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    @sheisyou444 “Your motherhood will outlive you and live inside your children for…

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    “Your motherhood will outlive you and live inside your children forever” 🌸☁️🤍 This quote hit me deeply and transformed the way I show up as a parent and as a person. It reminded me of the lasting impact my actions, words, and emotional state have on my children. 💖 Reflecting on this, I realized that to be the best parent I can be, I need to take care of my own emotional well-being. This journey began with understanding the importance of regulating my nervous system. When I’m calm and centered, I can create a safe, nurturing environment for my kids, allowing them to thrive. Regulating my nervous system means prioritizing self-care and adopting practices that help me stay grounded. Whether it’s through mindfulness, deep breathing exercises, or simply taking a few moments for myself, these small actions have made a big difference. 🧘‍♀️ But it doesn’t stop there. I also recognized the need to work through my own emotional trauma. Carrying unresolved pain and stress not only affects me but can unintentionally influence my children. So, I’ve embarked on a healing journey—seeking therapy, practicing self-compassion, and forgiving myself for past mistakes. This quote served as a powerful reminder that my motherhood isn’t just about daily tasks or managing routines. It’s about the emotional legacy I leave behind. By healing myself, I’m breaking cycles of trauma and nurturing a foundation of love and resilience within my children. 🌱 Every day, I strive to show up with more patience, understanding, and love. I want my children to carry forward the best parts of me, and that starts with taking care of my own heart and mind ❤️ To all the parents out there, remember: your influence is profound and lasting. Take the time to heal yourself, for it’s the greatest gift you can give to your children and future generations Are you ready to regulate your nervous system and be part of a life-transforming academy, I have exciting news! I’ve joined an incredible program that offers lifetime access to over 50+ coaches specializing in different techniques. It’s been a game-changer for me, and I know it can be for you too. COMMENT ‘regulate’ to start your healing journey 🌸 #healingjourney #heal #hope #love #journey #mother #motherhood #parentsoftiktok #parentlife #fypシ゚viral #fyp #lovingyourself #findingyourself #spiritualtiktok #selflove #nervoussystemregulation #nervoussystemhealing #emotional #awakening

    ♬ you are my sunshine – christina perri

    @sheisyou444

    “Your motherhood will outlive you and live inside your children forever” 🌸☁️🤍 This quote hit me deeply and transformed the way I show up as a parent and as a person. It reminded me of the lasting impact my actions, words, and emotional state have on my children. 💖 Reflecting on this, I realized that to be the best parent I can be, I need to take care of my own emotional well-being. This journey began with understanding the importance of regulating my nervous system. When I’m calm and centered, I can create a safe, nurturing environment for my kids, allowing them to thrive. Regulating my nervous system means prioritizing self-care and adopting practices that help me stay grounded. Whether it’s through mindfulness, deep breathing exercises, or simply taking a few moments for myself, these small actions have made a big difference. 🧘‍♀️ But it doesn’t stop there. I also recognized the need to work through my own emotional trauma. Carrying unresolved pain and stress not only affects me but can unintentionally influence my children. So, I’ve embarked on a healing journey—seeking therapy, practicing self-compassion, and forgiving myself for past mistakes. This quote served as a powerful reminder that my motherhood isn’t just about daily tasks or managing routines. It’s about the emotional legacy I leave behind. By healing myself, I’m breaking cycles of trauma and nurturing a foundation of love and resilience within my children. 🌱 Every day, I strive to show up with more patience, understanding, and love. I want my children to carry forward the best parts of me, and that starts with taking care of my own heart and mind ❤️ To all the parents out there, remember: your influence is profound and lasting. Take the time to heal yourself, for it’s the greatest gift you can give to your children and future generations Are you ready to regulate your nervous system and be part of a life-transforming academy, I have exciting news! I’ve joined an incredible program that offers lifetime access to over 50+ coaches specializing in different techniques. It’s been a game-changer for me, and I know it can be for you too. COMMENT ‘regulate’ to start your healing journey 🌸 #healingjourney #heal #hope #love #journey #mother #motherhood #parentsoftiktok #parentlife #fypシ゚viral #fyp #lovingyourself #findingyourself #spiritualtiktok #selflove #nervoussystemregulation #nervoussystemhealing #emotional #awakening

