Tag: rant
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Single Mums You’re Ruining It For Dads
Single Mums You’re Ruining It For Dads
How dare you claim Father’s Day as your day!!!
You are not mum and dad you may be raising your child or children alone but that doesn’t mean you magically sprout a penis for half the day, you did not make this hild alone, they have a father and you are not it.
Just because the father of your child has ditched them, done a runner or acted like a total twat it still doesn’t make you a dad.
How sad I felt when I scrolled down my Facebook yesterday and saw several mums congratulating and praising themselves ie “happy Father’s Day to me” or worse using the day to slag off their ex.
Father’s Day is not for you, it is also not for the absent father it is a day to celebrate the amazing father’s who stand by their kids, and are a brilliant role model to their off spring!
There are 365 days in the year to slag off your ex but Father’s Day should not be ruined for us great dads by bitter and twisted single mums who have nothing better to do with their time.
Shut up, grow up, Mother’s Day is for you, birthdays, Christmas for Christ sake you can even claim easter or Valentines’s day but not bloody Father’s Day.
Next year please keep your bitter rants to yourself, big up the great dads or stay silent, you just look like an idiot when you claim the day for yourself.
Emailed in by Paul Amario
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Am I Asking To Much To Be Able To Change My Childs Nappy?
Chris Boneyard Mau has taken to social media to rightfully complain about the lack of changing facilities in the gents toilets.
Chris said “I’m getting pretty sick of having to change my daughter on a disgusting floor because the only changing table in the place is located in the women’s bathroom. It’s crazy to imagine I know but there are guys who take care of their kids too you asshats. If it’s a public place with public restrooms in the generation of equality among genders and races then how about making sure us fathers can change our children’s diapers on a goddamn changing table like the mother’s can. Am I asking too much?
The circumstances of the situation left very little options for privacy, I had taken her for a walk when this happened so there was no car and the only counter space was a 3 inch gap between the 2 sinks”.
Surely there should be changing facilities in all public toilets, there is often changing tables in the disabled toilets but not in all areas, times need to change, men should be able to change their childs nappy in a safe and clean environment.
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I Feel Bitter And Jealous That My Baby Is Not Healthy
I posted this in response to someone feeling a certain way about other’s healthy kids & their heart warrior & their own heathy kids, but I wanted to share it to see if anyone else feels/felt this way because I honestly feel so guilty about it.
I can’t wait to NOT feel this way but I can’t help it maybe I’m just not as good of a person as I thought so here goes.
I feel like garbage for having these feelings but my husband & I tried so hard to get pregnant, it took so long & then to find out at 26 weeks our son has a complex CHD & will need the 3 stages of open heart surgery to reroute everything & then a transplant as a young adult.
I’m now 29 weeks & can’t help but feel bitter & jealous when I see healthy babies, especially with people I know that weren’t trying to get pregnant/didn’t want to & weren’t ready & don’t even get me started on the mum’s I know who considered abortion or adoption for their healthy child I’m like WHY couldn’t I have a healthy baby!
I did EVERYTHING “the right way” I went to school, I got a great career, I dated for a long time, then married, then bought a house & then & only then when I felt I could give my child everything it needed, everything I didn’t have as a kid myself, did I try to conceive.
I feel guilty for feeling that way especially to my friends’ kids or even my cousin who did NOT want a baby, she continued to use drugs in her first trimester, hard ones. She considered abortion & adoption, she continues to smoke cigarettes. NO ONE supported her decision to keep her baby…but SHE gets a healthy baby?
I know I sound so rude & judge-y but REALLY! I’m beyond jealous especially because I was the only one who encouraged her to clean up & do right by her baby after she made the decision to keep it. I stood behind her when no one else did because we are both pregnant right now, just a week apart… AND SO with all that we are going to face with our son before & after he is born, me having to relocate will most likely cost me my job & who knows if we will be able to keep our house on only my husband’s income & who knows if my husband’s employer won’t fire him because of all the time he will need off between surgeries & what not & who knows if our son will even live… when it rains it f*cking pours!!!
I will love my child but I am sad he will not be healthy!
