Tag: Hard

  • Adoption Isn’t Easy But My God It’s Worth It

    It’s National Adoption Week this week  I’d write about something that might worry those thinking about adopting or who’ve recently adopted. I know I worried about this through our adoption process and didn’t really want to mention it at the time. Would I love the children that was to become mine? Would they love me? Would they even like me? Ok so that’s three things but it’s all wrapped up into one thing – LOVE.

    My husband and I had always wanted children and after we wed we tried for over 10 years to conceive you see we were trying for children in the 1970’s and help to conceive was not as good as today, I had PCO and was unable to hold onto a pregnancy for more than a month.

    My husband and I decided we would adopt.

    But I still wondered, worried if I’d have a connection with my adopted child/ren.

    September 1987 I received a phone call after waiting 3 years and going through all the palaver the social workers expected, to say that they had two children they felt were suitable for us.

    Two weeks later we met these children a 3-year-old girl called Gemma and a 4-year-old boy called Shaun.

    The little girl smiled when we walked in and showed me her doll, the boy went up to my husband and said “your now my daddy” and hugged him tight.

    It was love at first sight, how could these children that I didn’t carry within my womb feel like my own?

    My children have grown now and I have 3 wonderful grandchildren, It wasn’t always easy being an adoptive mum, questions were asked and going from a family of 2 to a family of 4 was hard work.

    I remember wanting to be pregnant so much but looking back now I am so glad I couldn’t as I wouldn’t have the family that I do now.

    Adoption is not easy but my god is it worth it!!!

  • Shout Out To The Mamas Nursing Through The Tears

    Shout out to all the mamas nursing through the tears on the shower floor, in the backseat of the car, under the piles of laundry, on the couch at 3am, in the cereal aisle of the grocery store. Many mamas go through this you are not alone.

    You are making magic (even if you don’t feel magical.) You are strong and powerful (even if you feel like crumbling to the floor and sleeping for a week.) You are seen and loved and supported (even in those dark, lonely moments when it feels like you alone are responsible for the tiny, fragile life at your breast and the weight of that thought is crushing.) You’ve got this babe, and we’ve got you!

    Breast milk contains antibodies that help your baby fight off viruses and bacteria. Breastfeeding lowers your baby’s risk of having asthma or allergies. Plus, babies who are breastfed exclusively for the first 6 months, without any formula, have fewer ear infections, respiratory illnesses, and bouts of diarrhea.

    (share to a bad-ass breastfeeding mama who may need a reminder of her strength.)

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  • Breast Feeding It Is Hard- It Really Is

    “Ok, I’m going to say it for us all. Breastfeeding is hard. It’s really, really hard. Sometimes I can’t even explain what makes it so difficult. The uncertainty, second guessing, responsibility, commitment, discomfort…just to name a few. We trusted our bodies to grow our babies for 9 months and now we have to trust our body to supply the nourishment for our babes growth & development. Talk about pressure😳 Breastfeeding is full of unanswered questions. You truly don’t know what’s going on down there. Too much? Too little? Too intense? Not enough hindmilk? Not enough time? Plugged duct? Mastitis? WTF!!!

    As if it wasn’t hard enough😓And of course the biggest way to know if you’re doing well is if the baby is gaining weight…great, let me just whip out my handy dandy baby scale😑..But, even with all of that. We all so desperately want to survive and push through. We so badly want to have our baby thrive. We want that relationship. We want the experience. In the end, fed is best. That’s what matters. But all I know right now is that breastfeeding is hard. I am doing my very best but always have a question in the back of my mind. Always second guessing myself. Always wondering if I’m doing OKAY. I’m determined to tough it out. I want to do this. Mamas really do need all the support they can get. So mama, you’re hearing it from me, you’re not going crazy, it is hard, but you’re doing good. Keep going!! There’s a rumor going around that it gets easier😌”

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