    ♬ you are my sunshine – christina perri


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  • I Gave Up Work And Now Travel The World

    “I’m sorry but Jenny never showed up for her shift, I know it’s supposed to be your day off but I’m stuck in meetings and need you to go open the bar right now.”

    The text you never want to see from your boss. I seemed to receive some version of this text all too often. 😒

    “Are you serious? Come on man, I just worked the last 6 nights in a row”

    “Please, I’m desperate…”

    And that was how I got roped in to working on my only day off, again. 😒🔫

    As the electric motor that lifted the big metal gate covering the bar’s patio grinded to life and the “clack, clack, clack” sound of the metal slabs of the slowly lifting gated rang in my ears I thought about how I’d originally gotten into this

    business for the flexible hours. But these days it seemed more like a fantasy, working nights, so I could have my days open to work on my production left me with out a social life and too exhausted to think.

    I unlocked the heavy glass door and walked into the dark bar, leaving the sunny warm day behind me and took in the

    smell of stale beer and whatever the kitchen guys had been frying up last night.

    Gross. 🍺🍔

    “Why is the AC always set to arctic freeze in here” I said out loud to the empty bar as I started turning on lights and

    counting drawers. 🥶

    This isn’t the life I had envisioned for myself after almost 18 years of living and grinding in LA. I took this job because

    the money was great, but only as long as I was there ALL THE TIME!!

    I missed more birthdays and events than I could count and hadn’t been on a vacation, not even a weekend getaway in ages.

    For the last two years I had worked every weekend, and holiday, No matter how big or how small; Christmas, New Years, valentines day, presidents day, the fourth of July, you name it, I was there, behind that bar, and I was over it!

    I wanted to pay off my debt, finish choreographing and produce my cabaret show and never step foot into another bar I wasn’t drinking in or performing in ever again!

    Plus I’d always had this dream, ever since I was a little girl, looking at the photos from my parents 6 month, around the

    world vacation, to travel! And not just a week here or there, but to really travel, to spend a month in a place and get to really feel what it would be like to live there. To experience different cultures and lifestyles. 🌎✨

    How was I already 36 years old and still working a dead-end job just to barely get by.

    When my parents were my age they were already married, owned a house, had two kids and had been all the way around the world.

    What went wrong?! What did I do?!?

    Something had to change and it had to change fast!!

    I felt anxious and resentful that my life was passing me by and I was going to miss out! What if I never got the chance to travel full time? The thought sent chills down my spine.

    Then a miracle happened, my bar got sold. They announced it the day I closed escrow on my house, my $300k

    mortgage depending completely on my job security. I was terrified! 😯

    But wait, sometimes out of the biggest tragedies comes our biggest triumphs, and mine was getting fired.

    Yep, I slaved away at this dumb bar, making someone else rich, sacrificing my friends, my relationships and my dreams only to get Fired!?!?!

    I didn’t see it in the moment, but it would turn out to be the best thing for me. 🎉

    It meant I could cut my hours, and finally finish my show! Which I did!! And to sold out audiences our entire run!! 🙌

    🙏 I’d never been happier. But now I faced a cross roads. I could stay in LA and build my show, which meant more 16 hours days and hustling nonstop and barely getting by OR I could shut it down, sell my house and go travel!!

    That’s right, you guessed it, I quit my job, shut down my show and put my house on the market and left LA after 18

    years. I was beyond excited for the next chapter of my life to start and the adventure I was embarking on.

    But life never really goes the way you expect.

