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  • Who Are The Parents? You’re Failing At Parenting

    I witnessed something shocking last night around 10.30pm in Colchester, Essex, that sums up how bad our society is becoming. A group of 14 yr olds set upon a young boy, and as you would expect, his father came out to disperse the little shits. All 8 of them then set about the father and kicked and punched him to the head, and while he was down, the girls then proceeded to kick him in the face while he was down.

    3 of us ran out to his aid and dispersed these idiots, who then wanted to take us on. We helped the guy into the recovery position and called the police.

    The worst of the group were the foul-mouthed girls who I would have been ashamed to have called my daughter.

    The question is .. Who are the parents ? The ultimate failures, the ones that take no responsibility for their children.

    Well I wonder how proud they feel this morning, and everyday of their failed parenting ?

     I hope the Parents of these disgraceful kids get exposed, and begin taking some responsibility. In the first instance, wondering where their 13 and 14 yr olds are at 10.30 at night !!

    What is the world coming to when Children are showing no respect to anyone. Bring back corporal punishment, it never did my generation any harm, in fact it demonstrated there were unpleasant consequences for your actions. Something that is clearly absent from young people’s lives these days.

    When I was young we wouldn’t have dared to even talk back to an adult let alone physically and verbally attacked someone, had we been caught doing something we shouldn’t have, just the threat of them telling our parents stopped our antics.

    Parents are failing children, is it really that hard to discipline your children, to teach them right from wrong and give them some damn consequences for their actions.

  • My 12 Year Old Wanted To Kill Herself

    This poem is what my then 12-year-old wrote for a school project

    “Tick tock…tick tock…

    Life is counting down on my internal clock.

    People I once knew

    walk by without a clue what I’m thinking in my head.

    The times we once shared

    exist as if you were never there.

    People don’t know I’ll soon say my last goodbye.

    How I miss the way I used to feel on Christmas day when Santa was real.

    But back to reality…back to today, my mind is like a river which I cannot dam, I love my mum but I can’t go on

    Tick tock…tick tock.. my clock has to stop.

    I need to find away to end my life today, tick tock!!!!”.

    The school called me to tell me about it, I rushed to the school to see my daughter, to talk to her to hold her, just to be with her.

    My daughter broke down in the deputy heads office she was a broken girl, she didn’t know why she felt this way, she just said she was sad all the time and couldn’t get suicide out of her head.

    How do you fix this? How do you make things better? What have I done wrong to make my daughter feel so worthless?

    Two years of counselling, two years of watching over my daughter constantly, worrying constantly that my daughter would take her life.

    Her Doctor said that Estrogen, a female sex hormone, has consistently been linked to depression. Estrogen levels dramatically increase in girls during puberty, this can cause depression and suicidal thoughts.

    My daughter is now 14 and a confident, semi moody teenager, she hasn’t had suicidal thoughts for quite some time and I think she has found herself but I still worry, if you have a son or daughter who you are worried about please seek help, be it the school, the doctors or outside authorities, had she not wrote her thoughts in poem form my daughter may not still be here today.

  • This New Social Media Challenge Could Turn Deadly!

    Teens have been taking part in a new social media challenge and it could soon turn deadly!

    Many attention seeking teen have been eating laundry pods, filming themselves and uploading their reactions to social media for likes and comments. 

    Online trolls have jokingly called the pods tasty also in some cases referring to them as a forbidden fruit! 

    The internet is full with memes featuring photos showing the laundry pods as a pizza topping or as breakfast cereal.

    A spokes person for Tide made this statement about the deadly challenge:
    “Our laundry pacs are a highly concentrated detergent meant to clean clothes, and they’re used safely in millions of households every day. They should be only used to clean clothes and kept up, closed and away from children.” 

    “We have seen no indication of an increase of cases seeking medical treatment amongst infants and teenagers associated with the recent uptick in social media conversation or in consumer calls.”

    This ridiculous challenge needs to end now before someone gets seriously ill.

  • New Mums Have It Easy Give Me A New Born Any Day

    New mums have it easy, give me a new born any day, I often see new mums complaining how hard it is, now I understand new babies awake during the night and feed on demand and poop and cry but I’m sorry but new babies are easy.

    I’m not disputing that having a new baby isn’t a huge change and tiring especially one  with colic or reflux is hard work but the real struggles are yet to come.

    A baby whom can crawl but has no understanding of danger is terrifying, everything is a hazard.. EVERYTHING.

    A toddler who is tired and can’t understand why you have to pick up their siblings from school is no fun, not to mention the tears and screams when they have to put shoes on, public meltdowns, refusing to eat, to sleep to listen arghhh.

    Roll on to when they start school, they suddenly know it all, yet still can’t be reasoned with, this phase will last years, the worry if they are making friends, are they being bullied, are they achieving, are they eating enough?

    Then we get to the time when your child starts secondary school, they suddenly demand their complete independence but you still have to remind them to wash their hands after using the toilet. They spend more time on the internet and you spend most of your own time checking up on them, making sure you know who they are speaking to, where they are and who with.

    And then the dreaded zone the teen years, the back chatting the constant worrying what they are up to, the grunts the groans, the teenage angst. The stress of exams, the peer pressure, hoping that their happy and worrying for their futures.

