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  • He Stole The Twins From Me It’s Utterly Cruel

    Grandparents are important to.

    Social media and the news are always sharing articles about fathers for justice and how some dads get a rough ride when a relationship breaks down, well I’d like to share my story.

    My only daughter Jenny was a lovely bubbly kind little girl who blossomed into a beautiful, funny sweet woman, not only was she my daughter she was my best friend.

    Jenny married her long-term boyfriend Simon in 2007 and went on to have much wanted twins Hope and Destiny in 2010.

    I loved these little girls so much and was proud to be their nanny, I dotted on the twins and helped out whenever I could.

    Jenny decided to back to work when the girls were two, I jumped at the chance to care for the twins whilst my daughter worked, I had Hope and Destiny Monday to Thursday from 8:30am until 6pm and loved every minute of it.

    January last year whilst at work Jenny cut her hand on a broken chair, we thought nothing of it but within 2 days she was rushed to hospital with sepsis, my only daughter passed away surrounded by her loved ones.

    I struggled to carry on with my days but the twins kept me going, I had to stay strong for them.

    My son-in-law needed me to care for the girls so life carried on that was until Simon met Erica in August, within a month of meeting her he had moved her in.

    I was no longer needed Erica replaced my daughter and my role of caring for the girls.

    Simon has pushed me out he won’t answer my calls and has moved away without telling me where.

    I miss the twins so much they are the only thing I have left and he has stolen them from me.

    I have got myself a job to try to save up to take my son-in-law to court for access but solicitor fees are so expensive, I will not give up trying, I will see the twins again or die trying.

    Grandparents are just as important, parents need to understand the bond and love we have with our grandchildren is strong and it is utterly cruel to deprive children from that love

     

  • I’m Still Grieving The Loss Of Myself

    I’M STILL GRIEVING THE LOSS OF MYSELF

    My eyes are dead, my heart feels empty and my mind is tired.

    I was once care-free; I didn’t care what people thought of me, I had confidence, I felt sexy and now, that’s gone.

    I gave my everything to someone who didn’t deserve it; I had all of my love saved up and I threw it away like it meant nothing to someone who was nothing.

    I look at myself in the mirror and I still hear the cruel names, the taunts and his wicked laughter after I’d cry because he’d hurt my feelings.

    You see, when you leave an abusive relationship, it doesn’t leave you for a painfully long time; it’s a very slow and draining process – a recovery from an addiction.

    From poison, actually.

    Leaving the person who drip fed you lies, excuses, hate and self-hatred is the easy part – recovering is worse than the abuse itself.

    Like most addictive drugs, you get withdrawal symptoms after you stop taking them and then you have to train yourself to go back to life how it was before you fell down that very slippery slope.

    It’s no lie that it’s had a knock on effect on my family, my friends, my children and my future – I no longer believe I’m good enough.

    Why? 

    This is why.

    I’m scared to cry because I was told I was stupid for crying when he called me fat, when he laughed at my laugh or criticised everything I did; this was my fault.

    I’m scared to voice my opinion because I was shouted down – he was always right and I was ignored. I was inferior.

    I’m scared to date someone new because he made me believe they only want one thing.

    I’m scared to ask for help because I was told I was a burden and incapable.

    I’m scared of letting someone else in to my life because I’m worried they’ll leave.

    I’m scared to wear nice clothes and make-up because of how I’ll be judged by others.

    I’m scared of trusting someone else because I’m petrified they’ll abuse it.

    I’m scared to say no in case I get the silent treatment.

    I’m scared to say yes because I think I’ll get taken for granted.

    I’m scared to make a decision without being told off.

    I’m scared to answer a question in case it’s the wrong answer.

    I’m scared to open my phone in public in case someone snatches it from me to read my messages.

    I’m scared of opening up to people because I know they won’t believe me when I tell them how badly I was treated – it really is unbelievable.

    There’s not much that I’m not scared of anymore. 

