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  • This Is The Underwear We Give To Survivors Of Rape

    This is the underwear that no woman wants to wear.

    And it’s not just because it’s a plain cotton sports bra the color of Pepto-Bismol.

    It’s because this is the underwear we give to survivors of rape and sexual assault after we take their own underwear as evidence.

    We take their nice underwear, their favorite underwear, their cute underwear, their comfy underwear, their best-fitting bra, their 75-dollar designer bra, their weekend bra, their work bra. And we take it away from them while wearing gloves, and drop it into a paper bag, and seal it with evidence tape and write their police case number on the outside, and send it to the state crime lab, and they never see it again.

    And we give them some Fruit from the Loom to wear home, back to a life and a world they no longer recognize and no longer trust.

    But here’s the kicker: That boring sports bra is WAY way WAY better than what some survivors get when they’re discharged.

    Some women have ALL of their clothes taken for evidence. Shirt. Undershirt. Pants. Bra. Underwear. Even their socks. And if the local forensic/sexual assault program that cares for them doesn’t have — or won’t buy — or can’t buy — clothes for them, they get discharged in hospital scrubs.

    And grippy hospital socks.

    And postpartum white-mesh hospital underwear.

    And no bra.

    Ever seen a woman who’s just been raped, just had a three-hour forensic exam, just had every surface of her battered body swabbed and photographed and inventoried for the police, ever seen her walk out of a hospital wearing oversized hospital scrubs —

    —and her arms wrapped tightly around her chest, ashamed, because she doesn’t have a bra to wear?

    I have.

    And I absolutely refuse to ever see it again.

    This is $150 of underwear from Kohl’s. My team and I buy this underwear ourselves for our patients, because we are no longer willing to let any of our survivors go home without a bra, or without a decent pair of underwear.

    If you are looking for a place to donate something meaningful this holiday season, reach out to your local Forensic Nursing team, rape crisis center, or domestic violence shelter.

    Go to Wal-Mart, or Kohl’s, or Target, and buy clothes you’d feel comfortable in curled up, safe at home, watching TV. And donate them.

    New underwear, a comfortable bra, a comfortable pair of pants, a soft hoody, squishy socks — all of these things can help make a woman who has survived a violent rape feel like a person again.

    A person.

    Not a victim.

    Because it’s a long walk down that hallway, out of the hospital, and back into the world.

    At least she can be comfortable as she takes each step.

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    Update 12/6 — Looking for a local organization that supports survivors of rape and sexual assault? You can start here:

    https://centers.rainn.org/

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/martha.phillips.RN

     

  • Womans Account Of Taking Sexual Inhancement Tablet

    One womans Facebook post has had woman in stitches, the post in question details the sensations she felt after taking a womans sensual enhancement tablet similar to the male version viagra, viagra is well known to help men to keep their erections for longer or to help them to get one.

     The post has been shared well over ten thousand times below we have shared it (we have edited some of the overly offence words)

    “This stuff right here, this stuff right here girls is DANGEROUS

    This pill like a super power or something. It should say on the back ‘turns you into a super hoe’. It’s like the moment I took it , my water broke & I ain’t even pregnant. Just made me leak 😩💦

    It keeps you all the way up! I was trying to be considerate that bae was sleepy but it’s like a demon in my body was like ‘FUCK HIS SLEEP , SUCK HIS DICK BITCH’ I was up at 2:30 in the morning cleaning , hoping to have a mouth full of penis by 3. I dead ass wanted to ride my man every 3 minutes. I was talking to his penis like ‘TOUCH ME ON MY INSIDES’  I done turned into the Incredible HOElk with this damn pill.

    Full credit goes to LusciousMonay

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  • Should The Safe Haven Law Be Introduced In The UK?

    Should the safe haven law be introduced in the uk?

    For those of you who aren’t aware what safe haven is it is a law in the United states where anyone can abandon their baby at a designated point and hand over all responsibilities of the baby to the state.

    According to sources as many as  50 newborns are abandoned in the uk every year with many dying from the cold or exposure so is it time to bring the safe haven law here to the uk?

    Since its arrival in 1999 the safe haven law has saved thousands of babies from injury or even death as they are no longer abandoned in bins, alleys and roadsides in the United states but does this law encourage women to not use contraception or be responsible?

    The safe haven law allows mothers to take their babies to locations such as fire stations, hospitals, police stations, churches and baby boxes. Places that are manned 24 hours a day, without risk of prosecution for child endangerment or abandonment.

    Would further sexual education be a better option? All women over the age of 12 be given compulsory contraception unless trying to conceive?  Many women get pregnant accidentally for many reasons such as contraception failure or rape and go on to ignore’ the signs or hide the pregnancy until it’s too late and end up despairing about what to do with the secret baby.

