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  • Dads Are Important To- Keep Your Rants To Yourself

    Dads get such a bad press on social media and by multiple mums and woman around the globe but dads are important to (depending on his behaviour). .

    There are some terrible fathers out there, some total losers, some wasters and some abusers but what about the wonderful dads?

    One scroll through a Facebook mum group and you will see dads being slated left right and centre, especially on Father’s Day or at Christmas, but is it necessary to blame all men for one mans wrong doing or even to rant on social media on dads special days, surely on the likes of Fathers day we could keep our opinions to ourselves.

    There are dads out there begging to be a part of their children’s lives and often there is no good reason why they can’t be apart of their children’s lives other than the mum is bitter about the break up and is denying the father his rights to see his off spring.

    The second a mum rants about her partner or her ex most replies are “leave him” or he’s a waster you’re better off without him and a lot worse, sometimes we all need to hear the whole story to be able to make a judgement, just as not all men are bad not all woman are innocent and nice.

    Dads Are Important To Keep Your Rants To Yourself
    Dads Are Important To Keep Your Rants To Yourself

    Woman across the world are tarring all men with the same brush.

    Let’s remember ladies there are dads out there raising children alone, men who support their ex’s financially, mentally and even help with diy around their ex’s home, who spoil the kids and attend every school play, special event and remain civil and respect the mother of their child.

    There are men raising children which aren’t theirs and doing an amazing job to.

    There are fathers who are fantastic, who are hard-working, who are supportive, so come on ladies let’s show the good strong amazing dads some credit.

    Don’t label all men the same, find out the facts before we all judge and remember good dads, step fathers, partners and male relatives can provide a huge positive impact on your child’s well-being.

    Share this with an amazing father.

     

     

  • I Never Wanted ‘Mummy Friends’

    Gylisa Jayne’s Facebook post is going viral and it’s clear to see why.  She tells us of her situation and for so many parents it is far too familiar.  Too many of us think we can do things alone, or that we should suffer in silence.  This is simply not the case.

    I never wanted ‘ Mummy Friends’.

    I didn’t want to sit in noisy soft plays, or talk about different coloured shit.

    I didn’t want to have knowledge about best nappy brands, or know exactly how many fanny stitches we all had.

    I had a preconceived idea that Mummy Groups were vicious cliques, and I hadn’t been in one at school – I didn’t plan to start now.

    I didn’t need them anyway, I had my soul mate – my baby daddy. The man I had chosen for this journey. He would be there for everything. I didn’t need anyone else.

    Then I had a baby, and I needed someone.

    The network I should have had, simply wasn’t there.

    My midwives were too busy, I hadn’t met any of them twice.
    My Health Visitor was a vanishing woman – still talking about phone numbers and triages and children’s centres id never heard of as she walked herself out. Never to be seen again.

    Then there was my partner. My chosen mate. The first love of my life. The man that knew what I needed before I did.

    Only he didn’t understand me anymore.
    He was trying to figure out his Dad Role.
    He didn’t understand why I was crying
    about putting the kettle in the fridge. 🙈
    He didn’t know why I’d forgotten to take the parcels to the post office.
    He didn’t know why I had no love left over for him.

    I didn’t want ‘ Mummy Friends’.
    Until I realised that no one else would understand me like they did.

    The ones that had been there, done that.
    The ones that were fumbling through for the first time – just like me.
    The ones who had had every argument you can imagine with their husband.
    The ones proving you didn’t need to lose yourself along the way. That you’ll find a new you as you go.

    The ones who needed me just as much as I needed them.

    I made them laugh, and they made me howl with our observations of this bizarrely fabulous and horrendous journey.

    There was no clique, just women loving women – despite what you might have heard.

    I had love left over for my partner again then. Because he might not get it – but there were scores of women that did.

    So I didn’t want ‘Mummy Friends’…

    I needed them.

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    Credit Gylisa Jayne Facebook