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  • If You Kill An Unborn Child You Cannot Be Charged

    Jamies Bill:

    Our aim is to put a legislation into place or change the child destruction act (1929) that was made regarding backstreet abortions that used to take place, in the eyes of the law your child does not count as a victim of any crime unless your pregnancy has passed the 24 week gestation period, this means if you kill an unborn child you cannot be charged with the murder of that child, you cannot be charged with assaulting an unborn child.

    Many suffers of domestic abuse and those who have been assaulted have had premature labour induced as a result of this, premature labour carries many risks in itself however the perpetrator who committed this crime will not be charged with any extra assault charges or murder if the incident that took place happened before the 24 week mark, morally i know many will disagree with this however in the eyes of the law your child is not a person yet and therefore the perpetrator has not committed any offence by killing it and the only charges they will carry are those committed against the mother of the child.

    The law doesn’t see your child as a person until 24 weeks. A childs heart starts beating 22 days after conception, the heart beat is visible onscreen after 5 weeks, by 16 weeks you can find out the babies sex. Children should be recognised as life when their heart starts beating, the gestation time stated in the law should be moved to 16-18 weeks as that is when a baby stops being an “it” and starts becoming a “he” or a “she” this is when babies start becoming an individual and so this is when babies should be recognised as life. A new legislation needs to be put into place to protect those lives that can not yet protect themselves. So many mothers don’t get the privilege of raising the child that grew inside them due to no fault of their own, its a privilege every mother deserves and yet not every one gets to have.

    Here in the UK we do not yet have a law that covers crimes against unborn children before 24 weeks, the “unborn victims of violence act” under American law recognised unborn babies as victims of homicide at ANY stage of development not just 24 weeks and onwards. A similar legislation practiced by 38 states called “foeticide” also recognises those under 24 weeks as victims of crime.

    The child destruction act covers abortions after 24 weeks however abortion is legal under the Abortion act 1967 so adding a further legislation similar to the “unborn victims of violence act” does not directly effect abortion laws as the act protects those against CRIMES and due to the Abortion act- abortion is not a CRIME and therefore any who have an abortion before the 24 week mark stated in the law cannot be charged with the violence act as they have not committed a crime but any abortions after the 24 week mark is an offence in itself. I strongly believe we should put this “unborn victims of violence act” into practice to protect those lives who cannot yet protect themselves, any babies who die as a result of abuse, assault or any other related crimes should be recognised in a court of law. The law should put away abusers, assaulters and anyone else who causes a death of a baby after 16-18 weeks. The most basic human right is that everyone has the right to live and so real jail time needs to be available to everyone and anyone who takes this away especially from a defenceless child, together we can ensure that justice gets served for all the babies lost whilst their mother struggled against another, child destruction shouldn’t be so lenient, a life is a life and should be recognised as such by everyone

    Change the requirements for chargeable offences under the child destruction act or add the “unborn victims of violence act” to protect the lives of the innocent.

    https://www.change.org/p/the-government-change-the-law-on-child-destruction?utm_content=cl_sharecopy_18091795_en-GB%3Av5&recruiter=1019269408&recruited_by_id=636ca000-085f-11ea-9188-49f4043e48a7&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=copylink&utm_campaign=psf_combo_share_initial&share_bandit_exp=initial-18091795-en-GB&share_bandit_var=v1

  • She Called Herself Worthless

    “Today I had one of the hardest experiences with my client who I am keeping anonymous, I had a 16-year-old girl come in who has been dealing with severe depression for a few years now.

    She got to the point where she felt so down and so worthless she couldn’t even brush her hair, she told me she only got up to use the restroom. She starts back at school in a few weeks but she has her school pictures today. When she walked in she told us, ‘Just cut it all off, I can’t deal with the pain of combing it out.’

    She called herself worthless for it. It honestly broke my heart and we tried everything we could to keep this child’s hair for her! At the end of the day I want this to be a lesson to people. MENTAL HEALTH is a thing, it effects people all around the world and of all ages! PARENTS take it seriously, don’t just push your kids off and tell them to get over something they legitimately can’t. A CHILD should NEVER feel so worthless to not even want to brush their hair.

