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  • Yes I Am Wearing A Coat I Know Its Sunny


    Yes I am wearing a coat I am well aware that the sun is shining and all the people around me are in their summer gear.null

    Do you think I left the house not realising I was wearing it? Nooo so why point it out?

    “Aren’t you hot” well no I’m not otherwise I would surely remove it wouldn’t I!!!

    Another one I hear regularly is… “you must be mad” oh right so my mental health is affecting my ability to make wise fashion decisions.

    I’m wearing a coat because I’m bloody cold… all the time.

    I have Raynaud’s disease.

    It is a disorder that typically does not come with severe complications. The symptoms usually arise when a person is cold.

    These can include pain and numbness in the extremities, a pins and needles sensation, having difficulty moving the affected area, and the skin turning white or blue.

    It occurs due to the blood restriction and blood vessel reaction when the body is cold, reducing circulation to the fingers, toes and sometimes the entire body.null

    These symptoms can last anywhere from a few minutes to many hours. Typically, symptoms can be treated on one’s own, simply by keeping warm. However, Raynaud’s is classified as a blood circulation disease and can worsen and cause further complications if left untreated for an extended period.

    Raynaud syndrome, is also known as Raynaud’s phenomenon,or Raynauds diease, I don’t like my fingers being so painful I can’t move them so I’ll carry on wearing my coat, thanks for your damn concern

  • He Was Guilty Of Being Black

    My husband is 31 years old. My husband can proofread a paper to perfection! He makes the best pork chops and neckbones. My husband was raised in an extremely wholesome home where they were not even allowed to watch Harry Potter.

    My husband has never tried any drugs, not even weed. He has never stolen from anyone, not even a corner store. My husband treats me and our sons like royalty. He serves at our local church faithfully and helps anyone he can. None of this stopped my husband from becoming a suspect in Semmes.

    My husband wanted to do me a favor one night when he got home late from work. He got my keys and drove around the corner to fill my tank at the gas station. While there, an older white woman was at a pump across from him and he noticed she appeared very nervous and stared at him. He said she got in her vehicle and got on her phone and pulled off to an area near the gas station.

    Within minutes police cars pulled in and surrounded him. He was questioned about why he was out. He was questioned about his activity earlier in the day. He was told he fit a description. They asked who’s car he was driving. He was told he could not leave. He was told the description was simply a black man. Not a 5 ft 7 inch black man of around 220 lbs who loves WWE, macaroni and cheese, and the Temptations. Just black.

    The older woman was now watching and the cops revealed she had called in his suspicious behavior of pumping gas. And now he was a suspect because he fit the description of being black. He was humiliated. He was emasculated. He was angry. He was helpless. He was on his way to being cuffed when a white man stepped in.

    An older white man told the officers they were wrong and that my husband had come from a different direction than the robbery they had mentioned. The officers released my husband after this. Not because my husband told them multiple times he was innocent. Not because there were two car seats in the back of my car.

    My husband’s voice meant nothing. The only voice that penetrated those badges was a white one. My hard working, kind hearted, silly husband was guilty because of his skin and there was absolutely nothing he could do about it. The sight of him caused a woman to call the police. He said he wanted to scream.

    He wanted to fight. He wanted to yell at the top of his lungs that he was a man and he mattered. If he had, he would be deemed aggressive. He would be resisting so he said he kept telling himself he had to make it home to me and the boys. He knew these men could kill him and justify it. He came home a changed man. I am a changed woman. We cried. We prayed and we have healed since this took place but it changed us.

    Issues that once felt somewhat distant became our reality. So, when you dismiss the plight of black men in America you diminish the ever present fear within our community. You are willfully ignorant. If you think people make this up or are only apprehended by the police when they deserve it… you are part of the problem. Open your eyes but more importantly open your hearts to the reality of being black in America. We don’t get the luxury of ignoring it because we live it. This picture of my precious family looks threatening to some people. My boys are cuddly and cute until they aren’t anymore and then they become a threat too. My heart aches for our country and I feel so helpless. Lord, please heal the hearts and minds our land!