    I had to move in with my mom at 36 years old 😳 And the house didn’t sell, it sat on the market eating away at my savings. And I couldn’t find a job in Colorado that didn’t insist on a 2 year commitment which I couldn’t make because the whole point was too go travel. 😱

    So here I was, stuck in Denver, living with my mother, no money, a mortgage and a quickly dwindling savings account. 🤦‍♀️

    I sank into a depression, panicked that I had made a horrible mistake. I’d had a good life in LA, friends, a job, a

    production I was proud of and I gave it all up for this?

    I started looking for ways out. Some way, any way to salvage my dream and my life.

    Everyone I knew who was traveling full time or living abroad worked online. So I knew that had to be the key! 🗝

    But I am so UN-computer savvy it’s not even funny, I can barely send an email 🙈 So I knew I was going to have to learn, and to do that I needed to find a course, or a coach, some kind of mentor that could hold my hand and walk me through exactly what to do, step by step.

    I looked into a number of different options but they left me with an Icky feeling, like a shamefully sleezy salesman or something 🤢 and I just knew it wouldn’t work for me if I didn’t feel good about it.

    I started researching how to start a blog and monetize it, but I’m no writer and didn’t really have much of a social media game. I thought I was doomed.

    That’s when I found an awesome Digital Marketing platform. I don’t know why it stood out to me but it did. It just felt different, it felt right, Like it just clicked.

    So I dug deeper and what I found was an amazing community of people, of all ages and backgrounds.

    And they all seemed happy and excited about what they were doing.

    Not to mention they were all so friendly and made me feel really welcome! 🥰 There are a ton of tools available, and lots of friendly faces to turn to for help. Whether to answer questions, give helpful tips or just some general guidance.

    And it was exactly what I was looking for in terms of it being easy to get started and a step by step process that super easy to follow.

    I’m learning a new skillset that will be super useful in all areas of my life and I can use well into the future.

    And the best part is I get to help people!

    And now not only do I travel full time but I can stay abroad indefinitely because I am making more than enough money. 🥳 Total FREEDOM!!!!

    I did it! I found something I like, that’s fun and empowering and fits my life schedule. Not only am I doing something I believe in, but I feel proud of it as well 🙌

    So if you’re like me and looking for more time and freedom drop “Info” below and we’ll chat!

    I know it’s not for everyone but it worked for me so if you’re curious just click the link, enter your name and email and we’ll send you an email back with a private link to our live broadcast so you can learn more.

    www.evaleetravelsnow.com

    It’s totally free and doesn’t cost you anything to see if it’s a fit for you.

    www.evaleetravelsnow.com

    Best,

    Evalee 🤓

    Credit. https://www.facebook.com/spiritnaturetraveler/

     

  • Sometimes We Survive The Day And Consider That Progress

    Honest feelings. I am sure many will relate.

    Laying here today while Lauren and little Zea slept I had these thoughts run through my mind.

    Ya know when you have these underlying thoughts that seem to stay with you?

    Some days are good, some days are tough.

    SO tough..

    I guess you call it parenthood right? Or just life..

    “Enjoy holding her while she sleeps, because one day it will be the last time”. – A friend said that to me as a way to remind myself how precious each moment is, even when Zea is crying and it feels utterly impossible to get anything done other than just survive the day.

    Sometimes we just gotta survive the day and consider that progress.

    All the questions that run through my mind..

    How do I manage the stress and pull between working to provide and to be present emotionally and love. How do I step away from the phone and computer and not think about life’s pressures of being an adult.

    Which brings the deeper questions..

    Am I a good father?

    Am I a good husband?

    What if I am not enough.

    How do I love Lauren more and be there for her more during her motherhood journey, when I struggle myself at times?

    Wanting to be all the things, to everyone so badly and the frustration that ensues from that when I can’t.

    These questions I feel like are the first layer.

    As I dig below I think it ultimately leads to this idea of death and separation. It scares me, it’s even hard to talk about it here.

    This fear of being apart with something you love so so much.

