Tag: Elderly

  • What An Eye Opener

    What an eye opener tonight has been, after working a 12 hour shift, I was driving home from work when someone drove In the side of me, they then drove off.

    I followed the car into an off a street we’re the car had parked up, I got out my car to see it was an elderly man driving.

    The man open his car door and reached out to me, he grabbed my arm tightly and told me he’s got Covid-19.

    The man asked for my help, with beads of sweat rolling down his face, the man was drifting in and out of continuousness as he spoke to me.

    I offered to ring the man an ambulance and he told me he will wait till the morning. I went to my car and luckily had a mask with me but no further PPE. I rang an ambulance for the man and he told me he hasn’t ate for 7-10 days as he has been in isolation and has no family or friends.

    The man had attempted to drive to get some food and essentials, as he knew he would die without. The man said he didn’t trust other people as there’s a lot of horrible people in the world.

    The ambulance arrived and I assured the ambulance crew until he was safe to he transported to A&E.

    I followed him up in my own car and have stayed with him for 5 hours with wearing full PPE. The man was so grateful that I stayed with him and kept squeezing my hand and pulling it close to him.

    The man asked me why I was being so kind, so I told him I would hate to be poorly and have no one by my side.

    I have spent 5 hours after my shift by the mans side after my shift, despite having plans for a takeaway tonight. I have just left his side now as he is too poorly to have any visitors, but he has my contact details if he wants to tell me when he is better.

    I’m not sure if he will get better 💔 but I hope so as he’s promised me a coffee.

    My family have all had to isolate them selves tonight and leave the house, so I can go home. They may need to isolate them selves until I know if I have been infected by Covid-19.

    But I know I have saved a mans life tonight, if i waited to ring an ambulance in the morning, he wouldn’t be alive tomorrow.

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/princess.duncan

  • Elderly Man Left In Hospital Waiting Room

    Do NOT take ur loved ones to memorial hospital in Modesto!!! My dad was released at 4am this morning on his own w/no phone, car ,money, or even means to walk or stand on his own!

    I instructed his nurse to call me AS SOON as he was released so I could pick him up but they NEVER did..my 70yr old father was Rolled into a waiting room & left there FOR SEVERAL HOURSSSS waiting for a ride that would’ve never came..I was told he was released an, ‘left on his own”@4am because he was “alert”. I then informed them that he COULDN’T have left on his own because he can’t walk, &I was his only ride! he didnt even have a phone to call anyone!

    After the 3rd time of calling an demanding they check the waiting room, bathrooms, they said he was gone! Finally the 4th time I called back an spoke to someone else they found him in the waiting room..I rushed bck to Modesto to find out he had been sitting there in pissed pants for over FOUR HOURS bcuz he wasn’t even able to get himself to the bathroom.

    On top of everything else some lady sitting next to him stole his walker!!(right in front of security)There was only a handful of people in that waiting room how could they not notice a 70yr old man,pee’d sitting there for several hours?!!!!! Without even checking on him or assisting him!! Unacceptable! He was released with pneumonia, a fever, and completely drugged up on morphine! DO NOT TAKE UR LOVED ONES TO THIS PLACE! #pleaseShare

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/chelseyannvargas

  • The Aged Care Worker-A Day In The Life Of

    Hate hearing cant be that hard cleaning bums.

    The Aged Care Worker’ – a day in the life of…

    It’s 630am and my shift begins. Residents breakfast time is 8am. That’s 90 minutes. By 8am, eleven of my 24 residents are expecting to be sitting in the dining room washed, dressed and ready for their meal.

    Let’s break that down. That’s 8 minutes and 18 seconds per resident! In 8 minutes, I must use a lifter to transfer each resident from their bed to the toilet, from the toilet to the shower, wash them, shave them, dry them, moisturise them, dress them, comb their hair, brush their teeth, apply hearing aids, dress their wounds, transfer them to a wheelchair, tidy their room, make their bed, empty their bin and wheel them to the dining room. 8 minutes!

    Meanwhile, in their bedrooms, the other 13 residents lay waiting for their meal. These residents cannot walk, cannot communicate, cannot feed themselves. They require spoon feeding, can only drink through a straw, and have difficulty swallowing. These residents have not yet been touched since the shift began, because the residents with the verbal and physical behaviours take priority. They have not yet been cared for, because in a ward of 24 high care residents, 4 nurses can only do so much.

    Now it’s 9am, also known as code brown o’clock. 24 residents, and you better believe they all want the toilet at once. As one nurse does the medication round, and another collects the breakfast trays, the remaining two are running, answering multiple buzzers and toileting several residents at a time. One resident is incontinent. You’ve already showered her this morning, but as you follow the trail of poo from the dining room to her bedroom, you realise she will be needing another shower, and pronto!

    It’s now 9:30am. You’re supposed to take your tea break. But you don’t. Or you do, and feel guilty as you scull your cup of cold tea and think about the 13 residents still laying in bed in last nights pad, unable to buzz for assistance.