Emailed in anonymously
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Postmen Should Be Fined For Risking Animals Lives
Postmen should be fined for risking animals lives, I for one am totally fed up of lazy inconsiderate postmen who litter our homes and gardens.
Three times this month my regular pot man has dropped elastic bands on my driveway or along the pavement, I have spoken to him twice already and asked him to stop littering the neighbourhood and he simply shrugged his shoulders and said there wasn’t anything he could do about it.
Well today the stupid man dropped them again after delivering the mail, my cat Pebbles found it before I did and was playing with it, Pebbles got the elastic band stuck in her tiny throat and nearly choked to death, luckily I was able to dislodge it and rushed my poor little feline to the vets where she was given the all clear, thank god.
I phoned the post office headquarters and they weren’t even bothered, they couldn’t even apologise, all they could say was unfortunately sometimes elastic bands are dropped or fall out of the post-bag and the post workers aren’t even aware.
These elastic bands are a health hazard, they can wash into drains and kill sea creatures and choke or strangle domestic, farm or stray animals, something has to be done about it before it’s to late.
I am sickened with the post office, my cat coud have died because of irresponsible littering, I called 101 to report littering and the risk to animals and again they said they could’t do anything either, how can they get away with this, if i were to drop rubbish in the street i would be fined. Postmen should be fined also and trained to respect the neighbourhoods they deliver to.
Emailled in by Petra Dixonson
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Stop Naming Your Kids Stupid Made Up Names
I want to rant, no I need to rant this new stupid trend of naming your children ridulicious made up names is getting out of hands wrong with nice normal names like John, Simon, Amy, or Sophie.
Neveah has got to be one of the worst names I have ever heard for those that don’t know it is heaven spelt backwards, just hearing it makes me want to vomit, and i’m not alone all over social media I see people hating on this name.
Made up names are the worst, Brayli, Bleu-Rose, sinamon (yes spelt like that) double-barreled names just sound like stripper names or common as muck people, I would not employ someone called Millie-May, Lilly-Anna, Bobbie-joe etc, what is this trend of adding “Mae, May, Bleu, Rose at the end of a name?
Parents they may in your opinion sound like cute names when your off spring is a baby but what happens when they become an adult, now a Peter or a Sarah has a chance to have a successful life but Blessing, Stormi, Honey Suckle, C-Kritz, Malia, Porsche, precious, Princess, Pluto, London, Bleuboy and Stokelee are clearly destined to play the guitar badly outside your local Aldi’s or to dance on poles, now may be I’m being to judgey but as an employer for a large company when I look at an application for a job interview, I put the ones with ridiculous names in the bin.
How can My company be successful with Armani-Mae at the front desk, it’s embarrassing it sounds childish and very unprofessional.
Now I’m not saying all old style names are great, Keith, Martha, Trevor and Maureen need never to be heard again.
I await the who am I to judge comments, but lets face it we all judge people by their name, Richard you could imagine being a Doctor and Armani-Bleu dancing on a pole or starring in adult films.
Wake up parents stop chavving up your kids and name something normal!!!
Sent in via email, sender wishes to remain anonymous
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STOP Pulling Your Baby’s Top Lip Back Over Their Face
Ladies,
Please, STOP pulling your baby’s top lip back over their face, taking photos, and posting them into parenting groups or your to your Facebook friends.
This cannot be diagnosed by a photograph, your GP is the only one who can tell you for sure. Plus, right now, pull your own top lip up towards your nose. Nice and far, the way it’s done in these pictures. Not nice is it? That’s because we’ve all got one, it’s kind of how your face works, and is to do with how we developed in the womb.
Please stop putting your baby through this.
Just stop. Please.
Tongue and lip-tie are common causes of nipple pain, uneven breast drainage, slow weight gain and low milk supply. Many doctors do not properly access for tongue or lip-tie until they are made aware that there could be an issue.
