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  • NHS Staff Being Fined For Parking When Working

    Sat in tears in my car after a long, hard 12.5 hour shift in A&E….

    and all for the wrong reasons 😰😢

    UHCW please somebody help !!!

    I’m absolutely losing my rag and don’t know what to do.

    For the past 8 years I have worked within the hospital and for those entire 8 years I have never EVER been given a parking pass despite multiple phone calls, emails, appeals, basically begging!!

    I have had countless struggles over the 8 years trying to get myself to work and back.

    These days I have to dump my car out side of the hospital and walk a good 20 min at least in all weathers & pitch black in winter.

    I’ve encountered trouble with youths, horrible weather leaving me soaked for 12.5 hr shifts and even had to waddle after my days at work throughout both of my pregnancies within the trust.

    More and more of the estates around the trust become covered in red/yellow lines making it next to impossible to find somewhere ‘acceptable’ to park, pushing people to park further and further away.

    Now for the past 2 shifts I have got back to my car, exhausted, and today soaked, to find 2 parking tickets AGAIN.

    Paying £10 a day in the visitor car park is not happening, I have 4 children to provide for!

    Please ffs someone help me resolve this utter nightmare I’m in ?!?!?!?!

    All to get myself to work and back…. does the hospital have that little respect for me that they think these daily struggles are acceptable for loyal dedicated members of staff?

    Honestly, please, someone offer some help or a solution because to be left in tears after a 12.5 hr day at work in A&E because of this is not acceptable.

    I love my job but this alone makes me want to look elsewhere 😰 The daily struggle is unreal.

    ?UHCW- Coventry council- Government – whoever is responsible for this should be ashamed of this poor treatment to staff 😭😭😭😭😭

    *******UPDATE*******

    Thank you so so much to anyone showing their support for me on this post. This was originally a private post to air my frustration to my friends. I was asked by a few people to make it public so they can share how bad the situation is and I never expected so many people to be concerned enough to share and comment!

    Just a few things to point out now though –

    – Please read the post properly and see that on this occasion I was not parked on hospital grounds so this is NOT a ticket from any of UHCW’s security staff.

    Although I have gotten many tickets on site before, this is not a dig at our security staff so please do not make this about them.

    – I was parking with a friends permit on these 2 occasions, on an estate near the hospital, which should have been valid – therefore I am in the process of doing an appeal for both tickets as I believe I should not have got them anyway! Thought I had a temporary solution to my parking issues… apparently I can’t even take my friends kind gesture of help now!

    – To the best of my knowledge, I believe the main problem is that the current car park is privately owned, NOT by the hospital. So it is the private company at fault for the ludicrous daily parking charges and fines on site. They have also introduced a new 10 minute rule where I believe you will be sent a fine even if you are not parked, and spend more than 10 minutes on site 🤷🏼‍♀️

    – And finally, again to the best of my knowledge, I believe the main thing UHCW needs is to build a whole new big car park for NHS staff, as right now the demand for passes much outweighs the current capacity. However I believe this isn’t supported by the council —— therefore it seems that these are the main ones needed to resolve the issue!

    Although really, this isn’t something a humble band 5 A&E nurse should have to think about. I certainly don’t get paid enough for that !!

    This should have been resolved years ago by all these high up, well paid decision making people 🤣

    I want nothing more than to drive to my place of work, do my 12.5 hour shift, and drive back home 😊

    Thank you everyone for showing some support 🙏💓😀 xxx

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  • The Christmas Present Of Nightmares

    Let me share with y’all a massive mom fail I experienced tonight. So about a week ago, I noticed this toy for sale on Amazon. They’re called “Yellies” and the whole concept is that the louder you yell at it, the faster it goes. Being the mother of a naturally loud and boisterous kid, I thought it would be the perfect Christmas present… well I couldn’t wait for Christmas.