    My fear for her and her own death someday..

    And hoping that it is a long long way away, far beyond my time & she lives a beautiful full life.

    To my own death and desperately wanting and needing to feel like I have “it” figured life out, realizing I never will – but still clinging to some insane hope.

    Not even sure what “it” actually is..

    Becoming a parent is life changing on so many levels. It is so freakin hard at times too. One thing I know is it has forced me to look deeper into myself.

    “Enjoy holding her while she sleeps, because one day it will last time”.

    Then I think to myself..

    We can see that with everything in life.

    The last laugh, the last cry, the last kiss, the last “I love you”.

    Then I come back to this moment as she sleeps.

    Her little head resting on my chest.

    Lauren beside us both.

    It brings tears of happiness to my eyes knowing I can feel so deeply, even if its pain at times.. With that deeper pain, comes a deeper love too.

    I am realizing now I have to express it more physically. I think men (I know this is true for me) tend to block off, shut down and detach to some extent emotionally because we fear not being good enough.

    We fear not raising our kids right.

    That we aren’t as present with our partner as we know we need to be.

    We aren’t as connected.

    All the while deep down – we fear death and being apart from them.

    We bury it in striving and achieving.

    In doing “stuff”.

    In busy schedules and rushing around.

    I know I do.

    Providing financial support, but we aren’t always there in the ways we know we should be, but it’s hard to face that vulnerability at times..

    That we are also scared too.

    But each time I come back to appreciation, even on the days that feel tough, because through this it helps me remember that sometimes just surviving the day matters.

    That I might not get all the ‘things’ done..

    But I might be there for Lauren & Zea and that is enough. Tomorrow will come and I will be able to figure tomorrow out when it comes.

    The other, bigger questions..

    Well that’s life.

    Dads out there.. Mothers.. People just trying to figure life out. Know you aren’t alone. It’s such a mirror into our own lives and all the things we need to work on too.

    I am grateful for that, even when it hurts..

    🙂

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/fraser.bayley

     

  • To The Ignorant Woman On The Bus

    To the ignorant woman on the bus today … Hi my name is Joey and I have Down Syndrome, sometimes I can be a little bit loud and don’t always like waiting but I am a very lovely happy little man 😁

    We don’t usually get the bus so I was a little bit excited I didn’t like waiting I just wanted to get on any bus but mum said we had to wait for the right one so whilst we were waiting I played with my iPad when the bus finally came I was so excited and wanted to get on it straight away but we had to let all the other people on and wait our turn …you were in front of us and told me to shut up then you laughed and told my mum that I might listen to you.

    Mum was pretty uncomfortable as I wasn’t being naughty just a little loud but I can’t help it … you then stood in front of us and had a conversation with a gentleman getting off the bus and made us wait even longer all I wanted was to get on the bus .. mum thought you were rude but never said anything as she is too polite … you finally moved and we got on the bus at last.

    I was so excited I choose to sit on the seat behind you .. mum parked up my buggy and sat on the seat behind me .. I was so excited waiting for the bus to start I touched your black wooly hat with a Pom Pom on (I didn’t pull it like just touched it u see sometimes I just can’t resist I often touch most things I see) u looked at me then stood up and leant to two ladies sat in front of you and said loudly “is he Down syndrome.

    I couldn’t do with that” the poor lady nodded (she was mortified by the way) then you sat down .. mum said to you that you should ask her if you had a question and she will happily answer but you ignored her … I am Joey I have Down syndrome I am not Down syndrome … my family love me just the way I am and today I had a lovely ride on the bus and cake and hot chocolate in Costa …. mum says you should learn some manners by the way

    Check out Joeys page below

    https://www.facebook.com/ZebedeeModel/

  • The Secret To Losing Weight

    Most people at some point in their life will struggle with there weight.

    I doesn’t matter if it’s baby weight, emotional eating or just a lack of control or self awareness.

