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  • You Will Never Guess What He Is Allergic to

    Now we normally associate allergies, to nuts, dairy and the norm like washing powder, pet hair etc.

    Some of which are deadly.

    So when I received a call to collected my 3 year old son from a birthday party because he had a rash and was vomited, I assumed he had a viral infection, only when he started struggling to breathe did I realise we were in real danger.

    We rushed to hospital to be told he was having a severe allergic reaction.

    Once he was better they conducted numerous tests to try and determine what had caused it, I had to keep a food diary.

    After 5 months we were still none the wiser and I was living in constant fear that we would discover what caused it by accident and my little lad could have another reaction. 

    One sunny Monday afternoon the ice cream van pulled up and my 3 children wanted to get a treat. 

    I was fine about it, knowing that my son had ice cream before and was fine, my other son asked if he could have a drink instead.

    My eldest bought a fizzy orange drink he drank the majority and off he went to play on his laptop.

    My little lad picked up the orange drink and drank the last few sips, within a matter of minutes the old rash appeared and I rushed him back to hospital… this time with the bottle of orange.

    More tests were carried out and we discovered my lad is allergic to the Colouring (Beta Carotene).

    I’m happy about this, it’s so easy to avoid and won’t effect his life as long as he checks labels.

    I’ve never met another child allergic to fizzy orange. 

  • I Help And Support My Childs Abuser 

    I want to share my story, the story of how i knowingly let my sons abuser move in every weekend.This is how I lost the support of my family but I feel I did the right thing.
    My son was 2, a happy, mischievous blonde haired lad, a boy who never failed to make me smile.

    He was always happy, until September 3 years ago.

    He became quiet and timid and was struggling to use the toilet, his bottom bled, I put it down to him straining too hard.

    After a day of spotting I took him to the Doctor, my son screamed and screamed when the doctor tried to take down his trousers.
    Once we had managed to take down his trousers and pants and the Doctor examined him, he discovered he had a large anal tear, we rushed to hospital.
    At the hospital he was again examined but had to be sedated as he became so distressed, the police and social services arrived.
    I was taken to the family room and spoken to, they said they think my son had been abused.
    They asked for a list of people who had recently been in contact with my son.
    As a lone parent and my son not at nursery yet the list was short. My father, my sister, my brother in law and my 11 year old nephew.
    When the police spoke to them all my nephew confessed to raping my son.
    Eventually he was sentenced to 6 months in a juvenile detention centre. 

    I went to visit him and spoke to him at length, his mum and dad had disowned him.

    He apologised and he told me he didn’t know it was wrong.
    How could he not know?

    Surely my sons cries would make him stop?

    The blood running down my sons legs?

    I questioned him, he confessed that his father (my brother in law) did it to him all the time, ever since he can remember and he always cried and called out, he bled, he thought it was normal.

    My poor nephew had been abused all his life…

    I helped him report it, but no charges were ever made as who would believe the word of a child rapist with no evidence.
    I decided I would would help him when he came out, after all my son and my nephew were both victims here.
    My son luckily had no memory of the incident and was back to his normal happy self.
    Social services and the courts were obviously reluctant to release him into my care, but agreed he could stay at weekends away from his new foster carers if I put special measures in place.
    My nephew has the loft room, which I have to lock of a night, my son and nephew are never aloud alone together and social services visit once a month.
    He’s been staying with us a year now and both my son and nephew are healing, my family have walked away from us, they do not support us.

    They do not see a broken boy who just needs guidance and love they see a rapist and a fool and a victim. 

  • Kids Make You Look Like A Liar

    Kids make you liars 

    Ok so most people at some point will have a child who looks like death warmed up, not eating, not drinking, lethargic.

    All attempts of calpol, snacks and small amounts of fluid but nope, this kid is very ill. 

    This child doesn’t want to play, just wants to lay there, he looks pale, but he’s hot, he has a rash on his stomach.

    Ok it’s time to get this kid to the hospital he could have something seriously wrong, he’s never quiet, he’s never still.


    He doesn’t wake up when carried out to the car, even going over the speed bumps, I run into the hospital like some sort of scene from a movie, child draped across my arms.


    We are directed to the children’s waiting room, it’s full of colourful toys, tv in the corner and a colouring table.


    Kid bursts back into action, running round like a looney.

    Dancing to the theme tune of the tv program, stacking up books and pushing the toy truck on the floor.


    Seriously Doctor he was really ill, he’s barely moved all day, he’s not eaten.


    The Doctor brings him a digestive biscuit and he gobbles it down.


    This child has the go to diagnoses of a viral infection.


    I am now a big fat liar making out my kid is so so so ill but shock horror he’s had a miraculous recovery  

  • Do You Have This Blanket?

    PLEASE SHARE THIS AND BE VERY AWARE!!

     I bought this beautiful blanket for my daughter from Williams and Griffins Colchester!

     It was in its original bow and tied tight to try and prevent any dangers to my baby! 

