
It breaks my heart being a part-time father. My ex says they get upset when I see them as they miss me when I drop them off she thinks if I stay away more it will be more stable for them as it unsettles them I believe being more active seeing them more would help not hinder. I’m a good farther and I love my children but she is doing all she can to ruin the brief time I have with them she demands to know what I’m doing with them criticises me constantly. I have fun with them keep them safe and care about what they want to do whilst with me.
I have lost everything my home my wife but I don’t want to lose my children they are all I have left. I don’t know how to live my life without them. Putting my daughter to bed playing with my son being there when they are happy and sad now it’s just brief times and phone calls. I want to be a parent and a father but I’m struggling I’m scared she is trying to turn them against me with her controlling nature and I’m going to lose the bond I have. I feel so alone.
Please mums if you split with your children’s father make it easy for him to see them, they are not a weapon they are not just yours, men have feelings to, obviously if he is not safe around the children then that’s a different matter, but I am a good loving father who is being denied his own flesh and blood and I’m hurting badly
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You’re Not Dad Of The Year For Posting One Photo
Ciara Moore’s Views having gone viral and for good reasons.
Moore said” Having a baby is all cuddles & about family until things hit the fan with your child’s father and he up and leaves. BOOM now you’re a single mother, left to do it all by yourself, while he MIGHT* ask to see the child once or twice a week and change a couple pampers a day but still gets his beauty sleep while months down the road were STILL feeling like a zombie.
You get to sneak away once a week at night if your lucky to catch up with old friends (the two you have left 🤷♀️) and get SHAMED for it . You’re now a bad mum lol. While he lives his regular life with no responsibilities & drinks and hangs out every day but is still quoted “ Best Dad of the Year” JUST because he posts one simple picture with your child he took the last time he saw the kid bc in reality it’s been like a month 😂.
You’ll sit at home after work each day with your child and be happy but still slightly alone because you are. You have a beautiful little person that you take care of but when you rest your head at night and realize “wow my phone hasn’t gone off at all …” and no ones even checked on you or offered to bring you a bite to eat to catch up or ANYTHING small just to make you feel a little less lonely … that’s when reality hits you. And you even start to blame yourself bc now your child is either being raised in a split family , has a revolving door of a father OR no father at all.
I guess that’s a part of growing up is realizing it’s not all that people make it out to be. A picture says a thousand words BUT there’s a thousand more behind it. Dads can drink their feelings away while we have no choice but to face them and pick ourselves back up each day for our child. Especially dealing with some** of the things above or seeing people** i know deal with it .. it’s SAD . But exactly why I admire women/ mothers . We cry all we want but that’s a sign of strength. Somehow we ALWAYS pull through. #notalldadsarethesame !!#dontarguewithme#momsareamazing 👩👧👩👦
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Nobody Talks About What It’s Really Like After You Have A Baby
Nobody talks about what it’s really like after you have a baby . Nobody speaks on how much self-confidence you lose . The hours you’ll spend changing clothes and crying on your bedroom floor because all of those tight cute shirts and skinny jeans you looked good in no longer fit right .
How after weeks and weeks of trackie bottoms and t-shirts you try some of your old clothes on and they still don’t feel right . Nobody talks about the disappointment . How people tell you it’s just a process and in 6 weeks to a couple of months you’ll be back to normal but they’re not the ones having to play the waiting game .
Nobody speaks on how it isn’t fair anymore . How you feel like your whole world has just come to a stop but your significant others is still going on . How they get to leave whenever and do whatever but now if you want to leave it involves a baby sitter or packing a bag , getting a whole other person ready before yourself .
Nobody tells you how to fight the depression of staying inside a house 24/7 by yourself while it seems like everyone else’s life is in full motion . And no one talks about the anxiety & the pressure . The anxiety of feeling like you have to do everything right and by the book or you find yourself bawling on a floor because there’s so much pressure on you to do everything by other people’s expectations.
Having a baby is a wonderful thing no doubt , it’s the best life changing experience. But it’s not all smiles 24/7 and the cute pictures you see on social media . I have a whole new respect for mothers after becoming one . I guess the whole point of this web story is I’ve seen sooo much mum bashing lately that it’s ridiculous . Every mum does things different because every child is different.
Just keep in mind that every mum is also different and more than likely facing her own different battle before you try to bash her and make her feel lower than what she already feels .
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Single Parents Are The Hardest To Love
Single Parents Are The Hardest To Love
There’s no hiding that there’s a stigma attached to single mums; they’re damaged goods, carry baggage, blah blah.
Like, what? This is 2017, guys.
It gets a little frustrating when you’re mid conversation and you mention your children to just be ignored or pushed to the back of the queue for ‘desperate’ times.
As if women didn’t get enough stick for jumping to conclusions, men assume we need a father figure for our child, someone to breadwin and provide and to be taken under their wing.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA. No. We don’t.
We’ve taken rejection, we’ve had to stay strong even when we wanted to fall apart, we have to put someone before us every single day with no questions asked, we’ve had to manage money when times are tough and we’re experts at organising.
You see, we don’t need you. We want you.
There is a very big difference.
Living without a man is easier than living with one, I can assure you – one less person to tidy up after, ten less garments of clothing to wash, one less battle you have about who uses the bathroom the longest in the mornings, you get the jist.
That said, we’re still human; we love harder than anybody and we put up a good fight for the people we love and who are closest to us, but the longer we’re single, the harder we are to be loved.
When you’re so used to neglecting yourself for others and putting yourself last, you find it hard to make room for anybody else.
So let’s get this clear – we choose you to be a part of our lives, you don’t choose us.
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I wish I had just one real friend
I wish I had just one real friend
I wish I had a friend even just one.
I have people in my life who call me friend but speak badly about me behind my back.
I have one who says I am their mate but only sees me when it’s a benefit to her life, be it babysitting her child, or driving her to tescos, a person to go to when she is bored.
I have another who is my pal but only when we’re alone, if she’s with her little gang of mums she can’t even bring herself to say hello she walks passed me with her head down, I’ve asked her why and it’s always the same “oh sorry I didn’t see you”.
You see I’m different, I’m odd I’m strange for I am loyal to people, I will stand up for a friend, I will go out of my way to help, I will drop plans to help you even if it isn’t convenient for me, but I am yet to meet one person who shares my views.
I am lonely, I am sad, I wish I had just one friend, someone I could call for help and wouldn’t feel like a hindrance, a nuisance or a beggar, one friend who didn’t use me, one friend who spoke highly of me even when I’m not around, just one person I could tell my problems to and not worry it would be spread around.
So give me one friend rather than twenty fake ones, twenty users, if you can’t be a real friend don’t pretend to be one.
I guess what im trying to say is this world is a hard enough place without others bringing you down, be a real friend, be kind and for gods sakes don’t talk badly of people behind their backs.
Related article: http://mums-advice-old-copy.local/i-am-a-throw-away-friend/