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  • When Will I See The Baby?

    “When can I come see the baby?”

    A question new moms might hear over and over.

    At least at first.

    Sometimes before she has left the hospital.

    Before she has had a chance to sleep.

    Before she has even showered off the blood.

    “When can I come see the baby?”

    Her phone dings while she settles back in to her home with a brand new human – to her brand new normal.

    Her estrogen and progesterone levels are plummeting from the highest they’ve ever been to the lowest. She is shaky and hot and cold and sweaty and weak.

    Whether she chooses to breastfeed or not, her milk is coming in and she is sore and engorged.

    Whether she delivered vaginally or by c-section, her uterus will be contracting for days and weeks. Sometimes it’s as painful as labor.

    She’s bleeding and will continue to bleed for up to six weeks post-delivery.

    Her crotch is swollen and puffy and sore, or her incision is painful, or both.

    She is struggling to go to the bathroom – and she pees her pants (or pad) when she laughs, sneezes, and coughs.

    Her core muscles are weak, making lifting ANYthing hard.

    She’s starving. Endlessly starving.

    She has stretch marks and varicose veins, hair loss and acne, blurry vision and dry eyes. She sees a stranger in the mirror.

    She is totally and utterly exhausted. She hasn’t slept for more than an hour at a time in days or weeks.

    Any independence she had – to run errands, go to work, shower, eat, pee, sleep – has been suspended for now.

    So when you walk into her house, look at HER first.

    Give her space to heal, to bond, and to rest if she needs it.

    Be there if she needs it.

    Offer to help her.

    And then help her.

    Admire the baby, sure.

    But don’t forget to nurture the mother.

    Credit Nicolle Godor

  • 30 Things The B*stards Never Tell You About Childbirth

    30 THINGS THE B*STARDS NEVER TELL YOU ABOUT CHILDBIRTH

    #1 It hurts.

    #2 No. It REALLY f*cking hurts.

    #3 Imagine simultaneously stubbing your toe while standing on an upturned plug adjacent to a piece of Lego.

    #4 Now multiply that level of pain by TWELVE MILLION.

    (#5 Obviously every woman is different, it doesn’t hurt that much for everyone, some simply “blow the pain away”, and it’s “more pressure than pain” in certain cases.)

    (#6 But for the remaining 99.99999% of us: it f*cking hurts.)

    #7 C sections are by no means the easy option. Have you ever tried taking sole responsibility for the life of another completely helpless human being after any other form of major surgery?

    #8 It doesn’t matter how much you love and trust your birth partner. By the time you are around 95% of the way through the childbirth process, writhing in agony as they stand there, blissfully pain free…you will want to f*cking MAIM THEM.

    #9 Midwives are saints in human form. Anaesthetists even more so.

    #10 Bar epidurals, pretty much all other forms of pain relief that they offer you in labour are about as effective as soothing an amputated limb with a squirt of antiseptic spray and a dinosaur plaster.

    #11 Before going into labour, you will spend a disproportionate amount of time packing your hospital bag, which will contain roughly the amount of items you would need if embarking to set up life on a deserted island in the middle of the ocean.

    #12 You will use roughly 0.21% of these items.

    #13 You will also have spent days, if not weeks, planning the perfect outfit to wear in childbirth which will allow you to labour comfortably whilst still retaining your modesty.

    #14 By the time your cervix has reached 10cm of dilation, your modesty will have fled several hours ago, pursued by a bear, and you could be giving birth wearing nipple tassles and a gimp mask, with an audience of thousands, for all you care.

    #15 You will panic that you will poo yourself in labour.

    #16 And you will poo yourself in labour, by which point you will not give a shit. (Pun entirely intended.) About anything. At all. Ever.

    #17 Speaking of which, childbirth is basically just like having a really big poo.

    #18 If that poo was the size of a badger. And made of barbed wire. And doused with Original Source Mint and Tea Tree shower gel. And came out wielding the upper limbs of Edward Scissorhands.

    #19 Once you’ve had the baby, you have to have the placenta, which all the books kind of gloss over and suggest you won’t notice, because you’ll be so wrapped up in your new baby. For the record, there is nothing I have ever been so wrapped up in, EVER, that means I would fail to notice several pounds of raw flesh falling out of my front bottom.

