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  • How Thick Are Other People

    My daughter and I went through the McDonald’s driveway window and I gave the cashier a £5 note.
    Our total was £4.25, so I also handed her 25p.
    She said, ‘you gave me too much money.’
    I said, ‘Yes I know, but this way you can just give me a pound coin back.’
    She sighed and went to get the manager who asked me to repeat my request.
    I did so, and he handed me back the 25p, and said ‘We’re sorry but we don’t do that kind of thing.’
    The cashier then proceeded to give me back 75p in change.
    Do not confuse the people at MacD’s.

    We had to have the garage door repaired.
    The repairman told us that one of our problems was that we did not have a ‘large’ enough motor on the opener.
    I thought for a minute, and said that we had the largest one made at that time, a 1/2 horsepower.
    He shook his head and said, ‘You need a 1/4 horsepower.’
    I responded that 1/2 was larger than 1/4 and he said, ‘NOOO, it’s not. Four is larger than two.’
    We haven’t used that repairman since…

    I live in a semi rural area.
    We recently had a new neighbor call the local city council office to request the removal of the DEER CROSSING sign on our road.
    The reason: ‘Too many deers are being hit by cars out here! I don’t think this is a good place for them to be crossing anymore.’

    IDIOT SIGHTING IN FOOD SERVICE.
    My daughter went to a Mexican fast food and ordered a taco.
    She asked the person behind the counter for ‘minimal lettuce.’
    He said he was sorry, but they only had iceberg lettuce.

    I was at the airport, checking in at the gate when an airport employee asked,
    ‘Has anyone put anything in your baggage without your knowledge?’
    To which I replied, ‘If it was without my knowledge, how would I know?’
    He smiled knowingly and nodded, ‘That’s why we ask.’

    The pedestrian light on the corner beeps when it’s safe to cross the street.
    I was crossing with an ‘intellectually challenged’ co-worker of mine.
    She asked if I knew what the beeper was for.
    I explained that it signals blind people when the light is red.
    Appalled, she responded, ‘what on earth are blind people doing driving?!’
    She is a government employee…..

    When my husband and I arrived at a car dealership to pick up our car after a
    service, we were told the keys had been locked in it.
    We went to the service department and found a mechanic working feverishly to unlock the driver’s side door.
    As I watched from the passenger side, I instinctively tried the door handle and discovered that it was unlocked.
    ‘Hey,’ I announced to the technician, ‘its open!’
    His reply, ‘I know. I already did that side.’

    STAY ALERT!
    They walk among us, they breed, and they vote…….

  • It’s Not Just Corona Killing Us

    IT’S NOT JUST CORONA KILLING US

    Hear this:

    -YOU don’t care about the people that will kill themselves out of hopelessness
    -YOU don’t care about small businesses that’ll close their doors (THEIR LIVELIHOOD) permanently
    -YOU don’t care about the children/women/men that’ll be victims of domestic abuse
    -YOU don’t care about people defaulting on their mortgages
    -YOU don’t care about bills going unpaid by families with ZERO income right now
    -YOU don’t care about people wondering where their next meal will come from
    -YOU don’t care about the people that’ll lose their sobriety and slip back into alcoholism and drug use
    -YOU don’t care about the people that will starve
    -YOU support the inevitable looting that’ll take place
    -YOU don’t care about anyone that’s murdered the longer this shut down goes on
    -YOU don’t care about people’s mental health
    -YOU don’t care about the children that DO need teachers and educators to guild & educate them
    -YOU don’t care about the economy crashing down around us
    -YOU don’t care about those losing their lives to hundreds of other reasons for real.

    -YOU DON’T CARE.

    -YOU love your shackles
    -YOU are pathetic begging your leaders for MORE shut down and MORE regulations

    I will NOT tolerate another person telling me that I don’t care about lives. I care about the situation in its entirety.

    But YOU don’t care about any of that so…

    YOU stay home.
    YOU wear a mask.
    YOU live in fear.

