Tag: rest

  • The Differences Between A Mummy And A Daddy Lie In

    Mummy and Daddy take it in turns to have a lie in at the weekends. They are each allocated one day to have an extra couple of hours in bed.

    Mummy has noticed there are a few small differences between her morning lie in routine and Daddy’s.

    Daddy’s routine.

    1. Daddy does not have regular visits in bed where he is poked and stared at to check if he is yet awake.

    2. Daddy does not give up on his lie in around 6am and get up.

    3. Daddy comes straight downstairs after his leisurely 2 hours extra In bed and straight away makes himself a coffee and toast.

    4. Daddy goes straight back upstairs after toast and coffee for a 45 minute toilet break.

    5. Daddy returns and sits engrossed in children’s programmes.

    Mummy’s routine.

    1. Mummy is visited in bed 10 minutes into her lie in, she is poked, stared at, and alerted by the word FINISHED!!!! When she is needed in the bathroom instantly.

    2. Mummy gives up 30 minutes into her designated lie in and gets up.

    3. Mummy arrives downstairs at what only can be described as a disaster zone.

    4. Mummy sees Daddy lying on the sofa in the foetal position, looking like he is suffering with post traumatic stress.

    5. Mummy tidies up the twenty thousand toys on the floor whilst daddy goes for a 45 minute toilet break.

    6. Mummy feeds the children a ‘proper’ breakfast that doesn’t consist of Dairylea singles and digestive biscuits. Daddy says Isla didn’t want cereal, she wanted cheese.

    7. Mummy picks up Daddy’s dirty breakfast pots from the floor in the living room and bangs them down on the side in the kitchen to let Daddy know he is a scruffy cock womble.

    8. Mummy is informed the children have been awfully hard work in the 30 minute time span Daddy has had to look after them.

    9. Mummy is given a list of all of the things both children did that were challenging in the 30 minutes Mummy was ‘resting’.

    10. Mummy orders Daddy a large medal off of eBay as she fills the washing machine then changes the baby’s bum.

    11. Mummy washes the pots that are invisible to Daddy as he stands watching next to her, hiding from the children in the living room.

    12. Mummy asks Daddy why his dirty clothes are in the middle of the living room floor. Daddy says he took them off there last night. Mummy is getting cross. Daddy missed the subtle hint that he should pick his dirty clothes up off of the bastarding floor immediately.

    13. Mummy finally gets around to having some toast an hour and a half after she has arrived downstairs. Daddy tells Mummy he is too feeling a little peckish, Mummy thinks it must have been hard for him only managing to eat a bowl of cereal, half a pack of biscuits and 2 slices of toast whilst the children ran him ragged for a whole 30 minutes. Daddy stands right where mummy needs to be stood to butter her toast… still avoiding the children.

    14. Daddy sits watching the children’s programmes on TV whilst the little one empties a full packet of baby wipes onto the carpet and the biggest hounds Mummy in the kitchen to get the play dough out.

    15. Daddy asks Mummy why she is a bit grumpy. Mummy says she just can’t fucking think why she would possibly be feeling grumpy on her designated lie in day.

    😂😂😂

    #lieinday

    #sunday

    #passthewine

    #laughwithmummy

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  • The Benefits And Risks Of Epidural

    E P I D U R A L

    An epidural is a thin hollow tube that sits in the epidural space of the spine, allowing numbing medicine to get delivered right to the nerves, used mostly as pain management in labour.

    It is important to understand that while there are benefits, there are also risks.

    Benefits include:

    👉🏻 Pain relief

    👉🏻 Allows you to rest

    👉🏻 May help stop cervical swelling

    Risks include:

    👉🏻 Itching

    👉🏻 Nausea & Vomiting

    👉🏻 Fever

    👉🏻 Low blood pressure

    👉🏻 Breathing difficulties

    👉🏻 Severe headache

    👉🏻 Spinal fluid leak

    👉🏻 Infection

    👉🏻 Tearing

    👉🏻 Instrumental Birth (forceps or vacuum)

    👉🏻 Ongoing short or long term back pain

    👉🏻 Prolonged labour

    Were you told about the risks of an epidural?