    I doubt everything I do and I feel everybody has a hidden agenda; that everybody’s laughing at me.

    I feel angry, I feel hurt, I feel disappointed and I feel betrayed; I don’t know if this will ever go away.

    I need time to heal, please understand.

    I’m still grieving the loss of myself.

    Credit The Unicorn in black

     

     

  • This Brain Teaser is Making Fools of Us ALL!

    Brain teasers are a great way to pass the time!

    They help keep your brain alert and make you see things a different way.

    However this viral brain teaser is dividing the nation when clearly there is a definite answer.

    Have a look and tell us what you think.

    We will leave the correct answer at the very bottom.

    Good luck!

    Brain teaster

    Scroll down to see the answer

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    Okay so here we go.

    The correct answer is 5.

    At first glance you may think it’s 9, however upon closer inspection you can see that 9 is blocked at the bottom.  4 could also be an option, if it wasn’t for the fact that the pipe for 4 is blocked at the very beginning.  While we’re at it it’s worth noting that 7 is also blocked in the middle.

    What do you think of this clever brain teaser?

    Let us know in the comments.

  • Iceland vow to change for the better!

    Major supermarket Iceland have promised to go green!

    The retailer has publicised plans to replace all of its own products plastic packaging with trays made of paper and pulp in a five-year.

    Iceland are the first retailer to make such a claim in hopes to do better for the environment.

    After a recently survey carried out by the supermarket it learnt that 80% of 5,000 people polled agreed to endorse the change and would happily go plastic-free.

    Iceland managing director, Richard Walker, said:
    “The world has woken up to the scourge of plastics. A truckload is entering our oceans every minute, causing untold damage to our marine environment and ultimately humanity – since we all depend on the oceans for our survival.

    “The onus is on retailers, as leading contributors to plastic packaging pollution and waste, to take a stand and deliver meaningful change.”

    What do you think of the proposed change?

    Will it make you happier to buy Iceland products?

    Let us know in the comments.

  • Woman Welcomes New Kitten Into Her Life

    A lady named Lucy Schulz welcomed a new baby into her life, but it’s not your normal birth announcement.

    Schulz wrote: On 10/01/18 we welcomed our first baby kitten, a neutered male DLH.

    He is 22″ long and weighed 6 pounds 7 oz. He is already eating solid food. Name to be announced. We are so in love.

    Thank you Elizabeth Woods Darby for capturing these amazing first moments!!

    More than 80,000 people have shared the birth announcement since it was posted on the social media site Facebook and this is likely to rise.

    In the photos it appears as if Schultz is actually giving birth to a kitten which in case you aren’t aware isn’t currently possible.

    Schultz told 9news.com ” so I’ve been thinking of this idea for a while because i’m totally a crazy cat lady who didn’t have any cats, so I decided as soon as i got a cat its a big milestone for me and sort of the hallmark of me settling down and starting my menagerie of future cats and so the first one is pretty special”.

    So she and her husband decided to ask their good friend and photographer Elizabeth Woods-Darby to do a photo shoot of the new addition to their family.

    Schultz has received a lot of negative comments but says she’s just ignoring them and focusing on the positive and funny ones, she also hopes that he birth announcement will encourage others to go out and adopt a cat who needs a loving home.

    To see all the photos and follow the yet to be named kitten take a look at https://www.facebook.com/elizabth.woodsdarby/

     

  • Raped and Tortured I’m Now Left Broken and Empty

    Towards the end of August last year, my now ex, raped me.

    We had been living together for over a year, I loved and trusted him more than anyone I had been with previously and for the first time in my life, I was considering his requests for the future involving marriage and children. Despite my feelings I ended our relationship, he is an alcoholic and I couldn’t take the lies that stemmed from his addiction any longer.

    He moved out, he was dating other girls and I had started to see someone else. The first night i finally allowed the new man in my life to spend the night in my home, my ex got drunk and over a period of hours sent a barrage of abusive messages. He then showed up at our apartment around 5am,stating he was there to comfort me after all the nasty things he had sent, his attitude quickly changed when i told him I had someone over.