    #20 Oh, and just when you think it’s all over?

    #21 Stitches.

    #22 And afterpains.

    #23 STITCHES AND MOTHERF*CKING AFTERPAINS.

    #24 F*ck’s sake.

    #25 The first post-birth wee is almost as terrifying as giving birth.

    #26 And don’t get me started on the first post-birth poo.

    #27 Which basically IS giving birth, all over again.

    #28 It is, of course, all totally worth it ♥️

    #29 But those people who tell you that “I just forgot the pain, the moment it was over”?

    #30 Are lying f*cking bastards.

    Credit: www.twitter.com/IKINTST

     

  • A Letter From An Old Mother Of Boys To A New One

    ~ A LETTER FROM AN OLD MOTHER OF BOYS…TO A NEW ONE ~

    Dearest Meghan,

    If you could see my uterus, it’s probably blue. And has a beard. Because this baby factory only makes boys.

    Parenting someone of the opposite sex brings challenges you’re just going to have to adapt to, so as a mother of two humans with Y chromosomes, here are my top tips for mothering males:

    Firstly, it’s true, boys ARE less drama than girls but you know what? They’re harder to keep alive. You’ve basically got yourself a rabid raccoon on speed, Megs.

    Please rethink your standards of ‘safety’. Stock up on Betadine and Band-Aids. My five year old’s favourite toy right now is a mini tomahawk, while my eldest’s latest obsession is firing a cross bow and arrow into an abandoned tyre. Need I say more.

    While we’re on the topic of weaponry, get ready for Frogmore Cottage to be buried in mountains of Nerf gun bullets. On the plus side, they double as really great foam earplugs, which you’ll need to combat the NOISE LEVELS you’re about to experience. So stock up on noise cancelling headphones or learn transcendental meditation. You decide.

    Let’s talk about your wardrobe. Burn all of your white clothes. That is all.

    Most importantly, you must think farts are funny. If you laugh with your son, you’ll all benefit. If you try to get him to stop laughing about them, it will only make matters worse.

    You must also be cool with nudity. My boys strip off the moment they get home from school. Forget everything Oprah and The Dalai Lama ever said – jocks + socks are the true key to happiness. And LOTS of food – get your Duchessy mitts on an Aldi trolley token and go nuts. (My nine year old could go head to head with a Japanese competitive eater.)

    Last but not least: ‘The Grab’. I’m talking about the doodle, the zizi, the King Dingaling – whatever you want to call it. Get used to it being man-handled 24/7. I have literally been forced to utter the phrase “Stop wrapping your penis around your fork.” May the force be with you.

    Yours,

    Lise Carlaw

  • ICandy Serious Safety Warning

    * WARNING : ICANDY ORANGE OWNERS *

    Anyone who owns an iCandy Orange pushchair please please visit the icandy website and check if your batch is one which has a safety warning.

    At the weekend, our little 21 month old princess got her finger trapped in the ‘safety cross bar’ on the pushchair! I’m not one to exaggerate, but believe me when I say the end of her finger was almost sliced off. We were on a bank holiday weekend away and were having a family day at Twin Lakes when this happened. It was such a traumatic experience and I still feel physically sick and can’t get it out of my head. The thought of what our little girl went through, I can’t even comprehend.

    We’ve had our pushchair for 2 years, but icandy were only aware of this manufacturing fault in January (this year). Apparently John Lewis (where we brought ours) and mothercare were notified and we should have been made aware of the problem and issued with a new safety bar….we were NOT made aware and NEVER received a replacement bar. John lewis do not have this recall on their website. The fault is a missing safety cap!

    Our girl has a fractured index finger bone and a severe wound. I decided not to post a photo of the finger itself, as it is extremely disturbing. However, these 2 photos are of my little girls blood ridden outfit and my t shirt…this gives you some idea of the severity of the injury.

    If you know anyone with an early model of the icandy orange…please make them aware immediately. Thanks for reading…

    Leon Delegate

  • Please Vaccinate Your Children I Beg You

    PLEASE READ AND SHARE WITH ALL PARENTS. THANK YOU.