    Introducing this law would surely help those woman to frightened or not willing to raise a baby to make sure that the baby would be cared for in a safe environment or would it bring a rise in abandoned babies to the uk?

    Mums advice spoke with several mums about their views on this and the may point they brought up was how would the UK be able to afford these points being manned 24 hours a day, what if the mum changed her mind would she be able to get the baby back? It was also added that mother who leaves their child needs to be seen incase she is in crisis and needs help.

    Let us know your views in the comments

  • I Punched A Child And I Liked It, I’d Do It Again

    I punched a kid and I liked it

    Yes you read the title right I did punch a kid and I didn’t just like it, I bloody loved it.

    Ok maybe I should explain, I am the proud mum of 2 children Phoebe 12 and Max 8.

    Phoebe is in year 8 at secondary school she is bright, kind and pretty.

    Phoebe goes to school via public transport as we live 45 minutes away from the closest school.

    Phoebe has been tormented and bullied on a daily basis by a 15-year-old called Joshua, he has spat at her, tripped her up, stole her phone and lots more.

    I have spoken to the school at least twice a week for the last six months but as he is bullying her only on the bus and not on the school premises there was little they could do, I'[ve calle bus company but they say it’s not their job to watch kids on the bus.

    I have tried speaking to his parents but they simply didn’t care.

    Phoebe would come home in tears and beg to change schools or to let her cycle to school neither of which where feasible we live in the country side and other schools are even further away and it would take her hours to cycle and I don’t drive.

    One week back after Christmas phoebe came home in bits she was inconsolable, once she had calmed down she explained that Joshua had got some boys to hold my baby girls arms behind her back and Joshua lifted up Phoebe’s top and mocked my daughters breasts.

    I called the police in my eyes this was a sexual assault, the police questioned Joshua and gave him a slap on the wrist and told him not to it again.

    No way was this little shit gonna get away with this, I phoned my work and told them I wouldn’t be in that day, I got on the bus with my daughter and as soon as Joshua stepped foot on the bus I lunged at him and gave a huge punch right on his smirking foul mouth, I sent him flying and told him if he touches my daughter again I would be taking it out on his parents as they deserved a smack as well.

    I loved knocking the little shit into place and I honestly would do it again.

  • My Mother Should Have Aborted Me

     

    My mother should have aborted me

    The statement my mother should have aborted me may shock some people, but this is how I truly feel, everyone would have been better off had I never been born.

    My mum contemplated having me aborted but decided the money she would receive for my existence was worth bringing me into the world.

    I was never loved nor wanted growing up, my mum could barely say my name, birthdays were non existant and love was something I did not know, pain and misery were the only things my mother ever shoe me.

    My mother was a single woman but had a constant array of partners, I was raped for the first time aged around 6, and regularly throughout my childhood.

    Mum would never attend my school events or show any interest in me, I would often go hungry and scavenge through bins or steal from people’s packed lunches.

    My clothes were hand me downs, more like tattered rags only fit for the bottom of an old dogs bed.

    School was hard, I was an outcast, a misfit, not good enough to be anyone’s friend, not academic, not sporty, not pretty, a poor loner.

    By 16 I had dropped out of education which meant I was no longer a financial use for my mother, I was cast aside to fend for myself.

    Homeless and scared I was a target for violence and sexual abuse yet again, eventually I was placed in a dirty bed sit, surrounded by drug users and vagrants.

    I have always been unwanted, a waster, a woman of no worth.

    So yes I wish I had of been aborted then my life would have not been one of misery, one of pain and one of self loathing.

    I am finally at the age of 27 getting some support from my husband, I have cut of my mum completely from my life, my demons still haunt me and I suffer from depression, I am yet to see the light at the end of the tunnel, I do not see how I will ever recover nor a bright shining future but I will carry on this existence in the hope that one day, some how I recover enough to be able to bring life into this world and give my child the Up bringing I was never entitled to have.

    If you need help please see: https://rapecrisis.org.uk/  or https://www.samaritans.org/

    Read similiar story here: http://mums-advice-old-copy.local/i-wish-my-son-was-never-born/

  • Dad Masturbates His Disabled Son And Explains Why

    Dad Masturbates His Disabled Son And Explains Why

    Perhaps one of the most controversial posts of late has been that of a blog by Fayzal Mahamed.

    In the blog, he explains his actions in physically masturbating his disabled son and why he feels it is the best thing he can do for his therapy.

    Mahamed explains in his blog post why he has chosen to do this and hopes to bring light to the taboo subject of disabilities and sex.

    Fayzal Mahamed. Fayzal Mahamed is making headlines with his controversial blog post regarding his severely disabled son. Mahamed has openly stated he has chosen to masturbate his son as a treatment method.