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/deltha.scott

  • Track and Trace Is Ludicrous

    Of all the counter productive ideas that this incompetent bunch of public school boy clowns have come up with, Trace & Test has to be the most ludicrous of all 😂😂😂

    Please correct me if I’ve got this wrong, but I’ve just watched an infomercial on it, and this is my understanding 🤔

    If you develop symptoms, you must contact the T&T hotline, grass yourself up, self quarantine for 14 days and grass anyone you’ve come into contact with…

    Those poor bastads then have to quarantine for 14 days too 🤔 because of you 😏

    Right… already it’s ridiculous 🧐

    Just imagine how many people could be in 14 day quarantine because of one person 🤔 and suppose you’ve just went back to work 😱 oh, and if you did, all your work colleagues, customers, fellow traders etc, will also have to do the same 🤷‍♂️🧐

    Not shaping up too clever is it 🤔

    But wait for it….

    After 14 days isolating, as a result of someone you’ve been in contact with, suppose you fail to develop symptoms or are A-symptomatic 🤷‍♂️ and you don’t test positive…
    You go back to work, and in no time at all the same cycle starts in your workplace from another T&T on someone who’s been in contact with another work mate 🤷‍♂️

    Surely at this point of the brainstorming session, someone must have said “Hold in a minute!!… Thant’s not workable!!” 😏🤷‍♂️🤔

    This is a merry go round that will spin into disaster in no time at all, let alone get the country back in its feet 🤔

    Who the actual FK comes up with this nonsense 🤷‍♂️ and how the FK does it get through parliament 🤷‍♂️

    Maybe… just maybe… we’re being played here 🤔 god forbid 😂😂😂😂😂

    PLEASE 🤪🤔😂😏😞🙏🤪🤔😂
    Don’t know whether to laugh or cry 🤷‍♂️

  • A man’s Maternity Leave ignorance – a belated apology

    A man’s Maternity Leave ignorance – a belated apology

    My wife’s had 3 maternity leaves. All of which I’ve been in work fulltime getting home for 6pm to spend an hour doing the glory bits. I’m not so conceited that I didn’t realise it was a tough gig, but I would rebuff any bemoaning from Mrs Secret Dad Lad with ‘being at work isn’t exactly a f**king holiday’. Turns out, comparatively, it is.

    During lockdown my wife’s more demanding job has meant she’s had to basically continue to work fulltime, albeit remotely. This has meant that I’ve had my own ‘Paternity Leave’ looking after our kids (Josephine 5, Ernie 3 and Walt 1) whilst their Mum works away in the loft. Here’s a chronicle of a typical day:

    • After helping with breakfast, Wife exits stage left.
    • J/E ask for a biscuit
    • Catch W climbing in washing machine whilst explaining to the others that biscuits are not part of breakfast.
    • Put Netflix on.
    • J sends E to ask for a biscuit.
    • Break up fight over who has the remote.
    • Put most guilty one on naughty step.
    • Catch W drinking from dog’s water bowl.
    • Read him a book he hates.
    • Forget one is on naughty step, they wander back to watch Netflix.
    • J/E ask for biscuit. We negotiate. They get raisins.
    • Decide they’ve watched too much Netflix, get crafts out.
    • W does a massive shit, spend 10 minutes fighting him to allow me the pleasure of wiping his arse.
    • Come back to crafts, but they’ve left and are back watching Netflix.
    • Clear up crafts, wishing whoever created slime a slow, gruesome death.
    • Give them early lunch because they’re pissing me off.
    • They hate my lunch. Give them crisps.
    • Put them in garden.
    • I tell E off for purposely lobbing balls into next door’s garden, meanwhile J tries to force W to play with her and he’s like ‘nah’ and bites her.
    • They’re all f**king crying.
    • We go inside.
    • I put on a film for big two, take up tired Mr bitey for his nap.
    • I hide for a bit.
    • They find me like they’re sniffer dogs and I’m selling pills at a festival.
    • They ask for a biscuit. I give them several just so they’ll f**k off.
    • They scream ‘Daddy we’re bored of this film!’ repeatedly and very loudly.
    • I run in and shout at them through gritted teeth that they’re going to wake their little brother up.
    • Little brother wakes up and starts crying.
    • Resist temptation to demonstrate how much I currently despise my two eldest children and go get W up.
    • The next 3 hours is a complete f**king parenting shitshow.
    • Mummy comes down from the loft and they turn into golden children.

