Welcome to Mums Advice

Category: Our stories

  • Emily Ratajkowski Fat Shaming

    I’m not sure if you guys have seen this but, Emily Ratajkowski has been getting a lot of back lash over a simple picture she posted on her Instagram. She has been accused of “fat shaming” her friend Caitlin King in the photo by posing next to her.

    Caitlin is a close friend of Emily’s and is supporting her brand by wearing Emily’s swimwear. Emily has responded to some of the “trolls” who are shaming her.

    My opinion, in no way do I believe that Emily is fat shaming. 1) I think the people who are calling her out as fat shaming are in fact the fat shammers. Because they are assuming that Caitlin thinks she’s being brought down by Emily’s picture and are in fact commenting on her body. 2) it’s just an innocent picture. It’s not that deep! The girl captioned the picture “beach buns”. She didn’t say “hey, look at my fat friend!” And finally 3) in some of the comments they’re saying that they’d “bang” Caitlin over Emily any day. Now I think that that’s taking it too far. I know they’re probably making her feel better and stating their opinion, but constantly saying they prefer a body type over another is just as bad as accusing fat shaming in this way.

    I think both girls are beautiful, confidence is sexy and if I even had a slither of either body type, I’d be the same!! But I’m happy on my own skin and think I’m also beautiful. If anyone is feeling down about their body, don’t be! You’re beautiful in every single way! Don’t let awful remarks put you down! Jealousy is ugly, confidence is sexy 🥰

  • Being Able To Hold My Angel Baby After He Grew His Wings Was Everything To Me

    On the 16th December 2018 myself and partner Gary  had the most beautiful baby boy. They named him Auley James and he was absolutely perfect In so many ways. 

    Sadly, Auley was far too precious for this life. 

    After several scans and speaking to lots of professionals the devastating words were spoken….. there was nothing more they could do. As you can imagine this was heartbreaking for Myself Gary & both families and friends.  

    Auley was then transferred from the QEUH to Robin House in Balloch to be comfortable in his final hours.  
     
    Sadly on the 31st December 2018 the most adorable angel grew his wings and set off on his new journey in heaven.  

    Robin House was the most amazing place for myself , Gary and our 3 girls.  

    Robin House is operated by CHAS which is a tremendous organisation founded over 20 years ago and has been offering full family support services to babies, children and young people with life shortening conditions. CHAS are committed to making sure that no matter how short their time together may be, it is a time filled with happiness and fun and they certainly fulfilled this for Myself , Gary and the girls during the week they stayed at Robin house. The girls had a blast and although Auley has passed it was not a problem to spend any time with him. 

    The Support Team at Robin House are second to none. The attention to detail, care and support given was amazing and this helped Myself and Gary immensely, especially having the three girls and trying to keep life as normal as possible for them. Although they knew their baby brother had gone to heaven Myself and Gary didn’t want them to think of this as a bad place and the staff in Robin House helped them achieve that.    
    You couldn’t put a price on the support, care and attention Auley received during his final hours as  well as the aftercare for Myself , Gary and the girls, so we have decided to raise money for Chas – Robin House in the hope that it will help all the other boys , girls & families at a horrible time in their life.  

    Auley touched so many peoples hearts and he will be remembered by everyone who met him in their own special way.  Myself and Gary are so proud to have had the most amazing wee warrior who fought till the very end. The wee guy will always be remembered with lots of love. 

     #AngelAuley

    Hi folks…..Myself and my partner are hosting a fundraiser in memory of our son who passed away on hogmanay this year aged 2 weeks. All money raised will be going to CHAS-Robin House which is children’s hospice for those kids with life shortening illnesses and they also provide end of life care and support not just for the child but also for the family.

    If you would like to support their cause please follow the below link

    https://www.gofundme.com/robin-house-chas?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=fb_dn_cpgntopstickysmall_r

  • How I Got Revenge On My Cheating Husband

    My name is Marie and I would like to share with you all the worst thing I’ve ever done, at the time I was so proud of it and felt I was in the right.