    I did not want to hurt him, i still loved him deeply, I was horrified that he had returned to our apartment to find someone else there. He stayed and we argued, he told me I should kill myself, amongst other hateful things and I wept and begged him to stop. He waited around until my date left for work, when we were alone he did not hold back any longer.

    He enjoyed seeing me cry and begging him to stop being so hateful and I failed to see that his arousal that followed, was from seeing me pleading and hurt. The last thing he said before he proceeded to rape and torture me over the course of several hours, was that he, “was a bad person and was going to enjoy this”.

    He hit me till I was dazed, then dragged me by my hair, ripping chunks out and hung me over the edge of our bed, he poured rum down my throat and when I choked or tried to spit it out he hit me again. He continued forcing alcohol upon me and hitting me around my head throughout the attack. He beat, raped, sodomizied and tortured me for hours, until he passed out drunk. I cried the whole time, he kept asking if it hurt, then saying, “it doesn’t matter how you feel, it doesn’t matter what you want”. At one point he grabbed my wrists and said to me, “this isn’t you, you’re a fighter, why aren’t you fighting me?”

    I have wanted to kill myself everyday since then, I felt constant horror that he could have done that to me and I felt sick because I still loved him.

    On November 30th I was assaulted at work, a glass was smashed in my face, knocking out most of my front teeth and either dislodging or fracturing the rest, my teeth are now wired into my mouth. I have had nothing but time for over a month now and I find myself constantly reliving both the rape and the assault.

    I cannot bear that he just gets to walk away and continue on with his life, continue seeking happiness and fulfilment while I am left broken and empty. It weighs me down so much but I don’t know what I can do, I am not strong enough to go to the police and go up against him whilst also dealing with the assault trial. I just want people to see him as he truly is; a sociopathic monster and I am plagued by the thought that if he hurts someone else in the future, it will be my fault. I feel so helpless.

     

  • Children punished for lazy or poor parents

    Children punished for lazy or poor parents.

    A number of schools across the United Kingdom have strict policies and rules most people are able to abide by these without a problem.

    At one school in Essex if a child does not have the correct footwear or uniform the child will lose part if not all of their lunch or break time, the same punishment is used if the child arrives late for school.

    One child is regularly late due to his mother having late nights drinking and not awaking early enough to get her son to school, the school are aware of this and social services are helping to support the mother.

    This boy is seven he gets himself dressed and ready to go and begs his mum to get up or to allow him to walk the two miles to his school but every day he is late even if only by a few minutes but he is penalised, this is not in any way the child’s fault.

    Another little girl has not had a break time since the start of term as her mother cannot afford to buy her new school shoes the child has to attend school in trainers.

    The mother has explained to the school that times are extremely hard and she is struggling to even have enough money to feed her child, the school is not understanding and told the mother that the uniform policy is there for a reason and suggested she borrow money from someone to get shoes, a few of the mums at the school ended up having a whip round and bought the girl a brand new pair of school shoes.

    So these are extreme situations but times are hard for many people, and some people have to travel a fair distance to get to school, if a child is not old enough to buy their own clothes and take themselves to school surely the parents should be punished not the child and circumstances should be taken into account, no child or parent should be penalised for being on the bread line or struggling with travel arrangement.

     

  • I Was Wrong. I Totally Trusted Him

    Amanda Mcbride has taken to social media to share her story.

    McBride said: So I have been contemplating posting anything since this tragic event happens in our lives Thursday evening.

    It was just like any regular night Elouise and I had just gotten out of the bath and Donnie took her to get her dressed and give her some milk and I was getting ready for bed when all of a sudden I heard growling and screaming. We then spent the next 10 hours in the hospital.

    I Was Wrong. I Totally Trusted Him
    I Was Wrong. I Totally Trusted Him

    Just like any other night Elouise was laying with Buck (there dog) drinking her milk, only this time I don’t know if she touched him funny or what but he lost control.

