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  • Why Do We Need A Black Breastfeeding Week?

    Why do we need a black breasfeeding week?

    Reason 1)

    You were afraid to nurse your young

    lest fallen breast offend your master’s sight and he should flee to firmer loveliness.

    And so you passed them, your children, on to me.

    Flesh that was your flesh and blood

    that was your blood drank the sustenance of life from me.

    And as I gave suckle I knew I nursed my own child’s enemy.

    I could have lied,

    told you your child was fed till it was dead of hunger.

    But I could not find the heart to kill orphaned innocence.

    For as it fed, it smiled and burped and gurgled with content

    and as for color knew no difference.

    Yes, in that first while

    I kept your sons and daughters alive.

    But when they grew strong in blood

    and bone that was of my milk

    you taught them to hate me.

    Put your decay in their hearts and upon their lips so that strength that was of myself

    turned and spat upon me,

    despoiled my daughters, and killed my sons.

    You know I speak true.

    Though this is not true for all of you.

  • Charging Your Phone Can Be Dangerous

    Last night at 1am Mia’s bed caught fire. Luckily she was awake however she was laying in bed and it caught right by her head. We got it out really fast and everyone was ok.

    I have Minor burns and Mia did get sick from taking in to much smoke. So incredibly scary how fast it was spreading (all behind her bed and up the wall too) house filled so thick with smoke in seconds. It started because her Charger was touching her metal bed frame.

    So lesson to everyone make sure your kids are not charging their phones on the bed or sleeping with their chargers on their beds. This could have been SOOOOOOO much worse if she had been asleep I don’t even want to think about it. Thankful the worst is we need to get her a new mattress new sheets and new pillows.

    Credit Maxine Millar

     

  • My Nans Last Wish At 103

    When my Nana was put on hospice, the nurse asked her what her goals were. She replied that she wanted to be at my wedding. They reluctantly told her they didn’t want her flying anymore (she was nearly 103 years old) and her heart was failing.

    I knew in my heart she was trying to hang on to get there somehow. I decided to fly to her with my wedding dress, it was unaltered and didn’t fit yet but none of that mattered. I may have lied to my entire family about where I was that weekend, and I didn’t tell my friends so I could surprise everyone with these photos.

    Words cannot explain how much these moments mean to me and I will cherish these memories for the rest of my life. Her smile and her laugh are forever etched in my mind and the love between us will live in my heart. This was one of the greatest days of my life. When I said goodbye to her that night, I think we both knew it would be the last time we would see each other.

    My Nans Last Wish At 103
    My Nans Last Wish At 103

    She grabbed my cheeks with her hands, looked me straight in the eye and said “I love you very much” and 27 days later she passed away. I am so blessed to have this be my last memory with her. She was beyond an amazing woman! I love you Nana, always and forever!

    Credit Due:

    Red Door Photography thank you for capturing this amazing day! I will cherish these photos forever.

    MW Makeup Artistry your hair and makeup skills are incredible! You are a true talent!

    Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for helping me make this possible.

    Written by https://www.facebook.com/tfoley803

     

  • My Daughter Was Unresponsive After Her Immunisations

    AWARENESS!

    This morning, I took my 3 year old for her immunisations at our doctors surgery. The jabs themselves went rather well…no tears, result! 🎉

    However, once I had left the room and stood booking an unrelated appointment with the receptionist, my daughter went limp and unresponsive, her colour changed in seconds and her lips turned blue.

    Luckily for us, We were in a great place. The receptionist pulled the nurses from their room where they had another patient and she was taken from me and rushed to a private room. A doctor was then pulled out of her consultation to attend my daughter, at this point being an emergency. Her blood pressure and oxygen levels had dropped and at times unable to record. Her eyes were rolling and an ambulance was called.

    To cut a long story short, Leah had an anaphylactic reaction to the vaccines, she was given adrenaline to help her. Throughout this she remained unresponsive.

    It wasn’t until the attending paramedic told me that this could have been fatal and had I left the surgery and put her straight into her car seat and left for home, I may not have even noticed until we had got home.

    I have never been told to sit in the waiting room for 15 minutes after an immunisation and this post is just to urge mums to do just this.

