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  • Don’t Let Your Kids Act Up

    I picked my son up from his fathers today. He was grounded from his tablet before he went because I am no longer taking his attitude. I don’t know about other parents of six year olds, but the way he has been talking to me over the past 4-6 weeks is inexcusable and will not be tolerated anymore.

    I had told him that if he was well behaved tonight, he could have his tablet back tomorrow.

    We had a talk not only today on the way home, but multiple times over the weekend about how his bad choices had consequences. He was warned that he was going to have 3 strikes: tablet goes, then the tv goes, and then it’s the bedroom for the rest of the day.

    Not even the first hour of being home, the attitude started. By attitude I mean dictating what he is and is not doing, not listening, telling me no, yelling at me, etc. I told him he was not getting his tablet back tomorrow. Then a few minutes later, the next attitude outburst came. TV is now taken away. 2 strikes. Then it was the 3rd attitude outburst. So now my son is eating dinner in his bedroom and afterwards will be in his bed staring at the ceiling for the rest of the evening. He needs to learn.

    I’m not posting this to shame him. I posting this in case there are any other parents that are going through the same and doubting themselves. YOU ARE A GOOD PARENT. YOUR CHILD IS A GOOD KID. But they need to learn while they are still little because it’s even harder to teach them as they get older.

    Before we know it our children are going to be young men and women and I sure am not letting my son into this world thinking it’s okay to act however he wants. I refuse to let my son be disrespectful to anyone. I refuse to let my son do as he wants instead of following the rules.

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  • Tough Love Is All I Know How To Give

    HAD TO SHARE THIS : …..

    Tough love is all I know how to give !

    When I’ve busted my butt to do everything possible to give my child a great life .. a better life that I had and guide her and her siblings to the best of my ability …

    Several talks .. plenty of chances and still chooses to act a fool at school and at home…

    Well this mom has reached her limit !

    She will learn to appreciate having a nice cozy bed .. now that she is sleeping on the floor .

    She will learn to appreciate the clothes and shoes we have bought her now that I have limited her to 3 pants , 3 tops and 3 undergarments , 1 hoodie and 1 jacket and 2 pairs of shoes.

    She will learn to appreciate having a washer and dryer …because now she will have to wash those 3day outfits by HAND to re-wear them.

    She will appreciate the fact that she had nice clothes to sport the weekends ..because now she will be wearing her same weekday school uniforms during the weekend .. since that’s part of the wardrobe I allowed her to keep!

    She will appreciate to have had a tv 📺 to watch because now she will only have the 4 walls in her room to look at or a book to read.

    She will learn to appreciate family time and miss it now that she will have plenty of time alone to think about her horrible actions !

    She will appreciate the phone she had and we pay for because now she is disconnected from the world 🌍 NO SOCIAL MEDIA, NO FRIENDS , NOTHING!

    She will learn to watch her mouth and respect her elders at home and at school .. as well as follow directions and correct her behavior as we have taught her to do so!

    Teenagers nowadays think that us parents NEED to give them all that extra stuff .. we sure in hell don’t! All we need to do is provide the basic needs, a roof over there head and food.

    They take everything for granted and complain about every little dumb crap!

    So at this point this punishment is indefinite but at the very minimum a month!

    Best believe she’s going to learn from this one!!

    Credit Liza sepulveda

  • Mums Punishment Causes Heated Debates

    Cierra Brittany Forney’s post has caused heated debates on social media after she shared how she punished her son.

    Forney said “So lately, my 13-year-old son had been acting a little… entitled. Acting like he’s too good to shop at Wal-Mart or making snarky comments about kids at school who shop at the goodwill and quite a few other things. I don’t tolerate that.

    Today, he took his own 20.00 to the goodwill to buy clothes to wear the entire week to school. Whatever he found is what he would have to wear. He isn’t happy and shed a few tears but I firmly believe in 15 years he will look back and laugh at the day his Mom made him shop at goodwill. I want to teach my kids that money isn’t everything and if you have to degrade other people because of where they shop, then you too will shop there. Side note, I love the goodwill!!”.

    Some people thought the punishment was perfect and that it will teach him kindness and compassion and a great life lesson, whilst many others thought it wrong to share the photo to social media, classing it as a kind of bullying and a permanent reminder that may haunt this boy for years to come.

    What are your thoughts on this form of punishment, great parenting? Too harsh? Let us know in the comments section

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  • Mums Punishment Is Causing Heated Debates

    Amanda Mitchell is causing a heated debate on Facebook with her parenting style.

    Mitchell said “I don’t usually post this kind of stuff but I’m so disgusted and disappointed in Hannah’s behaviour this week I just have to share.