    This happened within two feet of Donnie being right there by their side. These two were best friends. They’ve been inseparable since we brought Elouise home, they haven’t left each other’s sides. They’ve grown up together. I’m sharing this because I want those who think there’s no way this could happen, to see what happened to someone who thought the exact same thing.

    I Was Wrong. I Totally Trusted Him
    I Was Wrong. I Totally Trusted Him

    I was wrong. I totally trusted him, and he had never done anything for me to think otherwise. I was the person that thought this would never happen to me. There is no way because he loves me and he loves us and was always so sweet and loving to those he knew.

    I know some will read this and feel bad and sorry for us and still think that there is no way this could happen to you. Well after the roller coaster experience I just dealt with I am telling you unfortunately there is a possibility and there is a chance that the furbaby you love so much could do this.

    I Was Wrong. I Totally Trusted Him
    I Was Wrong. I Totally Trusted Him

    Anyone who knows me, knows the love I have for animals which was why this experience was even more difficult.

    Our beautiful Elouise is doing better and we keep praying everyday for a quick recovery. We appreciate any prayers you could send our way. With that being said with a sad heart we put Buck to sleep yesterday and lost the furbaby of our family. For friends and family we haven’t personally contacted we are sorry but appreciate any and all prayers you could send to the Wade family. I also want to thank those that have been there through this awful experience we really appreciate it.

    I Was Wrong. I Totally Trusted Him
    I Was Wrong. I Totally Trusted Him

     

     

  • Ryanair Are Changing The Luggage Rules!

    From 15th January Ryanair are changing the rules for hand luggage.

    Most airlines allow one small hand bag plus one small suitcase which you are able to take on to the plane with you.

    However, Ryanair are the first to buck this trend and are now insisting that all suitcases or large bags are to be placed in the hold.  This is at no extra cost to the customer, as long as they fit within Ryanairs size guidelines for hand luggage.

    Ryanair currently allows you to carry two items of hand luggage on board.

    You will, from 15th January, be able to take a small bag on to the plane with you – such as a handbag or laptop bag, with a max size of 35cm x 20cm x 20cm but with no weight restriction.

    However, all larger bags – upto 55cm x 40cm x 20cm with a 10kg weight limit must be placed in the hold, but without any added cost.

    How do these changes effect you?

    Would it make you rethink travelling with Ryanair in the future?

    Let’s us know in the comments.

  • Brides List Of Demands Are Crazy- Bridezilla

    One woman took to Facebook to ask advice in an anonymous forum, let us know in the comments if she is right to be a tad annoyed.

    The woman wrote:

    I’ve been asked to be a bridesmaid next year but the bride has some demands, I just want to know if I am being a dick here!

    1) I need long blonde hair. I currently have short red hair I’ve told her I won’t be bleaching however I’ll compromise and wear a wig

    2) I need to be size 10. I’m currently an 18 after losing 8 stone this year i’ve told her I will work as hard as I can but I feel that is slightly unrealistic, she won’t budge and will only order my dress in a 10 and I am to pay  the full cost of it.

    3) I need to take all my piercings out, including my tongue bar! I’ve told her I will comprise with retainers but my chest piercing can’t come out as I’ll never ever get it back in.

    4) (my personal favourite) I need to cover my tattoos. All 15 of them. We are having mid-thigh dresses, I have tattoos on my legs, arms, back, hands, chest and neck. Told her this will not be covered under any circumstances.

    5) my husband isn’t coming to the wedding or reception, she doesn’t want us “being cuter than her and her husband” in fairness, he won’t go anyway because he hates her 😂 and we have got 2 kids so he will be home with them

    If I don’t adhere to all these rules, I’m out of the bridal party. Am I a wrong for my compromises and basically telling her I don’t want to be involved? It’s a bit high maintenance for my liking!

    Would you chance to make the bride happy after all it is her special day or tell her where to go?