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  • Dear First Born I Am Still Here

    “Ugh, Mum, you never pay any attention to me!” my oldest child said in a huff the other day. Her delicate features crumpled on her face as she crossed her arms and frowned at me.

    I tried to not laugh out loud as I pulled her in close to me, remembering the months we spent together, alone—just her and me. The days I literally spent just holding her, the hours I spent reading with her, the naps we shared, the classes we took together to teach her to swim, the way she was my entire world and how she changed my entire world.


    I can tell her these things, of course, but she won’t remember them. The truth is, my daughter, you’ll never know how I studied you, each and every freckle on your nose an imprint on my heart, your features so new and yet familiar at the same time.


    You’ll never know the way I watched you sleep, echoes of “you should sleep when the baby sleeps!” filling my head, but I couldn’t look away, so in awe of the simple fact that you were here, that you once resided curled up inside of me.


    You’ll never know the laps I took, the weariness settling into my bones as I hushed and bounced and prayed, willing you to find peace against the pain I didn’t know was in your belly. You’ll never know the decisions that seemed so big at the time: Breastfeeding or not? Lifelong ban on french fries or give in early? Organic strawberries or save the money?


    You’ll never know how my breath catches still when I catch a glimpse of you, how startling it is when you seem to grow up overnight, when you move with the grace of a woman but sleep like the baby I once held.


    You’ll never know the way a heart can beat outside the body, steadfast and strong, unwavering in its dedication to you.


    You’ll never know how my biggest fear in life is losing you, is of you slipping away from me, slowly as you grow.

    You’ll never know how unfit I feel for this job sometimes, how much I want to hide under my covers, how many times I offer up a silent “Are you sure you meant me for this gig?” to the universe.


    You’ll never know how I see myself in you, something that frightens me, even as it thrills me.


    You’ll never know how I love watching you grow up, how I see everything you do for your siblings, how you bear the burden of being the oldest—and a girl at that—so very gracefully.


    You’ll never know that I still watch you when you sleep, that I will never stop brushing the stray hair our of your eyes so I can see your beautiful face.


    You’ll never know what rage a mother can feel when someone crosses her little girl, the way my stomach hurts for you when you get nervous, the way I feel what you feel.


    You’ll never know how my biggest fear in life is losing you, is of you slipping away from me, slowly as you grow.


    You’ll never know how every step, every breath, every time I see you think of another, every story you tell, every movement you make, makes me marvel at the gift you are.


    You’ll never know, dear daughter of mine, how you became my entire world, changed my entire world, and will always be my world.


    But I am here. Even when you think I’m not. And that’s a promise.


    Credit: Chaunie Brusie 



    https://mom.me/kids/101655-youll-never-know

  • I Am A Throw Away Friend 

    I am a throw away friend.
    I am a friend who is convenient for your needs, be it taking you out places in my car, looking after your children on a regular basis, loaning you money and always being there for you.

     

    But I am a throw away friend in your eyes, I will only be there when it is convenient for you, I will not be a priority over your other friends.

     

    I have only recently discovered how many of my friends saw me as a throw away friend.

     

    My first sign was when a “friend” whom I had cared for her young child twice a week whilst she trained in her chosen career invited all but me to her wedding, oh I was invited to the evening but not to the main event her reasoning oh I thought it wouldn’t be your scene.

     

    Another “friend” I transport her child to a netball club every Wednesday, her daughter and mine are close friends but she is not invited to the sleepover next week, why you may ask? Well my daughter is a fussy eater. Hmmm ok then.

     

    Unless I can do something for these people I am of no use, I am the throw away friend.

     

    Thankfully I am growing up, I no longer care how many friends I have as long as I have REAL friends. 

     

    Please don’t be the throw away friend, it is a hard place to be. Remember, not everyone has the same heart as you.

  • AFTER THIS MUM RUBBED THIS COMMON REMEDY ON HER SON, HE DIED. – BE WARNED

    IT MIGHT BE HARD TO BELIEVE, AFTER ALL, MANY OF US HAD USED VICK VAPORUB. IT SEEMS LIKE A HARMLESS OINTMENT, EFFECTIVE FOR FEVER, NASAL CONGESTION, AND MANY OTHER ISSUES.

    But this case will make people question its use, especially mums and dads with small children because it could bring fatal consequences to them.

    A Mexican mother has warned other parents and hopes to help avoid someone else going through what she’s living: the loss of her 2-year-old baby.


    When she came back from work, she came into her baby’s room. When she got close to him she kissed him, she felt he had a fever. She imagined it was just a common cold and thought about a home remedy to relieve him.

    She rubbed Vick VapoRub on his chest, back, and under his nose to help him breathe. She tucked him up and laid down next to him.

    She was tired, so she fell asleep next to her baby. Hours later, when she woke up, she noticed her son wasn’t breathing.