    Last night I woke up to my daughter crying and some how the ribbon had caught through her armpit and around her neck still attached to the blanket thankfully my baby is okay but if I can I would like to prevent it happening to any other babies! Like I say you never think it’s going to happen to your own….

    You can see the edges the ribbon ran through!

  • Are These Shorts Inappropriate?

    So summer is here, and many of you are updating your children’s wardrobes. 

    Like myself my child has out grown or quite frankly ruined their old clothes.

    This one mum popped into Primark the discount store to purchase her daughter some shorts.

    I popped into primark to get some shorts for my 2.5yr old. This is the choice I had. None of these would cover her bum. I know the fashion is fit short shorts but surely young children need something to cover their bums?

    Do you feel these are too short?

     Many mums jumped on the band-wagon and agreed with the lady.

    One lady said 

    I have this problem with my daughter. She recently went on her residential trip with boy’s shorts.

    However there were mixed answers some felt that they weren’t that bad 

    This lady said:

    I think they look worse on the hanger than in real life? My little girl has the light denim type ones on the left and they definitely cover her bum, plus some!

    What’s your views?

    Are they inappropriate?

    Too short?

    Let’s hear your option

  • Before I Had Children

    Now you’ve all heard the saying before I had children, I never stopped to smell  flowers, I never pulled over to look at horses…

    But we have compiled the real version… the version no one tells you about  before you have children the truth .

    Sometimes with bare hands
    Or talking dogs or creatures in the night garden
    We all need chocolate
    I’m sorry for being such a bad child
    Ok maybe not
    God damn you tiny creatures
    Every bump, every cough
    Sniff test
    They weren’t really friends anyway
    My child loses a shoe every morning
    Especially if you have more than one child
    They do hold in the tummy though
    About everything!!!!
    Trampolines are a no go
    PACK IT IN!!!
    So tired!!!
    Constantly
    Please let me sleep
    Yep that’s poop
    Well a lot more often than I do now
    Boys have terrible aim
    Please baby stay on your back
    More than once

    Finger painting
    Sometimes on purpose

    Share to any mums to be 

  • No one Turned Up To His Birthday Party

    PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE can I ask for your help to make my little mans birthday on July 15th one to remember this year rather than one to forget!!
    PLEASE READ, help if you can and SHARE!!

    This is Ben, my son, he is 10 and has high functioning autism,.

    He has a heart of gold and just wants to be friends with people but his autism makes it extremely difficult for him to achieve this.
    High Functioning Autism makes him a little different to the rest of his classmates and because of it he is often kicked and punched and is called nasty names amongst other things, none of which are good.
    He is the child that never gets invited to other children’s birthday parties, that sits alone in the playground, that doesn’t have anybody round for tea and nobody to go out to play with.
    On a previous birthday I hosted a birthday party for him, inviting around 25 children. He was so excited and really looking forward to it.
    Only two parents replied to the invitations I sent out but the party was arranged and paid for and Ben was excited about it so there was no way I could cancel it, I wrongly presumed that a few more would just turn up on the day but at least two were coming which was better than none at all.
    Everything was set up and Ben sat there eagerly waiting for everyone to turn up. 2pm came and went and nobody had arrived.
    Ben sat there saying repeating over and over they will come in a minute won’t they mum. He still thought they would show up to help celebrate his special day.
    By 2.30pm he was getting more and more anxious and visibly upset, he kept asking me where everybody was. I just didn’t know what to say to him. It was obvious at this point that nobody was coming!!
    It was the most heartbreaking moment ever not only for me but for him to. This day had a lasting effect on him for a very long time, he was devastated, it knocked his self confidence, heightened his anxiety and is something he will always remember.
    This year I want him to have a birthday to remember and hopefully undo the damage of the previous birthdays which has had a lasting effect on him
    Can I ask you from the bottom of my heart if you would kindly consider sending him a birthday card for his “11th” birthday to put a big smile on his face and make this birthday one to remember for the rest of his life!!!
    If you can help, cards can be sent to:-
    Ben Jackson

    35 Dunn Close

    Southsea

    Portsmouth

    PO4 9TX

    UNITED KINGOM
    If are unable to send a card could I ask you to share this post far and wide please.
    Thank you so much
    Lisa x

    (Ben’s mum)

  • Do Not Accept Him!

    Fake Facebook message warns users not to accept Jayden K Smith hacker
    A fake Facebook messanger warning is telling users to avoid accepting a friend request from a man named Jayden K Smith because he is a hacker. Longer versions of this hoax claim accepting the user will result in your account getting hacked or cloned.

    This is one of the messages 

     Please tell all the contacts in your Messenger list, not to accept Jayden K. Smith friendship request. He is a hacker and has the system connected to your Facebook account. If one of your contacts accepts it, you will also be hacked, so make sure that all your friends know it. 

    This appears to be the latest in a string of fake hacker warnings, none  of which is true.

    You cannot be “hacked” just for accepting a friend requests, and if such warnings were true, why wouldn’t Facebook remove such offending accounts before such warnings had a chance to go viral?