    From a fed up mother

  • So Care Workers Don’t Deserve More Than Minimum Wage

    Couldn’t have put it better myself ❤️❤️❤️

    So care workers don’t deserve more than minimum wage because they “only sit around and make cups of tea for people” ?!?!? I can give you a list off the top of my head to show what care workers actually have to do, and I can bet it’s not even half of it.

    1) Washes

    2) Showers/baths

    3) Dressing

    4)Shaving

    5) Apply creams

    6) Brushing hair/teeth

    7)Changing incontinence pads

    8)Emotional support when they’re sad

    9)Giving them company, sometimes we’re the only people they see all day

    10)Giving medication, even the likes of controlled drugs (doing a nurses job on minimum wage

    11)Hoists, stand aids, getting the person from A to B

    12) Reassure them when they’re frightened, calming them down when they’re irritated

    13) Cleaning their homes

    14) Take them out to socialise

    15) Shopping calls

    16) Chase up medication

    17) Call GP’s when new medication/cream may be needed

    18)Arrange appointments

    19) Make their meals and drinks

    20) Catheter care

    21)Stoma care

    22) Answer all their emergency response calls

    23) Handle their finances, in some cases

    24) Remain calm and professional when they’re hurling verbal and sometimes physical abuse at you

    25) Apologise when they insult the care staff, even though it’s not our fault

    26) Take them to the hospital when needed

    27) Toilet calls

    28) Feeding them

    29) Turning them onto each side if bed ridden, to avoid sores

    30) Battling with 111 and Doctors when you know they need to be checked over

    31) Dementia care

    32) Alzheimers care

    33) Parkinsons care

    34) Many various illnesses and disease care

    35) End of life care

    36) Supporting families, reassuring them and keeping them informed of everything happening with their relative

    37) Dealing with family complaints and apologising even though the situation was often 99% out of your control

    38) Pushing people in wheelchairs, along with all their shopping bags when they’re out

    39) Acting fast when someone shows symptoms of a stroke, heart attack, fits, various other conditions

    40) Keeping people calm when they have fell, assuring them that help is on the way and they need to lay still as possible

    41) Recognising when the person you visit numerous times a week is acting out of sorts. Acting upon it and seeking advice because you KNOW that’s not their usual self.

    42) Having the patient of a saint. We’re busy, but we don’t and can’t rush. We go at their pace. Always

    43) Washing and drying, folding and ironing, putting away clothes

    44) Making sure they’re wearing their emergency help button, so that you’re confident they can press it should they need help once you’re gone. It’s not always easy. People can refuse, or throw it away.

    45) When a person won’t take medication they critically need, you have no solution, but you need to BE that solution. Figure out ways you can get them to converse with you and listen, so they will take the tablets that will keep their health stable.

    46) We’re sometimes verbally and physically abused. We get called all the names under the sun, sometimes we get punched, slapped, kicked and bit, they pull our hair or lash out. It’s not always their fault, illnesses can cause this behaviour. We just have to remove ourselves from the environment and report.

    47) We can go hours with no break

    48) Sometimes we have to hold our bladder for 2+ hours because we literally don’t have time for the toilet

    49) Our calls list is full, but someone calls for help, we need to find ways we can get to them as well as doing everything else we need to do

    50) We don’t complain. Our job is hard. Sometimes we laugh, sometimes we’re reduced to tears. We do it all for minimum wage, we know we deserve so much more, but we still do it anyway. Because we are care workers, and we genuinely do care 💗💗

  • A Silent Tragedy In How We Are Raising Our Children

    A Silent Tragedy In How We Are Raising Our Children

    A SILENT TRAGEDY

    There is a silent tragedy that is unfolding today in our homes and concerns our most precious jewels: our children.

    Our children are in a devastating emotional state! In the last 15 years, researchers have given us increasingly alarming statistics on a sharp and steady increase in childhood mental illness that is now reaching epidemic proportions:

    Statistics do not lie:

    • 1 in 5 children have mental health problems

    • A 43% increase in diagnosed ADHD

    • A 37% increase in adolescent depression has been noted

    • There has been a 200% increase in the suicide rate in children aged 10 to 14

    What is happening and what are we doing wrong?