    After being here 8 hours yesterday and 5 hours today we finally made this beautiful girl smile and feel like she IS worth something! Her last words to me were:

    ‘I will actually smile for my school pictures today, you made me feel like me again.’ ” ❤️

    Credit: Kayley Olsson

  • No Child Is The Same But Please Second Born Child Go To Sleep

    Why can’t you sleep?

    Have you ever heard the saying ‘no child is the same’ ? When I found out I was pregnant with my second daughter I thought it was going to be a breeze, just like it was with my first. She slept through the night from 5weeks and was in her own room by 3months (with me checking on her every 5minutes and constantly watching the baby monitor).

    Then that’s when I heard this saying for the first time, I didn’t think anything of it, is just thought ‘oh it’s fine I will get her into a routine from a young age and she will sleep through the night just like her big sister’ well how wrong was I?

    I got into the routine of either letting her sleep on me or tapping her bum to get her to sleep. She would wake in the night and I would just tap her bum or pick her up – big mistake! I decided to put her in her big sisters bedroom and hope she would sleep through.

    She slept a lot better, she went every 4-5hours instead of every hour. This was an improvement, I was happy. She started to get older and nap less and less but still didn’t go through the whole night. I tried everything. She is now 2 and half.

    She gets up every morning without fail at 6am, no matter how many times she got up during the night before she still gets up at that time. She no longer naps and goes to bed at 6pm at night. No matter how late she goes to bed or how much I wear her out during the day she does not sleep through the night. No matter what I do she don’t sleep longer that 4hours. So next time you hear that saying, don’t be silly like me and think your child will be like their older sibling.. because I can tell you now, they won’t!

  • How Can You Not Worry When Your Child Has Just Died

    A parents worst nightmare

    It was a normal Sunday evening. We had a busy morning me and my daughter. We went to the zoo and then she had a birthday party in the afternoon. We got home and she said she didn’t feel very well, so I told her to go and lay on the sofa, chill and watch some television.

    I finished my washing and cleaning the kitchen and went and joined her for cuddles before bath and bed. She had her head in my lap and I was thoughtlessly playing with her hair whilst watching a film she enjoyed.

    Then all of a sudden she felt awfully still, I thought maybe she was asleep? Tad bit annoyed because she needed a bath for school the next day so I stroked her face trying to wake her. She didn’t respond. I stood up and she just flopped onto the sofa, ok now I was worried.

    I put her on the floor in the recovery position to which she didn’t stay in. She started having a seizure. Right there in front of my eyes. I rang 999 and told them they need to get here, I couldn’t talk.

    I couldn’t get the words out what was happening. I gave them my address and a agonisingly long 4minutes had passed and they was here. She had to be sedated. We got into the ambulance and she had another seizure, this time it was only for a couple of minutes and then she went still, dead still.

    I have never seen people move so fast. Her heart had stopped, felt like mine did too. They were able to get her heart pumping again as we arrived at the hospital. I was told I wasn’t allowed in with her until she was settled and they had done tests.

    It turned out my daughter had a ear infection and a chest infection. Not once did she complain about any pain in her ear or have any sort of cough. They gave her antibiotics and said she would make a full recovery and no sign of any brain damage or anything to worry about. WORRY ABOUT?! My daughter just died a few hours before and they don’t want me to worry?

    The also informed me it was not a seizure it was another febrile convulsion but this one just made her heart stop, it was too much for her. I felt guilty for the anger, for not knowing she had an ear infection and chest infection. As a mother I will always blame myself when it comes to my daughter. As a mother this was the worst day of my life.

  • I Am So Scared When My Daughter Gets Sick

    I’m scared when my daughter gets sick.

    Everyone gets sick. The young, the old, the rich and the poor it’s just the way of life. I never really gave it a second thought until my daughter caught a chest infection.

    This was a normal thing for her, she has a weak immune system and got every cough, cold and sickness going around. I had learned to live with it up until she was about 18months she caught her usual chest infection, back on the antibiotics again.

    She couldn’t go to nursery because she was not on them for long enough so my friend had her for the day while I went to my FIRST DAY back at work. I was so excited but so scared to leave her.

    The day went brilliant, I rang my friend on my lunch break and everything was fine. I then finish work at 5, to 10missed calls and a lot of texts and a video of my baby girl helplessly laying on the sofa. My daughter had been rushed into hospital because she had a raging temperature and was having a febrile convulsion.

