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  • Teach Your Daughter These Things

    RULES TO TEACH YOUR DAUGHTER.

    1. Make your bed every day, even if it’s right before you get in it.

    2. Don’t wear holey underwear…in case you’re in an accident and they cut your clothes off.

    3. Travel light through life. Keep only what you need.

    4. It’s okay to cry when you’re hurt. It’s also okay to smash (some) things; but, wash your face, clean your mess, and get up off the floor when you’re done. You don’t belong down there.

    5. If you’re going to curse, be clever. If you’re going to curse in public, know your audience.

    6. Seek out the people and places that resonate with your soul.

    7. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.

    8. 5-second rule. It’s just dirt. There are worse things in a fast food cheeseburger.

    9. Happiness is not a permanent state. Wholeness is. Don’t confuse these.

    10. If you’re staying more than one night, unpack your bag.

    11. Never walk through an alley alone.

    12. Be less sugar, more spice, and only as nice as you’re able to without compromising yourself.

    13. Can’t is a cop-out.

    14. Hold your heroes to a high standard. Be your own hero.

    15. If you can’t smile with your eyes, don’t smile. Insincerity is nothing to aspire to.

    16. Never lie to yourself.

    17. Your body, your rules.

    18. If you have an opinion, you better know why.

    19. Practice your passions.

    20. Ask for what you want. The worst thing they can say is no.

    21. Wish on stars and dandelions, then get to work to make them happen.

    22. Stay as sweet as you are.

    23. Fall in love often. Particularly with ideas, art, music, literature, food and far-off places.

    24. Fall hard and forever in love with nothing but yourself.

    25. Say Please, Thank You, and Pardon Me, whenever the situation warrants it.

    26. Reserve “I’m sorry” for when you truly are.

    27. Naps are for grown-ups, too.

    28. Question everything, except your own intuition.

    29. You have enough. You are enough.

    30. You are amazing! Don’t let anyone ever make you feel you are not. If someone does….walk away. You deserve better.

    31. No matter where you are, you can always come home.

    32. Be happy and remember your roots, family is EVERYTHING.

    33. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

    34. No one will ever love you more than I do.

    35. Be kind; treat others how you would like them to treat you.

    36. If in doubt, remember whose daughter you are and straighten your crown.

    Photo Credit: Alexa Jean Fitness

     

  • Dear Mummy I Forgive You

    My daughter and I just had a knock-down, drag-out bedtime hour. Finally, about ten minutes ago, I put her to bed and through clinched teeth said “I love you, Holland, but not another word tonight. You are going to sleep now. I’m done fussing over stuffed animals.”

    “Mommy?”

    I paused on the way out the door, literally biting my tongue I was so frustrated.

    “What is it, Holland?”

    “I DO have one more thing to say.”

    Of course she did. She was standing on the bed with her hands on her hips, too. Her hair was wild and she was using her arm to wipe her tears and snot away from her face.

    “Mommy,” my three year old said, staring me down with venom in her tiny voice…

    “I FORGIVE YOU!!!”

    Then she laid down and cried and honest to goodness, for a hot minute, I didn’t know what to do.

    The way she said “I forgive you”, made it sound like cuss words.

    I walked over to the bedside and leaned over.

    “Baby girl, do you know what forgiveness means?”

    She was still sniffling, her face shoved deep into her Little Mermaid pillow.

    “Yes,” she muttered.

    I really had to hear this.

    “It means you were wrong, and I’m tired of being mad, and now I’m going to sleep and my heart won’t have a tummy ache.”

    So there you have it, folks.

    Tonight I was taught a lesson in forgiveness by a three year old. It was a gut punch, too. And you’re dang right I climbed in that bed and loved on her.

    Because to be honest, MY heart had a bit of a tummy ache.

    I was reminded by my toddler to never go to bed in anger. Because when you do, your heart will have a tummy ache.

    And you know what? I’ve been alive for 35 years, and I’ve got to give it to her:

    She’s not wrong.

    ❤️

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  • Before Your Child Goes Back To School Show Them This

    This summer holiday you will buy new school uniforms, neatly pack their book bags or back pack, polish their shoes but are you doing the most important thing?

     There is one thing far more important than a freshly ironed uniform and a fresh hair cut that you can do for your child.

    Give them a  tube of toothpaste and asked them to squeeze it out on to a plate or bowl. When they have emptied the whole tube, ask them to put all the toothpaste back in the tube. When they complain and moan that it is impossible

    Say to them “You will remember this plate of toothpaste for the rest of your life. Your words have the power of life or death as you go to school, you are about to see just how much weight your words carry. You are going to have the opportunity to use your words to hurt, demean, slander and wound others. You are also going to have the opportunity to use your words to heal, encourage, inspire and love others. You will occasionally make the wrong choice; I can think of three times this week I have used my own words carelessly and caused harm.

    Just like this toothpaste, once the words leave your mouth, you can’t take them back. Use your words carefully. When others are misusing their words, guard your words. Make the choice every morning that life-giving words will come out of your mouth. Decide tonight that you are going to be a life-giver in school. Be known for your gentleness and compassion. Use your life to give life to a world that so desperately needs it. You will never, ever regret choosing kindness.”

    Adapted from Amy Beth Gardner’s post full credit is still given to Gardner

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