    So give me a new-born, a cute sweet bundle of joy, that screams all night, but smells so good, who loves you unconditionally and needs you, you know exactly where they are at every second of the day, and cries can be stopped with milk, a bum change or a cuddle.

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  • Warn Your Children About This New Craze

    A dangerous Facebook game is encouraging teenagers to “disappear”, please warn your children about this new craze.

    Children as young as 14 years of age are doing a “48-Hour Challenge”, where they disappear without a word to families, often in pairs or small groups.
    It it similar to the Game Of 1972 which was popular Western Europe four years ago, reports Belfast Live .

    That craze saw children dare each other to vanish without trace for up to three days and took off quickly in France and other countries.

    Missing children increase their ‘score’ through every social media mention of them

    Every mention the missing teen gets on social media increases their score, so frantic parents asking Facebook followers for help and to share  only add to the “game”.

    One mum in Northern Ireland whose child disappeared recently said: “This is a competition and it’s sick. The anxiety it left our family in is unspeakable.

    “I was terrified they were dead or would be raped, trafficked or killed. But these kids just think it’s funny. There was not even a moment of remorse when my child was taken into police custody and when the police brought my child home, I could see posts of selfies from the police car.

    “I’ve been told my child and friends are in the lead in this competition because they managed to vanish for 55 hours before they were discovered.

    “It was just terrifying and my child, who is 14, doesn’t seem to get it. They need a wake up call but I’m worried what that would be.”

    Please warn your children about this new craze not only is it dangerous for them, it terrifies families and friends, plus a genuine missing teen may not get the social media coverage that may bring them home safely.

    Time to sit down and have a chat with your teen or even younger children about this craze, no matter how sensible you may think they are.

    Please kindly share to warn others.

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  • Sex Education, When Is The Right Time?

    Mums advice asked 361 members when they think children should get sex education lesson, we were shocked by the results.242 members thought sex education shouldn’t begin until the child is between 10 and 12 years of age.
    Others disagreed stating the earlier the better, maybe not about actual intercourse or stds but about about what their parts are called and who can see it or touch them, thus helping to prevent abuse.
    Several members felt it best children knew basic terminology and facts to prevent bullying or misinformation in the play ground.
    One member said “I don’t agree with them learning about it until they’re 10+ they dont totally understand when they are that young i understand teaching them about keeping safe away from horrible people but my little boy just thinks its funny when he was told about his body parts but on the other hand i do answer him if he asks questions too many children these days are very advanced as well “. 

    Another stated
    “As young as possible knowledge is power if they have the knowledge they have the power to protect themselves from sti std etc they can make educated and informed choices they will know when to say no and not feel pressured into doing things they don’t want to don’t feel comfy doing”.

    This mum said: 

    “I’m completely against learning it too young.. my son got sex education age 11 and he became obsessed. Honestly if I could turn back the clock I would opt him out”.

    What’s your view on sex education?

    What age will you teach your child or would you leave it to the school to do?

  • Adoption-My Personal View

    I was placed into care at only 9 months old, my biological mother was an alcoholic and not able to care for me properly.

    My adoptive parents had tried to conceive naturally and through IVF for over 10 years, my mum had polycystic ovaries and my dad a low sperm count.

    My adoptive parents then tried to adopt (this was back in the late 80’s), they went on strict parenting courses, had their finances looked into, their home inspected and were on a waiting list for 10 yes 10 years, just as they were about to give up their adoption agency phoned.

    My mother answered the phone and was told that they had 2 siblings available to adopt a girl aged 3 and a boy aged 4, they needed a decision by the next morning.

    My mum and dad decided that they wanted me and my brother, a week later I had a trial sleepover at their house and 3 weeks later I was living with them.

    It took a year before it was official and I was legally adopted.

    Growing up I never felt any different from any other child at school apart from that my parents were older than all my friends.

    When I hit my teen years I started to wonder about my “real” parents, I began resenting my adopted parents, thinking I would have been better off with my real mum and dad, how much more fun and less strict they would have been.

    I was horrible to my adoptive mum, on one occasion she tried to discipline me, I shouted at her that she wasn’t my mum anyway. I could see the hurt in her eyes and will always regret saying that.

    It wasn’t until I was a lot older I found out the reason why I was taken in to care and lost all interest in meeting my womb donor.

    I did however track down my biological dad who had no say in my adoption.

    On the day I gave birth to my first child, there was only one person I wanted to call, only one person I couldn’t wait to see..my mum.

    She is not my adopted mum, she is not some woman who couldn’t bear children, she’s my mum, my rock, the woman who put up with my childhood tantrums, stood by me throughout my teen years and the woman who made me who I am today.

    Yes I have my biological dad in my life and I love him to bits, but my adopted dad is the man I call father, the one who taught me how to ride a bike, the man who comforted me when my heart was broken and knew just what to say to make me laugh.

    So what I’m trying to say is adoption shouldn’t be the last resort, a bad thing etc it is amazing, it is hard but my good is it worth it. To all you adoptive parents out there I thank you for giving children a place in your heart and in your home.