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  • Warning Burglars Tricks In The Snow

    Burglars tricks in the snow.

    So you may have awoke to a beautiful white landscape, you’ve woken the children and got them wrapped up lovely and warm ready for school.

    After dropping your children off you head on to your own work, a day or hard graft but at least you’re in the warm.

    Once work has ended you collect your children from the child minder and make your way home for a nice hot drink and to get changed into something more comfortable.

    But as you head up your drive way you can see the front door is open, walking into your home you see an utter state, clothes, books and paper work just scattered everywhere, the children’s rooms have been ransacked and their games consoles taken, your grandmas jewellery which isn’t worth much financially but means so much to you emotionally has been taken.

    Once all that has sunk in you contact the police, they don’t rush out as it’s not an emergency so you sit round your neighbour’s house waiting for them to arrive.

    The police arrive and take a look around the police officer says they see more burglaries in the snow, but how?, burglars don’t tend to plan to far in advance most are opportunists.

    When you leave your home in the snow you are telling everyone that you have left with your footprints facing one way, the police advised that before you head off for the day to walk up and down the drive or path a couple of times.

    I wish I had known this as maybe I wouldn’t have been targeted and my children wouldn’t be so fearful being in their own home, it’s a simple mistake and could happen to anyone but when just one set of footprints you are telling potential thieves that no one is home.

  • I Had To Choose Which Child To Keep

    I had to choose which child to keep

    I can only be a good parent to one of my two child and this kills me inside.

    I have two children Shane who Is 13 and Chloe who is 3, I love them both so much.

    Shane has always been a hand full, playing truant from school, hanging around with the wrong crowd and getting up to mischief, Shane was always so angry and quick to fly into a temper.

    I have had the school, police and social services involved to try to control and calm Shane down and trying to teach me ways to deal with him.

    Shane did have some good traits he dotted on his little sister always hugging her and playing with her, I never once thought he would hurt her, yes he had slapped me on a number of occasions but Chloe was his favourite person in the whole world.

    Shane was already in his 4th secondary school after being excluded from others, just after Halloween I received a call from Shane’s new school.

    It had been brought to a teacher’s attention that my son had been boasting to his friends that when he got home he was going to rape and drown his sister in the bath.

    I will never know if he meant it or whether he was just showing off in front of everyone.

    I wasn’t prepared to take that chance, I had no control of him, at the age of 13 he was bigger and stronger than me, had he tried to hurt Chloe I would have had little power to stop him.

    I handed my first-born child over to the local authority to protect my youngest child.

    Not a day goes by where I don’t feel ashamed and guilty, Shane won’t speak to me, the last thing he said to me before he cut contact was “you picked her over me, if you thought I was gonna hurt her why didn’t you give her up”.

    I had to make a choice my violent son whom I loved but had failed or my innocent daughter.

    Did I make the right choice, my daughter would have been loved by any family had I given her up, but my son needed me.

    I don’t think I’ll ever come to terms with my decision but I did what I thought was right for my daughter.

    I just hope my son grows up into a decent human being and we can rekindle some sort of relationship.

     

     

  • If Your Thinking Of Not Vaccinating Your Child Read This

    Jennifer Hibben-White took to Facebook regarding vaccinations she said:

    This is my son Griffin, and he may have measles.

    On February 9th, I received a phone call from York Region Public Health, informing me that Griffin, alongside my mother and I, was potentially exposed to the measles virus while attending a newborn weigh-in appointment at my doctor’s office in Markham on January 27th.

    Griffin was 15 days old at the time.

    I was informed that someone who later developed measles sat in the doctor’s waiting room between 1 hour before and 30 minutes before we arrived. I was also informed that measles is regarded as “airborne” and can stay in the air and on surfaces up to 2 hours after the infected person has left.

    I was then asked if I had had the measles vaccine. I had.

    Griffin. Griffin had not. Can not.

