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  • Elderly Man Left In Hospital Waiting Room

    Do NOT take ur loved ones to memorial hospital in Modesto!!! My dad was released at 4am this morning on his own w/no phone, car ,money, or even means to walk or stand on his own!

    I instructed his nurse to call me AS SOON as he was released so I could pick him up but they NEVER did..my 70yr old father was Rolled into a waiting room & left there FOR SEVERAL HOURSSSS waiting for a ride that would’ve never came..I was told he was released an, ‘left on his own”@4am because he was “alert”. I then informed them that he COULDN’T have left on his own because he can’t walk, &I was his only ride! he didnt even have a phone to call anyone!

    After the 3rd time of calling an demanding they check the waiting room, bathrooms, they said he was gone! Finally the 4th time I called back an spoke to someone else they found him in the waiting room..I rushed bck to Modesto to find out he had been sitting there in pissed pants for over FOUR HOURS bcuz he wasn’t even able to get himself to the bathroom.

    On top of everything else some lady sitting next to him stole his walker!!(right in front of security)There was only a handful of people in that waiting room how could they not notice a 70yr old man,pee’d sitting there for several hours?!!!!! Without even checking on him or assisting him!! Unacceptable! He was released with pneumonia, a fever, and completely drugged up on morphine! DO NOT TAKE UR LOVED ONES TO THIS PLACE! #pleaseShare

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/chelseyannvargas

  • Social Service Baby Snatching Is A Myth-Read My Story

    I’ve seen many many posts recently about social services baby snatching etc. And I want to share my experience as mum whose child was removed.

    When my son was 11 months old, he was removed from my care by social services. He wasn’t snatched, he wasn’t stolen. Though I spent years believing he was. It’s only been the last two or three years I’ve seen things clear enough to be able to accept blame for my own actions.

    When ‘James’ was born, I developed, rapidly, post natal depression. But, listening to horror stories about how SS took babies, I didn’t tell anyone. I hid it. Within weeks the PND developed into post partum psychosis. I used to attack my partner. I used to self harm. I saw and heard things that weren’t there. I couldn’t bear to be near my baby, because I thought him crying meant he hated me.

    But I would physically attack family who tried to care for him, from a belief they wanted to steal or hurt him. For months, I stopped washing myself, stopped cleaning the house, stopped bathing the baby and only wet wipe washed him. I fed him, cleaned his bum, and did the bare minimum. He became sad, pale and withdrawn. My partner at the time, did his very best to try to help me and care for the baby. But with me threatening to kill myself and cutting myself and seeing things, he was so dedicated to my needs, James didn’t get the interaction he needed.

    He was often wearing the same clothes, because I wouldn’t change them. For some reason I got it into my head that they were lucky clothes and if I washed them he wouldn’t be protected from the things I was seeing and hearing. This all happened when James was around 6 months old. Health visitors started noticing things weren’t right, I refused to engage. Told them everything was fine and to basically fuck off. Then, at 11 months old, social services turned up took one look at the situation, and took James into care. I spent two years fighting them rather than actually working with them. I believed I was wronged by the system and they’d seen me as an easy target so snatched my baby for their bonuses. Name a SS conspiracy, I believed it.

    I spent the next four years after his removal, working on myself. Repairing what was broken. I dug myself out of that hole. My son was never returned, and rightfully so. In time, I had a daughter, six years after James removal. I spent three months in a parenting assessment unit. Cctv staff 24/7 never unsupervised etc. I passed that assessment with flying colours. Including the psych assessment. Three years after that, I had another son. This time social services didn’t even feel the need to be involved, such is the extent of my recovery.

    It took 5 years for me to realise my son was neglected in my care. It took me 5 years to accept I was wrong and not SS. It took me years to stabilise myself and to be the mentally competent person I am today

    What happened to me hurts. It breaks my heart. However, it probably breaks James more, wherever he may be.

    I’m sharing my story to show that when you read these horror stories about SS, there’s always two sides to the story. And the story you often hear, is that of grieving parents who can’t see where they went wrong, and think loving their child is enough.

  • Someone Please Take My Daughter Away

    Someone please take my daughter away

    I hate my daughter and I really mean it, Kirsty is 14 years old and a bleeding nightmare, she was diagnosed with ADHD 8 years ago although I don’t believe it’s an actual medical condition it’s just her being a brat.