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  • When Will I See The Baby?

    “When can I come see the baby?”

    A question new moms might hear over and over.

    At least at first.

    Sometimes before she has left the hospital.

    Before she has had a chance to sleep.

    Before she has even showered off the blood.

    “When can I come see the baby?”

    Her phone dings while she settles back in to her home with a brand new human – to her brand new normal.

    Her estrogen and progesterone levels are plummeting from the highest they’ve ever been to the lowest. She is shaky and hot and cold and sweaty and weak.

    Whether she chooses to breastfeed or not, her milk is coming in and she is sore and engorged.

    Whether she delivered vaginally or by c-section, her uterus will be contracting for days and weeks. Sometimes it’s as painful as labor.

    She’s bleeding and will continue to bleed for up to six weeks post-delivery.

    Her crotch is swollen and puffy and sore, or her incision is painful, or both.

    She is struggling to go to the bathroom – and she pees her pants (or pad) when she laughs, sneezes, and coughs.

    Her core muscles are weak, making lifting ANYthing hard.

    She’s starving. Endlessly starving.

    She has stretch marks and varicose veins, hair loss and acne, blurry vision and dry eyes. She sees a stranger in the mirror.

    She is totally and utterly exhausted. She hasn’t slept for more than an hour at a time in days or weeks.

    Any independence she had – to run errands, go to work, shower, eat, pee, sleep – has been suspended for now.

    So when you walk into her house, look at HER first.

    Give her space to heal, to bond, and to rest if she needs it.

    Be there if she needs it.

    Offer to help her.

    And then help her.

    Admire the baby, sure.

    But don’t forget to nurture the mother.

    Credit Nicolle Godor

  • This Is Why You Should Rest After Giving Birth

    When your placenta detaches from your uterus at birth, it leaves behind an open wound roughly the size of a plate! It is from this wound that you lose nearly a tenth of your total blood volume during and after birth.

    Many cultures around the world encourage a period of “lying in” after the birth of a baby to give this wound (and the rest of the body) time to fully heal. If you are doing too much too soon after birth your body will let you know – you’ll pass more bright red blood from this wound.

    If his wound was on the outside of your body would you rest? Even though it can’t be seen from the outside, this is the size of the area that is left to heal on the inside of your uterus immediately after childbirth. That’s before we consider other places on the body that are sore or tense or just plain exhausted.

    Make a plan while you are still pregnant to allow time for postpartum healing. Postpartum is a time of recovery and rest is a crucial ingredient in the recipe for healing. Take it seriously. Postpartum recovery matters. 

    Photo credit 📷 @earthmamaorganics

  • Great Advice To All New Mums

    Great advice to ALL new mums…

    “22cm or 8.6 inches. That is the exact diameter of a paper plate, AKA the fine china in our house. It is also the average diameter of a placenta.

    “After a baby is born, mothers are told to take it easy for at least 4-6 weeks. There are good reasons for that! One of those reasons is that after the baby is born, mothers are left with a wound on the inside of their uterus where the placenta was attached. That wound will take at least 4-6 weeks to completely heal.

    During that time they are still susceptible to infection and hemorrhaging. Even if they have a complication-free vaginal delivery and feel okay, they will still need to take care of themselves and not overdo it for those first several weeks postpartum.

    To those mothers, rest! To their husbands, partners, parents, in-laws, friends – let them rest! Help out as much as you can and don’t let them overdo it!

    As the saying goes “one week in bed, one week around the bed, and 2 weeks around the house.”

    Edited to add: I am not a medical professional. This is only meant to be common sense advice to take it easy. I do not mean for women to lay around for 4 weeks not moving at all. Listen to your body and take care of yourself! Talk to your doctor or midwife if you have any questions” – via Labor of Love – Lancaster, PA

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