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The Blessing Of A Transplant Is Extra Time

I wrote this a few months ago but I hope this clears up any questions about transplants you might have! Before I knew Max needed a new heart I can’t say I was very familiar with how waiting for a donor organ worked so I wanted to share a few things I have learned along the way.

1. Wait times will vary based on donor availability, age, size, blood type, location of the donor/ recipient, time listed, and about a thousand other factors. You want an organ transplant to be a perfect match, not an average match. The idea of what “number” someone is on the list isn’t a good way to look at it.

2. All transplants must go through the organ registry. Organs can not be “gifted” to someone specific. Organs are matched to a recipient in the same region based on the criteria I described above.

3. It is inappropriate to pray that someone else’s passes away so that someone else can receive those organs. This may seem obvious, but I have heard it many times. The best thing anyone can do is promote awareness about organ donation and how you can be someone’s hero by choosing to be a donor. That way if someone is ever faced with that choice they are already familiar with the idea of organ donation. This is what can help save lives!

4. A heart transplant isn’t a cure. Unfortunately transplants come along with a lifelong of medications, a weakened immune system, and the possibility developing other illnesses or health issues. Thankfully, through medications, careful monitoring and lots of prayers, transplant recipients can live pretty “normal” lives.

5. Transplants don’t last forever. The specific statistics of survival rates for different time frames are out there, but I don’t want to focus on that. Many people will need a second transplant in their lives, and many people don’t survive long enough to need one. The blessing of a transplant is extra time, and that is the best gift anyone can receive. ❤❤❤

Credit https://www.facebook.com/schneiderheartfam/

June 10, 2019
Dad Masturbates His Disabled Son And Explains Why

Dad Masturbates His Disabled Son And Explains Why

Perhaps one of the most controversial posts of late has been that of a blog by Fayzal Mahamed.

In the blog, he explains his actions in physically masturbating his disabled son and why he feels it is the best thing he can do for his therapy.

Mahamed explains in his blog post why he has chosen to do this and hopes to bring light to the taboo subject of disabilities and sex.

Fayzal Mahamed. Fayzal Mahamed is making headlines with his controversial blog post regarding his severely disabled son. Mahamed has openly stated he has chosen to masturbate his son as a treatment method.

Dad Masturbates His Disabled Son And Explains Why

Mahamed’d son, Mustafa suffers from PIMD or Profound Intellectual Multiple Disabilities. He has severe disabilities that have left him unable to communicate or voluntarily move any of his muscles.

He has an estimated IQ well below 20 and is basically bed-ridden if it were not for his father’s care.

Mahamed explains that from around the time Mustafa was 17, he noticed his son would get erections during bath time and through regular therapeutic massages.

What Mahamed found in his research was a lot of hush-hush and brick walls. He explained that there wasn’t a lot of help out there for people in his situation.

In the beginning, Mahamed was confused and overwhelmed with caring for his son but felt as though there must be something he could do. “As a father who understood sexual behavior, I knew that my son was trying to express his sexual feelings because of the arousal that was happening around his body and that this sexual behavior was no different than most teenagers encounter after puberty in their personal sexual development,” Mahamed wrote.

Mahamed writes his biggest wall that was encountered came by way of fear in others. He states the issue itself is rarely discussed because it’s feared. “There is a taboo in discussing general sexual matters such as masturbation in society and this attitude gets aggravated in the discussion of sexuality of persons with disability,” he states.

Mahamed was able to find literature on sexual therapy and sex workers who were trained to help people with disabilities, but says none of which were available to his son. He states from insurance issues, therapy was out, and there were no qualified (or legal) sex workers in the South Africa area where they live.

After extensive research and discussions with medical personnel, Mahamed decided on a course of action for his son. “I thought the only way forward was to treat my son equally to other disabled persons and apply the professional advice given to other profoundly disabled persons, namely, therapeutic masturbation to relieve and gratify my son’s sexual expression,” he stated.

It was after this lengthy research that Mahamed came to the realization he would have to provide the therapeutic masturbation himself if he was serious about going that avenue for his son.

“It was at this stage that I soon came to realize that there was no alternative way to provide the therapeutic masturbation that my son needed other than to apply the therapeutic masturbation on my own,” Mahamed explained in his blog.

As Mahamed describes further in his blog, the experience of therapeutic massage was nothing more than a “natural extension” of the care he was already providing for his son. He states it was no different than caring for his son by bathing him or changing a nappy.

Mahamed explained his son’s reaction to the first treatment by saying, “I remember how my son expressed a sense of relief, delight and happiness with a smile followed by laughter and other sounds of contentment when I applied the therapeutic masturbation.”

The masturbation therapy has worked wonders on his son’s demeanor according to Mahamed. He states the therapy has “led to a calmness in my son’s behavior and he continues to show his contentment and happiness all around him.”

Mahamed says he understands the controversy behind the therapy procedures, but hopes his blog will bring light to a little-discussed topic. “I wish to appeal to parents and caregivers to consider that such care and nurture includes sexual care and this begins by recognizing that all persons with disabilities are sexual human beings”.

November 22, 2017

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The Blessing Of A Transplant Is Extra Time

Dad Masturbates His Disabled Son And Explains Why

Dad Masturbates His Disabled Son And Explains Why

Perhaps one of the most controversial posts of late has been that of a blog by Fayzal Mahamed.

In the blog, he explains his actions in physically masturbating his disabled son and why he feels it is the best thing he can do for his therapy.

Mahamed explains in his blog post why he has chosen to do this and hopes to bring light to the taboo subject of disabilities and sex.

Fayzal Mahamed. Fayzal Mahamed is making headlines with his controversial blog post regarding his severely disabled son. Mahamed has openly stated he has chosen to masturbate his son as a treatment method.

Mahamed’d son, Mustafa suffers from PIMD or Profound Intellectual Multiple Disabilities. He has severe disabilities that have left him unable to communicate or voluntarily move any of his muscles.

He has an estimated IQ well below 20 and is basically bed-ridden if it were not for his father’s care.

Mahamed explains that from around the time Mustafa was 17, he noticed his son would get erections during bath time and through regular therapeutic massages.

What Mahamed found in his research was a lot of hush-hush and brick walls. He explained that there wasn’t a lot of help out there for people in his situation.

It was after this lengthy research that Mahamed came to the realization he would have to provide the therapeutic masturbation himself if he was serious about going that avenue for his son.

“It was at this stage that I soon came to realize that there was no alternative way to provide the therapeutic masturbation that my son needed other than to apply the therapeutic masturbation on my own,” Mahamed explained in his blog.

As Mahamed describes further in his blog, the experience of therapeutic massage was nothing more than a “natural extension” of the care he was already providing for his son. He states it was no different than caring for his son by bathing him or changing a nappy.

Mahamed explained his son’s reaction to the first treatment by saying, “I remember how my son expressed a sense of relief, delight and happiness with a smile followed by laughter and other sounds of contentment when I applied the therapeutic masturbation.”

The masturbation therapy has worked wonders on his son’s demeanor according to Mahamed. He states the therapy has “led to a calmness in my son’s behavior and he continues to show his contentment and happiness all around him.”