    I went straight to hospital obviously but what I didn’t do was prepare myself for what I was about to see. My beautiful little girl laying on the bed with tubes coming out from her. She was not breathing on her own, she just laid there, still with nothing but a nappy on.

    Nothing would ever prepare me for that moment, I crashed to the floor and just cried. I just wanted to cuddle her and tell her that I loved her so much and I was sorry I wasn’t there. So much was going through my mind, I was blaming myself for everything. Why did I go to work? Why did I leave her?

    What sort of mother leaves their sick child? I couldn’t answer these questions, even to this day I can’t. I just wanted a better life for my daughter, a life I dreamed of and never got.

    A long 12hours passed and she started to breathe on her own, she woke up! She was groggy and just wanted the tubes and everything out but she was breathing! A few days had passed and she was getting stronger and stronger, eating well and keeping food down.

    The next day she was allowed home! A few months passed and she got tonsillitis, I have never been so scared in my life. More convulsions and more hospital trips. This happened for a few years. No matter what I did to keep her temperature down when she had a infection, nothing worked.

    I asked her to be tested for epilepsy but they wouldn’t allow it because she would only have these convulsions when she had some sort of infection and a high temperature. She is now nearly 7 and has not had a convulsion since October 2016. Even though it has been nearly 4years I still get scared when she gets sick.

    Credit Vickii Mallett

  • This Is The Child Who Is Too Loud, Too Disruptive

    This is the child.

    The one we say is too loud, too quiet, too distracted, too active, too shy, too stubborn, too immature, too disruptive, too slow…just, too difficult.

    The one we label a problem. The one we try to change.

    But I can assure you this child doesn’t want to be a problem. And I can assure you he lies awake at night wondering how to make that change happen.

    See, it’s not that this child doesn’t understand what is expected of him. He really does. It’s that he finds the path that leads to meeting those expectations suffocating to the point of being impassable.

    We’ve set a single standard for what every child should learn, where and how they should learn it, when they should have it learned by, and how they need to go about proving that they have. This standard is non-negotiable and unrelenting for more than a decade of their formative years. How they perform against it becomes central to their life narrative, laying a permanent lens over how they see themselves among family, friends and their community. It becomes a key part of how other people describe them. It almost defines their self-confidence and mental health as it weaves its way into the fabric of their lives.

    And this child…this is the one who day after day, week after week, year after year has to find a way to make things work in an environment that is completely at odds with the way his brain was wired before he was even born.

    This child is not a problem. This child, just like the millions of others like him, does not need to change.

    What we expect of him, however, does.

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/starkravingdad/

  • If You Own This Bath Seat Please Throw It Away

    Smyths Toys Superstores TO EVERYONE WHO OWNS THIS BATH SEAT PLEASE THROW AWAY IMMEDIATELY!! BOUGHT FROM SMYTHS IN BLACKPOOL.

    Tonight I was bathing Olivia, she managed to get her self stuck with two legs between one hole! There is no way of releasing the bath seat legs incase your baby gets stuck. Olivia was screaming for an hour and is now very shaken. After trying to get her out the bath seat Kalum Smith had to phone the fire brigade to cut her out of the seat as there was no way to get her out!!!

    The fire brigade had to cut her out using specialist equipment as there was no way of getting her out!!!

    If You Own This Bath Seat Please Throw It Away
    If You Own This Bath Seat Please Throw It Away

    After reading online about this bath seat many others have had the same problem and have had to get the fire brigade out to cut there child out of this seat!!!!! This bath seat called safety first is definitely not safe, what if the baby slips and gets stuck???? There’s no way of getting them out !!! The material of the bath seat is extremely slippy!!! Will be sticking with the angel care bath seat as much more safer!!

    I have never been so scared in my life panicking about Olivia, her legs are still bright red and she was screaming in pain!

    PLEASE SHARE I WANT EVERYONE TO KNOW HOW DANGEROUS THIS BATH SEAT IS!!!!

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/jessy.cookson

     

  • Leaving Your Childs Door Open At Night Can Be Deadly

    2 a.m. and you’re sound asleep. You’re kids are down the hallway and you remembered to shut their door after you tucked them in. You shut your door too. You can’t hear them, but you realize that what would you expect to hear at 2 a.m.?

    Their room is safe. They can’t fall far off their beds. Their floor is padded carpet. They’ll be ok. You told yourself it’s ok that their door and yours is closed. If they need you, they can come to you. It’s a good thing you listened. 2:02 a.m. and the next thing you know you’re wide awake hearing the smoke alarm going off.