    Today’s children are being over-stimulated and over-gifted with material objects, but they are deprived of the fundamentals of a healthy childhood, such as:

    • Emotionally available parents

    • Clearly defined limits

    • Responsibilities

    • Balanced nutrition and adequate sleep

    • Movement in general but especially outdoors

    • Creative play, social interaction, unstructured game opportunities and boredom spaces

    Instead, in recent years, children have been filled with:

    • Digitally distracted parents

    • Indulgent and permissive parents who let children “rule the world” and whoever sets the rules

    • A sense of right, of deserving everything without earning it or being responsible for obtaining it

    • Inadequate sleep and unbalanced nutrition

    • A sedentary lifestyle

    • Endless stimulation, technological nannies, instant gratification and absence of boring moments

    What to do?

    If we want our children to be happy and healthy individuals, we have to wake up and get back to basics. It is still possible! Many families see immediate improvements after weeks of implementing the following recommendations:

    • Set limits and remember that you are the captain of the ship. Your children will feel more confident knowing that you have control of the helm.

    • Offer children a balanced lifestyle full of what children NEED, not just what they WANT. Don’t be afraid to say “no” to your children if what they want is not what they need.

    • Provide nutritious food and limit junk food.

    • Spend at least one hour a day outdoors doing activities such as cycling, walking, fishing, bird/insect watching

    • Enjoy a daily family dinner without smartphones or distracting technology, let everyone feel valued

    • Play board games as a family or if children are very small for board games, just let the pretend to play it

    • Involve your children in some homework or household chores according to their age (folding clothes, hanging clothes, unpacking food, setting the table, feeding the dog, etc.)

    • Implement a consistent sleep routine to ensure your child gets enough sleep. The schedules will be even more important for school-age children.

    • Teach responsibility and independence. Do not overprotect them against all frustration or mistakes. Misunderstanding will help them build resilience and learn to overcome life’s challenges,

    • Do not carry your children’s backpack, do not carry the homework they forgot, do not peel bananas or peel oranges if they can do it on their own (4-5 years). Instead of giving them the fish, teach them to fish.

    • Teach them to wait and delay gratification.

    • Provide opportunities for “boredom”, since boredom is the moment when creativity awakens. Do not feel responsible for always keeping children entertained.

    • Do not use technology as a cure for boredom, nor offer it at the first second of inactivity.

    • Avoid using technology during meals, in cars, restaurants, shopping centers. Use these moments as opportunities to socialize by training the brains to know how to work when they are in mode: “boredom”

    • Help them create a “bottle of boredom” with activity ideas for when they are bored.

    • Be emotionally available to connect with children and teach them self-regulation and social skills:

    • Turn off the phones at night when children have to go to bed to avoid digital distractions.

    • Become a regulator or emotional trainer for your children. Teach them to recognize and manage their own frustrations and anger.

    • Teach them to greet, to take turns, to share without running out of anything, to say thank you and please, to acknowledge the error and apologize (do not force them), be a model of all those values you instill.

    • Connect emotionally – smile, hug, kiss, tickle, read, dance, jump, play or crawl with them.

    I thank you if you share it.

    Article written by Dr. Luis Rojas Marcos Psychiatrist.

    https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=669567043510720&id=653944098406348

    The photo is from Deborah Emotional Therapy

    https://www.facebook.com/deborahterapiaemocional/

     

  • Stop Asking How Much To Spend On Your Kids

    You know what I can’t stand is mums and mums group asking how much they should spend on their crotch goblins for Christmas.

    How is this even a question you spend what you can afford or what you feel is acceptable budget.

    If you only have a £50 budget then so be it, you know what your kids will still have a great day and love what you have given them, older children will understand that times are hard and that you are doing your upmost best for them and if they don’t then you need to teach them the value of money.

    If you do happen to have plenty of spare cash it does not mean you have to buy your kids the world or brag about the huge mounds of gifts under the tree.

