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  • Adoption Isn’t Easy But My God It’s Worth It

    It’s National Adoption Week this week  I’d write about something that might worry those thinking about adopting or who’ve recently adopted. I know I worried about this through our adoption process and didn’t really want to mention it at the time. Would I love the children that was to become mine? Would they love me? Would they even like me? Ok so that’s three things but it’s all wrapped up into one thing – LOVE.

    My husband and I had always wanted children and after we wed we tried for over 10 years to conceive you see we were trying for children in the 1970’s and help to conceive was not as good as today, I had PCO and was unable to hold onto a pregnancy for more than a month.

    My husband and I decided we would adopt.

    But I still wondered, worried if I’d have a connection with my adopted child/ren.

    September 1987 I received a phone call after waiting 3 years and going through all the palaver the social workers expected, to say that they had two children they felt were suitable for us.

    Two weeks later we met these children a 3-year-old girl called Gemma and a 4-year-old boy called Shaun.

    The little girl smiled when we walked in and showed me her doll, the boy went up to my husband and said “your now my daddy” and hugged him tight.

    It was love at first sight, how could these children that I didn’t carry within my womb feel like my own?

    My children have grown now and I have 3 wonderful grandchildren, It wasn’t always easy being an adoptive mum, questions were asked and going from a family of 2 to a family of 4 was hard work.

    I remember wanting to be pregnant so much but looking back now I am so glad I couldn’t as I wouldn’t have the family that I do now.

    Adoption is not easy but my god is it worth it!!!

  • You Might Be An Autism Parent If…

    1. You might be an autism parent if you have to change the movie your child is watching 10 times in 5 mins because he wants to watch something else.

    2. You might be an autism parent if you watch the same film over and over again and don’t complain.

    3. You might be an autism parent if you get both hit and hugged within 5 seconds of each other.

    4. You might be an autism parent if you can’t wait for your child to go to school after a hectic weekend but miss ‘em minutes after school starts.

    5. You might be an autism parent if you would trade everything you have to spend just half an hour in your child’s mind to know how and what they’re thinking.

    6. You might be an autism parent if you find yourself using your child’s therapeutic coping strategies for yourself.

    7. You might be an autism parent if your blood boils every time you see a status update about an autistic child being bullied.

    8. You might be an autism parent if the definition of a clean house is now one that doesn’t have an overflowing bin, dishes in the sink are rinsed, and laundry is at least in a pile or in the basket.

    9. You might be an autism parent if your friends fade as your life is consumed with many therapists, teachers, doctors, case managers, intervention specialists and these people have no clue you almost feel like they are your new best friends because you spend so much time around them and the subject of conversation is your children.

    10. You might be an autism parent if a ‘good day’ means no one’s in the hospital, no one from the school called, no one from the police department is standing on your lawn and everyone’s sitting in one room without a problem.

    11. You might be an autism parent if someone walks into your house and asks if you live in a dangerous neighbourhood and you say no… the window locks, gate locks and three types of door locks are to keep my kid in… not bad guys out.

    12. You might be an autism parent if your blood boils and it

    touches a nerve whenever you hear a child with autism being

    called the ‘R’ word.

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