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  • Which Of These Do You Find Most Scary?

    The following is a psychoanalytical test called the Szondi Test. This test was made by a Hungarian Psychoanalyst, Léopold Szondi.

    The following are 8 pictures.
    Now, look at them and study them closely.

    Which of these 8 do you find the most ‘scary’?
    Really, really try to picture them in a dark alley, coming towards you. Or, who would you want the LEAST to be in an elevator with you? Overall, who gives you the creepiest vibes, or makes you feel disgusted and repulsed among these 8.

    Which Of These Do You Find Most Scary?
    Which Of These Do You Find Most Scary?

    Remember your answer.

    These are all pictures of patients of Szondi, all of which whom suffered different conditions. Szondi believed that who you pick will tell something about your personality. But not just anything about your personality. The part of you that you suppress or at least deny about yourself. maybe you pushed these feelings and desires down into your subconscious mind or maybe something you refused to accept about yourself. and act in opposition towards them.

    It’s important to note that, whatever results you do come with, doesn’t mean you have a mental condition. It’s just that, you potentially have something deep within you that you compensate for.

    Most people find the results rather accurate, though. Take them with a grain of salt.

    The format is.

    (Number). -condition name-

    ( General Info )


    Repression: What it is you’re hiding.

    Denies it by: Actions, personalities or habits you do to ‘counteract’ or push back against what you’re repressing.

    Sublimination: What you show, ever so slightly in your life regarding the repression.


    1. The Sadist.

    You were most likely dominated by a lot of authoritarian figures, such as parents or teachers. So you repress the feeling to dominate others, as you’ve been through your formative years.

    You are passive and rather friendly and love to make people happy.

    That being said, you react defensively in a passive-aggressive manner when you feel someone is trying to dominate you. This is your way of indirectly punishing them.

    But deep inside, you love to see the suffering of other people, physically or emotionally. Though, consciously you do your best to ignore these thoughts whenever they surface.


    Repression: The Desire To Dominate Others.

    Denies it by: Developing a peaceful and harmless personality. Always helping others.

    Sublimination: Creates barriers when they don’t want to do something. ( Such as getting to work late) When acting defensively, acts passive-aggressively.


    1. The Epileptic.

    You react to motions rather intensely, good or bad. Since you were taught as a child that doing certain things aren’t okay, you refuse to let negative emotions such as anger, impulsiveness or irritability manifest.

    As such, you probably wear a strong emotional mask and are good at hiding the negative feelings from others whenever they bubble up under the surface.

    You compensate by acting meek and friendly. And people probably see you as peaceful and reliable. Although, under pressure. You can explode with these negative feelings and most people are surprised, as you never seemed the person to be so negative.

    Repression: Feelings of anger, irritability, and aggression.

    Denies it by: Becoming a meek and friendly person, and giving off the impression of responsibility.

    Sublimination: Rare outbursts when stressed or provoked.


    1. The Catatonic

    You’re most likely an intelligent person with an overactive mind. Not so bad, right? Well, here’s the trade-off. In the attempt to stay in reality and fight your overactive brain, you’ve most likely become dutiful, inhibited and rule-driven. You are unaware of the physical and emotional needs of yourself and others. and often feel disconnected and lost.

    Repression: Mental hyperactivity/ overactive imagination

    Denies it by: Adopting “stereotypical” behaviors.

    Sublimination: Often acts defensively and likes to follow their own set of determined rules.


    1. The Schizophrenic

    If you’ve chosen this woman, then you’re most likely repressing apathy for others. Probably struggle in connecting with others. And relating to others is a challenge for you. Maybe even relating to yourself. Your relationships probably lack depth.

    To compensate, you’re sociable. Love to spend time with friends and family. In a sense, this is a way to mask your sense of loneliness and isolation.

    Repression: Feelings of apathy towards others.

    Denies it by: Being a very sociable person, with a large circle of friends.

    Sublimination: Does not talk about feelings of isolation, or their lack of true affection for others.