    Kirsty and I live with my mother, Kirsty is a demon she punches, bites, swears like a drunken sailor and does nothing that she is asked to do, she constantly talks back, is rude and genuinely is not a nice person!

    She skips school, smokes, drinks and is sexually active with any boy she can get her hands on, I can’t cope with her at all.

    The school, social services and police are all involved and I’ve expressed that I don’t want her anymore yet my mum has now taken over legal responsibility for her, which means I still have to live with it!

    I am actively looking for somewhere else to live but on my income it seems impossible, I can’t wait til Kirsty grows up and moves away, all the love I used to have for her has gone and just resentment, fear and pain remains.

    This girl is not the child I loved all those years ago I am left with an ungrateful, nasty, disrespectful brat, my mum is just as bad to stand by her, she ultimately has chosen a nasty, manipulative, rude girl over her hard-working loving daughter.

    Kirsty will never amount to anything she will either be pregnant young and waste her life or more than likely have it taken away from her, I would not be surprised if she ended up in prison, she is the type of person that I would cross the street to avoid she has no hope, just a life of disaster and pain is in her future.

    Don’t tell me I’m an awful person to say this about my own daughter but you do not know her you do not see the pain she causes me, does anyone know a way to take the custody away from my mother or a way to have her removed from the house?

    Emailed in by Destiny (surname is to remain anonymous)

  • Alder Hey Strikes Again Poor Little Kyrah

    Little Kyrah is currently at Alder hey hospital the same as the now famous Alfie Evans who is currently fighting for every breath and proving the doctors and courts wrong.

    Kyrah’s mum is also fighting her own battle a battle to save her daughter’s life and to have a diagnoses.

    Kyrah’s mum posted on her childs support page saying

    “Nearly 5 years old and still alder hey TRUST have no plan,

    Kyrah has a chronic disease a terminal illness and still no care plan while alder hey trust were busy trying to make me look bad I built my own case on them and now its all falling perfectly in to place they used my daughter’s life to blackmail me while I give them every opportunity possible to work with us they did not want to do that they had their own plan.

    I had so much respect for them before they tried everything to tear us apart now I wonder how these people even sleep at night knowing what there doing is wrong on so many levels

    #IWONTBESHUSHED #IWontBeStopped #TheTruthWillAlwaysFindAwayOut

    Alfie Evans case has put the care and treatment at Alder hey hospital into the lime light, many people are now questioning whether or not the hospital is trying to cover up poor treatment, medical negligence or simply don’t care, we wouod like to hear your views in the comment section.

    To follow Kyrah’s journey and fight for the right to live, please take a look at her support page    https://www.facebook.com/KeepFightingBabyKyrah/

    If you have had a bad or even good experience at Alder hey we would love to hear from you, or if you have a story or want to raise awareness of a different topic please send us an email to mumsadviceltd@outlook.com

  • I Expect Top Care Off Staff Not My Boy Left Like This

    When I leave my son in the care of the nursing staff I expect top quality care not my poor boy being left

    I have just walked into my sons room and his nurse was over by his cot she realised I was behind her and scurried out only for me to see my son like this his leg twisted right behind him

    For those who know my son Jacob know he can’t get himself like this because of his muscle tone it is impossible !!!!!!

    He was diagnosed with dystonia 6 months ago which made him bend in half backwards however this is not dystonia as his whole body would do this if it was.

    He has been out like this and left he was screaming in pain

    Luckily my friend was with me to take photos as I sorted him out and comforted my distressed and in pain baby boy.

    Not only did the nurse do this she also messed up his antibiotics and left a syringe attached to his tube instead of taking it away like she should.

    Also a few weeks ago my friends walked In to Jacobs room to find a pillow over his face and his machine had been beeping for twenty minutes when they looked back on the review of the machine how can they be so incompetent

    Yes I have been to pals yes I have spoken to the ward manager but this is not the first time something like this has happened or a fuck up on Jacobs meds, I wish I could be by his side every waking minute but that is not possible, I have no choice but to trust these trained staff but they are failing my son.

    I am devastated he is a little boy who deserves the right care and no fucks ups.

    What else can I do?

    To follow more of Jacob’s journey take a look of their Facebook page here https://www.facebook.com/thelittleboywhostolemyheart/

  • Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death

    LETS GET HER NAME OUT THERE SO SHE DOESN’T HAVE A ANIMAL FOR LIFE!!!!