    I was advised to not be around small children. If I worked in such an environment I would be written off work. I do work in such an environment; my home. Where I now sit with Griffin and my 3-year-old, Aurelia, who has only been able to get one MMR vaccine so far. She is now, technically, exposed too. We are to sit tight and watch for symptoms: fever, cough, runny nose. If we develop any of these we are to call my doctor and arrange to come in under official medical precautions. We are to wait at home, in isolation, until February 17th, after which the 21 days of possible incubation will have passed and we are clear.

    So, Griffin is now Schrödinger’s baby. Simultaneously with measles, and without it. Until he develops symptoms, or until a further 7 days pass. One or other.

    And I’m angry. Angry as hell.

    I won’t get angry at or blame the person in the waiting room. I would have likely done the same thing…you get sick, you go to the doctor. I have no idea what their story is and I will never know. But I do know one thing:

    If you have chosen to not vaccinate yourself or your child, I blame you.

    I blame you.

    You have stood on the shoulders of our collective protection for too long. From that high height, we have given you the PRIVILEGE of our protection, for free. And in return, you gave me this week. A week from hell. Wherein I don’t know if my BABY will develop something that has DEATH as a potential outcome.

    DEATH.

    Now, let’s unpack this shall we. All out on the table.

    You have NO IDEA what this “potential outcome” means. NO IDEA. I do. Unfortunately, I do.

    You think you are protecting your children from thimerosal? You aren’t. It’s not in their vaccine.

    You think you are protecting them from autism? You aren’t. There is no, none, nada, nothing in science that proves this. If you want to use google instead of science to “prove me wrong” then I am happy to call you an imbecile as well as misinformed.

    You think you are protecting them through extracts and homeopathy and positive thoughts and Laws of Attraction and dancing by candlelight on a full moon? You aren’t. I PROTECT YOUR CHILD. We protect your child. By being concerned world citizens who care about ourselves, our fellow-man, and our most vulnerable. So we vaccinate ourselves and our children.

    You think you are protecting them by letting them eat their shovel full of dirt and reducing antibiotics and eating organic? You aren’t. As an unvaccinated person you are only protected by our good graces. WE LET YOU BE SO PRIVILEGED thanks to our willingness to vaccinate ourselves and our children.

    You know what vaccines protect your children from? Pain. Suffering. Irreparable harm. Death.

    And you would be the first to line up if you had an inkling of what the death of a child feels like. You would be crawling through the streets on your hands and knees, begging, BEGGING to get that vaccine into your precious babies because that is what I would have done, if I could, to save my daughter.

    The fact is, there was no vaccine for her. Not for her illness. And she died. She died at age five and a half, and she is gone.

    And I watch these arguments trotted out on Facebook and twitter citing false science and long discredited“studies” that just won’t stop and Jenny McCarthy quotes and “it’s MY choice” to not vaccinate…and I think…what would you have done if your child lay dying? Would you give them a scientifically proven, safe and effective vaccine and risk the minuscule likelihood of a side effect? Or would you let them go, knowing that at least they won’t develop autism (which they wouldn’t even develop anyway because SCIENCE)?

    And don’t you DARE tell me that you wouldn’t vaccinate them then. Don’t you dare. You have no idea what it feels like to go through what we went through.

    So, look at Griffin. Tell me why he gets to bear the brunt of your stupidity and reckless abuse of our protection? Tell me.

    Seven more days until I know that my baby is safe. Seven more days.

    How is your week going, anti-vaxxers?

     

  • Grief Stricken Mothers Warning About Swimming Pools

    One grief-stricken mother recently contact Mums advice and pleaded with us to raise awareness of swimming pools and the risks involved when in local pools or whilst on holiday.

    Now you may be thinking her child had passed away by drowning but this mums story shocked me to the core and we just had to share.

    The mum wishes to remain anonymous but she explained her 12-year-old daughter who was a very confident swimming and was never far from her side, died whilst on holiday in Egypt last year due to the vacuum effect in the swimming pools drain.

    The drain is powerful enough to hold swimmers, especially young children or light weight adults to the bottom of the pool. Contact between human skin and a flat pool drain can create a huge suction equal to hundreds of pounds of pressure.