    She scooped him up and rushed to the hospital to save him. But, sadly, everything was pointless, the baby had been dead for hours.


    The medical report stated the child died due to inflammation in the respiratory track, produced by the camphor contained in the famous ointment.

    She never imagined that home remedy would take his baby. She only wanted to help him breathe, and the ointment did exactly the opposite.

    The thing is, this remedy is effective for adults; however, for babies younger than three years old, the ointment increases the mucus by 60%. The mucus accumulates on the trachea and blocks the breathing.


    The label warns the ointment is contraindicated for children younger than 3 years old.


    Sadly, in the case of the Mexican mother, the warning went unnoticed. Using home remedies for several health issues is something common in homes around the world, but we hope this story draws attention to this fact: when children are concerned, we must always read the labels and ask for the advice of experts before using any home remedy.


    We must not let a simple mistake take our loved ones; we must be careful and seek medical advice to treat any illness.

  • Unusual Spellings of Classic Baby Names

    For a long time now parents have been desperate to find a unique baby name, something that is different and just their child’s.  While it may seem impossible to find a totally unique baby name the spellings of those baby names can be quite unusual and very unique.

    It’s quite common practice now to put a double E at the end of a name instead of a Y or to use a Y instead of an I.

    Here are a few of the most unusual baby names spellings we’ve seen:

    Alexzandre

    Aubreigh

    Ayden

    Braedyn

    Cydnee

    Dafydd

    Emmalee

    Izobel

    Jayceson

    Jaxon

    Jazzmyn

    Jerimiah

    Johnathon

    Jovanny

    Kamryn

    Kaytlynn

    Khloe

    Kristoffer

    Lyssa

    Maddisyn

    Myah

    Mykel

    Popee

    Rayan

    Rebekkah

    Roxee

    Rylee

    Sydnee

    Xzavier

    Zakkery

     

    What are some of the most unusual or unique baby names you’ve seen?

    Let us know in the comments.

  • Little Angels Strike Again 

    Only last month we ran a story on Mums advice in regards to “little angel nappies”. 


    Well it appears Asda didn’t fix the issue and anther innocent baby has received chemical burns.


    Sarah Rose took to Facebook and said 

    This is what I woke up to this morning! I just want other parents to be aware, the nappy has now been sent for testing because it is thought Ava has had a chemical reaction to this batch of nappies and the nappies are contaminated. One batch of Asda nappies have apparently been recalled and I am waiting to hear back from Asda.


  • Mums Anger At School Book 

    Are people reading more into things than necessary now days? Do people really get so offended and upset by the little things in life? 

    One woman took to Twitter to display her utter disgust at her 4 year old daughters school reading book.


    A nice innocent reading book? But wait til you see what is causing the issue! 


    What do you see? What do the building blocks spell out to you?

    When I first looked all I saw was “Tits” but this Twitter user was outraged that it is “taking the piss” out of those with hepatitis and has asked for the book to be removed from schools.

    Do you think this was done to intentionally offend, a coincidence or just one woman picking fault in a innocent children’s book?

  • 8 Year Old Biracial Child Hung From A Tree

    A  grandmother in America is shaken after learning what happened to her 8 year old grandson.

    Lorrie Slattery found out a rope was wrapped around her grandson’s neck before he was allegedly pushed off of a table, leaving him hanging and swinging around from a tree.

    Slattery explained that her biracial grandson was playing in a garden when a group of white teens began throwing sticks and rocks at his legs. They were hurling racial slurs at him before the rope from a tire swing ended up wrapped around his neck.

    The grandmother said 

    “The [teenagers] said, ‘Look at this,’ supposedly putting the rope around their necks. One boy said to [Slattery’s grandson], ‘Let’s do this,’ and then pushed him off the picnic table and hung him.”


    There were no adults around when the frightening moment took place, so it is not clear how the rope was placed on his neck.

    The bloodied child was flown to hospital for the injuries he suffered from the hanging.

    His grandmother said she was told by an interviewer specializing in child abuse that he had swung back and forth three times before he was able to free himself.

    Police are investigating the incident.

    The 8-year-old boy was treated and released for the cuts on his neck. He escaped internal injuries from being hung from the rope, for which his family is grateful.

    Slattery said: “I think he had a guardian angel.”

  • Brave Woman Shares Her Survival

    Izzie Cronin took to Facebook to warn others about the signs of an abusive partner.


    I WILL NOT NAME HIM THIS IS AN ONGOING CASE THIS POST WAS PURELY TO WARN THOSE WHO ARE WORRIED ABOUT THEIR PARTNERS 


    I would never normally post something like this however I think it is extremely important to make people aware of the signs of an abusive partner. I would never want anyone to have to go what I have been through I feel it is very important for me to outline the initial signs of an abusive person that can easily be excused. This all happened in the early hours of Thursday morning this week.