    His name stands for You Only Live Once but Yolo the Staffordshire Bull Terrier life ended in agony and alone – and his owner avoided jail.

    A court heard how his owner Emma Miles locked him in the kitchen of her flat when she moved out, leaving him to starve to death. Only fur and faeces were found in his stomach and his internal organs had decomposed.

    Emma Miles (Forber) a 28-year-old mother of two, left the Staffordshire Bull Terrier locked in the kitchen of the council flat she rented in Oak Drive, Dursley, Gloucestershire when she moved to a new address in August 2016, magistrates Following her formal eviction from the property, council workers clearing the property discovered that the kitchen floor was covered in faeces and a brown sludge, and subsequently discovered the emaciated corpse of a dog wrapped in a plastic bin bag, which had been placed in a cupboard.

    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death
    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death

    When Stroud District Council’s animal welfare officers were called in to investigate the case Miles claimed that she had given the dog, named Yolo, to a former boyfriend.

    However rigorous investigations by SDC animal welfare officer Alex Myrie demonstrated that was not the case, and that Miles had left Yolo alone in the flat without food, water or human company over a period of weeks, which resulted in him starving to death.

    A post-mortem examination found that the dog’s stomach contents contained only dog fur and faeces, the only sources of food that would have been available to him.

    A wound was discovered that was consistent with a pressure sore arising from an inability to move prior to his death. The brown sludge found on the kitchen floor was consistent with the advanced decomposition of internal organs.

    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death
    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death

    A vet appointed by the council reported that Yolo ‘suffered a great deal in the slow, cruel and unnecessary process of starvation.’

    Miles was found guilty of causing Yolo unnecessary suffering which resulted in his death and was sentenced to 18 weeks of custody, suspended for 12 months and ordered to complete 180 hours of unpaid work in the community within 12 months. She was disqualified from owning or having responsibility for any animal for 10 years and ordered to pay £1,000 towards council costs as well as a £115 victim surcharge.

    Mrs Myrie, who led the investigation, said: “In my 16 years in this role, this is the worst case of animal cruelty I have had to deal with.

    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death
    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death

    “The last days and weeks of Yolo’s life must have been the stuff of nightmares. Staffies thrive on human company and the thought of Yolo spending his last week’s not only starving and thirsty but also lonely, breaks my heart.

    “It seems a cruel irony that Yolo’s name stands for ‘You Only Live Once’ when his life ended so cruelly and needlessly.

    “There are no winners in cases of this nature but we are very grateful to the courts for bringing Miss Miles to account for her actions, in particular banning her from having any responsibility for any animal for the next 10 years.” 10 POXY YEARS 😡

    Councillor Simon Pickering, chairman of Stroud District Council’s environment committee said: “The level of cruelty uncovered in this case is completely abhorrent.

    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death
    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death

    “I wish publicly to thank the diligence and dedication of our animal welfare and legal teams for their excellent work to ensure a successful prosecution.

    LETS BRING JUSTICE FOR YOLO

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  • Nurse chose to close the door to our room and not do anything, no doctor ever came

    Jalena Gunther took to Facebook to tell others about the care her daughter received at The Stollery Children’s Hospital a 150 bed children’s hospital that opened in October 2001. It is a “hospital within a hospital,” being situated within the University of Alberta Hospital and co-located with Mazankowski Alberta Heart Institute in the Walter C. Mackenzie Health Sciences Centre in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada.

    Gunther said: I feel sick. The Stollery has failed my child. Emmy had open heart surgery 4 days ago. They hooked Emmys IV fluid up at 6pm last night. Emmy screamed in pain from 7pm till 4:45 am when she finally gave up and passed out. We asked for pain meds, we asked for a doctor at 8:45pm, and at 10pm we asked if the doctor was coming, we said we need something, this isn’t Emmy and isn’t ok.

    The Nurse at the Stollery chose to close the door to our room and not do anything, no doctor ever came. Emmy was under close op care which requires the nurse to physically check her every 15 minutes. We were lucky if we seen the nurse 1-2 times an hour. Protocol requires IV’s to be checked every hour. Emmys was never checked. 3 different nurses came into Emmys room and all 3 missed it.

    At shift change our new nurse came in to do her assessment around 8am. The nurse immediately found that’s Emmys IV went interstitial. She pulled it out immediately but the damage was severe. She is now in the OR having her hand cut open to relieve pressure, drain fluid and remove the dead skin.

