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  • Dogs Get Older But Their Love For You Never Changes

    Imagine Xmas morning. You get a puppy! Shes so cute. You take 100 pictures. Share all over Instagram and Facebook. You can’t love this puppy enough. You take her everywhere. To the store, to friends houses. She rides shotgun anywhere you decide you’re going. Everyone stops to pet her and cuddle.

    She is perfect in every way. Later on she starts to grow up. Still cute and starts to get an entity of her own. She has good days and bad days. You’ll come home and she will have ripped up your favorite pillow or peed on your carpet….but shes till soooooo cute, it’s just a mistake, she didnt mean to. You cuddle her and fall asleep just like you’ve done 100 times before.

    Then… she gets a little older. A little “less cute”, she’s trained now. More on auto pilot if anything else. When mistakes happen they are harder to oversee. I mean you’re an adult now, there is no reason for this. You scold her and run out the door. Your friends and family are waiting, of course! After hours alone in the house you come back, she’s peed on the floor. This time it isn’t laughs and cuddles that follow. Its yelling and smack on the butt, she’s old enough after all. She knows better. Then its lights out and off to sleep. You have a busy day tomorrow and she’s an afterthought.

    8 years later now, shes grey in the face. Shes an afterthought in your home. A piece of furniture. You knows shes there, as long as her food and water is full, you’ve done your job right??

    Every few weeks the vet introduces another medication to her regimen. This is becoming a chore! More and more money is spent keeping her healthy. Yet every day she greets you with a wagging tail! Even when shes obviously tired and in pain, she’s there. You brush her off, after 10 plus years the novelty had expired right??

    At night she cuddles alone, wondering what she did wrong. She isn’t the puppy with fuzzy fur anymore. She cant see as much as she used to, she has aches and pains. Shes confused and feels alone now. She knows you’re there but it isn’t the same. Her love for YOU has never changed. In 10, 12, 15 years. Its always been the most love she has always had to give. The question is have we done the same?

    Have we given all of our heart to her? It’s easy to get wrapped up in the day to day, to forget the small things that mean the most. The fact is shes loved you from day 1. The same love will continue until her last breath. Please! Especially this holiday season. Let’s not forget the ones who have been there. The ones who have seen us at our worst and continued to love us. Maybe their fur isn’t as smooth.

    Maybe they aren’t the pup we took home that night, but their heart has NEVER stopped loving us. Until they day they leave us they’ll never stop loving you!!! Here is to all the ones who are overlooked. The ones that have become an accessory in their own home. You are loved and know that you have served a purpose. Sleep well old friends!!!! Please please share this post. I know so many of us understand! Share please!

     

  • Why I Still Breastfeed My 4 Year Old

    This is the latest COMMENT I got after saying I BF my 4 year-old. I’d like to share with you my response, in case you ever come across it too in your BF journey…

    I said I BREASTFEED my 4 year-old and I was told:

    “If a 4-year-old child STILL looks for the BREAST, she is obviously LACKING something ”

    I agree, TOTALLY.☺️

    LET ME tell you just WHAT, is lacking in my child’s life:

    The FORCING to wean is lacking.

    The imposition to stop is lacking.

    She lacks two parents who want to DETACH her at all costs.

    She lacks a mother who feels cheated of her autonomy as a modern woman.

    She is lacking PERMANENT teeth:

    milk teeth = authorisation to be an infant. 🤗

    She lacked years spent sucking a rubber PACIFIER.

    She lacked a bottle of chamomile to calm her night CRIES.

    Vitamin supplements are lacking.

    She lacks an entourage , UNPREPARED to defend and support the mother, against the weight of social pressure that pushes her to abandon breastfeeding.

    INSECURITY and low self-esteem are also NOT THERE.

    She lacks the URGENCY to stop.

    She lacks the GROWTH milk.

    AND, she lacks a family surrounded by bad advisers.😉

    A mother breastfeeding an “older” child is often considered a SELFISH mother, who cannot detach from her little one, who does not want to let go, who does not stimulate autonomy, who spoils, oppresses.

    A mother who breastfeeds for a long time is treated as if she is doing something illegal and so she operates quietly, stealthily, as a thief.

    She is considered EXCESSIVE, an exhibitionist even.

    She feels alone, but I want to shout to each one of you that NO, you are NOT alone!!!!

    You are warriors mothers, following a natural mammalian INSTINCT that modernity is trying to wrest us away from.

    You deserve to walk with your heads UP and your tits in the WIND, because from those nipples Love and nourishment for your little one flows.

    Among a thousand hardships, so many ups and downs, turbulent nights,

    sweaty summer feedings,

    unlikely positions,

    pointed fingers,

    curious looks,

    unhappy comments,

    shapeless t-shirts and

    tested breasts…

    BREASTFEEDING is and always will be a great gift we can give ourselves, our children and the whole world.

    ❤️❤️❤️

    Credit: Stefanie Giraldi

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  • When Should You Stop Breastfeeding?

    Women come under a lot of scrutiny when it comes to breastfeeding. There are those who are shamed for doing it in public, those who are corrected for doing it wrong, and those who are criticized for not doing it at all. And then there are those who continue to do it even when their child is old enough to talk in full sentences.

    Davina Wright, a mother of five who lives in New Zealand, wrote a blog post for The Milk Meg about continuing to breastfeed her triplets who are now five years old.


    “I have often heard, ‘oh you’re just doing it for you now, it’s not about the children,’ but in all honesty I would be happy if they weaned now,” she wrote. “I am big on letting the child decide when they are ready to wean.”


    Her post raises the question about whether there should be a cut-off age for breastfeeding children.


    “It’s a controversial topic in North America and Europe, for sure,” says Stefanie Carrabin, a certified lactation consultant and breastfeeding expert. “But the immunobiology benefits are huge. Anything the mother is exposed to will be processed in her body, which will then build antibodies that will be passed on through the breast milk. It’s like an ongoing vaccination.”


    Health Canada recommends exclusive breastfeeding of infants up to six months old, and extends its recommendation to two years and beyond with appropriate complementary nutrition.


    “People always ignore the ‘two years and beyond‘ recommendation,” Carrabin says. “It’s basically saying there are no limits.”


    Breastfeeding advocates also question what we consider to be generally accepted norms when it comes to nutrition.



     

    “Most people in our society recognize that young children drinking milk is a good idea, but there’s a bizarre shift in thinking human milk is harmful and bovine milk is better,” says Genia Stephen, a midwife and lactation consultant. “Cow’s milk is not optimally designed for humans, whereas human milk is. The immune and growth factors in breast milk change intrinsically as the child ages. Breast milk produced for a four-month-old is different than breast milk produced for a four-year-old.”


    There’s a common misconception that toddlers who continue to breastfeed are less independent and “clingy.” But professionals, medical and holistic alike, are quick to quash that perception.


    “The child who breastfeeds until he weans himself — usually from two to four years — is usually more independent, and more secure in his independence,” writes Dr. Jack Newman, a pediatrician and executive director of the International Breastfeeding Centre. “He has received comfort and security from the breast until he is ready to make the step himself to stop. And when a child makes that step himself, it is a milestone in his life of which he is proud.”


    “Of course, breastfeeding can, in some situations, be used to foster an over-dependent relationship. But so can food or toilet training. The problem is not the breastfeeding. This is another issue.”


    Experts say that it all boils down to personal preference. And it’s a decision that women and their children should be able to make without judgement or criticism.


    “The looks and comments that mothers who are breastfeeding their toddler children in public receive are demeaning,” says Carrabin. “That’s not about the mother, it’s about other people and their reactions.”