    My husband of 7 years and I were very happy together…I thought!

    We had a mortgage, a 3-year-old little girl and were expecting our second daughter in the next few months.

    My husband worked long hours and for the past four months he seemed to be working more and more, he was barely at home but his wage slips didn’t seem to show the extra work he was putting it.

    I knew in my heart something was amiss, I decided to track his phone, and 3 times in one week he was at the same address in Surrey (20 minutes from our home) I arranged for someone to mind our daughter and I investigated,.

    The sight I saw shocked me, my husband was in the arms of another woman, I got back in my car and drove home in tears, how could he do this? How could he ruin our perfect little family? Bastard!!!!

    He had ruined my life and I needed to get some form of revenge, revenge for all the lies, revenge for the struggles I would now have to face alone.

    I popped to the coop and bought 3 tins of sweet corn and ate them all, the following day I pooped into a sieve, put on a pair of rubber gloves and picked out each shit filled corn!!!

    I messaged my husband and told him not to be late that evening as I was cooking his favourite “tuna pasta bake”.

    A nice load of pasta, a tin of tuna, white sauce and shit filled sweet corn!!!

    He ate lots of it, he licked his lips, he smiled, he told me I looked beautiful.

    I replied with “how’s life at number ** Crown road? You’ve left my life in the shit, but you have just consumed my shit filled corn”.

    He put down his fork and pulled a part a piece of the sweet corn, he turned a lovely pale colour and ran to the bathroom to vomit.

    When he returned I led him through to the sitting room and pointed to his bags, he left in silence.

    I am not proud of what I did but at the time it made me feel empowered.

    It’s been 2 years since the tuna bake off, he is single as am I but we are on good terms and he is a very good father to our children, the only permanent damage I did was put him off sweet corn for life

  • I’m Dating A Married Man And It Makes Me Feel So Insecure

    I’m dating a married man and it makes me feel so insecure.

    Before you all start to judge me, I am not a home wrecking whore, I did not steal my man from another woman, my boyfriend is not with his wife but they are still very much married.

    His wife lives in her home with their children and he has his own property, they split nearly a decade ago, so why do I hate that legally they are still married?

    I feel that him still being married is a breach of a contract, we cannot have a future together whilst he still has his first loves ring in his underwear drawer.

    She will always be a part of his life which is only right as they have produced children together but surely after 10 years they would both want closure.

    I always have this fear that whilst they are still married he is still deep down hoping that one day they could reignite their flame.

    Am I being irrational wanting him to be divorced, am I over thinking the whole thing? wanting him to be more available? Wanting to one day to be his wife? Wanting her gone from the underwear drawer?

    Please let me know your thoughts and views in the comments section, Thanks Anon x

  • Maybe You Should Know The Facts Before You Judge Michael Jackson

    Just a heads up for anybody who has 4 hours to waste to listen to people lie about being sexually abused, maybe you should get to know some facts first before letting the media give you a biased opinion.

    For a start the alleged ‘victims’ have both previously swore under oath and signed declarations to say that nothing inappropriate ever happened.

    Wade Robson, the self-proclaimed ‘master of deception.’ His own Mother said he could get an Oscar for his lies, was a key witness in the 2005 trial and helped Michael be acquitted. He continued to praise Michael and use his name for his career until 2012 when work dried up. He even personally emailed Michael’s nephew and asked if him and his family could go to his memorial.

    He wanted to be successful and got the opportunity to be a film director of a dance film. It got too much for him so he tried to get a job on a famous Michael dance show called ‘One’ when they found someone who was more appropriate to replace him he turned sour and all of a sudden realised he was sexually abused for 7 years. If you do watch the documentary you will see him burn some memorabilia from Michael, it must be that repressed memory again because an Julian’s auction house came forward the day after it aired and said he had sold the items to them in 2011 and tried to remain anonymous but they wouldn’t allow it. 😂

    He tried to sue Michael’s estate for millions and it got thrown out of court as there is no evidence and he has left it too late, not to forget the fact he has previously swore under oath, which is perjury. The reason they have done the documentary is because they are now in debt to the estate and are desperate for people to believe them. Believe what you want, but I 100 percent personally believe the man was innocent and was proven so in the 2005 trial. Not to mention the FBI followed him for ten years and found nothing. This is all about money and someone so desparate to be known and trying to stay relevant. It is so convenient that it’s coming up to his 10 year death anniversary too.