    Back to it now. You didn’t get to use the toilet, there wasn’t time.

    It’s 9:40am. All personal care would ideally be completed by 11am, leaving just enough time to start preparing for lunch. That leaves 6 minutes and 15 seconds per resident to attend to their personal hygiene. This of course is best case scenario, but throw in a fall, a broken hip, a skin tear, a death, a vomit, an upset visitor, or an accidental poop of the pants, and the time left for each resident is shortened.

    It’s now 11am. You have not done a single note of paperwork. You’ll be in trouble for that, paperwork = funding! You try to type your way though chart after chart, but the buzzers never stop, the phone is always ringing.

    The activity hall calls to tell you your residents have finished playing bingo and are ready to be picked up.

    The hairdresser calls from the office asking you to bring residents over for their appointments. And somewhere amongst it all, the nurses are trying to fit in their lunch breaks.

    It’s 12pm now. Lunchtime. One nurse delivers yet another round of meds, one is feeding the bed-ridden residents, while the third is supervising those in the dining room. 2 residents are fighting over who got the most ice cream, another is choking on her drink because she refuses to have thickened fluids. Another is taking the chewed up food from her mouth and feeding it to a fellow resident who is asleep at the table with her mouth open.

    You still haven’t gotten to the paperwork.

    It’s 12:30pm now, and so begins the busiest hour of the shift. 24 residents all to be toileted, repositioned, checked for pressure sores, or returned to bed. An hour is not enough to get this round done, but it has to be. Two staff are going home at 1pm, and the other at 2. After that, you’re on your own.

    Now it’s 2:45pm. You should be clocking off in 15 minutes! But who are you kidding! You can’t leave until the paperwork’s done.

    Its 3:20pm. You’re in overtime. Unpaid overtime.

    As you type your notes, a resident is spilling his drink, straight down the front of his pants. You don’t see this, but his family do. They’ve arrived (yep, right now) for a visit. They do not see the spilled cup under the table, just the wet patch on his pants. They come charging in to speak to you, they use a stern and unimpressed tone. They lecture you about how it is not dignified for their father to be on display with soiled pants. You explain that you are sorry, and that it is in fact only water, but of course you will get him changed right away.

    The family did not see their father spit on you at 7am as you showered him. They didn’t see you massage dencorub gently into his sore knees to soothe the pain. They didn’t see you pick a flower to sit on his lap and cheer him up during breakfast. They didn’t see you encourage him to eat his lunch when he was reluctant to do so. They only saw this. This patch of water on his pants. And now the world is ending.

    LET ME SAY THIS LOUD FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!

    The media will have you believe that aged care workers are negligent, incompetent, and lacking in skills. Yes, there’s a few stinkers in the bunch, and that is 100% not okay. But you don’t see what goes on behind closed doors, so you are forced to believe only what the media portrays.

    They don’t see us hold the hands of a man with Parkinson’s to ease his shakes just for a moment. They don’t see us sing quietly to their favourite old song as we feed them breakfast. They don’t see us cry as we comb the hair of a resident who has just passed away, trying to make them look presentable for their family. They don’t see us go home as a broken shattered human who has seen more in one day than a lot of people will see ever!

    We are working harder than you know. And feeling like your best is just not good enough, sucks!

    We are not incapable, we are pressed for time! You only hear about the negatives, but please believe the majority of us have good hearts and look after and love your family members as our own 💖

    Sincerely,

    an exhausted care worker

  • Forced To Sell House To Pay For Care

    IS THIS RIGHT.??MY DAD BEING FORCED TO SELL HIS HOME … This is me and my 92 year old Dad yesterday. He’s fit and takes only an inhaler but does have vascular Dementia. Dad was active in World War 2 , he can’t remember.

    He educated himself at University to escape the Pit work his family had all done , he can’t remember.

    Worked his entire life and educated me and my siblings , he can’t remember. Wrote beautiful poetry and stories , he can’t remember.

    Married to mum for 61 years , he can’t remember.

    NOW HE HAS TO PAY FOR HIS CARE BY SELLING HIS BEAUTIFUL HOUSE ..🙈🙈and I thank god he can’t remember. 🙈🙈

    We don’t begrudge paying nearly A THOUSAND POUNDS A WEEK , yes a week … but he sits beside people who pay NOTHING. He is being penalised for securing his future and NEVER EVER taking state money.

    When the money has gone to the state from the sale of his house he will stay in his residential home and be paid for. He will die a poor man , a man with nothing to leave to his grandchildren… ZERO , ZILCH… A PAUPER ..