    1. The Hysteric.

    You’re probably repressing attention-seeking tendencies. You were told as a child to not show off, by adults or peers. As such, you’re probably a modest and sincere person. Deep down you love to be the center of attention and charming others. Though you’re rarely the center of attention, when you are, you’re ecstatic You’re likely someone who pays attention to detail. As evidence of the amount of effort, you put into your appearance. This could be your subconscious self showing off, as your conscious self continues to act modestly.

    Repression: Desire for attention and admiration.

    Denies it by: Acting modestly / staying out of the spotlight.

    Sublimination: Chooses rare or extravagant jobs and hobbies. Usually tries to remain elegant and well-dressed so that they still draw attention.


    1. The Depressive.

    On the surface, you’re happy and bubbly. Like you don’t have a care in the world. Well, that’s the side you show to the world, at least. Deep within, you’re most likely dealing with feelings of self-worthlessness, even self-loathing and guilt. You probably take your mind off this by focusing on work and other people. Low self-esteem is also associated with this choice.

    Picking this picture doesn’t mean you’re a depressed person, but that you have a predeposition to negative emotions.

    Repression: Feelings of worthlessness/inadequacy

    Denies it by: Developing a happy and bubbly exterior personality. Focussing on work and friends.

    Sublimination: Assumes the role of everyone’s “psychologist”, searching for solutions to other people’s problems.


    1. The Maniac.

    You’re most likely logical, mature and balanced. You don’t favor chaos or excessive displays of emotions. You’re likely annoyed when people are loud, or when they hold too strong of belief. Because inside. You’re repressing hyperactive tendencies that would make you lose control. Deep within, you’re probably quite impulsive and with extreme energy hurdles. This is probably because your parents or teachers tried to make you “calm down” as a child.

    Repression: Impulsiveness and high energy levels.

    Denies it by: Being logical, reasonable and collected, and developing a hatred of excesses.

    Sublimination: Avoids places of temptation, such as casinos.


    8.Dissociative Identity Disorder.

    As a child, you’ve probably been bullied, defamed, or traumatized by a parent, teacher or other family member. This trauma has made you subconsciously make you question yourself as a sexual partner. Now, you probably push your own gender role. Such as being macho, as a man. Or pushing your feminity as a woman. You probably put down others of your own sex for not acting manly or womanly enough.

    Repression: Thoughts of being an undesirable partner.

    Denies it by: Emphasising gender role, acting very macho or feminine.

    Sublimination: Sacrifices individuality and real interests to conform to expected male/female stereotype


    Being an old psychoanalytic test, don’t expect things to be 100% accurate. Was it accurate for you? And as always, take it with a grain of salt.

  • The Mental Load Of Motherhood Breaks You

    Powerful ❤️❤️We all lose the plot occasionally.

    The mental load of motherhood breaks you.

    You can feel your nerves fraying at the seams as your child refused to listen to anything you say.

    You cry. Lose your patience. Slam cabinets and bang plates, until it gets to you enough that you take away privileges and declare mum law.

    Every ounce of you is tired. Tired of fighting. Of the power struggle that is your child’s strong will and your need for them to behave.

    This is what no one tells you about. The hard stuff. The moments that break you open, that send you to the brink.

    So, I have to ask the question.

    Why do we hide it?

    Why do we lie through our teeth and utter the words, “I’m fine” to our friends when we are anything but?

    We have to stop hiding in the closet with our guilt and frustrations.

    If a friend shares her truth and says she’s in a funk, don’t tell her your life is sunshine and rainbows, tell her you’re in the freaking arena with her. Admit that you don’t have it altogether either.

    Because, let’s be honest – we all lose it. Every single one of us.

    I know it’s hard, isn’t it? This motherhood thing. It’s OK to say that out loud, that doesn’t make you a bad mum – it makes you real.

    So, to the mum having a rough week let me tell you what no one else will.