    The Doctors and Nurses at Chelsea West hospital have asked if we will share photos of Alba to educate about vaccinations.

    Posting these heartbreaking images of our beautiful baby girl who contracted MEASLES is extremely difficult, we are still in hospital 8 days after being admitted.

    She was too young for her MMR vaccination when she got sick which meant she has had to fight this killer virus with no immunity.

    Measles is not “just a rash” it can cause blindness, encephalitis and pneumonia.

    We need to do more people. Get your children vaccinated.

    Please Vaccinate Your Children I Beg You
    Please Vaccinate Your Children I Beg You

    The MMR does not cause life threatening issues like Measles does. Your babies might feel under the weather for a day or so but believe me you’d accept that over what we have been through.

    It has been absolutely horrific watching our daughter fight this with her eyes swollen shut for 4 days. She has been in the dark, scared with a high fever that lasted for over two weeks. In hospital she has been scanned, X-rayed poked prodded bloods taken, lumbar punctures done, canulars fitted, swabs taken, ECG Eccos, obs done every 20 mins, tube fed, on a drip, oxygen, pumped full of drugs, anti inflammatory pain relief antibiotics you name it she’s had it. The truth is this all could have been prevented if the protection layer of older kids above Alba had been vaccinated.

    Educate yourselves, talk about it, spread the word SHARE THIS POST. Do whatever you need to do because without the care of Chelsea and west Doctors our beautiful baby would not be here today.

    All of the tests that were done in hospital were imperative to determine what was wrong with Alba, even though the Doctors thought it was measles from the start she deteriorated fast and was extremely poorly. Alba was also showing symptoms of Kawasaki disease, possible meningitis and of course secondary infections amongst other illnesses that come with measels.

    ***THIS POST IS ABOUT EDUCATING PEOPLE ABOUT MEASLES AND WHAT THE VIRUS CAN DO TO TINY VULNERABLE BODIES***

    We appreciate all the love and support coming our way. Thank you ♥️

    #healthprotectionteam #mmr #getvaccinated

    Credit Jilly Moss

     

  • This Is The Greatest Stage Of Life

    ….this stage of life is beautiful, too. Like, really really beautiful. This is the stage of life where every single older person you ever meet tells you, “you’re going to miss this”. And you already know it’s true. It’s the stage where your kids love you more than they are EVER going to love you again, for the whole rest of your life.

    It’s the stage where they can fit their entire selves into your lap to snuggle…and they want to. It’s the stage where their biggest problems are ear infections and teething and stomach viruses, and you’re not having to deal yet with things like broken hearts or addiction or bullying.

    It’s the stage where you are learning to love your spouse in an entirely different… harder… better… way. The stage where you are learning together, being stretched together, shedding your selfishness together, and TRULY being made into “one”.

    It’s the stage where you get to see Christmas, Halloween and the Fourth of July through your kids eyes, and it’s so much more fun and magical than it would be just through your own eyes. It’s the stage where you get to watch your parents be grandparents…and they’re really good at it. It’s the stage of life filled with field trips, class parties, costumes, swim lessons, bubble baths, dance parties, loose teeth, and first steps. And those things are so fun. It’s the stage where you are young enough to have fun, and old enough to have obtained at least some wisdom. It’s SUCH a great stage.

    Amber Johnson

  • Company Changing Babies Skin Colour

    This truly upset me and I hope anyone who follows or purchases from this company (PatPat)will reconsider.

    This beautiful baby had the colour of her skin and eyes lightened as well as makeup photo shopped on to her face. I read that her mother was also upset about this. What message does this send? Light skin is not more beautiful than dark skin. Light eyes are not better and a baby should never be photoshopped and sexualized in this way. I hope this company loses a lot of business for this choice. And I don’t EVER post negative things like this. This just cant be accepted.

    PatPat is an online childrens clothing company who also have an app.

    This is a multi faceted issue. One issue is the message being sent to beautiful little girls of color telling them they aren’t perfect just the way they are. The other issue is the way our society is sexualizing children and robbing them of innocence and purity.

    Both are equally tragic realities of the world we live in and must change.