    In this horrific instance, four adult men were unable to pull this young teenager from the grasp of the deadly drain which ripped out her small intestines as the poor girl and the men struggled to pull her free, by the time the hotel had turned the pump off it was already to late for this girl.

    Swimmers can die from drowning or evisceration by these pool drains.

    The grief-stricken mother wants to warn all parents to advice their children to steer clear of these filters and to be extra careful when going under water or sitting on the pools floor or using hot tubs especially when on holiday as some countries don’t comply with safety regulations and are putting holiday makers at grave risk.

    The mum said that the loss of her daughter has been unbearable to live with but hopes that by sharing her daughters story she may prevent another tragedy happening and stop another family from losing an innocent child or loved one.

     

  • Grieving mum warns others of the dangers of taking to the road

    A grieving mum whose teenage son died after being thrown from a moped has warned of the dangers of taking to the roads on bikes that aren’t roadworthy.

    Tina Richards’ son Kian Buckler was just 15 when, as a pillion passenger, he was catapulted from a 125cc scooter being ridden by his friend Brett Everitt following a collision with a car in Lunt Road, Bilston.

    Neither boy was wearing a helmet at the time of the 29 November crash and, despite it being pitch black, West Midlands Police collision investigators discovered Everitt was riding the bike without headlights

    Budding mechanic Kian was critically injured and tragically died two days later in hospital.

    Everitt survived the collision and was later charged with causing death by dangerous driving, driving without a licence or insurance, and failing to provide a sample of blood for analysis.

    And at Wolverhampton Crown Court on Monday (15 Jan) the 16-year-old, from Thompson Road in Oldbury was sentenced to five years’ detention in a youth offenders institute. He was also banned from driving for five-and-a-half years.

    This is a tragic case in which two young lives have been ruined…it once again highlights the risks involved with young people riding motorcycles in a dangerous and reckless manner.

    Everitt chose to do this without any regard for himself or other road users and ultimately caused the death of his friend Kian Buckler.

    He will have to live with the consequences of his actions for the rest of his life and I would urge anyone who is tempted to get on a bike and ride it in such a way to think very hard about the potential consequences.

    The driver of the car that collided with the scooter drove away from the scene but officers later found the Toyota Auris on a nearby driveway.

    Checks on police systems revealed the 37-year-old was banned from driving until August 2020 and he was later jailed for eight weeks after admitting driving while disqualified, without insurance and failing to stop at the scene of an accident.

    However, he was deemed not to have been responsible for the crash.

    Mum Tina Richards said her son Kian made a “stupid decision” to get on the bike but said he would have steered clear had he appreciated its unsafe condition.

    She said: “Kian always ensured he maintained his own bicycle properly and took great care of it. I know nobody made him get onto the back of that bike but he had no control over the way Brett rode it…and he would have avoided it had he realised its true condition.

    “Losing Kian has left a great big hole in my life, which will never be filled. I miss his attitude, I miss his smile, I miss his presence. I miss him asking me for a bowl of cereal every night, I miss waking him up for school every day, I miss seeing him play with his little sister.

    I will never get to see him go to his school prom, get married, have children of his own. I won’t get to see him open his Christmas presents ever again. His two-year-old sister keeps asking where Kian is and it’s really difficult trying to explain he’s not coming back.”

    The judge lifted all reporting restrictions on the case meaning media can report the offender’s name despite him being a juvenile.

    Kian Buckler. Photo credit Wolverhampton police

    Brett Everitt photo credit Wolverhampton police

     

  • Primark Candle Risk of Fire

    A lady named Jenny Ferneyhough has taken to Facebook to warn others about primark candles and the high risk of fire.

    This is a candle I bought in Primark Manchester for £5 on Saturday. I am concerned that it poses a risk to the safety of anyone who owns one, and I have emailed Primark suggesting they recall them. In the meantime, I would be grateful if we could spread the word so that no one is put at risk by this. #primark

  • Mums Urgent Warning on Coca Cola

    Nola Larke of Southampton has taken to Facebook to warn other mums.