    My story- My now ex boyfriend (my first ever boyfriend) was always very jealous and possessive of me, every emotion he had for me was heightened, he was either all over me and completely obsessed or he’d snap and say horrible personal things at the slightest thing I did that he considered wrong. We had a very intense relationship and I had mentioned to him before that I felt he would always put me down to make himself feel better however I never saw what happened coming. I thought I had a normal relationship with a normal person with normal up and downs. I was so deeply in love with him I am so devastated and heartbroken that my first love could’ve done this to me. 


    The night- We went on a night out, we had both been drinking however he was particularly drunk. After only a short period of time he threw a drink at me in the bar we were at as I said he was too drunk to have my drink. He stormed off made a huge scene and the bouncers kicked him out because it was clear he was causing me distress. I revived over 65 missed calls from him while I was still in the bar as he was waiting outside until I left, about 2 hours later. He tried to get in a taxi with me home but of course I didn’t want him to so a friend of mine came back in a taxi with me to make sure I was okay and away from him. He texted me many times apologising saying how much he loved me and how sorry he was. He later turned up at my house and my friend let him in and left as we believed he was truly sorry. 


    When we were alone he took my phone off me and started scrolling through my messages. He accessed my whatsapp account and read messages form a male from 2016, way before he and I had ever even met him I DID NOT CHEAT ON HIM. In his drunken state he believed these messages were from when we were together and this was when the beating began. I was honestly so shocked and absolutely terrified, I couldn’t believe what was happening, here was a man who I believed loved me so deeply no matter how snappy he was I never in my wildest dreams thought he would attack me. He punched me repeatedly till I fell to the floor after which he began to kick me continuously in the stomach and head. I have never been so terrified in my life I was in so much shock and intense pain. I managed to stand up and tried to leave my bedroom when shoved me down the stairs and again began brutally kicking me in the face, stomach and head. He then threw me down another flight of stairs when again on the floor he kicked and punched me. I was screaming and crying for help, blood splattering everywhere. I was trying to escape but he was grabbing me back not allowing me to leave.


     I was screaming explaining that the messages were from before we met but he wouldn’t listen he was screaming out ‘you slag’ ‘you slut’ ‘you cheater’. I cried out ‘if you don’t stop you’re going to kill me’ and he just shouted back ‘I don’t care’. After a long hour( THIS WAS NOT A SHORT MISTAKE IT WAS A SUSTAINED ATTACK) or so inside my house being subject to this constant beating of which he showed absolutely no sign on slowing down, in fact he seemed to get even angrier, I managed to escape out the front door. 


    He ran after me (dressed only in his boxers), he grabbed and threw me to the pavement and continually kicked me in the head, stomach and face. Bare in mind he had kicked me so many times he had a bruise on his own foot. I was crawling on the pavement unable to walk screaming for help but he was still kicking me flat onto my face it was like once he started he couldn’t stop. Luckily a terrified neighbour called the police from inside her house.I have heard this phone call and she sounds absolutely petrified and you could hear me screaming in the background crying out of help. 


    I managed to get up and I tired to run away as fast as I could covered in blood and bruises. The police then arrived and arrested him. I had to go to hospital as I couldn’t think properly or remember anything and I was in intense pain. I was luckily enough to have great friends who stayed with me and looked after me after the attack and helped me get through it. I don’t know what I would’ve done had I been alone afterwards. I am so grateful to the girl who called the police without her I honestly believe he would’ve done some very serious damage or that I might not be here.


    The aftermath- he was kept in jail till Friday, he pleaded guilty to ABH (as there are no broken bones) and was released on bail. On the night of his release he even posted a picture of him smiling with his friends at 4am showing absolutely no remorse for his actions. While I’m lying at home unable to move, sleep or eat, crying my eyes out for hours. 


    I really urge anyone who has a controlling, possessive or jealous partner to read this post and seriously think about whether you completely trust your them. You need to work out whether these characteristics could lead to something worse or whether it is worth being with someone who treats you like this. I had only been with this male officially for 3 months and he had never shown any signs or violence towards me. It can just take one drunken thought in their mind for someone capable of abuse to attack you. 


    PLEASE be so cautious if you feel your partner has any of these characteristics or if they have ever been violent to you before. I would never wish this kind of pain and torment on anyone it had been absolutely unbearable for me and my family. I have been in extreme pain since the attack and the thoughts going through my mind have been killing me. 


    Nothing in the world can justify this kind of behaviour and I hope that if you feel you are in the beginning or an abusive relationship that this will help you realise that the best thing you can do is leave as soon as possible. Just remember that somebody who is capable of this is not capable of real love, only sick, twisted, manipulation of your emotions. A person who is capable of abuse is a friend of no one and should be treated with serious caution and fear as you never know who their next victim may be. 


