Tag: House
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I Make My Partner Sleep At His Parents Once A Month
I am a mum to two children Charlie who is 3 and Robbie who is 11 weeks old.
I am in a very happy relationship with my partner of 5 years my wonderful boyfriend Jamie he is a wonderful boyfriend and a fantastic father barring his drinking.
No he isn’t an alcoholic or abusive but once a month he goes out with his mates he crawls home in the early hours and ends up vomiting in the house, urinating on himself or on one occasion mistaking the airing cupboard for a toilet and weeing in it, he never makes it to the bedroom and I often find him asleep on the landing or even on my children’s bedroom floor.
Since Robbie was born I have banned him from coming home when he has had a drink, he knows he has to go and stay at his friend’s house or go to his parents home which is 3 streets down from ours.
Last weekend he went out and got very drunk but went to his mums house, the next morning his mother phoned me and called me a psycho for banning her son from coming back to his own house, he works hard and should be able to go out and have a drink and return home without any repercussions or rules in place, she even said it’s not like he’s abusive or violent when he drinks and is a happy drunk.
I will be sticking to this rule though I do not want my children to witness their loving father asleep in his own vomit or urine or my partner to ruin our lovely home.
Please tell me I’m not the only woman in the world who makes their partner do this, it’s not like I’m stopping him from seeing his friends I understand he needs his time and to go out and enjoy himself and I will not stop him but I sure as hell will stop my kid growing up thinking this is the norm.
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I Got My Council House Through Lies, I’m Not Ashamed
I got my council house through lies and I’m not ashamed.
Back In 2010 I was living at my boyfriends Mums house, in a cramped room, we both worked really hard to make a living but never seemed to make enough to save for a deposit on a flat.
We finally gave in and went to council, they did a banding system.So Band A was top priority, although I was pregnant, as I wasn’t disabled, had a roof over my head and a job we were given Band C.
In other words we were very unlikely to be housed, we tried so hard to move but with no luck we had no choice but to play the system.I suddenly came down with depression, my partner played on his bad back from years ago, my soon to be mother in law wrote a letter to the council to say she couldn’t have us living there anymore.
We pretended we were sleeping in my partners work van, I cried to the housing officer, my midwife pleaded our case as did our local councillor.
4 months of waiting and we finally got a viewing, a small two bedroom flat on the 8th floor.We were second on the list to get it, the ones in front of us turned it down, it wasn’t good enough for them, but we decided begers couldn’t be choosers and jumped at the chance to have a place to call home.
Our first proper home, a place to bring our baby back to.
Yes, we played the system, am I ashamed? no way!!!
We work so hard, why should others who won’t help themselves and already receive so much help get priority.
We pay all our own rent, we have added two new addition to our family and moved to a larger home.
Sometimes us hard workers have to play the system to get anything in life, it’s upsetting that it’s like this but needs must. -
I Do Not Help My Wife And Neither Should You
I do not help my wife!!!
A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat and talked about life. At some point in the conversation, I said, “I’m going to wash the dishes and I’ll be right back.”
He looked at me as if I had told him I was going to build a space rocket. Then he said to me with admiration but a little perplexed: “I’m glad you help your wife, I do not help because when I do, my wife does not praise me. Last week I washed the floor and no thanks.”
I went back to sit with him and explained that I did not “help” my wife. Actually, my wife does not need help, she needs a partner. I am a partner at home and through that society are divided functions, but it is not a “help” to do household chores.
I do not help my wife clean the house because I live here too and I need to clean it too.
I I do not help my wife.
A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat and talked about life. At some point in the conversation, I said, “I’m going to wash the dishes and I’ll be right back.”
He looked at me as if I had told him I was going to build a space rocket. Then he said to me with admiration but a little perplexed: “I’m glad you help your wife, I do not help because when I do, my wife does not praise me. Last week I washed the floor and no thanks.”
I went back to sit with him and explained that I did not “help” my wife. Actually, my wife does not need help, she needs a partner. I am a partner at home and through that society are divided functions, but it is not a “help” to do household chores.
I do not help my wife clean the house because I live here too and I need to clean it too.
I do not help my wife to cook because I also want to eat and I need to cook too.
I do not help my wife wash the dishes after eating because I also use those dishes.