    Helping people lose weight is big business, with new diets popping up all the time it’s hard to work out what will help and what is just a scam.

    Diet pills, shakes, wraps, protein bars…. all these things could help you lose weight, but once you’ve lost the weight and no longer need to take these extra supplements, more often than not all the weight comes flying back on!

    So what can we do for the best? 

    Here are a few helpful tips from someone that has strugged with her weight most of her life!

    A little back story on me.  I am very nearly 30 years old and have been over weight most of my adult life as well as my teenage years.  I have lost in total 80 lbs doing various different types of diets.  I have obsessed over every little detail and am one of those boring people you see in supermarkets reading the back of packages to see all the nutritional information.  But let’s get back to the point. 

    Here are a few handy hints and tips of losing weight and keeping it off!

    1)  RESEARCH!  Understanding your diet plan is very important for knowing why and how it will work.  If your meal plan says you can’t eat bread it should also explain why!

    2)  PROGRESS PHOTOS!  I had my husband take photos of me every Saturday morning during the bulk of my weight loss journey. Seeing the small changes every week made such a difference keeping me on track.

    3)  INSTAGRAM!  Visual representation is great, I took photos of my meals and posted them on my DIET ONLY instagram, I have my separate instragram for my personal family pictures to keep everything in its place.  Seeing all my meals in one place is very helpful when meal planning and remembering what I enjoyed or not.

    4)  MEAL PLANNING!  Taking 10/15 minutes a week to write down a list of foods you want to cook along side the ingredients you’d need.  It helps keep you on track and you don’t need to make any last minute bad decisions.

     

    5)  MEAL PREP!  When ever you can try and prep meals the day before or even days before.  You’ll thank yourself if you have a busy week ahead planned!

    6)  ENJOY YOUR LIFE!  Don’t let being on a diet stop you living your life, if you have a cheat day and if that day turns into a week don’t beat yourself up!  Just try and remember why you started dieting in the first place and climb back in the wagon!

    7)  HEALTHY CHOICES!  If you are going to a restaurant with family or friends try and look online at the menu first and see what is avaliable that could fit into your diet plan best.  Maybe instead of a dessert you could have a coffee, ask for a jacket potato or salad instead of fries.

    8)  GET A BUDDY!  Finding someone in either a Facebook group or weight loss group that are in similar situation’s to you weight or lifestyle wise could really help, you can motivate each other and it really makes it feel like you are doing not just for yourself but for them too.

    9)  A NOTE TO YOUR FUTURE SELF!  This one may be a little more out there but it really helped me.  I wrote myself a letter on the day I started my weight loss journey basically explaining why I was doing it, what I hoped to achieve and how I was doing it for all the right reasons.  I taped it to my fridge and if ever I felt like breaking I would read it and it helped me stay on track.

    10)  FAMILY MATTERS!  Doing anything alone makes it ten times harder!  So I made sure all my family understood and supported me.  When I cooked healthy meals it was for all the family.  I found recipe’s for healthy desserts so we all had mostly the same.  It made life much easier and we all enjoyed eating as a family.

    11) CONGRATULATE YOURSELF! Celebrate the little victories!  Don’t just pat yourself on the back at the finish line make sure you tell yourself well done often!  You didn’t over indulge at a party “well done”, you didn’t gain too much weight on your holiday “that’s great!” Tell yourself often you are smashing it!

     

    I truly hope at least some of these help someone, losing weight is hard.  But it’s a journey worth taking. 

  • I am a Rainbow Baby

    What is a rainbow baby?

    It’s quite a beautiful way of handing heartbreak.  Giving your love and loss a name. 

    A rainbow baby is a child conceived after the loss of another. A beautiful rainbow that follows the clouds of a heart wrenching storm.

    A rainbow baby helps heal the wounds left from the life altering heartbreak of losing a child.

    So we wish all the rainbow children out there all the love and respect in the world. For helping us in our time of need, and showing us life can get better in time.