    So come on guys lets stop spreading silly warnings that have no truth!

    Share to stop the worry 

  • What All Carers Wish They Could Say

    Yes I am a carer, yes this is my job. Don’t come in here and shout at me because your mums not out of bed, I know you want her up at 7 but we have others who need us to.

    I’ll get to her as quick as I can but shouting will not do.


    I haven’t had a break but I won’t let your mother wait.

    I’m sorry she isn’t wearing the new pink dress she didn’t want it on, don’t tell me I am stupid and I don’t understand.


    Yes I know you want what’s best for mum, but so do I, you want her to make the appointment to have those tests done,but your mum is dead against it she has a say you know.


    Don’t complain about me I’m doing the best I can, I can’t go any faster and can’t always stick to the plan, I know you want to leave at 8 but I can’t rush your mum.


    When your mum Is crying in the night it’s me who holds her hand. Your mum is so lovely and makes my day so bright, I wish you saw me daughter and all that I do, so stop the constant digs and realise I am human to.


    Don’t come here once a month and tell me what to do, this is not just a job I really do care, I worry when your mum is ill or hasn’t finished all her meal.


    Your mum is well cared for, I don’t want constant thanks but please get off my back and let me do my job.


    Please family member come see what we do, most carers do their very best and will always try to listen to what you want, but speak to us kindly and ask us why, don’t assume we are lazy or just don’t really care. 







  • The Secret To Losing Weight

    Most people at some point in their life will struggle with there weight.

    I doesn’t matter if it’s baby weight, emotional eating or just a lack of control or self awareness.

    Helping people lose weight is big business, with new diets popping up all the time it’s hard to work out what will help and what is just a scam.

    Diet pills, shakes, wraps, protein bars…. all these things could help you lose weight, but once you’ve lost the weight and no longer need to take these extra supplements, more often than not all the weight comes flying back on!

    So what can we do for the best? 

    Here are a few helpful tips from someone that has strugged with her weight most of her life!

    A little back story on me.  I am very nearly 30 years old and have been over weight most of my adult life as well as my teenage years.  I have lost in total 80 lbs doing various different types of diets.  I have obsessed over every little detail and am one of those boring people you see in supermarkets reading the back of packages to see all the nutritional information.  But let’s get back to the point. 

    Here are a few handy hints and tips of losing weight and keeping it off!

    1)  RESEARCH!  Understanding your diet plan is very important for knowing why and how it will work.  If your meal plan says you can’t eat bread it should also explain why!

    2)  PROGRESS PHOTOS!  I had my husband take photos of me every Saturday morning during the bulk of my weight loss journey. Seeing the small changes every week made such a difference keeping me on track.

    3)  INSTAGRAM!  Visual representation is great, I took photos of my meals and posted them on my DIET ONLY instagram, I have my separate instragram for my personal family pictures to keep everything in its place.  Seeing all my meals in one place is very helpful when meal planning and remembering what I enjoyed or not.

    4)  MEAL PLANNING!  Taking 10/15 minutes a week to write down a list of foods you want to cook along side the ingredients you’d need.  It helps keep you on track and you don’t need to make any last minute bad decisions.

     

    5)  MEAL PREP!  When ever you can try and prep meals the day before or even days before.  You’ll thank yourself if you have a busy week ahead planned!

    6)  ENJOY YOUR LIFE!  Don’t let being on a diet stop you living your life, if you have a cheat day and if that day turns into a week don’t beat yourself up!  Just try and remember why you started dieting in the first place and climb back in the wagon!

    7)  HEALTHY CHOICES!  If you are going to a restaurant with family or friends try and look online at the menu first and see what is avaliable that could fit into your diet plan best.  Maybe instead of a dessert you could have a coffee, ask for a jacket potato or salad instead of fries.

    8)  GET A BUDDY!  Finding someone in either a Facebook group or weight loss group that are in similar situation’s to you weight or lifestyle wise could really help, you can motivate each other and it really makes it feel like you are doing not just for yourself but for them too.

    9)  A NOTE TO YOUR FUTURE SELF!  This one may be a little more out there but it really helped me.  I wrote myself a letter on the day I started my weight loss journey basically explaining why I was doing it, what I hoped to achieve and how I was doing it for all the right reasons.  I taped it to my fridge and if ever I felt like breaking I would read it and it helped me stay on track.

    10)  FAMILY MATTERS!  Doing anything alone makes it ten times harder!  So I made sure all my family understood and supported me.  When I cooked healthy meals it was for all the family.  I found recipe’s for healthy desserts so we all had mostly the same.  It made life much easier and we all enjoyed eating as a family.

    11) CONGRATULATE YOURSELF! Celebrate the little victories!  Don’t just pat yourself on the back at the finish line make sure you tell yourself well done often!  You didn’t over indulge at a party “well done”, you didn’t gain too much weight on your holiday “that’s great!” Tell yourself often you are smashing it!

     

    I truly hope at least some of these help someone, losing weight is hard.  But it’s a journey worth taking.