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  • Imagine Having A Boyfriend That Doesn’t Like Your Posts On Social Media

    Imagine having a boyfriend that doesn’t like your posts on social media but likes other females posts all the time.

    Imagine having a boyfriend that keeps in contact with people who you’re not comfortable with.

    Imagine having a boyfriend that doesn’t watch your snap stories or doesn’t text you,

    Doesn’t call to see how you’re doing, yet you know that they have their phone in their hands constantly throughout the day.

    Imagine having a boyfriend that doesn’t show you off or take you out on dates. Imagine having a boyfriend that doesn’t get excited when you come home, or even better, imagine a boyfriend that when you got home, he wasn’t even there, even though he got outta work earlier than you.

    Imagine never knowing where your boyfriend is, who he’s with or when he’ll be home. Imagine having a boyfriend that ignores you when you talk to him, Especially about how you’re feeling, and while you wait legit 5 minutes in silence for a response after you just poured your heart out, all he can come up with is, “I have nothing to say.”

    Imagine having a boyfriend that will sleep like a baby while you cry yourself to sleep, and he blames it on the fact that he has work in the morning. Imagine just wanting your boyfriend to love you the way he loved you in the beginning…. Now imagine this everyday… Just imagine.

    #GBU

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  • Relapse In Mental Health Is Hilarious Isn’t It

    Demi Lovato overdosing in her $8mil home is the newest punchline for memes.

    She joins the Bipolar relapse walk of fame in the company of 2007 Britney Spears and Amanda Bynes’ Twitter rampages.

    Relapse is hilarious.

    Hilarious until it’s Robin Williams spending his whole life making others happy – just to end his own with a rope around his neck.

    It’s all SO funny until it’s tragic.

    Until it’s your sister’s lifeless body on the floor, accompanied by an empty bottle of her medication. Until it’s your son alone in his room with a razor to his wrist. Or your Mum who hasn’t left her bed for a week.

    Mental illness looks like so many things.

    It’s Carrie Fisher on 7 different medications, 3 times per day. It’s Jim Carrey and Ben Stiller and Stephen Fry.

    It might look like your mate who hasn’t been to school in 2 weeks and won’t answer your calls. Or the neighbour you haven’t seen leave the house this month, and you can see the dirty dishes as a mountain through the window. It might be the teen on drugs or the girl you know who’s always too shaky to speak. One day, it might even be your own reflection.

    It’s 1 in 4 people you know. 25% of us have a problem with our mental health and too many more have a problem with that.

    As Kevin Breel said,

    “…unfortunately, we live in a world where if you break your arm, everyone runs over to sign your cast, but if you tell people you’re depressed, everyone runs the other way. That’s the stigma. We are so, so, so accepting of any body part breaking down, other than our brains. And that’s ignorance. That’s pure ignorance. And that ignorance has created a world that doesn’t understand depression, that doesn’t understand mental health.”

    Demi, our love is with you. 🌻❤️

    Full credit to The girl in the sunflower dress Facebook page

  • Don’t Take Photos At School You Are Putting Children At Risk

    If the school or sports team, club  or anyone says please don’t take photos at their event, assembly, play etc , then please don’t take any bloody photos!

    Watched multiple parents sneer and then sneakily take pics despite just being told not to.

    You have no idea why some parents haven’t given permission for their child’s picture to be taken, yes it could just be that they don’t want it done, but it could be a reason of safety, that child could be hiding from someone who wants to take/harm them or a family member, witness protection or people trying to hide from a violent past.

    I understand how annoying it is, but don’t be so selfish.

    If your child is dressed up then take a photo before they go, or after when they are alone, if the school says you can take photos but not to up load them on to social media then don’t, if you want to post an image of your own child then make sure any other children are cropped out.

    Times have changed and with social media so easily assessable your innocent looking photo of your child and a few of her classmates could mean you are putting one of them in serious danger.

    These rules are in place to protect children to protect the innocent, just listen to what you are being asked to do, it really isn’t hard.

