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We Only Have 18 Summers With Our Children
It actually struck me so hard when I realised I only had 18 summers with my children.
You only really have 18 summers with your babies/kids actually probably less because let’s face it most of them aren’t gonna wanna hit the beach with their mum once they hit around 14 or 15 or maybe younger building sand castles and eating sand sandwiches.
They will want to be with their friend sitting in the local park texting boys or out on their bikes or playing a game of footie with their mini gang.
I’ve literally only got 6 summers, my eldest is 12 this may be the last school holidays where he isn’t ashamed to be with me, my other two children are 7 and 8 so a few more summers with them.
I urge you all when the weathers good let the house go a bit, your kids will remember your beach days, how you built sandcastles, had that picnic on the beach and did the car journey home covered mostly in sand and sun cream I’ve wasted so many summers already worried what people will think when my house is a mess.
NOT THIS SUMMER, this one I’m going to make it special, I don’t need to spend a fortune to make amazing memories.
So if you come to my house and if it is messy please remember I am running out of summers and the house work can wait, if you do not like it feel free to stay and clean up for me, whilst I am memories for my children who are growing up way too fast.
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Listing Certain Names In Your Phone Can Be Very Dangerous
A lady has now changed her habit of how she lists her names on her mobile phone after her handbag was stolen. Her handbag, which contained her mobile phone, credit card, purse, etc., was stolen.
20 minutes later when she called her husband, from a phone she had borrowed off of a stranger telling him what had happened, he was astonished & told her . . ‘Oh god.. I received your text asking about our Pin number and I’ve replied a little while ago.
When they rushed down to the bank, the bank staff told them all the money was already withdrawn. The thief had actually used the stolen mobile phone to text “hubby” in the contact list & got hold of the pin number. Within 20 minutes he had withdrawn all the money from their bank account.
IMPORTANT lesson:
a. Do not disclose the relationship between you & the people in your contact list. Always avoid using names like Home, Missus, Hubby, Sweetheart, Dad, Mum, etc.
b. And very importantly, when sensitive info is being asked through texts, do not respond BUT immediately CONFIRM by calling back.
c. Also, when you receive a text unexpectedly from friends or family asking you to meet them somewhere, be sure to call back to confirm that the message came from them. If you don’t reach them, be very careful about going places to meet ‘family and friends’ who text you.
PLEASE PASS THIS ON. .
Even if this doesn’t pertain to you …. Pass it on to your family and friends. It may be useful.
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Always Give Your Wife The Best Of You
Before I got married one of my relatives who had been divorced gave me advice, he said “Always give your wife the best of you, the mistake I made was assuming that I could just give what’s left and that would be enough.”
What he meant was that he would come home late after a long day of work and only give his wife a few minutes of time before going to eat and sleep, on the weekend he would only hang out with his wife for a couple of hours before disappearing for most of the day with his friends.
Eventually it was the constant distance not just physically but emotionally and spiritually that erased the feelings they had for each other, the love that existed had gone.
There is a reason they say that family is the most important thing, because when you put your family first everything else seems to fall in place so beautifully, things feel right, you feel that no matter how bad things get in every other part of your life you still have a home filled with love, you still have open arms ready to comfort you when you get home, and you still have the people who love you most ready to support you and make you strong again.
There is a beautiful quote that I read which said a great marriage doesn’t happen because of the love you had in the beginning, but how will you continue building that love till the end, and that is what we try to do, every day, to build that love till the day we are together forever in heaven. Full credit: Khalid Al Ameri
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Stop Blaming ASD For Your Childs Behaviour
My son has ASD!!!
ASDers aren’t naughty!?
So you think asders aren’t naughty?
On a meltdown there’s no one to blame.
But when they’re being naughty
Ffs SAY SOMETHING, DEAL WITH IT!
For shame!
My ASDer is naughty at times
You’ll hear me screaming his name
Because I will tell him
When there is blame
And I will tell him again
And Again
Do not make excuses when he is naughty
Meltdowns are NOT the same
You use THE excuse if he is naughty
You will just have just yourself to blame
You will teach him they are one and the same
And you will just have yourself to blame!
Please discipline your ASder, he needs to know the shame.