    My little boy Noah is 1 year and 3 months old.

    We have safety gates, corner cushions, locks on cupboards and taken multiple precautions in our home.

    Noah has an older brother Samuel who is 13 and visits me and his father at the weekends.

    Samuel adores his baby brother and is very cautious not to leave his electricals, chargers, lego, sweets etc where Noah can reach them.

    Last weekend we treated Samuel to a chinese take away and a can of Coke.

    We sat down to watch a film and it got later than expected, we didn’t clear our rubbish  as we normally do, you kow how it is, sometimes you just let things slide.

    6am as usual Noah awoke, I changed his bottom and then strapped him into his high chair ready for his breakfast.

    I left Noah alone in the dining room for a matter of minutes whilst i prepared his porridge, I didn’t realise the empty Coke can was in his reach.

    Noah placed his finger inside the can of Coca Cola, he ripped his finger back out, taking the skin with it.

    Noah was screaming in agony ad blood was pouring down his hand, I cleaned it and put a plaster on and obviously comforted my baby boy.

    Three days later it became infected, it was very red and swollen, we attended the Gp and were informed that a strong course of antibiotics was needed and a short stay in hospital, he added had we not been seen sooner he may have lost his finger or even his life.

    Mums Urgent Warning on Coca Cola
    Mums Urgent Warning on Coca Cola

    I urge you all to keep any carbonated drink cans away from babies and toddlers, the inside of the ring is as sharp as a razor blade, we learnt this the hard way.

     

  • Vunerable Lady Left In A Poor State In Carehome

     Josh Meszaros has taken to Social media to share his hurt and disgust at his mothers care.

    Josh said:

    So I popped in to the care home to see mum earlier on the way to the hospital to see dad.. What I found when I went in was absolutely disgraceful. 

    Went into mums room at 5:50 to find her sat in her chair in the dark, no lights on at all, and the TV turned off. This is bad enough, yet it gets worse..

    Vunerable Lady Left In A Poor State In Carehome

    She is sat like this with her evening meal and drink in front of her, unaccompanied when every single member of staff is fully aware that she is at serious risk of choking on food and drink. They have been told this numerous times, yet still ignore it. 

    She didn’t look right in herself at all, disoriented and looked worried. 

    Vunerable Lady Left In A Poor State In CarehomeVunerable Lady Left In A Poor State In CarehomeVunerable Lady Left In A Poor State In Carehome

    She was soaking wet throughout, to even her leggings being soaked, so she had certainly been left like this for a substantial amount of time. Then I found that whatever ‘carer’ had changed her earlier in the day had put her pad on the wrong way round. It is made a certain shape so almost impossible to get wrong!

    I ended up having to shower her myself, at which point it had been an hour since I had got there and still no one had come to check on her and make sure that she hadn’t choked. She had no soap or shower gel in there so what the hell have they been using to shower her with? I noticed some bed sores which are due to the carers leaving her sat in her own piss and shit for extortionate amounts of time, this can lead to Sepsis and can be deadly.

    Again, they have been told about this many times and still ignore it. They try to blame it on the pads yet she had not once got sore at home so how can it be down to the pads?  

    There was a little cup on the shelf above her bed with tablets in, god knows how long it had been there for. What if another resident had walked in and taken them, or if mum had managed to reach and take them? This could have been a lot more serious and potentially involve a death. 

      Again, they have been using the Sara Steady which was obvious with it being left next to her bed, every single member of staff has been told by Dad and also by the Social Worker, not to use this for transfers and to use her walker instead to keep transfers consistent each time. Again, it gets ignored and because if that she has lost more mobility and independence. 

    Vunerable Lady Left In A Poor State In Carehome

    Oh, and the bloody stupid handrail next to the toilet in the bathroom.. how the hell can that even be useful to a client? It’s about 1ft too bloody low! I stood up and it was too low for me to reach, fucking ridiculous. 