    Fear freezes you, and you think straight to getting to your children. You bolt for the door and as soon as you open it, heavy, hot smoke pours in and forces you to close it. You can’t go that way. You call 911. You’re able to get out the window. You meet the firefighters in the front yard when they arrive.

    Leaving Your Childs Door Open At Night Can Be Deadly
    Leaving Your Childs Door Open At Night Can Be Deadly

    You tell them your children are in that front window in their bedroom. You did your part and shut the door. The firefighters did their part too. They trained for this exact scenario. They get to work and throw the ladder and get inside that window. No smoke pours out of the window as they go in because the door inside was closed.

    The next thing you see is your kids being handed to the firefighter on the ladder. They’re crying, but their safe. No burns. No cuts or bruises. They’re perfectly safe. After the fire is out, the Captain shows you through the house and praises you for shutting the door. You see first-hand the outside of the door that stopped all the heat and smoke from hurting your children and you. It’s black and scarred.

    The inside is almost perfectly white. Almost no smoke got inside. You did your part and closed before you dozed. You gave us, the fire department time, and we did our part. We kept a family together tonight instead of having to tell a mother her children are dead, or a child that mommy won’t be coming back. Good for you. Now spread the word to everyone else. Let’s give every family this chance. #closebeforeyoudoze #firefighterrescue #familiestogether #werecomingforyou

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100009462775639

     

  • Remembering Life Before Children

    “It’s 3am and the baby cries,

    You look at your partner but he’s got work at sunrise.

    You get annoyed at him for laying there and sleeping,

    The baby monitor starts flashing and beeping.

    You try and wake up but your body protests,

    The milk is already soaking your pyjama vest.

    You remember the life you think you’ve lost,

    Everything has changed now but at what cost?

    It’s 3am and you know what this used to mean,

    Dancing and parties, following your dreams.

    You think about all the things you used to enjoy,

    All the stuff that happened before your little boy.

    You remember how your body used to be,

    No stretch marks, no wobbles, no imperfections to see.

    The housework was always up to date, the washing always clean,

    There were days where you never had to question hygiene.

    You remember the people you met, the ones you don’t see anymore,

    The friends who forgot about you and yours.

    The invites stopped because you became a mum,

    Didn’t you know motherhood is lonely, as a rule of thumb?

    But it’s 3am and the baby cries,

    He looks up and you with those big hazel eyes.

    He stops his tears and a big grin appears on his face,

    You’re his mother, his lifeline, his safe place.

    Everything has changed, yes that’s true,

    But this little bundle looks up to you.

    He doesn’t care what you’re wearing or how you look,

    Motherhood replaced the life this baby took.

    It’s hard, challenging and a difficult feat,

    But there no better sound than his little heartbeat.

    So hold him close and forget about every mindless thing,

    Life is better than before, happiness is just for you and your little king.”

    – Beautiful words and artwork by @Levi Duvall Thompson

     

  • Dear Mom And Dad I Died Today

    Dear Mom and Dad,

    I died today. You got tired of me and took me to the shelter. They were overcrowded and I drew an unlucky number. I am in a black plastic bag in a landfill now. Some other puppy will get the barely used leash you left. My collar was dirty and too small, but the lady took it off before she sent me to the Rainbow Bridge .

    Would I still be at home if I hadn’t chewed your shoe? I didn’t know what it was, but it was leather, and it was on the floor. I was just playing. You forgot to get puppy toys.

    Would I still be at home if I had been housebroken? Rubbing my nose in what I did only made me ashamed that I had to go at all. There are books and obedience teachers that would have taught you how to teach me to go to the door.

    Would I still be at home if I hadn’t brought fleas into the house? Without anti-flea medicine, I couldn’t get them off of me after you left me in the yard for days.

    Would I still be at home if I hadn’t barked? I was only saying, “I’m scared, I’m lonely, I’m here, I’m here! I want to be your best friend.”

    Would I still be at home if I had made you happy? Hitting me didn’t make me learn how.

    Would I still be at home if you had taken the time to care for me and to teach manners to me? You didn’t pay attention to me after the first week or so, but I spent all my time waiting for you to love me.

    I died today.

    Love, Your Puppy

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