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  • I Am A Woman So What?

    WHOEVER WROTE THIS

    SHOULD BE GIVEN AN

    AWARD!!!

    I AM A WOMAN!!!

    So what?

    I get into an argument

    with a man, he slaps me,

    I feel the pain, yet they

    tell me I provoked him. I

    should have been quiet, I

    should have been patient.

    I should apologize to him.

    I get into an argument

    with a man, I slap him,

    they tell me I have no

    respect, no home

    training. I should have

    been quiet, I should have

    been patient. I should

    apologize to him.

    Because I am a woman, I

    don’t have a right to be

    angry. So, the degree of

    my innocence is directly

    proportional to the

    degree of my silence in

    the face of oppression

    and brutality…..

    Because I am a woman,

    my husband cheats on

    me, I am told to tolerate it

    to save my marriage. The

    barbaric and stupid

    excuse is that ”it is in

    their nature to cheat, I

    should slim down, dress

    better, cook better, pray

    harder and be more

    pleasant to him”

    I cheat, and I am called a

    whore, I have committed

    an abomination, I have no

    right to look elsewhere

    for the love and

    emotional support I lack

    at home, I am an

    irresponsible mother.

    So I am sent packing,

    from the home we both

    built, with all my earthly

    possessions stuffed into

    a tiny box on my head. I

    am henceforth forbidden

    from seeing my two older

    children, I’m lucky to be

    allowed to go with my

    little one still suckling on

    my left breast. Three

    years later, the little one

    is tagged a bastard. Now,

    my new name is “after-

    three”, because I am a

    woman.

    He is 28 and runs a

    company. He’s tagged

    wonderful, hardworking,

    focused, career oriented,

    successful at a very

    young age.

    I am 28 and I run a

    company “Hmmmm….

    she is not even married,

    unserious, can not order

    her priorities right, a

    hustler, loves money, let

    her go and get a husband

    oh”

    And I wonder if being

    successful has anything

    to do with a person’s

    gender.

    Because I am a woman,

    I am not allowed to have

    wits or be a prodigy, I

    cannot be financially

    buoyant, professionally

    successful or be treated

    with respect without a

    man beside me.

    Then I am tagged a

    generous leg opener, “a

    runs girl”. They never see

    the possibility that I

    actually had to go

    through ups and downs

    to get to where I am,

    because I am a woman.

    A man looses his wife to

    death and remarries a

    year after, he did the right

    thing, he’s being praised

    and congratulated for

    moving on, after all life is

    for the living.

    A woman looses her

    husband to death and

    remarries after 4yrs,

    “aaah! so early? Are u

    sure she wasn’t sleeping

    with that man even when

    her husband was alive?

    That was why she killed

    her husband. She’s a

    witch! Because she’s a

    woman.

    Because I am a woman,

    this post will be

    considered controversial,

    and everyone will try to

    correct me. But don’t

    forget, that I am a woman

    and it does not make me

    less human!!!

    Share to respect some

    woman and Tell your

    woman that you love

    her

    : *Who is a

    woman?????*

    When she is quiet,

    millions of things are

    running through her

    mind. When she stares at

    you, she is wondering

    why she loves you so

    much in spite of being

    taken for granted. When

    she says I will stand by

    you, she will stand by you

    like a solid rock. Never

    hurt her or take her for

    granted. A very heart

    touching message by a

    woman. Someone asked

    her, Are you a working

    woman or a housewife?

    She replied: Yes, I am a

    full-time working

    housewife. I work 24

    hours a day. I’m a Mum.

    I’m a Wife. I’m a

    Daughter. I’m a Daughter-

    in-law. I’m an Alarm

    clock. I’m a Cook. I’m a

    Maid. I’m a Teacher. I’m a

    Waitress. I’m a Nanny.