    I feel useless for not being able to care for him and feel broken hearted for him that his house is to be sold.. An overhaul of our Elderly population’s care is long overdue. To the fat cats that this scenario doesn’t affect , to the owners of care homes who charge extortionate fees , to the Government who are so self obsessed and power crazy …. I pity you all…. And to us ordinary mortals … it’s about time we uprose and got this in order. please like and share but no comments. I just want this to get to someone who might give a monkeys…. 🐵🙉🙊

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/sarah.robinson.7796420

     

  • Missing Couple Can You Help? 2 Minute Read

    Missing Couple Roy Age 61 and Linda Reeve Age 63

    Last Seen 26th July 2018

    From Shrewsbury

    KCAF are appealing for the public’s help to locate missing couple, Roy and Linda Reeve.

    The couple, who are from the Shrewsbury area, were reported missing by relatives in the Porthcawl area on Thursday, July 26th.

    Linda, 63, who is a wheelchair user, and Roy, 61, are believed to be travelling – and possibly living in – a grey Toyota Verso, with the registration number ML16 CXR.

    The vehicle is known to have been in the Miskin and Vale of Glamorgan areas in recent days.

    Officers and family are growing concerned for the couple’s welfare, and they are urged to make contact to confirm their location and that they are safe and well.

    Anyone who believes they have any information on the couple’s whereabouts is asked to contact 101, quoting occurrence 1800281408.

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  • Elderly Man In Critical Condition After Saving Woman

    An elderly man is in a critical condition after falling ill whilst attempting to save a woman he believed was in danger and  being assaulted by a middle-aged male in a busy town.

    Just before 8pm on Thursday the 9th of November, a member of the public went to the aid of a woman after reportedly seeing a middle-aged man trying to force her into a car in a high Street in Colchester Essex.
    While reporting the incident to the police, the man in his 60s suffered a serious medical episode.
    It is believed to have been a heart attack.

    Police Officers and ambulance crew  attended and a privacy screen was put in place for a short period of time close to local pubs and shops, whilst paramedics worked on the have a go hero.

    The ambulance crew transported the elderly man to the local hospital in Colchester where he remains in a critical condition, surrounded by his loved ones.

    A spokesman for the East of England Ambulance Service Trust told local reporters: “We received an emergency 999 call to High Street Colchester at 8.05pm after reports of a male collapsing.
    “Two ambulances, an ambulance car and a community first responder were sent.
    “On arrival they treated a male who had been taken unwell, he was taken to Colchester General Hospital for further treatment.”

    Police Officers later arrested a fourty four year old man on suspicion of assaulting a woman and he remains in custody, all thanks to this have a go hero who did the right thing. 
    Investigations are still ongoing.

    We hope this man makes a speedy recovery, he may well have saved this ladies life or prevented a rape or violent attack , heroes come in all shapes,colours, sizes and ages, in our eyes he is a true gentleman and hero.

     

  • What All Carers Wish They Could Say

    Yes I am a carer, yes this is my job. Don’t come in here and shout at me because your mums not out of bed, I know you want her up at 7 but we have others who need us to.

    I’ll get to her as quick as I can but shouting will not do.


    I haven’t had a break but I won’t let your mother wait.

    I’m sorry she isn’t wearing the new pink dress she didn’t want it on, don’t tell me I am stupid and I don’t understand.


    Yes I know you want what’s best for mum, but so do I, you want her to make the appointment to have those tests done,but your mum is dead against it she has a say you know.


    Don’t complain about me I’m doing the best I can, I can’t go any faster and can’t always stick to the plan, I know you want to leave at 8 but I can’t rush your mum.


    When your mum Is crying in the night it’s me who holds her hand. Your mum is so lovely and makes my day so bright, I wish you saw me daughter and all that I do, so stop the constant digs and realise I am human to.


    Don’t come here once a month and tell me what to do, this is not just a job I really do care, I worry when your mum is ill or hasn’t finished all her meal.


    Your mum is well cared for, I don’t want constant thanks but please get off my back and let me do my job.


    Please family member come see what we do, most carers do their very best and will always try to listen to what you want, but speak to us kindly and ask us why, don’t assume we are lazy or just don’t really care. 







  • Carers Do You Hear Me?

    When the chair is rocking slowly and the fading eye lids fall, when friends and family visits start to slow.It is my carer who I call.

    I’m sorry, I know you’re busy but please don’t rush me dear, my legs are very tired and I can’t help but fear.

    I press my buzzer, I call out, I shout, I wish you would come near, I know I’ve pressed it often but I am lonely here.

    I cannot make it to the toilet and you have to change my pad, I didn’t mean to make a mess, please talk to me with dignity and tell me what you’re doing, turn me slowly, don’t push and shove.

    When I’m laying in my bed and you are washing me, don’t talk to your colleague as if I’m not here, I like to hear about your children and to tell you about my life, I wasn’t always like this and I have so many stories running through my head.

    You work such long hours and your pay is very small, but I am very thankful for all you do , when you smile and joke with me, when you comfort and calm me, when you sit with me and hold my hand, when you remember I am a person who sometimes doesn’t understand.