    There are going to be days. Days where it’s all too much. Days where the fighting and bickering send you over the edge. Days where the baby won’t sleep and the toddler just spilled a newly poured bowl of cereal all over the floor or the older child lashes back with attitude & tells you she hates you…again.

    You’re going to feel your blood pressure rise and your patience dwindle. You’re going to lose it. You’re going to question yourself – all the time. You’re going to wish bedtime would come sooner. You’re going to cry a lot. You’re going to long for five minutes to yourself. You’ll wonder if you are getting any of this right; if you are cut out for this job at all.

    But let me tell you … you ARE. You’re getting more right than you think.

    Do you know why?

    Because you show up. You show up through the hard stuff.

    Even on the days, weeks or maybe even months when we’re in a rut and we can’t quite claw our way out – you don’t quit.

    Sure, we cry. We have our moments where we feel like we can’t go on and then we wipe our tears, throw on a clean pair of pants and we push forward.

    Are we tired? Absolutely. We’re tired of the constant correcting, of no one listening. Negotiating. Refereeing. Cleaning. Fighting.

    But, we’re more tired of hiding our mess & putting high expectations on ourselves.

    So when the tears won’t stop, when every ounce of patience is lost and you feel as though you can’t do this, know that you are not alone. There are so many other mums in this arena too and they’re giving you a standing ovation.

    Through all of it. The tears and the smiles. The failures and the wins.

    Some days it will feel all too much and some days it all comes to a head, but don’t ever doubt your strength. Don’t ever question what you’re capable of and how much your children love you.

    Go ahead and cry, but then wipe those tears and get back up. Today you may have lost it, but you’re not failing – you’re so incredibly fierce. ✌🏼💓

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/jennamarie.zumba

     

  • Care Workers Kicked And Abused Patient

    A PAIR of care workers who ill-treated a vulnerable mental health patient at a private hospital in Colchester left the victim with fractured ribs and a punctured lung.

    Scott Geeson, 28, lashed out and kicked the 44-year-old man whilst working at Cambian Fairview Hospital, in Boxted Road, in 2016.

    Lelish Shercan, 27, was also on duty and should have been looking after the patient, who suffered severe mental health problems and had learning difficulties.

    Geeson, of Winnock Road, Colchester, and Shercan, of Circus Square Colchester, admitted ill-treating or wilfully neglecting a person without capacity on the day of their trial earlier this month.

    The victim, who has severe learning impairments and mental health difficulties, was found with fractured ribs and a punctured lung after an encounter with the pair in his room.

    He has since made a full physical recovery and has been moved to another care home.

    Since the incident reviews have been carried out by the Care Quality Commission, assisted by the force and Essex County Council.

    Cambian officially dismantled and relinquished control of the facility.

    It has since been taken over by a new management company, Cygnet.

    Geeson and Shercan were sentenced at a hearing at Ipswich Crown Court today.

    Jake Taylor, mitigating on behalf of Geeson, said his client did not accept he had caused all of the injuries.

    He said: “Around this time his mother had become very unwell and passed away.

    “He was coping with that and was frustrated for a number of reasons.

    “All these factors built up and resulted in a man lashing out against someone who he otherwise had a good relationship with.”

    Shercan was educated in Nepal and his father is a member of the Royal Gurkha Regiment.

    Sean Hammond, mitigating on behalf of Shercan, said he was at risk of deportation from the country if he was sent straight to custody.

    He said: “The way he behaved on this occasion is completely out of character. He deeply regrets the suffering caused to the victim and his family and wants to offer his sincere apologies.”

    Judge John Devaux jailed Geeson for 21 months and Shercan for 16 months.

    However Shercan’s sentence will be suspended for two years.

    Detective Constable Tim Harris, of Colchester CID, described the pair’s behaviour as “vile and completely unacceptable.”

    “It has taken more than three years to see justice for this extremely vulnerable victim,” he said.

    “The people who should have cared for him were those who betrayed and mistreated him – their behaviour was vile and completely unacceptable.

    “I hope that the other workers, who have supported us fully throughout this investigation and raised the alarm when they recognised the victim’s injuries, realise how instrumental they were in the outcome of this case.

