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  • What I Did When My Childs Boyfriend Dumped Her

    I’ve spent the last hour or so comforting my 8yr old daughter Millie.

    For the last 6 plus months, Millie has had an on / off relationship with the 7yr old little boy next door. (I don’t want to use his real name so I’ll call him Joe bloggs) Obviously they’re far too young for a real boyfriend / girlfriend relationship but they’d play together, occasionally hold hands, and blow each other kisses over the hedge. All very cute and lovely.

    Joe bloggs has just dumped Millie from over the garden fence and she is HEARTBROKEN. We’ve had endless tears, lots of snot and lots of cuddles.

    Now anyone who knows me, knows I’m not very tactful. I don’t do the whole mushy stuff, and I definitely don’t sugar coat shit.

    Had this been one of my own girlfriends who had been cowedly dumped by her fella, I’d have known exactly what to do. I’d have wiped her tears, poured her a glass of wine and told her in no uncertain terms that she absolutely had to fuck his dad.

    Unfortunately when you’re dealing with an 8yr old with a glass of apple juice at a picnic table…. Not appropriate.

    I chose to just let Millie vent her feelings. I let her be upset, I let her be angry and I sent Daddy to the shop for some chocolate.

    When she started to calm down, I wanted to try and make her smile.

    Joe bloggs had revealed to Millie that he was dumping her for another girl 😱 Apparently they’ve been talking lots and he’s in love with her and when they’re all ‘growned up’ they’re going to have lots of babies.

    To try and make Millie giggle, I got out the pens and paper and we drew a picture of Millie AND Joe bloggs new girlfriend. We drew Millie as a princess and the new girlfriend all Ugly and icky. We gave her a snout for a nose and googly eyes and Millie even gave her a big hairy face. By the end of the picture Millie was beaming and back to my happy little girl 🥰

    It was only when Millie declared she was off to give his new ‘girlfriend’ the picture herself that I was suddenly confused…..

    …… Turns out Joe Bloggs new girlfriend is Millie’s 8yr old sister Vienna 🤦‍♀️

    Millie took great pleasure in showing Vienna the picture that her AND MUMMY had drawn of her. Including details of how Mummy said she probably ate worms for breakfast, has hairy toes and bogies in her ears 🤦‍♀️

    One 8yr old is my best friend.

    The other 8yr old poured her juice into my cuppa and called me a meanie fathead.

    Joe fucking Blogs has a lot to answer for and Mummy has making up to do whilst trying to keep the peace between sisters.

    Is it bedtime yet 🙈

    *Edit….Daddy thinks this whole thing is piss funny and keeps calling me a fathead 🙄

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/jenny.schofield.77

  • Dad Pleads For Help After Son Dumped On His Doorstep

    I split from my ex 2 years ago. She moved away and we decided that our kids would live with her and I see them weekends.

    A year ago our youngest was diagnosed as Autistic. Around that same time, my ex had met someone else. She decided that she didn’t want to look after our youngest anymore as he was too demanding due to his condition and literally dumped him on my doorstep ( she didn’t even discuss it with me, just turned up with his stuff) and said that she needs to get on with her life and cannot look after our son anymore.

    My son was very traumatized, he has school refusal and no attempt was made by her to find specialist support for him…

    9 months on, my son is still living with me and he is settled, he sees a psychologist to help him, however his mother has not seen him properly since (not even on his birthday) nor pays any maintenance for his upbringing. Her excuse is that he refuses to see her (he is still in junior school ) she also working 4 days and claiming benefits but says she has no money ( even though on Facebook she posts pictures of her in swanky London hotels etc)

    I am over the moon that my son now lives with me and I will give him all the support I can

    Sometimes he will cry at night and asks for his Mum, I keep on reassuring him that she still loves him. He is so confused and cannot understand why she ignores him yet his sisters are being brought up by her..I have tried to ask her to spend time with him but she refuses, she keeps on saying that she is too busy……..it breaks my heart that she has literally turned her back on him because he was an inconvenience in her life.

    ……..Any advice on what you would do in my situation? I’m prety desperate for help and advice, I feel broken for my lad😞

  • Dogs Dumped When Children Return To School

    As children across the UK go back to school, Dogs Trust has identified an alarming trend which sees some families hand their dogs into rescue centres as soon as their children go back to school. Last year, on September 5th, the start of the new school year, we recorded one of the highest number of calls on any one day of the year. We were asked to take in 220 dogs; double the number of calls we usually receive from struggling dog owners on an average day. 

    With some owners giving up their dogs due to the return to the working routine and juggling the school run after the summer holidays, Dogs Trust is encouraging owners to bring their dogs to training classes, such as Dogs Trust Dog School to help overcome any issues. Sadly, the welfare charity is also seeing instances of dogs being given up because they have been bought to entertain the children over the summer and are no longer needed when the new school year begins .  


    Maria Wickes, Head of Dogs Trust Dog School, explains:


    “Sadly it does seem to be a recurring trend that we see more dogs handed into us as soon as children go back to school. In many cases dogs are not equipped to deal with this change in routine and may start displaying undesirable behaviour. We hope that anyone struggling to control their dog’s behaviour after the summer holidays will consider giving them up a last resort and instead send them “ Bark to School” and sign up for training classes.”


    Maria adds: “In extreme cases we are finding people even buy dogs simply to keep their children occupied during the holidays . Gus, a nine-month-old Cockapoo, was handed into us because his owners bought him to entertain the children during the summer holidays and then passed him to us for rehoming when the kids weren’t around during the day anymore. Whilst the majority of dog owners regard their dogs as valued family members, it appears some may be using dogs as four-legged nannies over the holidays and disregarding them come September. We hope people will remember that a dog is for life and carefully consider this lifetime commitment before purchasing a dog.”


    Dogs Trust Dog School classes operate nationwide and are available throughout the year.


    Dogs Trust hope this will not become a long term trend and educating children about responsible dog ownership and safety is an important part of what we do at Dogs Trust.

    Credit: The Dogs Trust