Signs your baby may have a lip tie
•poor latch and suck
•unusually strong suck due to baby using excess vacuum to remove milk
•clicking sound while nursing (poor suction)
•ineffective milk transfer
•infrequent swallowing after initial let-down
•inadequate weight gain or weight loss
•irritability or colic
•gas and reflux
•fussiness and frequent arching away from the breast
•fatigue within one to two minutes of beginning to nurse
•difficulty establishing suction to maintain a deep grasp on the breast
•breast tissue sliding in and out of baby’s mouth while feeding
•gradual sliding off the breast
•chewing or biting on the nipple
•falling asleep at the breast without taking in a full feed
•coughing, choking, gulping, or squeaking when feedingLip-ties often accompany tongue-ties, other parents cannot advice you if your child has a lip tie, please see your doctor for an assessment.
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Having Children With Different Fathers Doesn’t Make Me A Bad Parent
HAVING CHILDREN WITH DIFFERENT FATHERS DOESN’T MAKE ME A BAD PARENT
I’d always felt inferior to other mums about being a single parent when they were married or had a partner… until now.
See, I’m part of a lot of groups on Facebook, most of which include parents who ask for a lot of advice about their children, living situation, partner etc and honestly, some people still never cease to amaze me with some of their responses (I mean, to be fair, if you ask a stupid question, expect a stupid answer or some backlash)… but this one post in particular really hit me, hard.
It’s not often I get irate or provoked by something on social media, but I’m not going to lie, I was furious at the enormity of the ‘Perfect Parent Brigade’ and the way they spoke about this situation; a situation most single mothers are currently in and often, through no fault of our/their own.
(A situation nobody ever wants to be in, just let me add).
“Any mums out there who have children with more than one father?”
Aaaand we’re off! (You can almost hear the ‘Perfect Parent Brigade’ marching in!)
Whilst the majority of single parents are commenting and saying they do have multiple children with different fathers (like I do and because the post is clearly asking this), we also have the “in a relationship but not engaged” mothers, the engaged mothers and the married mothers who pipe up and give their (unwanted) two cents – AKA the parents who can possibly do no wrong!
“I just can’t imagine having a different father to my three children”, “Sorry, but why would you want your children to have different surnames, especially at school?”, “I don’t understand why some people keep having children with different men.”
Yeah, well, I couldn’t imagine doing that either love, until it actually happened to me.
Oh oh oh, and… I think I speak for all single mothers when I say… SHIT HAPPENS.
Listen love, I didn’t plan to have two children with two fathers; I planned on buying a house, being married with three children (with the same guy) and living on a farm by the time I was 28.
And guess what?
Life doesn’t work out that way sometimes and that is OKAY.
Who’s to know if it’ll work out? You don’t, I don’t, they don’t.
I could be married to the same man with three children and he could pass away or suddenly up and leave with no warning (which does happen), which means I may end up meeting someone later on and choose to have another baby with but that would be okay, wouldn’t it? Because you know, I was married.
So, why isn’t it okay for someone to have two children with two fathers, or three children with three fathers? Why is that such a crime?
It’s 2018, it’s more common than it ever was, yet people still continue to judge.
Do you genuinely believe we set out for this, that we wanted our children to have different fathers and surnames to each other?
Why should a woman who’s always dreamed of having a large family be told to stop having children because she’s been dealt a shit hand with men?
Before anyone gets their knickers in a twist, I do get that some parents abuse the benefits system and I believe that having a child whilst on benefits already is unfair, but they’re the people who give parents like us a bad name; but, benefits are there to help people who need it until they’re back on their feet – we’re not parasites of society or leeches.
We’re trying our best for our children, just like the ‘perfect parents’ are, too.
We have good intentions and we’re good people, we’re not inferior to you or less of a mother than you because we don’t own a home, or because we’re not married, or even because our children have different fathers and surnames.
Regardless of what anybody may think, my children are brother and sister and they have the same bond that siblings from a ‘traditional’ family would.
They have a mother who loves them unconditionally, who cooks for them, who educates them, who provides a clean home for them, who does her very best for them and who one day hopes she can settle down with the right man and possibly have another baby because that’s what happens when you meet someone isn’t it? You want to believe it’s for forever.
Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn’t.
So tell me, why am I different to you?