    And, it’s pretty much that everyday. Relentless doesn’t cover it. I may have it slightly tougher in one sense during lockdown as there’s less options to escape. But I also don’t have a newborn hanging off my tit, sterilization faff to worry about and an expectation from wider society that it should all come naturally to me. Plus, if the shit really does hit the fan, I have another parent available upstairs who could help me out.

    What I’m getting at is all you maternity leave survivors, fair f**king play. I’ve experienced a small amount of what you endure(d) and I’m flagging. We love our kids, but when they’re young looking after them can be ferocious. So, to my wife especially, I apologise for taking your daily efforts in rearing our kids so magnificently for granted. I’ve had a big taste of humble pie. Sorry it’s taken so long.

    Also, if you can give me access to the magical housework fairy you must have employed during your maternity leave – that would be great 👌🧚‍♀️

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/secretdadlad/

  • Gripe Water Serious Danger

    Please read!!!
    So last night I had the biggest scare of my life! After feeding Atlas-Odin I gave him gripe water which on the label states suitable from 4 weeks old.

    He then began choking and went blue then purple and then floppy and non responsive for 10 whole minutes before the ambulance arrived. All my 1st aid training was taken over with the panic after a few mins of back slaps over the knee doing nothing to help. I was literally screaming in the street and banging on doors for help, thankfully I have amazing neighbours who helped me to save his life when i was convinced he had already died.

    We spent 6 hours in the hospital and I was luckily enough to take him back home last night not that I slept from sitting watching him sleep to make sure he was breathing.
    Anyway in the hospital the Dr who was treating him said that although gripe water says on the bottle suitable from 4 weeks he would never recommend it to be used on a baby less than 3 months old and it’s not uncommon for babies to choke on it.

    Nowhere is this written on the product and it nearly cost my son his life so please share this information with any new mums you may know, I wouldn’t wish anybody to experience what we went through with Atlas-Odin yesterday those images of him in that state will haunt me forever!

    Edit: A few people have questioned how he managed to choke on gripe water and the explanation given at the hospital was that it would have been due to the taste. It doesn’t have a nice fruity flavour like infacol and other children’s medicines infact it has a harsh taste that on the bottle it states most babies dont like. The taste hitting the back of their throat can cause the choking response.

    Edit: some people seem to be assuming that it was how the gripe water was administered that caused Atlas-Odin to choke. Doctors confirmed this was not the case I used a 1ml syringe giving no more than 0.1ml at a time it is due to taste. If ur baby likes the taste they obviously havent choked but that doesn’t dismiss that many others do so if anyone would like to promote gripe water please write your own post rather than doing so on mine as my child nearly died!

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/fdunlop1

  • To Everyone Blaming The Government

    To everyone blaming the government for the Covid19 death toll surpassing that of Spain and France and calling them incompetent, bear this in mind:
    It is possible to change an argument in your favour with statistics even if they are not truly representative. Try looking at it logically and dispassionately.

    If you look at the population levels of the 3 countries mentioned, the U.K. has the highest at around 70 million, compared to 66 million in France and 49 million in Spain.
    Then look at the size of the area these people are living in : The UK 250,000 km2, France 650,000 km2, Spain 506,000 km2.
    Figured it out yet? No?

