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  • Tough Love Is All I Know How To Give

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    Tough love is all I know how to give !

    When I’ve busted my butt to do everything possible to give my child a great life .. a better life that I had and guide her and her siblings to the best of my ability …

    Several talks .. plenty of chances and still chooses to act a fool at school and at home…

    Well this mom has reached her limit !

    She will learn to appreciate having a nice cozy bed .. now that she is sleeping on the floor .

    She will learn to appreciate the clothes and shoes we have bought her now that I have limited her to 3 pants , 3 tops and 3 undergarments , 1 hoodie and 1 jacket and 2 pairs of shoes.

    She will learn to appreciate having a washer and dryer …because now she will have to wash those 3day outfits by HAND to re-wear them.

    She will appreciate the fact that she had nice clothes to sport the weekends ..because now she will be wearing her same weekday school uniforms during the weekend .. since that’s part of the wardrobe I allowed her to keep!

    She will appreciate to have had a tv 📺 to watch because now she will only have the 4 walls in her room to look at or a book to read.

    She will learn to appreciate family time and miss it now that she will have plenty of time alone to think about her horrible actions !

    She will appreciate the phone she had and we pay for because now she is disconnected from the world 🌍 NO SOCIAL MEDIA, NO FRIENDS , NOTHING!

    She will learn to watch her mouth and respect her elders at home and at school .. as well as follow directions and correct her behavior as we have taught her to do so!

    Teenagers nowadays think that us parents NEED to give them all that extra stuff .. we sure in hell don’t! All we need to do is provide the basic needs, a roof over there head and food.

    They take everything for granted and complain about every little dumb crap!

    So at this point this punishment is indefinite but at the very minimum a month!

    Best believe she’s going to learn from this one!!

    Credit Liza sepulveda

  • I am the mom who wonders what is going on in that little head of his

    I am the mom who sees her child off to school each morning praying he will have a good day

    I am the mom who walks into work with a smile on my face to hide the pain and fear

    I am the mom who reluctantly answers the phone when I see the school calling

    I am the mom who fights back tears on my way to pick him up because he is in trouble yet again

    I am the mom who acts as though I am so highly disappointed in his behavior in front of the school staff yet all I want to do his hold him and make his sadness and pain disappear

    I am the mom listens to others tell me it’s a discipline issue, he will grow out of it, he’s just a boy while invisibly rolling my eyes into the back of my head….because they have no idea what they are talking about

    I am the mom who walks into school and signs another behavior slip like it’s just another day

    I am the mom who spends her school pick time rummaging through the lost and found because he forgot his jacket on the playground…..again

    I am the mom who has to leave work abruptly because “he can’t stay here today”

    I am the mom who spends hours in school conferences with teachers, counselors and administrators

    I am the mom who gets home and cuddles up with him on the couch

    I am the mom who holds him when he is having a bad day

    I am the mom who wonders what is going on in that little head of his

    I am the mom whose heart is pained by what he goes through on a daily basis

    I am the mom who lays down with him at night and tells him what a good boy he is and how perfect and loved he is

    I am the mom who watches him sleep so calm and sweet and wishes his days could be equally as peaceful

    I am the mom who begs and prays for him to just have a happy, easy, enjoyable life

    I am the mom who wakes up and does it all over again….for him…because I know his greatness and I know his heart and I understand him and will love him though it all. He is my baby and I will fight for him until my last breath.

    Written by Crystal Mikos

  • Mums Punishment Causes Heated Debates

    Cierra Brittany Forney’s post has caused heated debates on social media after she shared how she punished her son.

    Forney said “So lately, my 13-year-old son had been acting a little… entitled. Acting like he’s too good to shop at Wal-Mart or making snarky comments about kids at school who shop at the goodwill and quite a few other things. I don’t tolerate that.

    Today, he took his own 20.00 to the goodwill to buy clothes to wear the entire week to school. Whatever he found is what he would have to wear. He isn’t happy and shed a few tears but I firmly believe in 15 years he will look back and laugh at the day his Mom made him shop at goodwill. I want to teach my kids that money isn’t everything and if you have to degrade other people because of where they shop, then you too will shop there. Side note, I love the goodwill!!”.

    Some people thought the punishment was perfect and that it will teach him kindness and compassion and a great life lesson, whilst many others thought it wrong to share the photo to social media, classing it as a kind of bullying and a permanent reminder that may haunt this boy for years to come.

    What are your thoughts on this form of punishment, great parenting? Too harsh? Let us know in the comments section

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  • Nurses Shouldn’t Be Scared To Call In Sick

    My friend had a sky-rocket temperature, I did not have a temperature gauge at the time to take her temperature however she was burning up, to touch she was very hot, it was like touching a radiator. She was talking gibberish and was feeling somewhat rotten.

    I had assisted my friend in having a bath and using the toilet, I had given her paracetamol to cool her down and helped her to eat and drink, you see me, and this friend are very close and have known each other for years so I look after her when she needs me, and vice versa. However, this whole situation could have been avoided.

    You see this friend works for the NHS, the place where you go to get better.

    This friend however feels victimized and bullied by the people whom employ her. I have also heard that other members of staff where she works feel the same.

    My friend began to feel poorly on the Friday, she was due in work on the Saturday and Sunday, on the Saturday when she awoke she was very poorly, she had a temperature and she hardly had the strength to walk. When I told her that she needed to get some rest and cancel work she told me that she was already on a stage 1 disciplinary for sickness and that she was fearful of the manager.