  • Please Help Me My Teenage Brother Is Suicidal

    Please can someone help me. My teenage brother is suicidal. He’s been going missing from school and sitting in woods, fields and even cemeteries, he has been hurting himself and looking n the internet of ways to end his life he is only 13.

    He doesn’t speak for days on end and sleeps whenever he can, he is always looking down at the floor and doesn’t ever smile or laugh anymore.

    He broke down in tears yesterday after he was found in a different town during school hours. He says he sits and thinks about hanging himself in the woods or drinking bleach.

    My brother has always been a shy, quiet, kind-hearted boy, never in trouble but he is fully aware of right and wrong, three months ago he saw four 14-16 year olds pushing around a young child with learning difficulties, my baby brother stepped in and told them to stop.

    This is where it all went wrong, he was targeted not just at school but via social media, soon these teenagers were spreading vicious rumours about my brother and people believed them, so even when he was at home in his bedroom he was being bullied via hs phone.

    The school is offering support and the main bullies now leave him alone but the rumours are still there from other children, they cannot punish the whole school, my mum has taken him to the doctor and she’s now going to keep him off school so she can be with him, but what else can we do? How can I support him through this? We have taken away all his electronics so he can’t see what they are saying but now we feel we are isolated him even more, we cannot move, there is no money to go else where, please help us, how do we deal with this situation it is breaking our hearts that this sweet boy is being so hurt emotionally and we don’t know how to take it away

  • This Man Abused My Daughter And Is Now Free

    Three years ago Jay-gerri Willoughby took to social media to make others aware of this awful man, the post has been shared thousands times .

    Willoughby said “On the 9th of April 2015 at approximately 2:30am I walked in on this filthy fucken slime KODIE WAYNE GHILOTTI in bed with my daughter who was 8 years old at the time.

    At the time it took me about 2 minutes to realize what I was really seeing. I pulled the blankets down and seen with my own eyes he was naked and my daughter had no pants on. I can not remember much after that as I blanked out.

    For the last year my family and I have been a massive emotional roller coaster.

    On the 31st of March 2016 he was officially sentenced to ONE! YEAR of jail time and 3 years probation for 4 counts of indecent conduct with a minor. The judge sympathized that he handed himself in and didn’t apply for bail. It was his first KNOWN offense for this behavior.. He also took in to consideration the effect this has had on my entire family and decided this was the appropriate sentence. ONE FUCKEN YEAR!!! to justify the betrayal, pain and loss we have endured his abuse of trust to a child. I’m disgusted in the system. The sentence is an injustice in itself. I now understand why some don’t come forward. Words can not express the anger and pain.

    PLEASE SHARE THIS I WANT HIS FACE ALL OVER SOCIAL MEDIA So no child will ever fall prey to his sick ways ever again as he will be out on the streets in just over a week.

    #NameAndShame

    Since this post has been put on social media the man has been released from prison and is free to live his life and potentially abuse another innocent child.

  • Do You Know These YouTubers?

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  • Woman’s rant about slimming world goes viral

    Woman’s rant about slimming world goes viral

    Samantha Sage of Ipswich took to Facebook to rant about slimming world and stirred up mixed reviews and death threats

    Sage said “Listen up fat ladies of the world if you really want to lose those huge fat thighs and guts stop driving to slimming world, you are trying to lose weight yet get into your vehicle and drive to your nearest slimming world, walk you lazy fatties, every meeting The car park is FULL. Use your brains rather than your stomach, eat less exercise more and leave the fat mobile at home. Free advice ladies feel free to share and let’s stop Britain from being fat and ugly, you are giving us ladies a bad name”.

    Sage received thousands upon thousands of negative replies to her post, such as…

    Emily Hart who said: “wow I’ve never heard something so rude some of these women may be disabled or rushing off to work straight after, you’re the ugly one with that awful attitude”

    and

    Thomas Colburn “so I take it you are a size 6 then? you could be the sexiest woman on earth and i wouldn’t touch you with a barge pole, i hope you break your leg and can’t walk and get so fat you need to be driven to slimming world”.