He cannot do as he pleases
There are rules that he has to follow
and he can’t avoid the blame.
stop telling me it is ASD my child has the same
Do not use his condition as an excuse for being a pain
We understand the meltdown, when life is just too much
explain to others the difference between the two
coz naughty is naughty don’t use ASD as an excuse”.
Author is unknown
Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is the name for a range of similar conditions, including Asperger syndrome, that affect a person’s social interaction, communication, interests and behaviour.
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Just A Carer That’s What People Think Of Me
Just a carer?
I am just a carer
That’s what people think of me,
It isn’t very pleasant,
They’ve seen it on TV.
Blood and guts and vomit
Sickness and diarrhoea.
They wouldn’t want to do it,
It isn’t a career.
But I have been a carer
Since the day that I left school.
I haven’t been to college,
But I’m really not a fool.
Caring for the elderly
Is more than making tea.
It needs a special person,
And I know this is for me.
When you have dementia,
when you’re getting old.
It can be very lonely,
When you’re left out in the cold.
It needs a special person,
One who really cares.
One who lights the room up,
When all around are stares.
Someone very patient,
Someone very kind.
Someone who will lead you
When you’re going blind.
A wealth of understanding
And time to listen too.
You won’t be able to do it,
If all you think about is you.
The job is quite a privilege
That others do not see.
When you finish work today,
Did you think of me?
Did you know I sat with
Someone taking their last breath?
Do you know how precious those moments before death?
Do you know how hard it is
To say goodbye and then,
Go and help the other folk
And do it all again?
Do you know how good it is
When you get a smile,
From someone who is down and low
When you’ve gone the extra mile?
Caring is a way of life
Judge us if you must
But we are not just carers
We are magic fairy dust!
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What Is Wrong With Me Having A Large Family
Children are a blessing. We say it but don’t speak it. I am guilty of this as well.
I scroll through Facebook and see people joking about being pregnant and joking about not being pregnant. The newest joke is who can make it through the summer without getting pregnant. When I go places, my life seems to be a joke to many. A joke about not owning a television or having anything better to do all because I have five children and i am pregnant with my sixth.
When and why did we start taking life into our own hands?
The other day I was at the supermarket standing in line waiting to pay. The sweet cashier congratulated me on my 6th baby. The woman checking out turned to me and said, “oh sweetie there is a sale on Tv’s here, far cheaper than having children!”
I was pretty shocked. It was supposed to be funny, but why? Why is it common humor to joke about not wanting more children?
I understand children are hard. They make us sacrifice dreams and desires we had planned out. But I have never met a family that said they wished they never had their last child. Every single child has been a blessing. Every parent says that they can’t imagine life without every single child.
So why is it that we joke so much about having or not having children?
Everywhere we turn, pregnancy is made a joke and looked down on, people also assume that they must all have different fathers or I am doing it for the money (we don’t claim anything other than child benefits).
So where did we go wrong? Why is life no longer celebrated? Why is life now limited when it was once begged for?
I think the first place we need to start is in our words. Are we encouraging people to value life? Are we making inappropriate jokes about someone else’s new pregnancy or telling them it is time to stop?
The first step to valuing life is watching what we joke about.
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How To Save Our Bees With A Simple Trick
In the last 5 years the bee population has dropped by 1/3. If bees were to disappear from the face of the earth, humans would have just 4 years left to live.
This time of year bees can often look like they are dying or dead, however, they’re far from it. Bees can become tired and they simply don’t have enough energy to return to the hive which can often result in being swept away.
If you find a tired bee in your home, a simple solution of sugar and water will help revive an exhausted bee. Simply mix two tablespoons of white, granulated sugar with one tablespoon of water, and place on a spoon for the bee to reach. You can also help by sharing this post to raise awareness. Credit Sir David Attenborough
Bees perform a task that is vital to the survival of agriculture: pollination. In fact, one third of our global food supply is pollinated by bees. Simply put, bees keep plants and crops alive. Without bees, humans wouldn’t have very much to eat.
Share this far and wide and lets help our bees.