    “Speaking out against colleagues, even when they’ve done something wrong, can be incredibly difficult.

    “Their bravery has made a real difference to someone who could not speak for themselves.

    “By standing up, they’ve given him a voice and allowed Shercan and Geeson to be brought to justice.

    “This case was complex and harrowing for everyone involved in the investigation, but it has highlighted one thing – we need whistleblowers now more than ever.

    “If that’s you, come forward and call us. You never know what impact it could have.”

     

  • I Want People To Know How Serious Mental Illness Is

    Keeping someone alive is hard, physically & mentally. My mum has had a really hard life and sadly she’s now at a stage where she doesn’t want to be here.

    She had a difficult childhood, her sister was hit by a car and killed. My mum turned to alcohol and social services put her into a B&B with a bar. She was raped and told that it was her fault for drinking too much. She had a physically and emotionally abusive marriage, she has spent time in psychiatric hospitals and wasn’t always safe in them. Especially the time that she was on suicide watch but managed to walk out unnoticed. She took an overdose and threw herself into moving traffic. She did that because she has schizophrenia, it traumatised her she saw me being tortured, believed that everyone was conspiring with the devil & she was told that she needed to sacrifice her life to save her me. I was 2 years old and nearly lost my mummy.

    Being hit by a car left her with brain damage as well as partial sight and hearing and epilepsy. She stopped drinking years ago but the damage was done, she now has liver cirrhosis.

    A few years later I was taken from her. She has severe clinical depression, lung disease and many more disabilities and illnesses. Her life is a daily struggle and it only got worse when her husband committed suicide last year. She has no friends and sits alone at home every day, on good days she will go to town where people have knocked her to the ground despite her carrying a blind stick. She’ll go to the doctors and cry and she’ll be sent away, her physical health deteriorates and the doctors surgery always leave her without medication. She can’t concentrate on a book or TV because of her brain damage, she doesn’t feel anything when she listens to music. All she does is sit alone.

    My mum is in hospital at the moment, she hates it there. I’m hoping that this post will open up peoples eyes, there are sadly still some people out there who don’t realise a little kindness goes a long way.

    Remember that the way you treat people will affect their lives. I want people to know how serious mental illness is, it takes lives just like any other illness and it has so much stigma, please love and look after those around you. Mental illness could hit anyone at any time, even you.

    My mum has given me permission to post this, she’s also happy for it to be shared by anyone wanting to 💗

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/starandcolby/

     

  • Check On Your Loved Ones

    I first met Luke when we were 11 years old, starting our first day of secondary school. We were seated next to each other on a seating plan and we instantly clicked, so much so that he came and chose to sit next to me in our lessons that we were allowed to seat ourselves. We would message each other after school, we both liked one another but were too shy to admit it. I moved schools in year 8 and we lost contact.

    In June 2016 we regained that contact. We had the same initial spark but we were a lot older now and more open to the idea of a relationship. Luke and I did not have a perfect relationship, but we made some amazing memories together in those almost 3 years that I will never forget. We went on holiday 3 times, we went to concerts, festivals, parties, water parks, we drove around in his car just to spend time together. We always came as a pair, we did everything together. We had our ups and downs like any couple, but we cared for each other so deeply.

    What most people will not know is that I struggle with mental illnesses. Luke was always there for me. He came to my college open days where my anxiety would be at an all time high. He supported me through everything and I feel so so guilty that I couldn’t do the same for him. Luke always wanted me to follow my dreams, go to college, go to uni and pursue my dream career. My life has just been turned upside down, but however long it takes me, I will do it for you Luke.

    Luke lived with my family and I, I saw him every single day and I was still oblivious to him being in this dark place. Please check on your friends, your partner, your co-workers, anyone and everyone in your life. You really never know what is going on in somebody’s mind.