    Dad Masturbates His Disabled Son And Explains Why
    Dad Masturbates His Disabled Son And Explains Why

    Mahamed’d son, Mustafa suffers from PIMD or Profound Intellectual Multiple Disabilities. He has severe disabilities that have left him unable to communicate or voluntarily move any of his muscles.

    He has an estimated IQ well below 20 and is basically bed-ridden if it were not for his father’s care.

    Mahamed explains that from around the time Mustafa was 17, he noticed his son would get erections during bath time and through regular therapeutic massages.

    What Mahamed found in his research was a lot of hush-hush and brick walls. He explained that there wasn’t a lot of help out there for people in his situation.

    In the beginning, Mahamed was confused and overwhelmed with caring for his son but felt as though there must be something he could do. “As a father who understood sexual behavior, I knew that my son was trying to express his sexual feelings because of the arousal that was happening around his body and that this sexual behavior was no different than most teenagers encounter after puberty in their personal sexual development,” Mahamed wrote.

    Mahamed writes his biggest wall that was encountered came by way of fear in others. He states the issue itself is rarely discussed because it’s feared. “There is a taboo in discussing general sexual matters such as masturbation in society and this attitude gets aggravated in the discussion of sexuality of persons with disability,” he states.

    Mahamed was able to find literature on sexual therapy and sex workers who were trained to help people with disabilities, but says none of which were available to his son. He states from insurance issues, therapy was out, and there were no qualified (or legal) sex workers in the South Africa area where they live.

    After extensive research and discussions with medical personnel, Mahamed decided on a course of action for his son. “I thought the only way forward was to treat my son equally to other disabled persons and apply the professional advice given to other profoundly disabled persons, namely, therapeutic masturbation to relieve and gratify my son’s sexual expression,” he stated.

     It was after this lengthy research that Mahamed came to the realization he would have to provide the therapeutic masturbation himself if he was serious about going that avenue for his son.

     “It was at this stage that I soon came to realize that there was no alternative way to provide the therapeutic masturbation that my son needed other than to apply the therapeutic masturbation on my own,” Mahamed explained in his blog.

    As Mahamed describes further in his blog, the experience of therapeutic massage was nothing more than a “natural extension” of the care he was already providing for his son. He states it was no different than caring for his son by bathing him or changing a nappy.

    Mahamed explained his son’s reaction to the first treatment by saying, “I remember how my son expressed a sense of relief, delight and happiness with a smile followed by laughter and other sounds of contentment when I applied the therapeutic masturbation.”

     The masturbation therapy has worked wonders on his son’s demeanor according to Mahamed. He states the therapy has “led to a calmness in my son’s behavior and he continues to show his contentment and happiness all around him.”

     Mahamed says he understands the controversy behind the therapy procedures, but hopes his blog will bring light to a little-discussed topic. “I wish to appeal to parents and caregivers to consider that such care and nurture includes sexual care and this begins by recognizing that all persons with disabilities are sexual human beings”.

    Dad Masturbates His Disabled Son And Explains Why

     

  • I Quit My Job To Breastfeed My Boyfriend

    Now not everyone enjoys their job many quit because of the stress of it, feeling under appreciated or don’t like certain colleagues but can you image saying to your boss, “I quit this job so I can breastfeed my boyfriend every two hours.” Well… this woman did.
    Where did the idea come from? Mulford approached her former childhood sweetheart, 36-year-old Brad Leeson, with the idea, “It was like a light switch flicked in his head. I could tell him from his voice that he was curious and excited.”

     “We were talking and Brad told me he had a thing for big-breasted women, and that size had always been a factor in his relationships,” Jennifer said. “I thought it was the perfect time to bring up adult breastfeeding -and see if he’d be interested.”

    It was then that Mulford knew she had found the one. “At the moment I knew that I had a partner for life,” she said. “We both wanted the same thing out of the relationship — a magical bond that only breastfeeding can achieve.”

    The search begins. Before Brad came into the picture, Jennifer was searching aimlessly for a man to be open to the adult breastfeeding concept. “When I read about the pure joy it brought others, I was desperate to seek out a partner to share an emotional bond with.”

    He said yes! Brad was interested. The only problem? Jennifer hadn’t breastfed a baby, let alone an adult male, in over 20 years. She didn’t have any milk to feed to Brad.

     The thing about a woman’s body is it’s not like you just suck on a nipple for a few seconds and milk comes out. You would have to trick your body by “dry” breastfeeding quite often to fool your body into lactating.


     That is a lot of work, all of that dry breastfeeding to fool your body. Jennifer is so committed to this pursuit that she quit her job. “I’ve taken a break from my job because I want to devote everything to making this work.”