     

     

    CreditAshley Grimm

  • Test For Parvovirus To Prevent Another Babies Death

    A very close friend and her Husband lost their beautiful baby girl Sophie in December 2018 due to the Parvovirus not being detected before childbirth, her 40 hours on this earth were so precious to those around her, but her chances would have been doubled and more If she could have been treated in the womb. 

    Require a routine blood test during pregnancy for ParvovirusB19

    ParvovirusB19 affects between 2500 and 5000 pregnancies each year in the EU. The disease is easily diagnosed and advances in the treatment can increase the chance of foetal survival. Currently blood tests are not routinely checked for this disease.

    Parvovirus B19 is a virus that commonly infects children. It is usually transmitted by coughing and sneezing (respiratory droplets). Hand washing is important in helping to prevent spread. School teachers, childcare workers and mothers of young children are particularly likely to be exposed to this virus as it is commonest amongst younger school age children, but everyone can be exposed to it.

    For most healthy people, Parvovirus B19 causes a mild, self-limiting illness which is followed by life-long immunity.
    The Human Parvovirus B19 is not the same Parvovirus that vets may be concerned about in pets, especially dogs, and it cannot be passed from humans to animals or vice versa.

    In women who are not immune, infection in the first 20 weeks of pregnancy can lead to serious problems for your baby before it is born. This would usually happen three to five weeks after the onset of maternal infection, but can be later

    Please sign the petition below

    https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/243867

  • My Baby Was Decapitated But No Charges Are Being Made

    My son Steven died on 16/3/14 after he was decapitated by Dr Vaishnavy Laxman at Ninewells hospital. I was only 2-3 cms with low lying placenta and my son was in breech position. But she refused to carry out a C-section telling me to push. Medics even questioned her decision throughout my terrifying and devastating experience.

    Afterwards prosecutors wrote to me stating that the current law in Scotland means that because my son didn’t take a breath, he does not have a legal identity-he is stillborn- therefore there would be no criminal case or fatal accident inquiry. If I had been given a C-section then my son could have taken a breath however due to being decapitated it was made impossible.

    Every baby deserves to be classed as a person with a legal persona and therefore entitled to a thorough legal investigation into their death to ensure no criminal acts have taken place. There are loads of other cases I’ve read about where blunders have taken place in hospitals resulting in the death of babies but nothing can be done and no one is held accountable because they are classed as stillborn. Lets make a change ,update the outdated laws and help all of the mummies and daddies like myself and Steven’s father fight for justice for our babies.

    Please join and support me

    Thank you

    https://www.change.org/p/scottish-parliament-a-legal-identity-for-stillborns?recruiter=502566683&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=copylink&utm_campaign=psf_combo_share_message.pacific_abi_gmail_send.variation.pacific_abi_select_all_contacts.select_all.pacific_email_copy_en_gb_4.v1.pacific_email_copy_en_us_4.control.pacific_email_copy_en_us_3.control.lightning_share_by_medium_message.control.lightning_2primary_share_options_more.control.foLvxHtEQYyluc3njkZ6Aw.1&utm_term=share_petition

  • Woman Claims Her Baby Is Black Because Her White Husband Drank Coffee

    A young, white woman who was 24 years of age gave birth to a baby weighing 3.5 kg, at the University Hospital of Valencia (Spain), . Contrary to the common sigh of relief and cry of happiness, everyone was amazed when the white woman gave birth to a black baby while her white husband was present.

    Even if the husband is also white, the strange thing is that the baby was born black. After the childbirth, in the room, the young man asked the wife for explanations. “I am not racist, I have nothing against other races, but she has betrayed me.” She replied: “I did not betray you, you drink coffee day and night”

    The medical team initially thought the baby was purple due to respiratory failure, but soon realized that it was a happy and healthy black baby.

    They might even have a black relative in their family and a genetic mutation could have combined those genes, but that was not the case.

    The father is awaiting dna results to come back, but the mother is adamant the baby is his and coffee is the factor in the skin colour of their child.

    Now we at Mums advice are not medically trained but we are pretty sure coffee doesn’t change skin colour whilst in the womb, we feel someone is possibly lying hmmmm….