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Please Make Your Child Wear A Helmet
Joanna Bringham wants to raise awareness of bike safety
Bringham said “🚲Please please make your child wear a helmet. 🚲
This week we have been living in a nightmare. Jules went out for 10 minutes after tea on his bike and bumped into friends where they were all trying jumps. Not long after this I had a bang at the door and our nightmare started.
Jules got rushed to hospital where staff looked after him brilliantly. He spent hours bringing up blood so took him for a ct scan. This showed up he had several complex fractures in his orbit and were transferring him York. All day jules was having different check ups , But by the evening we discovered that jules also had a fractured skull and developed a bleed on the brain which meant we had another ambulance trip to Leeds.
Staff at Leeds we’re amazing with us we were under several drs who looked after different areas that jules had damaged and had surgery to clean up his face.
While we were in Leeds the nursing staff told us that fractured skulls from wearing no helmet was common in the hospital. Jules fell from his eye down so would have suffered either way but who no’s how different this would have been if I had made him go out in his.
We still have a long few weeks ahead of us but jules is a fighter and will do it with a smile on his face.
Please please please make sure your child wears a helmet at all times when going out on a bike. No mum or dad wants to go through what we went through. Let’s make it cool to wear a helmet.

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To The Other Woman Who Ran Off With The Love Of My Life
To the other woman:
I hated you. I watched you run off with the love of my life, happily and shamelessly showing the world what you had done. It took me weeks to realize that the infidelity had been going on long before our relationship ended. It took me months to realize that my pain and tears were used as a device to manufacture your sympathy. And now, it will take me years to recover from the insecurity that comes from being triangulated with another woman.
But I do not hate you anymore. I fear for you.
Although we share different personalities, bodies, and spirits – when it comes to this relationship, we are the same woman.
You see, I once rode the high that you’re currently living. I was the special one. The most beautiful, perfect, flawless partner in the world. I saved him from the pain of his last, crazy ex. I sympathized with him about how horribly she treated him, according to him. I was elated to be the woman who finally made him happy, after all of his alleged suffering. He was fascinated by me. He spent every waking moment texting me and showering me with attention.
Does this sound familiar?
One must wonder, in this short span of time, how I suddenly became crazy. Bipolar. Jealous. Needy. Clingy. Abusive. How did that happen? Is it really possible for a person to go from flawless to horrible in the blink of an eye? And furthermore, is it really possible that his previous ex was all of these things as well? And what about the ex before that?
The common denominator has become startlingly clear.
For so long, I punished myself. I truly believed that I deserved it. Something must be wrong with me, I thought, in order for him to run off into the sunset with another woman. So happily and enthusiastically.
But then I realized, I was once that woman. I was you.
And because of that, I understand that I can never save you from this nightmare. Psychopathic victims cannot escape once they have been groomed. For the rest of your relationship, you will deny reality and invent reasons that you might be the exception. You will lie to yourself, desperately trying to recreate your perfect dream. But ever so slowly, your identity will begin to fall apart. Like sandpaper, he will push your boundaries until you don’t even know who you are anymore.
Another woman will enter the scene. It is inevitable in relationships with narcissistic men. You will be strung along for as long as possible, as I once was. Your increasingly volatile reactions will be used against you, to evoke sympathy from the new target.
And eventually, you will be me.
This is why I fear for you. I would not wish the pain & suffering I’ve experienced on anyone. I know that your intentions were not malicious. I know that you were being spoon-fed the exact same lies I believed a long time ago.
The story you’ve been told is false. It was a pity ploy, designed to enhance your fairytale and consume your heart. You will not believe that today, but someday this letter will make sense. Brutal, heartbreaking sense.
I can only hope that the aftermath of your abuse might be guided by this letter. I can only hope that this might provide you with the tools that I was never given. A puzzle piece, to jumpstart your journey.
I do not hate you. That is what he would want.
Psychopathic mind games are invincible to everything but love. I will not carry on his legacy by taking part in these triangles anymore, injecting jealousy & hatred to fill the void of his soul.
I’ve made it through to the other side, and I know you can too. Please have the same empathy for the woman who replaces you. We can only ever stop this cycle of abuse with compassion for one another. By recognizing that all human beings deserve to be treated with respect, kindness, and honesty. By recognizing that there is no other woman – we are all that woman.
Wishing you love, hope, and above all: freedom.
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