    The reason she was on a stage one disciplinary, she had been off 3 times (Each time for 1 day or less) in the space of 1 year, 365 days.

    The reasons being?

    Work related injuries, a bad shoulder and sickness bugs contracted from cleaning up shit and vomit all day every day.

    On the first day my friend went to work and came home 1 hour early due to nearly collapsing whilst doing her job.

    On the Sunday my friend went into work again, she had stayed in bed until 12 noon, which is not like her at all, she then got up and dragged herself to work for her late shift, again I had helped her have a bath and dress. I advised her not to go into work, however she still feared losing her job or getting a bad reference when she leaves, which she intends on doing this year.

    I HAVE a massive question to ask, why in the fuck as human beings do we allow someone to have authority over us to the point that we will go into work when we are dead on our feet in fear of punishment from management?

    Why do we have to watch what we (nurses, care staff, doctors.) post on social media in fear of being taken into the office?

    It is time to change, it is time new rules were bought in, yes there are people out there that take the piss, they should be dealt with. The ones that say they are ill and then go out and have a beer with the lads and plaster it all over social media. They are the people who should be facing disciplinary action.

    However, when you have a nurse whom has done the job for over a decade and is rarely ill, when you have a nurse whom is as a 30-year-old woman fearful of her manager. Then we must start to question, when does enough become enough?

    When does the welfare of he nurses, doctors and ambulance crew come into the picture?

    When does the welfare of the families of these staff come into the picture?

    When does the world wake up and say thank-you, how many people say thank-you to their nurse or doctor?

    If there are any managers reading this, how many times do you thank your staff for their work? Or are you concentrating on the things that they have not done, are you concentrating on the fact that they are 2 minutes late as they struggle to get their kids into school on time and then into work. How many times have you asked your workers if they are ok? if there is anything you can do to support them at work?

    I today have taken time off work to support my friend. My friend means more to me than any job ever will.

    Maybe if we all took a stand when it was necessary to do so, then the care sector managers and higher staff would realise that they are not feared, and that fear is not a way to gain respect and control. To gain respect you must earn it. Respect is earned not given.

    Bullies, they get nowhere, as there is always someone around the corner willing to stand up to them.

    Remember people, the only person whom can allow someone to have authority over you, is you.

    Full credit to a gentleman named Joe.

  • Mums Punishment Is Causing Heated Debates

    Amanda Mitchell is causing a heated debate on Facebook with her parenting style.

    Mitchell said “I don’t usually post this kind of stuff but I’m so disgusted and disappointed in Hannah’s behaviour this week I just have to share.

    Long story short, I get a call from her teacher on Friday explaining how Hannah has been acting up all week in class, for substitutes and in other classes. At least two days in a row has been found wandering the halls during lunch when she is required to remain with her class. Was picking on one of her best friends and really hurt the little one’s feelings. Lying to other teachers about her own (AMAZING) teacher. And generally just acting like an asshole.

    Yes, I just said asshole why? Because she’s acting like one. I know she’s not an asshole but if the shoe fits, right?

    The result: an empty room. She has nothing. Welcome to Mommy’s Juvenile Detention little girl. She will wear the same outfit (complete with her anti-bullying shirt) all week. I will wash it at night once she goes to bed but I won’t tell her that. Harsh? Not in my opinion. If she grows up to break the law then the result is jail and that’s not what I want for my children. I think the problem with this generation is inadequate punishment. Punishment is bad we should only use positive reinforcement and ignore all bad behaviour – NOT in this house.

    So this child will earn her things back one at a time. Every day this week she will write lines …

    50 times each:

    I will not lie

    I will be kind to everyone

    I will behave at school

    I am my own person and I make my own choices (she’s been trying to blame her bad behaviour on a friend)

    I am responsible for my own actions

    And then this child will learn the hard way that we do not act like assholes 🙂”.

    Do you agree with her discipline idea? Is this punishment too harsh or a perfect life lesson? Let us know in the comments

  • ADHD Is A Made Up Disease Says Mum

    ADHD is a made up disease says mum

    My little soldier is nine years old he’s called Jacob James.

    I always knew something was different about Jacob.

    He could never sit still, so easily distracted, barely slept, I was exhausted being his mum, but I was his mummy and I would do anything for him.

    At first I just thought James was a hyperactive energy filled boy.

    When James started School his teachers picked up on his lack of attention span and told me to see his Gp for a referral.

    After extensive tests, therapies and assessments he was finally diagnosed with ADHD.

    It was strange, I felt relieved finally there was a reason behind all his actions, finally I had more empathy and understanding.

    The school actioned a plan to help James whilst he was as school, I was feeling more hopeful and happy.

    That was until I told my mother “mum James has ADHD”.

    Now I wasn’t expecting the response I got from my sons nan my own mother:

    “ADHD are you kidding me, that boys just naughty, it’s a made up disease, no child in my school or when you were growing up had it, it’s purely bad parenting and lack of discipline, what that boy needs is a hard smack on the bottom”.

    Since getting his diagnosis I have seen more and more comments on social media and over heard people in the streets saying similar to my mother.

    ADHD diagnosis is not given lightly, a “naughty” child isn’t a child with ADHD.

    Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a group of behavioural symptoms that include inattentiveness, hyperactivity and impulsiveness. Symptoms of ADHD tend to be noticed at an early age and may become more noticeable when a child’s circumstances change, such as when they start school.

    My child is not naughty he doesn’t need to be smacked or disciplined he needs understanding and help

    Find out more about ADHD here http://adhdsymptoms24.com/?m=1

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