Having multiple fathers to your children is hard work and I would change it in a heartbeat if I could – it’s a battle every single day… but that doesn’t mean I don’t deserve another chance at happiness or to carry another baby because I always have hope that one day, my children and I will have that.
You shouldn’t ever judge a parent for their living situation or family situation because one day it could be you; there are no guarantees in life, I promise you that.
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Tesco Why Don’t You Care About Poorer Families
I have just been messaging Tesco Customer Service Team regarding the disappearance of at least 50% of their Everyday Value Range. I wanted to know what was going on. They have confirmed that they are reducing the range of products they stock and this has meant in reality the Everyday Value range disappearing.
They have no intention of replacing the range and so I will be forced to spend more or shop elsewhere Tesco Why Don’t You Care About Poorer Families .
Despite being a loyal Tesco customer for over 15 years, I feel like boycotting them because they are showing so little regard for people who have tight budgets. They obviously don’t want or need the custom.
Being a single mum to 4 children money is really tight and I have to budget to pay bills and feed my family, I work long hours and still never seem to get a head on my finances.
The Tesco value range has always been great for me and my family, the children enjoy their meals and always clear their plates, I have tried Aldi and Lidl but they are so far away from where I live.
I personally feel Tesco are wrong to remove the affordable value range of food from there stores, I for one am struggling to feed the family now on my budget and feel that Tesco literally do not care for their poorer customers, I know they are a supermarket for profit but they must make some amount of money from the value range and whilst customers who are on a lower budget don’t spend as much they should still be valued customers, I mean one day I may not be this poor and be able to spend more in their store but not now, they have lost my custom and I feel very dishearten with them.
Some people may say it’s petty to be so annoyed over this but until you have to feed 4 children with limited funds you won’t understand.
Submitted by Amanda Stevenson
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Never Shop At Aldi You Have Been Warned!!
Well bugger me, there is no ‘right time’ to do an Aldi Shop.
If you choose to take your beautiful children, they will absolutely destroy you!!
Can I have this useless stuff I’ll never use Mummy?
Can I have a crappy magazine that I’ll probably eat when im bored, with an even crappier choke hazard Toy inside it for £6 Mummy
Can I have 369 Bananas Mummy
Can I have 4 packs of Kinder Eggs Mummy
SHUT THE HELL UP!! Can i have my Bladder control back that you both took when you shot out?? You thieving little kids! NO I cant!!
Within 2 Minutes of stepping inside, you’re approximately £10 down already, you’re hiding behind the Cereal having an anxiety attack, popping PRN Propranolol from your bag, whilst carrying a Shitty Magazine, 369 Bananas and watching your 3 Year Old totally lose her shit on the floor because you won’t buy her every Kinder Egg from the shelves!!
If you choose to go alone on the very rare occasion you have no kids, bloody Doreen’s always out and she WILL mess with your Day!!
Everybody knows Aldi is a ONE WAY System!! You go in, then up and down the aisles in a one way system until you get to Turbo Tracey’s Till at the end when you need another Propranolol!! If you get to the Milk and realise you forgot Bread, tough ! You’re screwed. You have to go back to the beginning and round again! It’s the unwritten rule, Yes?
No, Not Doreen. She’s a bloody rebel!
She cuts across all the isles without checking her blind spots like the bastard STIG in a Bugatti and nearly takes you out, all for a pack of part cooked crusty cobs that she can’t even bloody chew!
Then you’re left with a choice. Should I politely say “go on Love, you’re ok” or, do I smash her in the back of the Ankles with the trolley, blame a random 3 Year old and run like hell? Depends where i am in the Month. Do one Doreen!!
So now you’re done, you know you’ve forgotten almost everything you came for but think, Screw it id rather die than go round again! You load your Items on the belt and Turbo Twatting Trace is After an Olympic Gold Medal in food scanning! F*** me! She’s like F**king Robo Cop slinging it all through whilst you slowly and ever so silently have a nervous breakdown inside, and yet another Social Anxiety Attack. Nice one C*** Face Trace!! 🖕🏻🖕🏻
Never Shop At Aldi You Have Been Warned!!