    I’m a Nurse. I’m a

    Handywoman. I’m a

    Security officer. I’m a

    Counsellor. I’m a

    Comforter. I don’t get

    holidays. I don’t get sick

    leave. I don’t get day off. I

    work through day and

    night. I’m on call all hours

    and get paid with a

    sentence. “What Do U Do

    All Day??” This Is

    Dedicated to all

    women*** A Woman has

    the most unique

    character like salt! Her

    presence is never

    remembered, but her

    absence makes all the

    things tasteless. Pass it

    to all the lovely ladies…Ur

    Mother. Ur Wife. Ur

    daughter. Ur sister & Ur

    friend.

    Forward to every woman

    to make her smile and to

    every man to make him

    realize a woman’s worth.

    💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃👌

     

  • Let’s Talk About Autism And The Emergency Room

    Let’s talk about #Autism & the Emergency Room 🏥🚨

    Did you know that of the individuals with autism who use the emergency department, almost 1 in 4 are sedated or restrained to keep them calm? (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/25433045/)

    It doesn’t have to be like that. Being physically restrained like that can cause psychological trauma. Sometimes sedation and or restraint can be the safest option, yes. However, it should never be the go to choice.

    When staff are compassionate and understanding it can prevent having to turn to physical restraint.

    Emergency room staff can do this by speaking in a clear, concise manner. Explain to the patient what is going to happen, and why it’s important. Be patient and give the individual sufficient time to process the information. Staff should be open to suggestions from parents/caregivers, as they know the individual best.

    Successful emergency room trips are possible with autism when you have caring staff who are willing to listen and understand! 💙

    For more information for Hospital Staff:

    https://www.autismspeaks.org/hospital-emergency-staff

    For more information for Parents or Caregivers:

    https://www.rchsd.org/documents/2015/03/autismspeakstoolkit.pdf/

     

  • The Unneccassary Touch Must Stop

    The “impertinent and unnecessary” touch in week 37 (or 38, or 39… 41)

    Nothing disgusts me more than taking advantage of the vulnerability of a term pregnant.

    Making a vaginal touch before the beginning of labor does not offer any advantage, it does not predict when you will be in labor and only increases the risk of infections, produces fear, uncertainty, loss of confidence in the woman, in addition to being completely exposed to Professionals without criterion perform the maneuver of Hamilton (Mechanical method of childbirth induction)

    Just out of curiosity, I got to read some of these online magazines for pregnancy, to go groping the information they deliver about the touches in consultations with the obstetrician in recent weeks.

    And I’m finding myself with a big surprise. Hundreds of women stranded, anxious, full of doubts and lamenting the imperfection of their bodies because with 37 or 38 weeks ” the baby was still not fit ” ” it wasn’t dilated or a little ” ” the baby is too high ” And there are not few who, in addition, leave the consultation with a hospitalization order for caesarean section or induction. No touch should be made before the start of labor! Their bodies are perfect for birth, hormonal signs of the body and baby have not yet triggered. I wouldn’t have to have dilatation or baby fit. You have to have patience and a lot of support of some doula, some respectful midwife, the couple well informed, but who encourage her to trust her body knows how to give birth and at her own time.

    But we continue reading stories of obstetric violence. Many women mean that they made a very painful touch and came out bleeding from the consultation. Most likely it was a Hamilton maneuver, without before explaining the risks and waiting for your authorization or consent.

    That is a serious violation of the rights of us as patients and we must denounce them. Let’s go, don’t play with our bodies.

     

     

  • Top Tips For Any Dads After Your Child Is Born

     

    Breastfeeding

    Last Month was Breastfeeding Awareness Month. So I figured id drop some knowledge on my fellow Dads and soon to be Dads. Here’s what it looks like for the first few weeks or months after your child is born. Yup if mom breastfeeds they pretty much are tucked like this and at times you’ll wonder “what is there for me to do?” Here’s my top 5 tips for any Dad after your child is born.

    1. For night feedings. When mom wakes up in the middle of the night. You get up and ask if she needs any help or water. The truth is most of the time she will say no but just the fact that you offered will go far.