    It’s sad when we are moving forward with sexual abuse with things like the #metoo movement that proven liars, get away with slandering a dead man, but as Michael once said;

    ‘Lies run sprints but the truth runs marathons.’

    #anythinganythingformoney #proveninnocent #channel4shameonyoufactsdontliepeopledo

    Full Credit Laura Marie Mckimm

  • Female Paedophile Walks Free Even After Saying Babies Were Sexy

    A judge ruled today that a female nursery school manager who watched videos of young children being raped and sexually abused should be named, overturning a previous ban.

    Alison Whateley, 44, told other online child sexual abuse images users that babies were ‘f***ing sexy’ and asked chatroom members for pictures and video of more, even younger victims.

    She egged-on fellow paedophiles in a chatroom where 11 videos of children as young as three being sexually abused an raped were viewed by 40 participants.

    Today a judge ruled it was in the public interest to reveal that depraved Whateley worked at the Bushy Tails Day Nursery and Pre-school in Teddington, south-west London. None of her offences involved pupils at the nursery.

    Whateley had been given a Community Order and a Sexual Harm Prevention Order last Thursday but was allowed to walk free anonymously.

    The nursery where she was working at the time of the offence said today they were ‘saddened’ and welcomed the investigation which had exposed Whateley.

    The court heard that the nursery manager had shared her fantasies of abuse of young children online with online lovers with whom she watched graphic images of child abuse online.

    Like Britain’s most notorious woman paedophile, Vanessa George, she had found men who shared her lust for child abuse images purely via the internet and talked lecherously about abusing children to ‘get them off.’

    Whateley who had previously been responsible for looking after nursery school pupils, had used her iPhone to access online chatroom Zoom in 2017, where anonymous hosts had played videos of children as young as three years old being raped.

    After a day of work at the Bushy Tails nursery she returned to her home in Farnham, west Surrey to log on as ‘user XXX’, under which guise she would encourage other users, potentially up to 100, to share more and more extreme images.

    Whateley had admitted encouraging or assisting in a summary offence and was sentenced at Guildford Crown Court on March 7. Judge Peter Moss today lifted the order banning naming her.

    Wearing spectacles and a beige scarf with her dark hair tied back, she clutched a spikey blue stress ball as she trudged into the dock, shielding her eyes from the assembled court and could be heard to moan in anguish throughout.

    Prosecutor Steven Talbot-Hadley told Judge Peter Ross: ‘At the relevant time this defendant worked as a manager at a nursery.

    ‘An undercover investigation was underway by the National Crime Agency focused on the online conferencing platform Zoom, which is otherwise legitimate but known to be used by paedophiles for sharing images of child abuse online.

    ‘An undercover officer was deployed in the meeting. It was in this way that this defendant was discovered. What the court is concerned with is the involvement in a Zoom meeting on August 29 2017. On that occasions the defendant was present for just under an hour under the username XXX.’

    The court heard that during this time 40 participants viewed 11 videos showing children as young as three to five being sexually abused and raped.

    During this time, Whateley actively participated when she typed into the live chat that ‘she liked … boys and girls, the younger the better, and she particularly liked babies, saying they were ‘so f***ing sexy’.’

    One of the online users had asked to see less young boys and more young girls, and the nursery manager had added ‘and younger the better.’

    She asked the other users: ‘Anybody interested in very tiny children?’

    Following the defendant’s digital trail had led investigators to Farnham, Surrey where they took her in for an interview, during which her position was that she had been using the online chat to track down and trap paedophiles.