    So I crack it open tonight, and get a good look at it. I test it out. I’m amazed at how powerful the little motor is… how fast the little legs move… how its creepy little eyes glow a lovely shade of radioactive green. So I call Leo in. He looks at it, cocks his little head to the side. And then, obviously, I yelled at it. The spider ran for it.

    Leo starts screaming… the louder he screams, the faster the spider pursued him. He runs. And this is when we discovered the fun little feature in which the spider has a tendency to stop abruptly… pause for a couple of seconds… spin in several erratic circles… and then turn towards wherever it senses sound… and take off in that direction.

    More screaming. Spider runs faster. Leo is backed into a corner as murder glows green in the eyes of little “Skadoodle.” So, in short, maybe a little electronic spider that’s power source feeds off of screams of terror… is not the best Christmas gift for your small child. 10 years from now we’ll be discussing this in therapy. #merrychristmas #ontheseconddayofchristmasmymamagavetome #nightterrorsandalifetimeofanxiety

    Credit Hilary hard

  • Help Your Child Build Skills To Deal With Nightmares

    If you have ever been awakened by your terrified child because of a nightmare, you know how helpless the situation can make you can feel.

    Although we cannot control what our kids are dreaming about, we can help them build skills to cope with their nightmares. Here are a few ways to help your children get back to their sweet dreams after a nightmare.

    Function of dreams

    Nightmares are dreams that usually wake the dreamer and stir negative emotions. The highest prevalence of nightmares has been shown between the ages of 5 to 10, according to a study of children’s nightmares.

    Bedtime routine

    How you set up bedtime can make a huge difference in the emotional content of your dreams. Make sure bedtime is early enough for your children to get 8 to 10 hours of rest. We might feel like we are doing them a favor by letting them stay up late, but really we might be hurting their sleep cycle.You’ll want to stay as consistent as possible so that the routine is predictable for them, as prediction of future expectations is comforting for children.

    Comfort

    Make sure to take the time to comfort your children on both the rational side and the emotional side, An example of how to comfort the rational/logical side would be to say: “You are safe here. No one is chasing you.”With the emotional side, you want to acknowledge the emotion the child is having and help them calm themselves. For example: “I know you are scared. Take some deep breaths to calm your fear down.”

    Practice mindfulness

    Talk your child through the five senses mindfulness activity – going through the five senses of touch, hearing, smell, taste and sight. Ask your child questions like: “Feel your blanket. Describe to me how it feels,” and “Take a drink of your water. What is it like to drink water?” This exercise gets your child back to their body and more centered.

    Rewrite the ending

    If your child can remember the nightmare, have them rewrite the ending. If they were being chased by a monster, help them come up with an ending where they defeat the monster. If the nightmare ended with them losing someone or having someone they care about die, have them create an ending in which they saved that person and became the hero. Not only does the story change for them, it can give the child a sense of control that is often lost in nightmares.

    3. Change the “channel”

    If your child is having a difficult time focusing in on themselves or telling the story, walk them through changing the “channel.” Just like they are changing the channel on a television, they are going to imagine flipping to a new channel that features a particular show that is calming or comforting to them. Have them tell you what the show is, what the plot is, and which characters are in the particular episode.

    Prevention

    Along with a healthy consistent bedtime routine, you’ll want to consider the images and media your children are interacting with. Having parental locks on media sites will help reduce adding new images to those that are apart of their nightmares.

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    Another aspect to pay attention to is whether your child feels safe. Even if their answers don’t make rational sense, you should try to make them feel more secure. Adding baby gates, night lights and extra blankets can help your child feel more secure.

    Seek support

    Just because your child is experiencing nightmares, it does not mean that they are experiencing traumatic events in their waking hours, a 1992 study found. However, it is important that you address these distressing dreams and find support in creating a safety support plan. This support can be found with teachers, counselors, other caregivers and even siblings.

     

     

    Nightmares can be a stressful and uncomfortable time for both the child and their caregiver. But with a little help and practice, your child can learn how to manage nightmares and return to a good night’s rest.