    Luke, I hope wherever you are you can see how much me, my family, your family and your friends care for you. Not a day will go by where I won’t think of you. I wish I could’ve supported you in the same way you did for me. I wish you would’ve talked to me, I would’ve understood. It feels weird talking about you in the past tense, I don’t think this will ever fully sink in. I will miss you so so so much. I’m not just mourning my boyfriend. I’m mourning my best friend, my support system, the only person I felt I could turn to. I will love you forever.

    Sarah Harris

     

  • This Medication Allows Me To Deal With Life

    I nearly stopped myself from posting this. Numerous times.  Because I didn’t want to be one of ‘those’ people. I didn’t want to be another blogger with another mental health issue. I didn’t want to lay out a sympathy post. But for those of you who know me & those of you who don’t. I have a secret to tell you.

    So if your unlucky enough to know what these tablets are, then I don’t have to describe to you what this post is regarding. But if you don’t I will fill you in.

    That medication allows me to deal with a normal day to day life. Although most days it leaves me tired, spaced out and emotionless. Crazy right?  Why would anyone want to feel like that. Well this is why.

    You see I suffer from depression and anxiety. My anxiety is usually spurred on by a ‘dark’ mood. Let me start by saying, I don’t have suicidal thoughts, I never have & I hopefully never will. My depression takes me to other places. Simple things like relationships and friendships become so trivial, so complicated.

    In my brain it doesn’t sit right, something seems different. I notice little differences that ‘normal’ people wouldn’t notice.

    That comment you didn’t tag me in, but you tagged other people? I saw that, why didn’t you tag me? What’s up with me?

    You read that message, I saw you did, but you didn’t reply.. why didn’t you reply? Have I done something to upset you?

    You didn’t say I love you on the phone.. do you not love me anymore? Do you love someone else instead?

    They just made a comment about me. Was it a joke? Was I supposed to laugh? Or do they mean it? Are they being nice? Are they talking about me? Do they talk about me? I bet they hate me.

    Am I doing this right? Is this what a dad should do? What if this is wrong. Oh god. What if someone reports me. What if they take my kids. Should I hide? Should I leave. I’m a bad dad. I can’t do this.

    Am I good enough? Should I just run away and hide?

    And for all those questions I will spend hours trying to answer. Let it all build up in my mind, until it sends me to tears…… it’s mental that isn’t it. That I see things that way. Some call it psycho but what it really is.. is a mental illness.

    It’s not only mental changes, but physical changes. I eat a lot, mainly rubbish, because I need it now and I need the energy from lack of sleep. Insomnia, up all night answering questions to situations that don’t even exists.

    I still smile and I have every excuse for when you ask why.

    But this tablet helps me.

    Because I know when I start to feel this way or think this way, I need help.

    I know that when my behaviour starts to change, I need guidance.

    And I understand that I don’t need to be ashamed. I don’t need to be understood. I just need to be accepted. Everyone is fighting a battle and sometimes you need to be kinder.

    So I may just be another blogger who’s talking about mental health. But this is the reason for my silence recently. For my lack of posts. For my lack of enthusiasm.

    And to my friends and family. I love you and I’m grateful, because living with this illness is hard, but trying to understand it, is harder.

    Don’t suffer in silence.

    #speakout

    Full Credit to he amazing David Marshall

  • Relapse In Mental Health Is Hilarious Isn’t It

    Demi Lovato overdosing in her $8mil home is the newest punchline for memes.

    She joins the Bipolar relapse walk of fame in the company of 2007 Britney Spears and Amanda Bynes’ Twitter rampages.

    Relapse is hilarious.

    Hilarious until it’s Robin Williams spending his whole life making others happy – just to end his own with a rope around his neck.

    It’s all SO funny until it’s tragic.

    Until it’s your sister’s lifeless body on the floor, accompanied by an empty bottle of her medication. Until it’s your son alone in his room with a razor to his wrist. Or your Mum who hasn’t left her bed for a week.

    Mental illness looks like so many things.

    It’s Carrie Fisher on 7 different medications, 3 times per day. It’s Jim Carrey and Ben Stiller and Stephen Fry.