    Lets not make Christmas a competition, let’s not get loans out or spend all year going without so you can make one day “special”.

    Looking back on my childhood I don’t remember the expensive gifts I can barely remember a single gift other than a pogo stick which I absolutely loved, It wasn’t until I was an adult that my mother told me she had bought it from a car boot sale for only a pound.

    Christmas should be about the ones you love, spending time with them not money!!!

    Don’t ask what you should spend….You are enough and you are doing great mama

  • Daddy How Much Money Do You Make An Hour?

    SON: “Daddy, may I ask you a question?”

    DAD: “Yeah sure, what is it?”

    SON: “Daddy, how much do you make an hour?”

    DAD: “That’s none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?”

    SON: “I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?”

    DAD: “If you must know, I make $100 an hour.”

    SON: “Oh! (With his head down).

    SON: “Daddy, may I please borrow $50?”

    The father was furious.

    DAD: “If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I work hard everyday for such this childish behavior.”

    The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

    The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy’s questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?

    After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think:

    Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $ 50 and he really didn’t ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy’s room and opened the door.

    DAD: “Are you asleep, son?”

    SON: “No daddy, I’m awake”.

    DAD: “I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier. It’s been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here’s the $50 you asked for.”

    The little boy sat straight up, smiling.

    SON: “Oh, thank you daddy!”

    Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.

    DAD: “Why do you want more money if you already have some?”

    SON: “Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do.

    “Daddy, I have $100 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.”

    The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness. It’s just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life.

    We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts.

    Do remember to share that $100 worth of your time with someone you love?

    If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days.

    But the family and friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our family.

    Some things are more important.

    Image Katniss and peeta

     

  • Steve Jobs Last Words-Inspirational

    Steve Jobs dies a billionaire, with a fortune of $7 billion, at the age of 56 from pancreatic cancer, and here are some of his last words… 👇👇👇

    “In other eyes, my life is the essence of success, but aside from work, I have a little joy. And in the end, wealth is just a fact of life to which I am accustomed.”

    “At this moment, lying on the bed, sick and remembering all my life, I realize that all my recognition and wealth that I have is meaningless in the face of imminent death. You can hire someone to drive a car for you, make money for you – but you can not rent someone to carry the disease for you. One can find material things, but there is one thing that can not be found when it is lost – “LIFE”. ❤️

    Treat yourself well, and cherish others. As we get older we are smarter, and we slowly realize that the watch is worth $30 or $300 – both of which show the same time. Whether we carry a purse worth $30 or $300 – the amount of money in the wallets are the same. Whether we drive a car worth $150,000, or a car worth $30,000 – the road and distance are the same, we reach the same destination. If we drink a bottle worth $300 or wine worth $10 – the “stroller” will be the same. If the house we live in is 300 square meters, or 3000 square meters – the loneliness is the same.”

    “Your true inner happiness does not come from the material things of this world. 🌍 Whether you’re flying first class, or economy class – if the plane crashes, you crash with it.”

    So, I hope you understand that when you have friends or someone to talk to – this is true happiness! ✅

    💥 Five Undeniable Facts 💥

    1️⃣ Do not educate your children to be rich. Educate them to be happy. – So when they grow up they will know the

    value of things, not the price.

    2️⃣ Eat your food as medicine, otherwise you will need to eat your medicine as food.

    3️⃣ Whoever loves you will never leave you, even if he has 100 reasons to give up. He will always find one reason to hold on.

    4️⃣ There is a big difference between being human and human being.

    5️⃣ If you want to go fast – go alone! But if you want to go far – go together.

    And in conclusion… 👇

    👨‍⚕️ The six best doctors in the world 👩‍⚕️

    1️⃣ Sunlight

    2️⃣ Rest

    3️⃣ Exercise

    4️⃣ Diet

    5️⃣ Self-confidence

    6️⃣ Friends

    Keep them in all stages of life and enjoy a healthy life. 😊

    Whichever stage in life we are at right now, with time, we will face the day when the curtain comes down.

    Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends…

    Treat yourself well. Cherish others. 🎉

    “Love the people God sent you, one day He’ll need them back.”

    🙏🙏 🙏 Something worth sharing!!! 💯‼️

  • Woman Stealing Baby Photos For Money

    Brianna Manness is at it again.

    For those of you who are new here and don’t know, Brianna stole photos of my daughter in the NICU claiming that she was her child and had passed away.

    She posted it publicly to Facebook with a NICU photo of my daughter that I had posted with her GoFundMe link. Brianna, even after being caught and reported, took it as far as creating a gofundme for funeral costs and raised about $2,500 before it was shut down.

    Not only has she faked my child’s death, she did the same to a friend of mine and her baby back home.

    Today, she is now posing as a woman named Samantha Nellen, claiming she is 20 weeks pregnant, but when asked a second time she is suddenly 32 weeks pregnant. She is asking for photos of pregnant women’s bellies, cropping their faces out, and sending them to other women as if they are photos of her.

    She has asked for photos of other women’s children as well as asking their sexuality and for full body photos of them. This woman is still so very sick in the head and has proven that she cannot be stopped when it comes to taking from and harassing other women and mothers.

    If you can find the profile Samantha Nellen as well as Brianna Manness or Brianna Dawn Manness, please REPORT both and have them shut down. She better pray that her and I never come face to face, because not only did she fake my child’s death TWICE, she’s doing so with other children and it is HORRIFYING.

    Mama’s please warn other parents and pregnant women!

    This is an old screenshot used as an example of her behavior, that she is currently still acting on to this day.

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/gracelynn.willard

     

  • I have seen a lot of people making fun of these shoes

    I have seen a lot of people making fun of these shoes.

    A lot of people with children too. Smh.

    Listen. Your kids literally don’t know the difference until they hear YOU make fun or crack jokes.

    Your kid don’t know to want NAME BRAND until you made the comment “he ain’t wearing no off brand shoes”

    So then your kid goes to school, sees the less fortunate student has on the “off brand” and now your child is mimicking YOU and bullying another student….

    Quit teaching these kids a Name Brand means something… I PROMISEEEEE they wouldn’t of cared until YOU MADE THEM CARE.

    My daughter always picks out some paw patrol shoes or sandles out… and we’ve bought “fake vans”

    Do you know it took a whole day before she got red kool aid on them and they were ruined? Do yall know how mad I’d be if I had spent 40 or 50 on shoes just for her to spill Kool aid on them 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

    But they were only 13, so I could go grab another pair to replace if I had really wanted to.

    The point I’m trying to make is… your kid doesn’t care if the shoe has a Nike, Vans Or Jordan logo… at least they didn’t until you made it very clear that YOU had the issue.

    There is NO ISSUE with kids wearing knock off shoes. None. Especially how these kids like to kick up mud and dirt around and spill Kool Aid on things 😂😭🤷🏻‍♀️

    NOTE: To the people who are some how triggered by this post, I’m not sorry 🤷🏻‍♀️.

    This isn’t a “parent bashing” post.

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/jessa.porter.1

     

  • His Ashes Made It To Florida

    His ashes made it to Florida! So one of the owners of a hotel, Judi was walking on the beach this morning cleaning up the junk that washed into shore and finds a bottle with a message in it.

    There is also some sand and 2 one dollar bills. Once we get it open and read the notes we find out that it is in fact NOT sand. It is the ashes of this woman’s husband of 70 years named Gordon. She writes that He loved to travel so she sent him traveling in a bottle with a note and money for someone to call home and tell her where he landed.

    He started at Big Pine Key in March of 2012 and then went to Islamerada where someone found him. They added a note and sent him traveling again and he landed on our beach in Key Colony. Judi called the wife in Tennessee who was excited to know of Gordon’s travels!

    Judi added her note, we put him in a rum bottle (you know added a little fun to his trip) with the three notes. We added another dollar in case Gordon travels far and a long distance call is needed. We will be having a memorial service or celebration of his life on our beach later today before sending him on his way again.

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/terri.strongdufrene