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  • When You Think About It We All Have A Favourite Child

    I know I shouldn’t admit it especially to a mum website with some seriously judgemental woman, but I have a favourite child. Secretly when you think of it we all do but most are too afraid to admit it in case of backlash from other parents. I know it’s wrong but I can’t help loving one more than the other.

    My son has always been trying screaming all night, fighting me for any reason, never doing as he’s told and not giving me a minutes peace. He’s been even worse since i had his sister 3 years ago now the constant demand for attention wears me out. I thought once he started school it would be easier but no, my daughter on the other hand is so placid and loving. Shes so much easier and better behaved than her brother that I can’t help favoring her.

    Is it wrong that i prefer to play with her and not her brother, even her toys are more interesting, when I walk round the shops I am drawn to the pretty outfits for my baby girl, but hate buying nice outfits for my son, he is so messy and any clothes will quickly be stained.

    I love both of my children but i can’t help loving one more than the other. I would never let anyone know how I feel and hope one day I can love them both equally but until then I’ll love my daughter more in secret. I would never see any harm come to my son and will do everything in my power to make sure he doesn’t know I favour his sister over him.

     You may think what I’ve said is bad but if you think of it are you sure you haven’t got a favourite too every parent does don’t they?

  • Yes I Have A Favourite Child, I Am Not Ashamed

    Yes I have a favourite child I am not ashamed to say it although I do not make it obvious to my children or the outside world.

    I am the proud mother of two boys a sensitive kind six-year-old named Oscar and a cheeky, funny ten-year old called Charlie who has the condition cystic fibrosis .

    I love Charlie more than Oscar.

    You see my ten-year old needs me much more, I’ve sat up with him through long cold nights, I’ve comforted him, I watched him struggle to breathe and nearly lost him countless times from a variety of infections, I,ve held him and cried with him, I can do little too take away his pain  tears.

    Charlie is my favourite for he is the one who needs my love the most, he doesn’t have many friends as he’s often off school Ill with lung infections or shortness of breathe, I feel immense guilt for giving him this condition, and would give anything to take it away, as a mother you want to help your child but somethings you just cant help.

    My youngest son wouldn’t know that I love his brother more, and I guess most parents in some way favour one child over the other although few would admit it.

    So yes I have a favourite child and I feel absolutely no guilt for the way my heart feels, I love both my children but I’m closer to one than the other, why is it such a taboo subject to say you have a favourite child?

    It is human nature to be closer to somethings more than another, this is why we have favourite pets, a best friend, a parent you are closer to, a favourite outfit so why not a favourite child.