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  • This Mothers Act of Stopping Unintentional Racism is Going Viral!

    When Brigette Diez Kerr’s daughter asked her if she could have her hair styled like her best friend’s, this mothers response is going viral for all the right reasons.

    Credit: Brigette Diez Kerr via Facebook

    “This is my daughter and her best friend. They’ve been BFFs since kindergarten. They are in 2nd grade now. My daughter got up the other morning for school and asked that I fix her hair like her best friend wears her hair. She wanted tiny braids just like her.

    I didn’t give my daughter braids that morning. Instead, I told her we didn’t have time. That was a lie. It was MY fear of my daughter getting teased due to the stereotypes that we place on each other and how others perceive them that kept me from giving her braids that morning.

    Credit: Brigette Diez Kerr via Facebook

    My pastor just spoke this past Sunday morning of intentional and unintentional racism. I am by no means intentionally racist. I have dear friends and coworkers I love that are of many ethnicities. But was MY fear of my daughter being stereotyped a form of UNintentional racism?! I WAS CONVICTED! How dare I push MY fear, my UNintentional racism, onto my daughter who sees no color, no stereotype, no hate, no “white girl hairstyle” or “black girl hairstyle”? She only sees pretty hair on her best friend. She shows love to ALL people without hesitation.

    My daughter got her braids this morning. They weren’t perfect…I tried my very best. And she was SO PROUD! Her smile was from ear to ear this morning and she couldn’t wait to get to school to show her best friend. She wanted to take a picture with her best friend this morning because they were twins.

    I know so many people who claim to not be racist. Maybe you aren’t intentionally being racist but are there some decisions you are making or thoughts that you are having that may be considered UNintentional racism? We are called to love our neighbor as ourselves! Let’s do a better job of showing this love. #loveoverhate #colorblind #besties #checkyourself #unintentionalracism

    John 13:34-35 (NIV)
    34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

  • Are You Sure You’re Not Racist 

    An American  mum is going viral for a powerful letter on what she calls “UNintentional racism.” The mum, Brigette Diez Kerr, says she’s never been “intentionally racist,” but when her 7-year-old daughter asked for braids to match her best friend, the mum was suddenly convicted.

    Read Brigette’s story below:

    This is my daughter and her best friend. They’ve been BFFs since nursery. They are in year 3 now. My daughter got up the other morning for school and asked that I fix her hair like her best friend wears her hair. She wanted tiny braids just like her.

    I didn’t give my daughter braids that morning. Instead, I told her we didn’t have time. That was a lie. It was MY fear of my daughter getting teased due to the stereotypes that we place on each other, and how others perceive them, that kept me from giving her braids that morning.

    My pastor just spoke this past Sunday morning of intentional and unintentional racism. I am by no means intentionally racist. I have dear friends and coworkers I love that are of many ethnicities. But was MY fear of my daughter being stereotyped a form of UNintentional racism?! I WAS CONVICTED! How dare I push MY fear, my UNintentional racism, onto my daughter who sees no colour, no stereotype, no hate, no “white girl hairstyle” or “black girl hairstyle”? She only sees pretty hair on her best friend. She shows love to ALL people without hesitation.

    My daughter got her braids this morning. They weren’t perfect…I tried my very best. And she was SO PROUD!


    Her smile was from ear to ear this morning and she couldn’t wait to get to school to show her best friend. She wanted to take a picture with her best friend this morning because they were twins.


    I know so many people who claim to not be racist. Maybe you aren’t intentionally being racist but are there some decisions you are making or thoughts that you are having that may be considered UNintentional racism? We are called to love our neighbor as ourselves! Let’s do a better job of showing this love.

  • 8 Year Old Biracial Child Hung From A Tree

    A  grandmother in America is shaken after learning what happened to her 8 year old grandson.

    Lorrie Slattery found out a rope was wrapped around her grandson’s neck before he was allegedly pushed off of a table, leaving him hanging and swinging around from a tree.

    Slattery explained that her biracial grandson was playing in a garden when a group of white teens began throwing sticks and rocks at his legs. They were hurling racial slurs at him before the rope from a tire swing ended up wrapped around his neck.

    The grandmother said 

    “The [teenagers] said, ‘Look at this,’ supposedly putting the rope around their necks. One boy said to [Slattery’s grandson], ‘Let’s do this,’ and then pushed him off the picnic table and hung him.”


    There were no adults around when the frightening moment took place, so it is not clear how the rope was placed on his neck.

    The bloodied child was flown to hospital for the injuries he suffered from the hanging.

    His grandmother said she was told by an interviewer specializing in child abuse that he had swung back and forth three times before he was able to free himself.

    Police are investigating the incident.

    The 8-year-old boy was treated and released for the cuts on his neck. He escaped internal injuries from being hung from the rope, for which his family is grateful.

    Slattery said: “I think he had a guardian angel.”

  • Someone Called This Girl’s Japanese Tea Party Racist and Then a Japanese Person Stepped In

    Cultural appropriation has always been a touchy subject, but the topic has become especially heated in recent years thanks to so many media outlets setting bad examples (ahem, Vogue). That’s why when one Utah mum shared her daughter’s Japanese-themed birthday party FIVE years ago, it resurfaced on Tumblr and caused an uproar on the internet.

    One user has since called the mum “racist” and has criticized her for setting a bad example for her daughter.


    “Teach children this is not ok,” user ‘ginzers’ wrote.


    The response was quickly cheered and supported by other Tumblr users, and in the years that have followed this particular post has percolated around reddit and various other forums in one form or another. Hence why it resurfaces from time-to-time.