    The U.K. has a population density of 280 people per km2
    France has a population density of 102 people per km2
    Spain has a population density of 97 people per km2

    Know what that means? That means, ( according to figures from google today) the U.K., despite having nearly 3 times (275%) the population density of France and (289%) that of Spain, has death figures which are only 8% more than France and 7.5% more than Spain.

    But, it’s easier for the media to use the headline number in order to create the hysteria and panic they are so desperate for to give this story legs, so why let facts get in the way of the narrative.
    Wake up people, use your brains, not your emotions.
    Have a lovely day.

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/mark.jose1

  • Boris Speech Explained

    Don’t understand the confusion people seem to be having regarding the recent announcement…no wonder people were doing the fudging conga to Vera Lynn with the neighbours after a few pimms on VE Day…I think a fair proportion of the population lack common sense…

    It’s pretty simple…for now the only changes are;

    ▪️Work from home if you can. Construction workers can return to work if they’re able to adhere to social distancing while there. Avoid public transport to get there where at all possible.

    ▪️Stay at home apart from exercise (which is no longer restricted to 1 hour, once a day. It can now be done in parks and sports can be played with the family you live with) whilst observing social distancing rules.

    ▪️Depending on the response to these measures we may see more shops and businesses & primary schools opening from the start of June…all dependant on the figures.

    ▪️Potentially seeing hospitality begin to open at the start of July…all depandant on the figures.

    It’s not rocket science!

    Don’t twist words & overcomplicate the simple to hear what you want to hear…

    STAY AT HOME unless you need to go out.

    Only go to work if you can get there safely & CANNOT WORK FROM HOME & you are able to practice social distancing at work.

    Exercising is unlimited WITH MEMBERS OF YOUR HOUSEHOLD.

  • My Covid 19 Story

    Ok. I thought I’d wait to at least see how things were going before I posted my status.
    On Monday after work I fell really ill. I know I’m a drama queen sometimes with man flu but something was definitely wrong. Monday night was horrific.

    Tuesday I booked a drive through covid test. Probably shouldn’t have driven myself and mounted the kerb 4 times. Was so tired when I got home I went straight to bed again. Marie checking my breathing and temperature which by this time had gone up to 39.8. Luckily for me while I was asleep she rang 111. Went through the call and 4 hours later a doctor rang.

    Went through more questions and advised me to go to A and E.
    I’ve been on a drip and oxygen since. And had chest X-ray , ct scan and bloods taken. Which confirmed I had infections in both lungs and the consultant confirmed I had covid 19.
    Which was a good job because my drive through test came back negative ! (They’re only 70 percent accurate you know).

    I’m so grateful to Marie for ringing 111 and sorting it. If left to me I wasn’t really sure what was happening and totally out of it. And who knows if it had been left another couple of days.
    The treatment I’ve had since I’ve been here has been truly amazing. They really are angels. Even the man nurses.


    From seeing my neice Melissa-Marie when she saw at the end of her night shift I had been sent to resuscitation and came to talk to me and reassure me for a little while, through giving consent to being put to sleep for an indefinite time to be put on a ventilator if required and I took a turn for the worse to my mate Shane ringing me and telling me his wife Sam is on the next ward and will drop me some things off tomorrow as I’m not allowed visitors. You lot are amazing.


    “The nhs is on its knees”????
    From what I’ve seen in a very short space of time it’s staffed by the most amazing caring people. And we should be proud of every one of them. I certainly couldn’t be prouder of the friends and family I have in the nhs.
    I clapped again at 8 pm out of my window once more. But this time from the inside of a hospital looking out. The night doctor said to me “you really don’t need to clap, the fact you’re getting better is all we doctors need.”
    So just a heads up guys, anyone on my Facebook still thinking this a load of made up shit to put phone Masts up …
    You’re wrong
    Anyone saying Boris was on oxygen for a week so it wasn’t too bad and probably didn’t have it?…….
    I’ve sort of been there and You’re wrong……
    And anyone not clapping or showing appreciation for our amazing nhs ? Not social distancing cause you don’t think it’s serious? Dying to hear the word “unlock “ so you can resume the stupidity it took you weeks to get out of ???……
    Don’t care if I’ve known you from birth.
    Save me the bother will you ???
    I’m a 52 year old bloke who will openly admit to crying several times in the last few days and has been humbled once again by people’s kindness.
    I’m sharing a ward with a 73 year old fantastic guy called ken who went in queens 6 months ago for his toe off because of diabetes and is sat across from me with one leg now and after all that tested same as me for covid. Listening to him crying on the phone to his lovely wife because she can’t visit him and he misses her.
    There’s always someone worse off isn’t there.
    Stay safe . Protect the NHS. They’re amazing. Thanks for your messages of goodwill those who knew……..
    And sorry to disappoint some of you but…