    2. Ask mom if she can pump and then pick 1 feeding that you will always do. Mom will take on almost everything and will burn herself out if you let her. At times you may have to force her to rest without worrying about the baby. This is an easy way to do that without a fight.

    3. Don’t put a time limit on how long mom breastfeed the baby. It’s not just about feeding your child it’s about them bonding as well. I know everyone has a diffrent length of time they will breastfeed and as a Dad it’s hard to fully understand. Do not I repeat DO NOT try and rush this process it’s not our place and it’s not safe. You will open yourself up to a fight you can’t win.

    4. Be patient. I know as a Dad the first few weeks we are equally excited and yet not as important yet. Your time will come faster than you know. Babies grow fast and the stronger bigger they get the more Daddy Time will be coming your way.

    5. Paternity leave! If you have it TAKE IT. The early stages of a childs life are not just for moms to enjoy. I know as men making the money especially after having a baby but trust me. You can always make money but there are no instant replays in life. It doesn’t make you more of a man to not take the leave. It’s equally as important that you as a Dad get to be a part of the early development of your child.

    Someone needs this info Tag them

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/muhammednitoto

     

  • Care Workers Kicked And Abused Patient

    A PAIR of care workers who ill-treated a vulnerable mental health patient at a private hospital in Colchester left the victim with fractured ribs and a punctured lung.

    Scott Geeson, 28, lashed out and kicked the 44-year-old man whilst working at Cambian Fairview Hospital, in Boxted Road, in 2016.

    Lelish Shercan, 27, was also on duty and should have been looking after the patient, who suffered severe mental health problems and had learning difficulties.

    Geeson, of Winnock Road, Colchester, and Shercan, of Circus Square Colchester, admitted ill-treating or wilfully neglecting a person without capacity on the day of their trial earlier this month.

    The victim, who has severe learning impairments and mental health difficulties, was found with fractured ribs and a punctured lung after an encounter with the pair in his room.

    He has since made a full physical recovery and has been moved to another care home.

    Since the incident reviews have been carried out by the Care Quality Commission, assisted by the force and Essex County Council.

    Cambian officially dismantled and relinquished control of the facility.

    It has since been taken over by a new management company, Cygnet.

    Geeson and Shercan were sentenced at a hearing at Ipswich Crown Court today.

    Jake Taylor, mitigating on behalf of Geeson, said his client did not accept he had caused all of the injuries.

    He said: “Around this time his mother had become very unwell and passed away.

    “He was coping with that and was frustrated for a number of reasons.

    “All these factors built up and resulted in a man lashing out against someone who he otherwise had a good relationship with.”

    Shercan was educated in Nepal and his father is a member of the Royal Gurkha Regiment.

    Sean Hammond, mitigating on behalf of Shercan, said he was at risk of deportation from the country if he was sent straight to custody.

    He said: “The way he behaved on this occasion is completely out of character. He deeply regrets the suffering caused to the victim and his family and wants to offer his sincere apologies.”

    Judge John Devaux jailed Geeson for 21 months and Shercan for 16 months.

    However Shercan’s sentence will be suspended for two years.

    Detective Constable Tim Harris, of Colchester CID, described the pair’s behaviour as “vile and completely unacceptable.”

    “It has taken more than three years to see justice for this extremely vulnerable victim,” he said.

    “The people who should have cared for him were those who betrayed and mistreated him – their behaviour was vile and completely unacceptable.

    “I hope that the other workers, who have supported us fully throughout this investigation and raised the alarm when they recognised the victim’s injuries, realise how instrumental they were in the outcome of this case.

    “Speaking out against colleagues, even when they’ve done something wrong, can be incredibly difficult.

    “Their bravery has made a real difference to someone who could not speak for themselves.

    “By standing up, they’ve given him a voice and allowed Shercan and Geeson to be brought to justice.

    “This case was complex and harrowing for everyone involved in the investigation, but it has highlighted one thing – we need whistleblowers now more than ever.

    “If that’s you, come forward and call us. You never know what impact it could have.”