    Next week she will require another surgery to do a skin graft. This was 100% avoidable if the nurse did her job. Not only was protocol grossly neglected, there was zero empathy for a child crying and screaming in pain for hours. Her iv leaked into her hand for over 12 hours, causing extreme pain and severe damage. This is not ok. Since when did this become the world-class care the Stollery is known for?

    Nurse chose to close the door to our room and not do anything, no doctor ever came
    Nurse chose to close the door to our room and not do anything, no doctor ever came

     

  • My Mother Should Have Aborted Me

     

    My mother should have aborted me

    The statement my mother should have aborted me may shock some people, but this is how I truly feel, everyone would have been better off had I never been born.

    My mum contemplated having me aborted but decided the money she would receive for my existence was worth bringing me into the world.

    I was never loved nor wanted growing up, my mum could barely say my name, birthdays were non existant and love was something I did not know, pain and misery were the only things my mother ever shoe me.

    My mother was a single woman but had a constant array of partners, I was raped for the first time aged around 6, and regularly throughout my childhood.

    Mum would never attend my school events or show any interest in me, I would often go hungry and scavenge through bins or steal from people’s packed lunches.

    My clothes were hand me downs, more like tattered rags only fit for the bottom of an old dogs bed.

    School was hard, I was an outcast, a misfit, not good enough to be anyone’s friend, not academic, not sporty, not pretty, a poor loner.

    By 16 I had dropped out of education which meant I was no longer a financial use for my mother, I was cast aside to fend for myself.

    Homeless and scared I was a target for violence and sexual abuse yet again, eventually I was placed in a dirty bed sit, surrounded by drug users and vagrants.

    I have always been unwanted, a waster, a woman of no worth.

    So yes I wish I had of been aborted then my life would have not been one of misery, one of pain and one of self loathing.

    I am finally at the age of 27 getting some support from my husband, I have cut of my mum completely from my life, my demons still haunt me and I suffer from depression, I am yet to see the light at the end of the tunnel, I do not see how I will ever recover nor a bright shining future but I will carry on this existence in the hope that one day, some how I recover enough to be able to bring life into this world and give my child the Up bringing I was never entitled to have.

    If you need help please see: https://rapecrisis.org.uk/  or https://www.samaritans.org/

    Read similiar story here: http://mums-advice-old-copy.local/i-wish-my-son-was-never-born/

  • Vunerable Lady Left In A Poor State In Carehome

     Josh Meszaros has taken to Social media to share his hurt and disgust at his mothers care.

    Josh said:

    So I popped in to the care home to see mum earlier on the way to the hospital to see dad.. What I found when I went in was absolutely disgraceful. 

    Went into mums room at 5:50 to find her sat in her chair in the dark, no lights on at all, and the TV turned off. This is bad enough, yet it gets worse..

    Vunerable Lady Left In A Poor State In Carehome

    She is sat like this with her evening meal and drink in front of her, unaccompanied when every single member of staff is fully aware that she is at serious risk of choking on food and drink. They have been told this numerous times, yet still ignore it. 

    She didn’t look right in herself at all, disoriented and looked worried. 

    Vunerable Lady Left In A Poor State In CarehomeVunerable Lady Left In A Poor State In CarehomeVunerable Lady Left In A Poor State In Carehome

    She was soaking wet throughout, to even her leggings being soaked, so she had certainly been left like this for a substantial amount of time. Then I found that whatever ‘carer’ had changed her earlier in the day had put her pad on the wrong way round. It is made a certain shape so almost impossible to get wrong!

    I ended up having to shower her myself, at which point it had been an hour since I had got there and still no one had come to check on her and make sure that she hadn’t choked. She had no soap or shower gel in there so what the hell have they been using to shower her with? I noticed some bed sores which are due to the carers leaving her sat in her own piss and shit for extortionate amounts of time, this can lead to Sepsis and can be deadly.

    Again, they have been told about this many times and still ignore it. They try to blame it on the pads yet she had not once got sore at home so how can it be down to the pads?  

    There was a little cup on the shelf above her bed with tablets in, god knows how long it had been there for. What if another resident had walked in and taken them, or if mum had managed to reach and take them? This could have been a lot more serious and potentially involve a death. 