    …….I’m getting better by the way.

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/andy.parker.9235

  • Dear Parents In The Uk

    Dear parents in the U.K.,

    Today marks six full weeks since our country went into lockdown.

    You have had your children home for the same time now that you would if they were on summer holidays. People will say ‘but they are your responsibility’ and whilst that is true, no-one could be expected to have imagined this period before they chose to conceive.

    You have protected, nourished, educated, supported and entertained your children during a period of national and international uncertainty and fear. You have experienced emotions for yourself and your family that you never knew existed, never mind experienced before.

    Six weeks is a long time.

    Think about how you feel at the end of the summer holidays, how ready you are for routine, how badly your house needs cleaned from children home, how much work you are ready to catch up on. Remember that exhausting feeling of having so little sleep, much less money and hearing ‘mummy/daddy’ every time you happen to sit down.

    And you wonder why you are exhausted after six weeks of lockdown?

    You are amazing! You have achieved something no other parent ever has during our time. You have faced six weeks unable to take your child or children anywhere, six weeks of no parks, holidays to break up the boredom, no day trips, no family to help. On top of that you have juggled work demands, loneliness on a level never experienced before, information overload from the internet and emotional turmoil of not being able to see people you hold dear. Even getting food to eat has been a major drama!

    So it’s ok to feel drained. It’s ok to feel like you would sell your soul right now for five minutes alone. It’s ok to feel uninspired about another day of homeschooling, another day of never ending laundry and cooking.

    It’s ok to be so very tired.

    Six weeks is a long time.

    But you have made it.

    Be proud of yourself. Stand tall.

    History will show you for your courage, your children will remember this period as a time knowing they were safe and loved and teachers everywhere are deeply grateful that you are there for your children when they should be but can’t be.

    In short: you are awesome!

    And so are your children.

  • What If Kids Are Learning More At Home

    If they cancel the rest of the school year, students would miss approx 6 months of education. Many people are concerned about students falling behind because of this. Yes, they may fall behind when it comes to classroom education…

    BUT WHAT IF ….

    What if instead of falling “behind”, this group of kids are ADVANCED because of this? Hear me out.

    What if they have more empathy, they enjoy family connection, they can be more creative and entertain themselves, they love to read, they love to express themselves in writing.

    What if they enjoy the simple things, like their own backyard and sitting near a window in the quiet.

    What if they notice the birds and the dates the different flowers emerge, and the calming renewal of a gentle rain shower?

    What if this generation are the ones to learn to cook, organize their space, do their laundry, and keep a well run home?

    What if they learn to stretch a dollar and to live with less?

    What if they learn to plan shopping trips and meals at home.

    What if they learn the value of eating together as a family and finding the good to share in the small delights of the everyday?

    What if they are the ones to place great value on our teachers and educational professionals, librarians, public servants and the previously invisible essential support workers like truck drivers, grocers, cashiers, custodians, logistics, and health care workers and their supporting staff, just to name a few of the millions taking care of us right now while we are sheltered in place?

    What if among these children, a great leader emerges who had the benefit of a slower pace and a simpler life to truly learn what really matters in this life?

    What if they are AHEAD? 🙏🏼🏡♥️🏫
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