    Even more shocking is lots of people agreed with Sage stating that slimming world was a waste of money anyway and agreed the only correct way to lose weight is to cook healthy meals and exercise daily.

    One woman replied with “fat people make me sick, no excuse to be over weight it is pure laziness, amen sister”.

    Sage has since deactivated her Facebook account due to backlash and threats to herself and her family but not before her post had over 10000 comments and 600 shares

     

     

  • My Sister In Law Ruined My Birth Announcement

    I am the proud mummy of a three-month old baby girl called Ava Marie she was born three days late weighing 7ib 3oz but every one of my friends and family knows that.

    I did not get to tell them though, I didn’t get the thrill and excitement of phoning everyone and announcing the birth of MY baby, I called and told my mother and my parent in-laws.

    My sister-in-law was obviously told by my mother in law and then took it upon herself to announce the news over social media, even tagging me in the post so every single one of my friends saw the post, I called my elderly grandmother to tell her that Ava Marie had arrived in the world and she already knew, my brother knew, my best friend too, it is a complete anti climax when you call someone to share special news for them to already know.

    The news I had waited to tell people for 5 years, 5 years of trying, 5 years of stress and worry that I couldn’t carry a child to term, 6 heart breaking miscarriage and my angel baby Samuel born at 23 weeks, all ruined by a thoughtless act.

    My sister-in-law who is 27 and a mother of 2 decided to ruin my moment, my excitement and my news.

    Once I had left the hospital and settled into a routine I confronted her and all she had to say for herself is she was just excited and wanted to tell someone, she didn’t understand the upset she had caused.

    My husband didn’t understand why I was so upset, I guess only mums who have had their announcement ruined get where I am coming from.

    So if a relative or friend is pregnant please don’t tell the world let the parents post what they want first, it’s their moment, their news and their baby.

     

  • Why I Hate Social Media At Christmas

    Why I hate social media at Christmas.

    So the festive season has begun, adults are rushing round shops buying gifts for loved ones, putting up decorations, writing lists, attending the nativity and going to work parties, all fantastic and part and parcel of Christmas.

    But this is why i hate social media at Christmas…

    At this festive time the braggers and attention seekers come out of the wood work in a vain attempt to make themselves look good.

    As a mum myself I love to spoil my children, buying their gifts and lovingly wrapping them, making the holiday a magical and special occasion.

    I however wouldn’t dream of posting a photo of a mountain of presents and asking “is this enough” or is £300 on each child too little, I’m worried I haven’t got enough,does anyone have any suggestions what else to buy.

    No one cares how much you have bought, it is not a competition but it appears social media is making it just so and many mums are jumping on this bandwagon.

    What people fail to realise is there are many parents out there who struggle at Christmas and their children only get a handful of presents, seeing posts like that will make them feel even worse about their situation, everyone’s budget is different and most children would be grateful for a few special presents.

    Feel free to share your photos on Christmas morning on your personal Facebook for your loved ones to see but keep it out of “Mum groups” and don’t brag about it.

    Also make sure the gift that Santa brings is a modest one, a child who goes back to school and says “Santa got me a Nintendo switch” to a child who got a puzzle isn’t really fair.

    Christmas should be about love and family, not the biggest pile of presents under the tree, spread love not envy and attention seeking.

    Also read:http://mums-advice-old-copy.local/should-parents-have-to-work-at-christmas/

     

  • Teach Your Children Bullying Can Lead To This

    All decent parents hope their children are kind to others, even to children they may not like. But still, many children and teens (and even adults) end up victims of rude or mean comments, or even bullying.
    The consequences of bullying can be depression or  even leading to suicide or self-harm by the victim.

    Anti-bullying plea
    One mum is speaking out, pleading with parents to not only monitor the way their kids are using smartphones and tablets, but to also teach them empathy after her daughter ended up hospitalized as a result of bullying.
    In a Facebook post, she writes: “Our beautiful girl has been subjected to some awful bullying at school. It’s been a very private 7 months for us, dealing with this, immediate family only.