    Experiencing an anaphylactic reaction to an immunisation is 1 in 1 million!

    Today we were that 1!

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/vikki.cheeseman

     

  • Owlet Socks A Total Life Saver

    Those of you who have heard of the Owlet Sock and wonder if it works and is worth the money, here is our story:

    Ever since I first heard about the Owlet Sock a few years ago, I knew I wanted one when I had a child. Decklan was born full term (40 weeks + 5 days) without any issues, in Oklahoma.

    We started using the Owlet as soon as he was discharged home from the hospital and we didn’t experience any red alarms

    Sunday we drove to Denver, CO and our first night we experienced 3 red alarms (meaning his oxygen level dropped below 80%). The following day his oxygen was in the mid 80’s and low 90’s (newborns should be 95-100%). This made me uncomfortable, so I called the pediatrician and they sent us to urgent care and from there we were admitted to the NICU at Children’s Hospital in Denver.

    Owlet Socks A Total Life Saver
    Owlet Socks A Total Life Saver

    He was discharged home on oxygen and will be on it 24/7 for the next 5 weeks, until he’s 2 months old, minimum. He will also be seeing a cardiologist on Tuesday as a precaution.

    Thanks to the Owlet we were alerted to an oxygenation issue, we might not have otherwise realized he had. So if you wonder if the Owlet works or is worth the money, we can definitely tell you that it does and it is.

    Owlet

    You can buy them here https://amzn.to/2NwjHjx

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/LaurenJoyRN

     

  • Women This Is A Uterus

    ANATOMY

    Women, this is a uterus. The image also shows the ovaries. All women are born with this wonderful organ, and many of you have never really seen it. Its normal size is about 7 centimeters long and 5 centimeters wide.

    This organ expands more than 100 times to house a fetus. Each month, it self-destructs and re-builds, through that, it eliminates menstruation due to contractions, so menstrual pain is pain of the uterus, not ovaries. It can support up to 150 times its own weight.

    It is the only organ capable of creating another organ: Placenta. It is connected to you. If you get stressed, it gets stressed, if you relax, it relaxes. In that same organ, life is shared, because there are women who with that organ, gave life to up to 15 children, at present, they only give life to 2 or 3 children, for convenience, but it is qualified to train more than 20 lives .

    It is the second heart of a mother, because there she forms the hearts of her children. 💕💕

  • Today I Licked My Childs Butt Ice Cream

    Y’ALL!!!! I am DONE with these kids!! I learned a hard lesson today…one I wasn’t prepared for and I feel like I’ve been through a trauma! I need prayer! 🤦🏼‍♀️😵💩

    I got Blakely an ice cream cone (yes the McDonald’s machine was working🤷🏼‍♀️). Well she walks into the living room and hands me her cone (half eaten like everything I give her) and I know all you moms have been there. We as moms pretty much live off of the food our kids don’t eat so I licked it before it dripped. I notice she is standing there looking at me like this 👉🏼😐.

    I ask her: “what’s wrong?”

    And she says: “Is it okay?!”

    🥺😳😨🤭

    At this point I’m scared b/c I don’t know what just happened. I think maybe she dropped it in her room and was scared to say. We stand there looking at each other and the ice cream cone. And this fool says: “I accidentally wiped my butt with it”

    🤢🤢😳😵🤭🤭

    Excuse me?!! With this ice cream cone I just licked?! Wtf!! I am coming unglued…so I ask this child “How do you accidentally wipe your butt with an ice cream and WHY did you give it to me to eat????” 😳😑🤐

    She looks me dead in my face and says “I used the wrong hand to wipe but it was just pee mommy”

    🤮✌🏼✌🏽🤯

    DONE! Someone come get these kids. I cannot even handle it. If y’all need me I’ll be washing my mouth out with Clorox. 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️😒

    #kidsareassholes #whytho #shesaiditwasjustpee #allmylifeihadtostruggle #parentinglol #icecreamfail #mommyfail #4yroldproblems #neveragain

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/firewifemomlife/

     

  • Today I Didn’t Like Being A Mum I Yelled More Than I Loved

    Today, I didn’t like being a mom.

    Today, I yelled more than I loved.

    Today, I cried.

    Today, my kids picked on each other all day.