    It might look like your mate who hasn’t been to school in 2 weeks and won’t answer your calls. Or the neighbour you haven’t seen leave the house this month, and you can see the dirty dishes as a mountain through the window. It might be the teen on drugs or the girl you know who’s always too shaky to speak. One day, it might even be your own reflection.

    It’s 1 in 4 people you know. 25% of us have a problem with our mental health and too many more have a problem with that.

    As Kevin Breel said,

    “…unfortunately, we live in a world where if you break your arm, everyone runs over to sign your cast, but if you tell people you’re depressed, everyone runs the other way. That’s the stigma. We are so, so, so accepting of any body part breaking down, other than our brains. And that’s ignorance. That’s pure ignorance. And that ignorance has created a world that doesn’t understand depression, that doesn’t understand mental health.”

    Demi, our love is with you. 🌻❤️

    Full credit to The girl in the sunflower dress Facebook page

  • MY Mum Died And I Should Of Saved Her

    One woman has shared her mums last words written in a letter addressed to her daughter.

    Juliana Donaldsons Mum Cynthia Heath aged 47 took her own life April this year, Juliana wants to raise awareness of mental health.

    MY Mum Died And I Should Of Saved Her, the following may be distressing or upsetting to some but it is important to read.

    In her letter you can hear the pain:

    “Today’s the day I die, today’s the day I will find my peace, tomorrow will never come, no more pain, no more fear, no more silent nights, I feel excited for the first time in a decade.

    I will miss my family and I know I will hurt them with my actions, but my hurt is too real.

    I cannot spend another night in the company of my thoughts, I forever feel like I’m falling and I can’t get up, I am drowning but I cannot die, My mind is a river which I cannot dam.

    Today’s the day when I will run free, I will not have to fake a smile or pretend all is ok.

    Today is my day, my day in the sun, away from the storm in my eyes.

    I hope my family in time will forgive me and see for once I put myself first, this is my choice and not something I have done lightly.

    I am free

    I am safe

    I am done

    I am tired, my eyes grow heavy, my thoughts are clear.

    All I feel is love, I am me.

    I love you all

    With all my love Mum

    Juliana told us her mother had battled with depression for several years and she doesn’t hate her mother for her actions but blames herself for not supporting her more and pushing her to get help.

    Juliana begs that anyone who is suffering from a mental health condition, seeks help and families and friends don’t push the topic under the carpet.

    https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/telephone-support/

     

     

  • Growing up around mental illness 

    Growing up around mental illness
    Normal childhood, my parents would take me out all the time

    But from what seemed like nowhere my mother got agoraphobia

    Obviously this didn’t just come from nowhere, but to the mind of a child, it just appeared
    One weekend going all over the country to visit family or friends or whatever, then… BAM! Can’t leave the house
    “Can I have a lift to dads?”

    “I’m sorry, we can’t”
    “Can I go to the park?”

    “Not today”
    “Mum, Emily is having a sleepover, can I go?”

    “Another time”
    “Can I go on the school trip to Italy?”

    “We can’t afford it, and it’s a very long time to be away”
    I never envy or feel bitter about the fact I couldn’t do what I always wanted, don’t get me wrong it wasn’t always a “no” or “another time”

    My parents did their best to maintain a “normal” childhood for me
    Except for the fact, they relied on me.
    I’d be out with friends and my mobile would ring “can you come home, we’re having a bad time”

    And I’d return, to help diffuse the situation of a panic attack
    It’s always been described to me as an elastic band of safety

    The elastic band used to cover a larger area, but over time it’s gotten smaller and smaller.

    To the point my parents are stuck in the house for the most part
    But, while I never got to do all of the things I wanted to when I was younger, I was taught skills of empathy, care, compassion and the importance of family to a degree I’m proud of.

    My parents are my everything, and every day I hope it’s a good day for their sake.
    I am forever grateful of my childhood, it led to me being who I am today
    A daughter, a wife, a mother and a nurse
    I am forever grateful.