    Long story short, I get a call from her teacher on Friday explaining how Hannah has been acting up all week in class, for substitutes and in other classes. At least two days in a row has been found wandering the halls during lunch when she is required to remain with her class. Was picking on one of her best friends and really hurt the little one’s feelings. Lying to other teachers about her own (AMAZING) teacher. And generally just acting like an asshole.

    Yes, I just said asshole why? Because she’s acting like one. I know she’s not an asshole but if the shoe fits, right?

    The result: an empty room. She has nothing. Welcome to Mommy’s Juvenile Detention little girl. She will wear the same outfit (complete with her anti-bullying shirt) all week. I will wash it at night once she goes to bed but I won’t tell her that. Harsh? Not in my opinion. If she grows up to break the law then the result is jail and that’s not what I want for my children. I think the problem with this generation is inadequate punishment. Punishment is bad we should only use positive reinforcement and ignore all bad behaviour – NOT in this house.

    So this child will earn her things back one at a time. Every day this week she will write lines …

    50 times each:

    I will not lie

    I will be kind to everyone

    I will behave at school

    I am my own person and I make my own choices (she’s been trying to blame her bad behaviour on a friend)

    I am responsible for my own actions

    And then this child will learn the hard way that we do not act like assholes 🙂”.

    Do you agree with her discipline idea? Is this punishment too harsh or a perfect life lesson? Let us know in the comments

  • My Son Is Being Punished For Being Bullied

    My son is 7 and has dyspraxia and is on the autistic spectrum, he also has an irritable bladder.

    He is a kind, smart and sensitive boy, he likes to hug people and sometimes says things he shouldn’t, he struggles to make friends as he is “different”, with his bladder he sometimes has wet patches in his trousers especially when he is stressed however teachers say he is a perfect pupil eager to please and a hard worker.

    But my boy is being bullied by this one particular girl, she says my boy is ugly because he has freckles and that he smells of wee, anything my son touches she refuses to use and tells everyone its covered in germs, she taunts him, shoves him kicks him and gets others to follow suit.

    Last month my son came home from school and got sandpaper and tried to rub his freckles off, he washes constantly and cries himself to sleep.

    As his mum I’ve been into the school and spoke to his teacher on numerous occasions even spoke to the head and this girls parents.

    My son seemed happier for a short time until 4 days before half term where this one girl chucked a rock at his eye during play time again I spoke to the school.

    The next day I asked my son had this girl been horrible to him and to my surprise he said no, I was pleased that the school had finally dealt with her.

    But I was then shocked to discover the reason why my son hadn’t been bullied was because he had been placed in isolation!!!

    The school have effectively punished my son for being a victim of bullying.

    The school can’t seem to deal with this 7-year-old girl and protect my child by keeping him on his own but this won’t help my  childs social development and he feels he has done wrong for telling on her, as his mum i want to protect him but other than pulling him out of the school completely which will be very very stressful for him as change is hard for him what on earth can I do, I feel helpless.

    I didn’t send my son back to school for the rest of the week and I’m still unsure what to do when he is due to return to school on Monday.

    What would you do in this situation?

     

  • Children punished for lazy or poor parents

    Children punished for lazy or poor parents.

    A number of schools across the United Kingdom have strict policies and rules most people are able to abide by these without a problem.

    At one school in Essex if a child does not have the correct footwear or uniform the child will lose part if not all of their lunch or break time, the same punishment is used if the child arrives late for school.

    One child is regularly late due to his mother having late nights drinking and not awaking early enough to get her son to school, the school are aware of this and social services are helping to support the mother.

    This boy is seven he gets himself dressed and ready to go and begs his mum to get up or to allow him to walk the two miles to his school but every day he is late even if only by a few minutes but he is penalised, this is not in any way the child’s fault.

    Another little girl has not had a break time since the start of term as her mother cannot afford to buy her new school shoes the child has to attend school in trainers.

    The mother has explained to the school that times are extremely hard and she is struggling to even have enough money to feed her child, the school is not understanding and told the mother that the uniform policy is there for a reason and suggested she borrow money from someone to get shoes, a few of the mums at the school ended up having a whip round and bought the girl a brand new pair of school shoes.

    So these are extreme situations but times are hard for many people, and some people have to travel a fair distance to get to school, if a child is not old enough to buy their own clothes and take themselves to school surely the parents should be punished not the child and circumstances should be taken into account, no child or parent should be penalised for being on the bread line or struggling with travel arrangement.

     

  • Is This Punishment TOO Extreme?

    This mothers no-nonsense parenting style have been going viral on Facebook and it’s clear to see why.

    Carina Esbittnai has been causing a split of opinion with her #JAILSTYLE parenting punishment.

    Via FACEBOOK

    Her post has gained over 7 thousand reactions and has been shared on the social media platform over 11 thousand times!

    See the post in question below…

    Via FACEBOOK

    What do you think of this?  Let us know in the comments.