     Eventually the person in charge decided to come to talk to me about my concerns, to which they she said that she had been extremely busy and had to deal with 3 or 4 falls, she tried to say that she had been sat with mum earlier when she first had her food and said that mum would back her up? So let me get this straight, you’re trying to say that a 48-year-old woman with MS, Dementia, and Advanced Cognitive Impairment who often does not recognise her own children will have the mental capacity to correctly back you up?!

    Of course I can understand that they have had apparently a busy day, but if the staff cannot deal with the workload then surely they should cut back on the amount of clients, or employ more people. 2 carers to 15 clients is a complete joke. They will listen to complains, but not document anything or make any changes whatsoever. Think it’s about time they sorted themselves out before they all seriously regret it!
     

    I can now safely confirm that this Care Home is Whittington House Nursing Home Cheltenham. We have decided that it is now appropriate to publicly name the home as the manager has now resorted to retaliating to the below safeguarding concerns and complaints by using ‘Tit For Tat’ tactics attempting to cause trouble between us and the social worker, who is in fact fantastic at her job and a very decent person, so these petty tactics have not worked. 

    https://www.facebook.com/WhittingtonHouse/
     

     

     

  • I Nearly Lost Custody Over A Silly Mistake

    Jackie Lilley of Maldon Essex nearly lost custody of her little boy Brayli for one silly mistake.

    Brayli aged 21 months had just been picked up from nursery by his mother Jackie, 24.
    Brayli was tired and cranky but Jackie still had errands to run, the tired toddler had fallen asleep in his car seat.

    Jackie had to pick up Her medication from the local pharmacy before it closed.
    Jackie made a big mistake she decided to leave Brayli asleep in his car seat and run into the pharmacy, after all she would only be gone for a matter of minutes.

    Jackie knew he could come to no harm, he was in plain sight, strapped in his car seat and fast asleep and it was not a hot day.

    Little did she know a PCO was walking past and spotted the child, he jotted down her number plate and searched for the mother whilst radioing into report it.

    Jackie pleaded her case to the community officer and after giving him her details she was able to leave, still in shock she drove home.

    Jackie thought that was the end of it, but social services called, to check up on the welfare of Brayli, she was asked multiple questions and felt scared, she was warned not to leave her child alone in the car even for a minute.

    Although there is no written law stating what age a child can be left alone if those in power deem it unsafe or neglectful you run the risk of losing your child.

    Jackie wants to warn other parents to never leave their child in the car, even though it can be a hassle to unbuckle them or have grumpy children or temper tantrums, it is not worth the risk of losing your child or being in big trouble.

  • Check Your Nails, This Could Be Deadly

    I had a walk-in nail client a couple of weeks ago. She had been going to the “NAILS” type salons for years. She had a straight dark vertical stripe down her nail. She said as soon as she sat down–I need a colour dark enough to cover this stripe. The nail salons “diagnosed” her a few different ways. Some said it was a lack of calcium. Some said it was hereditary. At least one had told her it was a blood blister. 

    This is melanoma!!! I did not want to frighten her but I told her she needed to see her doctor immediately! She called me today to tell me that yes it was a very aggressive melanoma that has already spread to her lymph nodes!! Her prognosis is not good! Check Your Nails, This Could Be Deadly.

    Please pay attention to abnormalities in your nail beds!! Odd changes in your nails can very likely be nothing to worry about! But sometimes it is an indication of a very serious disease. And please keep an eye on the nail beds–toes and fingers—-of your elderly loved ones and your loved ones that aren’t physically able to notice changes in the nail beds! Early diagnosis can make all the difference in the world!!!

    Melanoma is also known as malignant melanoma, is a type of cancer that develops from the pigment-containing cells known as melanocytes. Melanomas typically occur in the skin, under nails but may someties occur in the mouth, intestines, or eye. In women they most commonly occur on the legs, while in men they are most common on the back.

    If it doubt, check it out, your GP is there for a reason, you are not wasting their time, it is better to be safe than sorry. Please Share this with your friends and family. Check Your Nails, This Could Be Deadly.