    Today, I don’t remember smiling.

    Today, I don’t remember laughing.

    Today, I wanted to pack up and go sit on a beach with a cold drink completely alone.

    Today, I didn’t want to be around my kids.

    Today, I didn’t like my kids, but that doesn’t mean I don’t love them.

    Today, the mom guilt is more than I’ve ever felt in all 11 years of parenting.

    A toddler who got me up at 4:45am, then fought for an hour for a nap.

    A hormonal pre teen who is trying to navigate his new found emotions.

    So, I’m going to lay here, drink my mine, maybe cry some more, and hope tomorrow is better.

    I’ll pray for more patience, a calmer heart, and a good nights sleep.

    I want moms to know they aren’t alone. It’s ok to want time away from your kids. It’s ok if you snuck to the bathroom to cry. It’s ok if you can’t wait for bedtime.

    Stop making moms feel they need to love every second of every day of motherhood, because they don’t.

    It’s hard. It’s so freaking hard.

    So, cheers to you mama, (or dad) I’ll just be laying here, regretting how much I yelled today, and strive to better tomorrow.

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/brandi.mathena

     

  • No One Told Me I Would Spend Hours Crying

    This was 2 days after I gave birth to Layla. Eating my “nice meal” provided by the hospital. An over cooked steak and sides. I was in new territory.

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    Learning to breastfeed this little human being that I just brought into the world. Wearing these big mesh panties, still sporting a pregnant belly.. no one told me your belly doesn’t go down immediately. No one told me I’d be bleeding out.

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    No one told me that I would spend hours crying and full of emotion. I remember just laying there in the hospital bed crying. I was crying because my babygirl was finally here.. FINALLY! But wait.. that means she isn’t protected inside of me anymore. And that’s a scary feeling.

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    At what point, I think Kevin was at a loss. I realized that when I was being held by him in the hospitals shower and I was just crying uncontrollably. It’s all a blur but I do remember saying “she’s not safe inside of me anymore” and that was a really hard thing to work through.

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    I was also in so much pain.. no one tells you that typically with a “quick delivery” comes a bad rip. I ripped all the way up and down, and also side to side. The weeks following I couldn’t walk. I couldn’t use the bathroom. I wore these big depends diapers. I never thought I would be normal again. Kevin had to help me do EVERYTHING from pee, to walk up stairs.

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    Being a mom is the ultimate sacrifice. You give up your body for 9 months to grow this little baby. You go through labor and delivery. You go through the emotions that come with childbirth.

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    You let go of all shame as you walk around your house in diapers and ask your SO to spray warm water on your rip while you pee to avoid that burn.

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    You spend tireless hours latching your baby and feeding your baby to establish and keep up your milk supply because you want to breast feed so. damn. bad. You remain patient through leaps, growth spurts, and cluster feeding.

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    Don’t ever discredit a mother. You don’t know the half.

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    I used to be Autumn. Fun loving, crazy, outgoing Autumn. But now I’m Layla’s mama. And I’m okay with that. ✨ (Via Autumn Benjamin and @scarymommy)

  • Find Yourself Just One True Friend

    Find yourself a friend who will go to Costco with you on a Tuesday morning because errands and food samples are better together.

    Find yourself a friend who FaceTimes and texts even when she moves away.

    Find yourself a friend who will spend a day at the beach with you even though it means chaos and sand and poopy swim diapers and 700 meltdowns.

    Find yourself a friend who’s in it for the long haul.

    Find yourself a friend who thinks sitting on the living room floor with $1.00 Diet Cokes from McDonalds is a good time.

    Find yourself a friend who will laugh with you and at you too because we all need to not take life too seriously.

    Find yourself a friend who can hold a conversation between crying, spilled drinks, sticky hands, and potty training accidents.

    Find yourself a friend who you can trust with the your most sacred secrets and hardest struggles and who is a safe place for an ugly cry.

    Find yourself a friend that cheers for you with her whole heart.

    Find yourself a friend you don’t ever have to impress (not even by putting on a bra when she stops by).

    Find yourself a friend who will do life with you. Even when life means playgrounds and Target trips and kid’s meals and tantrums.

    Find yourself that friend, and be that friend too.

    Written by WONDEROAK Blog