    Thank you for reading and I hope that I may be able to help people by sharing my story. Please share this if you think it could help you or someone you know.


  • Cooking With Period Blood Keeps Men Faithful?

    An unknown woman got a lot more than she bargained for. Her story about using her menstrual blood to cook for her unsuspecting husband got a ton of backlash when the story went viral on social media. However, she wasn’t worried about it, and she even came clean as to why she does it.

    Her reasoning was simple. She admitted outright that she cooks with her menstrual blood because she doesn’t want her husband cheating on her. She swears up and down not only that it works, but that her aunt also does it and is in a happy marriage to a man who wouldn’t look twice at another woman. 

    She knows it’s wrong, but also knows it’s not poisonous. While she admitted that she knew that cooking for her husband using her period blood without him knowing was wrong, she doesn’t think it’s poisonous. She was adamant that if cooking with her period blood was the way she could keep her marriage intact, she’s okay with continuing to do it.  “If that is the way my marriage will be intact I have no regrets. I am a very emotional being. I might die if my heart is ever broken. Who are u people to judge me.”

    She even bragged that her husband “worships the feet she walks on.” The woman in question is absolutely sure that her husband loves her so much primarily because she “makes his food special.” In her own words: “Since I got married I can beat my chest and say my husband has never misbehaved outside.”

    Another woman put menstrual blood in her boyfriend’s food on a whim. The woman, known only as Rose, was dating a man with a huge sexual appetite, and came home to him cheating on her after she went away for a week to see her parents. She forgave him, but she vowed not to forget. “After one week I forgave him because I love him, but I was still angry with him. He asked me to cook rice for him. I was on my period, i removed my pad and suck it inside water and made sure the blood was very much so in the water, I added my urine into the water and I made stew for him, he came back and ate the food without knowing.” The comments on her story are not just insulting towards her, they were downright scary to read.

    There’s a reason why women so often resort to this sort of thing. Every culture has a type of spell or school of magic that involves bodily fluids or body parts, and those body parts can vary quite widely. Most notably, they can use things like placenta, spit, semen, tears, urine, hair from both your head and genitalia, and oddly enough, nail clippings.

    Menstrual blood plays a starring role in this type of magic. It has been said that any man that consumes the menstrual blood of a woman is bound to that woman for life. Many women have done this over the course of civilization, but two major magical sects that swear by this are African voodoo and Sicilian folk magic.

    A lot of this boils down to pheromones. Many witches who do this believe that just a bit of menstrual blood in a man’s coffee, tea, or food is powerful enough to bind that man to her for life. There isn’t even a spell or a ritual involved to get this to work, the action alone carries power of its own.

    Anyone fancy a menstrual cup of tea?

  • Are Academy Schools Ruining Children’s Well Being 

    Are academy schools ruining children’s education and well being?

    Many worried parents are branding academy schools as prison camps.

    Parents are not happy with the some what strict rules and regimented procedures, teachers, office workers and helpers within the schools are leaving in droves.

    So what is so wrong with them?

    One academy school lines children up for a uniform inspection before lessons start. Children are to wear the norm, shirt, tie, jumper, grey or black trousers and black shoes, sounds fair enough but the school for 7 to 10 year old is so strict that socks and hair bands are checked.

    If a child’s socks are not grey or black the child is placed into isolation, even if the sock is the correct colour but has a small emblem on it this is against the rules.

    Hair bands are fine as long as they are the correct shade of blue, bows or coloured hair bands are banned, if a child is seen to be wearing one they must take them out and then spend lunchtime in isolation.

    Plain black shoes are to be worn for school and plain black trainers for physical education, any named branded shoes or trainers are prohibited, the likes of clarks, kickers or Nike are allowed as long as there is no logo on the outside of the footwear.

    Parents are fuming, many stating that is nearly impossible to meet the requirements.

    One mum said  “finding shoes that fit and are comfortable is hard enough but having to find ones with no marking and fit is nearly impossible, I don’t know how a shoe can affect my sons school work, my son shouldn’t be punished for my inability to meet their ridiculous requirements”.

    Another academy school is timing children when they get changed for physical education, if a child doesn’t get in to their sports kit within 5 minutes they will lose some of their lunchtime.

    One dad expressed his concerns “my daughter is 7, she Is not lazy or slow but has trouble doing buttons, she is a little girl, she really doesn’t need to be punished for struggling”.

    Another school has changed the school start time by 15 minutes with only 5 days notice, if children are late they are again put into isolation.

    Parents are struggling to get there earlier due to bus times, child care arrangements and transporting other children to separate schools.

    What’s your take on academy schools? Does your child attend an academy school if so have you been happy with it so far?