I do not help my wife with her children because they are also my children and my job is to be a father.
I do not help my wife to wash, spread or fold clothes, because the clothes are also mine and my children.
I am not a help at home, I am part of the house. And as for praising, I asked my friend when it was the last time after his wife finished cleaning the house, washing clothes, changing bed sheets, bathing her children, cooking, organizing, etc. You said thank you
But a thank you of the type: Wow, sweetheart !!! You are fantastic!!!
Does that seem absurd to you? Are you looking strange? When you, once in a lifetime, cleaned the floor, you expected in the least, a prize of excellence with great glory … why? You never thought about that, my friend?
Maybe because for you, the macho culture has shown that everything is her job.
Perhaps you have been taught that all this must be done without having to move a finger? Then praise her as you wanted to be praised, in the same way, with the same intensity. Give her a hand, behave like a true companion, not as a guest who only comes to eat, sleep, bathe and satisfy needs … Feel at home. In his house.
The real change of our society begins in our homes, let us teach our sons and daughters the real sense of fellowship! “
Author unknown but truly awesome…
I do not help my wife to cook because I also want to eat and I need to cook too.
I do not help my wife wash the dishes after eating because I also use those dishes.
I do not help my wife with her children because they are also my children and my job is to be a father.
I do not help my wife to wash, spread or fold clothes, because the clothes are also mine and my children.
I am not a help at home, I am part of the house. And as for praising, I asked my friend when it was the last time after his wife finished cleaning the house, washing clothes, changing bed sheets, bathing her children, cooking, organizing, etc. You said thank you
But a thank you of the type: Wow, sweetheart !!! You are fantastic!!!
Does that seem absurd to you? Are you looking strange? When you, once in a lifetime, cleaned the floor, you expected in the least, a prize of excellence with great glory … why? You never thought about that, my friend?
Maybe because for you, the macho culture has shown that everything is her job.
Perhaps you have been taught that all this must be done without having to move a finger? Then praise her as you wanted to be praised, in the same way, with the same intensity. Give her a hand, behave like a true companion, not as a guest who only comes to eat, sleep, bathe and satisfy needs … Feel at home. In his house.
The real change of our society begins in our homes, let us teach our sons and daughters the real sense of fellowship! “
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Top Tips To Keep Spiders Away
House spiders are invading homes across the uk as mating season begins.
An influx of giant house spiders have already crawled into the homes of unsuspecting householders and we’ll be seeing a lot more of them in the weeks to come.
September will see a large quantity of males leaving their hiding places to seek a mate. Their bite can penetrate human skin but its stinging venom is harmless to humans.
And with bodies that can measure up to three inches long, there’s every chance you will see it first.However, it only gets worse for arachnophobes, as these speedy creatures scurry at 1.18mph and once held the Guinness Book of Records top spider speed.
So good luck to budding exterminators, you are about to make some new friends this autumn, but here are some tips for keeping spiders away from the house.
Limit spider food – Clear away any dead flies, or other small crawling insects.Vacuum regularly – Always vacuum high and low, and make sure you target sheltered spots beneath worktops and behind cupboards and sofas.
Remove webs – Do this regularly, and remember to check the corners of the ceiling and in corners of picture frames and mirrors.Fill gaps – Make sure you fill the gaps between walls, pipework and under doors where possible.
Reposition sheltering sites – Spiders will look to tuck themselves away in firewood piles, garden bags and compost heaps, so put them at the bottom of the garden.Limit lighting – Insects are drawn to light, and flies and moths are ideal spider prey, so turn any outside lights off if you can.
Put them off the scent – Spiders don’t like the smell of citrus fruits like lemon, plus eucalyptus, tea-tree and peppermint oils. Try rubbing lemon peel around windows and doors, or spray the other scents around them.
Feline foe – A cat will try to catch a spider if it sees it – although owning a moggy won’t stop spiders coming indoors in the first place.
Coconut oil – mix some with water and spritz it around. Not only will the house smell nice but spiders don’t like it.Conkers? – An old wives tale says spiders don’t like conkers and placing them around the house will keep spiders at bay. While there’s no real evidence to back this up, it won’t hurt to try.
If all else fails move, burn the house down or train your children to remove them for you.