    “In this age of social media, children (because they are children) think it’s ok to send hateful messages (to me also along with their parents who won’t take responsibility) without consequences. I’ve had calls from these children calling me an old hag because I’ve defended our daughter, approached parents and pleaded with them to talk with their children and ask them to stop. I’ve even approached the children themselves, but been threatened by parents with harassment.”

    The department of education in America doesn’t expel children from schools for bullying, as they say: ‘Every child is entitled to an education.’

    What about our child’s entitlement?

    She’s been sent home numerous times after self harming at school. She’s not allowed a pencil sharpener as she takes the blade out and cuts herself.

    The department of education also told me: ‘You should teach your child how to be resilient against bullies.’ Yes, they said that.

    Our girl has had a video taken of her sitting at her desk at school, legs slightly open, with a lovely caption about the smell. It was posted to snapchat. I spent 90 mins with the police as they tried to determine if it was photographing and distribution of pornographic material. Yes, a 12 year old can be prosecuted if the content breaches certain criteria. Sadly our daughter’s didn’t, but she was subjected to weeks of ridicule. Repercussions? The girl who posted the video lost her playtime. The person who took the video? Nothing, because no one would tell who it was.

    It’s ok to verbally attack at school because they can get away with it via a screen; so think the same will happen in the real world.

    Last week, we spent over 5 hours in A&E with psychiatrists, doctors and nurses, because our girl ‘had a plan to commit suicide’. On Tuesday, I am in court applying for a VRO against a 12 year old to keep her (the bully) away from our beautiful girl—all because parents don’t accept responsibility for their children and schools can only do so much.
    “Our beautiful girl has been subjected to some awful bullying at school. It’s been a very private 7 months for us, dealing with this, immediate family only.

    The school has a safety plan for the bullied child, our daughter. And the bully? She only loses break and lunch privileges. This is infant school punishment!

    Please, in this awful age of social media (or anti social media as we call it) check your children’s messages. Their devices are a privilege, nothing more, nothing less, so please make sure they are being polite and respectful in their messages. Teach the children to ‘talk’ not use text or social media to air their differences.

    Bullying affects the whole family, not just the bullied. It needs to stop and it needs to stop now! Please feel free to share.”

    She further explains that not only have parents been non-receptive to her pleas, but the school has done little to curb the problem. Her daughter has been self-harming as a result of the ongoing bullying, which often occurs through social media via smartphones.

    The problem with smartphones and social media
    The world has become a different place over the last ten years. Most kids have a smartphone— and are still learning appropriate behavior versus inappropriate behavior. It’s easier to type on a computer or into a smartphone something mean to someone than it is to say it in person.

    Hiding behind a screen can give a false sense of power over another person. Kids are not yet mature enough to consider the repercussions of saying cruel and hateful things to another person via their smartphone.
    Teens tend to gang up on one person and band together in their cruelty.

    Parents must monitor and teach children
    If your child has a smartphone and/or social media accounts, it’s your responsibility to monitor what your child is saying to other people and what is being said back. Is your child bullying someone else? Are they being bullied? If the answer is yes, you must take action to stop it. Besides bullying, there is major concerns about sexting and sending pornography in texts or through apps.

    If your child is using social media and smartphones to make bad choices, you need to work to teach them what is and is not acceptable behavior. Set up consequences and follow through. Does that mean losing smartphone privileges for a short time or longer period? Do other restrictions need to be set up? Do they need to apologize to another person for things they have said or done? Follow through and be firm.
    Empathy

    Some children naturally have empathy, others must be taught. If your child is hurting others, try asking them how they’d feel in the reverse situation— were they are on the receiving end of bullying. Try to help them see how what they say or do can affect others and how it can hurt them. Help them set up ways they can show more kindness and empathy to others outside their social circles, such as finding those who need a friend or sticking up for someone who is being bullied.