    The prosecutor told the court: ‘When asked if she had ever provided any names or phone numbers to police of people she had interacted with online, she said she never had and has never given a reason for that.

    ‘She met somebody online with the username JohnUK. She told police she talked with him about having sex with children in order to ‘get him off’, she said she had his number and thought about giving it to the police.’

    Police interrogated Whateley’s phone and discovered WhatsApp messages from August to September with another man online between August and September 2017, a man called Joe, with who she discussed abusing children, and telephone records showed she was in contact with a man who was investigated by police for indecent images.

    The court also heard an audio recording on her phone was discovered in which a woman could be heard performing a sex act while talking to herself in graphic detail about abusing babies, which Whateley admitted in a later police interview was her own voice.

    The prosecutor said: ‘She said she made the recording because she wanted to know that she could pass herself off as one of them. When she was confronted with this she did not seek to put forward any positive explanation.’

    Whateley was sentenced to a Community Order where she will be under supervision in the community for 30 months and she was ordered to complete a 50 days rehabilitation requirement.

    The SHPO will be in place for five years.

    Judge Peter Moss said: ‘A psychiatrist found that you gave a less than compelling reason for why you were viewing this material, to be seeking to entrap paedophiles as some sort of paedophile hunter.

    ‘You have accepted that is not correct because of your inactivity in doing something about it.’

    full credit goes to the amazing people at the Uk database

     

  • Tough Love Is All I Know How To Give

    HAD TO SHARE THIS : …..

    Tough love is all I know how to give !

    When I’ve busted my butt to do everything possible to give my child a great life .. a better life that I had and guide her and her siblings to the best of my ability …

    Several talks .. plenty of chances and still chooses to act a fool at school and at home…

    Well this mom has reached her limit !

    She will learn to appreciate having a nice cozy bed .. now that she is sleeping on the floor .

    She will learn to appreciate the clothes and shoes we have bought her now that I have limited her to 3 pants , 3 tops and 3 undergarments , 1 hoodie and 1 jacket and 2 pairs of shoes.

    She will learn to appreciate having a washer and dryer …because now she will have to wash those 3day outfits by HAND to re-wear them.

    She will appreciate the fact that she had nice clothes to sport the weekends ..because now she will be wearing her same weekday school uniforms during the weekend .. since that’s part of the wardrobe I allowed her to keep!

    She will appreciate to have had a tv 📺 to watch because now she will only have the 4 walls in her room to look at or a book to read.

    She will learn to appreciate family time and miss it now that she will have plenty of time alone to think about her horrible actions !

    She will appreciate the phone she had and we pay for because now she is disconnected from the world 🌍 NO SOCIAL MEDIA, NO FRIENDS , NOTHING!

    She will learn to watch her mouth and respect her elders at home and at school .. as well as follow directions and correct her behavior as we have taught her to do so!

    Teenagers nowadays think that us parents NEED to give them all that extra stuff .. we sure in hell don’t! All we need to do is provide the basic needs, a roof over there head and food.

    They take everything for granted and complain about every little dumb crap!

    So at this point this punishment is indefinite but at the very minimum a month!

    Best believe she’s going to learn from this one!!

    Credit Liza sepulveda

  • So You Think You Can Parent My ADHD Child Better Than Me?

    Don’t Judge…..

    You must think I cannot hear you,

    You must think I cannot see,

    But I am just a mum, of a child with ADHD.

    You think you could parent him better,

    That you could “sort him out”,

    That it’s discipline he’s lacking,

    And he just needs a good clout,

    You do not understand or know him,

    But yet you stand there and judge,

    I take a deep breath and smile at you,

    And hold not a grudge,

    I’ve built up broad shoulders,

    Become stronger than I ever thought I could,

    Not a choice I consciously made,

    It’s what I’ve done for love.

    My child may be impulsive,

    Loud and always on the go,

    But there is so much more amazingness to him,

    That I would love for you to know.