      Again, they have been using the Sara Steady which was obvious with it being left next to her bed, every single member of staff has been told by Dad and also by the Social Worker, not to use this for transfers and to use her walker instead to keep transfers consistent each time. Again, it gets ignored and because if that she has lost more mobility and independence. 

    Vunerable Lady Left In A Poor State In Carehome

    Oh, and the bloody stupid handrail next to the toilet in the bathroom.. how the hell can that even be useful to a client? It’s about 1ft too bloody low! I stood up and it was too low for me to reach, fucking ridiculous. 

     Eventually the person in charge decided to come to talk to me about my concerns, to which they she said that she had been extremely busy and had to deal with 3 or 4 falls, she tried to say that she had been sat with mum earlier when she first had her food and said that mum would back her up? So let me get this straight, you’re trying to say that a 48-year-old woman with MS, Dementia, and Advanced Cognitive Impairment who often does not recognise her own children will have the mental capacity to correctly back you up?!

    Of course I can understand that they have had apparently a busy day, but if the staff cannot deal with the workload then surely they should cut back on the amount of clients, or employ more people. 2 carers to 15 clients is a complete joke. They will listen to complains, but not document anything or make any changes whatsoever. Think it’s about time they sorted themselves out before they all seriously regret it!
     

    I can now safely confirm that this Care Home is Whittington House Nursing Home Cheltenham. We have decided that it is now appropriate to publicly name the home as the manager has now resorted to retaliating to the below safeguarding concerns and complaints by using ‘Tit For Tat’ tactics attempting to cause trouble between us and the social worker, who is in fact fantastic at her job and a very decent person, so these petty tactics have not worked. 

    https://www.facebook.com/WhittingtonHouse/
     

     

     

  • I GAVE UP BEING A MOTHER TO INDULGE MYSELF.


    I’m about to hit a “perfect parent”‘s nerve here, but to be quite frank, I’m way past the point of caring.


    I do not give a fuck. No fucks given whatsoever.


    If you’re a mum, you’re probably on a mum’s advice page on Facebook, right? 


    I am, too.  


    I asked a fair question and I was practically mauled by a pack of dogs for it.


    I bet you’re dying to know what it was that I asked, so here it is…


    “My ex-partner has a full time job, he earns £30k plus, he has plenty of disposable income and pays nothing for our child. Am I wrong in stopping contact?”


    Apparently, I was; I was a bitch apparently and God only knows what else.


    So, after a lot of thinking, do you know what I did?


    I decided I couldn’t be bothered to be a mother anymore; yeah, I put myself before my kids. 


    What do they matter anyway? They’re just an inconvenience.


    So, I woke up this morning as usual; I’d usually give my children some breakfast and some juice before school, but today I decided to give it a miss – I scoffed mine down, though. 


    I didn’t bother buying toothpaste when I went shopping either, so they’ll have to skip brushing their teeth aswell – I bought myself some, though. 


    So, then, I made sure the kids were dressed in filthy clothes, ready for school – mine were clean, though.


    It was raining today, but I sent my eldest to school on his own, with no coat. He’ll have to stay indoors and play on his own – coats aren’t cheap, especially mine.


    I went to work as soon as he left. I left my youngest at home, though – I’m not wasting £50 a day on childcare.


    Who has that kind of money to spend?!


    I then had a call from the school to ask why my eldest child wasn’t attending his educational school trip – truth is, I spent his trip money on cigarettes.


    I got home from work and they were both sat in the cold and dark – I spent the electricity and gas money on a night out.


    They started to complain they were hungry again – tough, I’m getting a takeaway when they go to bed. 


    They can skip having a bath and go straight to bed, they can surivive without a wash. 


    It’s Saturday tomorrow, the kids are off and I think we’ll just stay in because I’m skint – I went a bit mad on buying myself new clothes last week.


    Actually, I’ve got a bit of cash spare, I’ll fuck off out for the weekend instead and won’t bother making the effort.


    Of course, I would never do this to my children. 


    Who in their right fucking mind would do this to their child? 


    A man would, that’s who (and apparently some women do aswell).


    If a woman behaved this way, she would have her children taken away and placed in to care – no questions asked.


    So, tell me this – why is it okay for a man not to provide for his children and still think he’s entitled to a relationship with his child?


    There are exceptions, of course – there always are. But, if you work and have money to spend on yourself, you can spend it on your child.


    No fucking excuses.


    Stop defending a man for being a man, it’s WRONG.


    Credit @theunicorninblack