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  • Imagine Being Born In 1900

    Imagine being born in 1900.
    When you’re 14 years old
    World War I begins
    and it ends when you have 18
    with 22 million dead.

    Shortly after, a world pandemic,
    a flu called ′′ spanish “,
    kills 50 million people.
    You come out alive and unscathed,
    you are 20 years old

    Then at 29 years you survive the global economic crisis that started with the collapse of the New York Stock Exchange, causing inflation, unemployment and famine.

    At 33 the Nazis come to power.
    You’re 39 when World War II starts
    and ends when you’re 45 During the Holocaust (Shoáh) 6 million Jews die.
    Over 60 million dead in total.

    When you’re 52 the Korean War starts.

    When you’re 64 the Vietnam War starts and ends when you’re 75

    A baby born in 1985 thinks his grandparents have no idea how difficult life is,
    and survivors of different wars and disasters survived.

    A boy born in 1995 and today 25 years old thinks it’s the end of the world when his Amazon package takes more than three days to arrive or when he doesn’t get more than 15 ” likes ” for his published photo on Facebook or Instagram…

    In 2020 many of us live in comfort, we have access to different sources of entertainment at home and we often have more than we need.

    But people complain because about everything.
    Yet they have electricity, phone, food, hot water and roof over their heads.

    None of this existed in the past.
    But humanity survived much more serious circumstances and never lost the joy of living.

    Maybe it’s time to be less selfish, stop complaining and crying.

    (Anonymous)

  • My Ex In-Laws Are Still My Family

    My ex-husband’s parents obviously weren’t thrilled about me divorcing their son. Soon after the divorce, I drove to my in-laws’ house and had a very long and open and difficult and awkward and beautiful and complicated conversation with them. We decided not to point fingers or blame or judge. We just talked about the most important thing: the kids. We decided to put our differences and our pride aside and focus on what really matters: family, forgiveness, love. I remember one particular phone call early on, while things were still really tense between their son and me, his mom said: “Well, if you’re not technically my daughter-in-law anymore, then from now on you’re my daughter.” And they have treated me like one since.

    Today was another Thanksgiving spent at their house. I’ve always been welcome. Once I started dating my current husband, I assumed the invitation to Thanksgiving would stop. But no. The invitation was extended to him as well. It’s been like this for years now, all of us getting together for the holidays.

    Today, we once again ate together as one big family. Today, my husband helped my ex-husband’s mom set the table and clean up, as he does every year. Today, I listened as my ex-husband and current husband discussed work and football and parenting. Today, I watched my ex-husband play superheroes with my son from my second marriage.

    Today was about all the stuff that really matters and not about the unnecessary drama we humans tend to create.

    None of this divorce, remarriage, co-parenting stuff is easy. In some ways, it’s the hardest part of my life. But the hard work and our “kids first, egos last” formula has been worth it. So, so worth it. ❤️

     

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/KristinaKuzmic/

     

  • Childs Five Words Shake Her Mum To The Core: Racial Bullying

    Everyone grew up with a childhood best friend. They were the one you missed when they weren’t at school, who always made you laugh and kept all your secrets and the keeper of every pinky promise. You two did everything together.

    When you are young, it’s pretty incredible what a difference your best friend forever can make. Rachel May Stafford recently took to Facebook to share an experience her daughter had with her best friend who fell subject to racist bullying.

    Stafford said her daughter explained tearfully that she asked her friend if she was OK after hearing the racist comments, but she didn’t respond.
    “So I just scooted closer,” Stafford said her daughter told her. “I didn’t know what to do, Mama, so I just hurt with her.”
     

    I just hurt with her
    “It took me a moment to recover from that,” Stafford said in her post. “I filed those powerful words away and continued observing this mighty pair.”
    She went on to explain her admiration for the best friend duo, saying that they have always been there for each other.
    “Whether one gets hurt on the playground … whether one is getting new glasses and needs an honest opinion … whether one needs encouragement at basketball tryout … whether one is frightened by a dog … they respond compassionately to each other’s needs.”

    She said that even when they have disagreements, they manage to talk things through calmly and effectively.
    She shared a story of taking the two girls to basketball camp, only to arrive and see that they were the only two girls at the camp. They fist bumped, then went on to enjoy their time at camp.

    On the last day of camp, Stafford’s daughter looked at her best friend and said, “‘Thank you so much for going with me to that new camp. If you hadn’t been there, I don’t know what I would have done!’”
    Her friend looked her straight in the eye and said, “‘If you ever have to go to a new basketball camp, don’t worry. I will always go with you.”
     

    This is the kind of friend everyone should have
    Stafford said she hopes the world takes note of a friendship like this.
    “What if we collectively remember, ‘I’ll hurt with you,’ is something we can all do when we don’t know what to do?”
    She said we should stop looking at it as “my back” or “your back,” but rather, “our backs,” so we can create a unified, peaceful world for our future generations.
    She shared a picture of the two girls sitting on a football field and explained that the two of them have a little team of their own. But their team goal isn’t to win or be the best, it’s to love.

    These sweet young girls are setting the perfect example of the love we should all have for one another, regardless of age or skin colour.
    “They know that they are stronger together than they are alone,” Stafford said. “Let us take note.”