    He doesn’t have a filter,

    Or a mechanism to make him stop and think,

    But It’s not his choice to behave that way,

    His brains messages’ are on the blink.

    He pretends to you he’s big and tough,

    Causing him at times to be too rough,

    To hide the hurt he keeps inside,

    You don’t have to hear him cry or find he’s googled ways to die.

    ADHD isn’t something made up,

    To excuse behaviour or a parenting mess up,

    It’s months of countless tests and appointments,

    And lots of despair,

    Meetings with professionals that can get too much to bear.

    It breaks my heart when he cries, and asks “why me? Why can’t I be ‘normal’ and then I’ll be happy?”

    He just wants to fit in,

    And hates standing out,

    But I tell him, “your special,

    That’s what ADHD is all about,”

    Don’t you think he’s aware of the things he does wrong?

    And understand his class clown act, is him trying to belong?

    There’s no one I know that punishes themselves more,

    I don’t want him to feel that ADHD is a flaw.

    You don’t see the struggles that he daily has to face,

    The world to him is a heightened challenging place.

    He is incredibly clever,

    And so desperate for you to see,

    But the sensory overload just won’t leave him be.

    He has the biggest heart, and the fastest brain,

    That just takes more time, nurture and understanding to train.

    It’s a disability he lives with,

    Just one you can’t see,

    Making your lack of empathy so unjustified to me.

    Full Credit Tracey Loxam

  • Why I Will Not Vaccinate My Child

    We are done playing nice and trying to be civil. 😡

    You want to force us to  vaccinate our kids with liability free, untested, potentially deadly shots?! You got a war on your hands. Over my dead body are you getting to my healthy unvaccinated child. He will not be your guinea pig, your paycheck or your lab rat.

    I am his mother. #idonotconsent

    It is my job to protect him. I have his best interest at heart. I am responsible for him. I am his mother and I call the shots, not the state health department or any doctor or any governmental agency, personnel or politician.

    You can censor us on social media. You can try to silence us but we will not stop and #wewontrest because it is our children you are after and we will do whatever it takes to protect them from your greed and corruption.

    We will hit the streets with our information. We will show up at all your meetings and hearings. We will be heard! No matter what you do to try to stop our movement you can’t stop the truth from getting out. 🗣🖕🏼

    You can try to ostracize all the medical professionals who speak out. You can call us #crazymothers and crazy “anti-vaxxers.” You can try to discredit us, silence us, bully us, shame us, but you will never win this war because we have truth on our side and truth ALWAYS PREVAILS! 🕊

    And our motive is stronger than yours. 💪✊

    #justiceforourchildren

    #liabilityforpharma

    Credit Maya Grace

  • The Girl Said I Was Thrown Away By My Mummy

    SCHOOL. I hate it. It’s a horrible place and nobody listens. I used to like it. I used to be happy there. I used to have fun. But not any more. There are some stupid teachers and even more stupider kids who are really really horrible. And I’m horrible as well.

    This girl said I was thrown away by my mummy. Said my mummy didn’t want me so I have to live with foster carers. She said nobody wants me and nobody lives me and I’m ugly and smell. Then she got her friends to say the same thing.

    When she first said it I didn’t think she was nice and I tried not to listen. But she kept on saying it – in the playground, in the dinner hall, in assembly, in the class room. She said I was smelly and wouldn’t sit near me. She made me feel really yuk about myself inside. I tried to tell a dinner lady and she said stay away from them. My teacher said stop telling tales. I got told off for moving away from her. So what this girl says must be true because nobody is listening to me and the grown ups are on her side too.

    I hate school loads now and I don’t care about it anymore. They don’t like me. I don’t like them. They are going to pay. I don’t care what they say or do because if I’m not wanted or liked then I’m going to show them I don’t care.

    So they better watch out. Kim better watch out. The whole wide world better watch out. Because I will make them hear me even if they all can’t be bothered to listen. I’ll show them.

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/Robbie-a-bear-in-foster-care-his-story-1417961614965115/