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  • 20 SIGNS YOU LIVE WITH A TEENAGER

    1 Literally not a single cup, mug, glass or plate to be found. Because they are all in their bedroom, festering; like the world’s worst branch of John Lewis.

    2 All communication is carried out via grunts, shrugs, and monosyllabic exchanges of: “No.” “Fine.” “WHY?”

    3 Until they want something from you, when they suddenly wax lyrical about their desperate needs and the relative unfairness of their life compared to everyone else they know like they’re writing the next Shakespearean tragedy.

    4 Minimum of three different screen devices on the go at all times.

    5 A fridge that is permanently full of empty packets, because god forbid anyone works out how to use the fucking bin.

    6 And is systematically emptied between the hours of 11pm and 3am each night.

    7 Almost entirely nocturnal lifestyles.

    8 And on your head be it if you try and communicate with them before a reasonable hour of the day. Say…..4pm.

    9 You have a newfound appreciation of the many and varied ways it is possible to express your emotional turmoil via the slamming of doors.

    10 And have provided that many lifts in the last few days, you’re probably outperforming your local Uber driver.

    11 Everything you do/wear/think will be met with a sigh/eye roll/proclamation of how utterly tragic you are as an individual.

    12 Which won’t stop them from borrowing your favourite possessions, mind. And, if you’re really lucky, losing them, too!

    13 Apparently it’s “sick, fam”, and you didn’t realise you were going to need to grasp a completely different command of the English language in order to understand what the fuck they’re banging on about.

    14 Hell hath no fury like a teenager wronged by their sibling/BFF/favourite top that they wanted to wear and they now can’t find because their bedroom looks like the inside of a skip and it is of course ALL YOUR FAULT.

    15 Speaking of bedrooms…you’ve had genuine debate over at what point you need to consider putting a call into Environmental Health.

    16 Where you were once sleep deprived to fuck from sitting up with them through the night when they were tiny babies… you’re now sleep deprived to fuck waiting to collect them from late night parties and ensuring they don’t choke on their own vomit after one too many Malibu and Cokes.

    17 Basically, parenting is about not sleeping at all, ever.

    18 Teenagers can be unreasonable, emotional, irrational gits.

    19 But, when you least expect it, they can also be absolutely bloody lovely, too ❤️

    20 And the entirety of living with a teenager is basically one big massive dose of karma for your own teenage years 👍

  • Father Shares An Important Message To All Parents

    ‘Not many of you know this, but our beautiful girl has been subjected to some awful bullying at school.

    It’s been a very private 7 months for us, dealing with this, immediate family only.

    In this age of social media, children ( because they are children) think it’s ok to send hateful messages (to me also along with their parents who won’t take responsibility)without consequences. I’ve had calls from these children calling me an old hag because I’ve defended our daughter, approached parents and pleaded with them to talk with their children and ask them to stop. I’ve even approached the children themselves, but been threatened by parents with harassment.

    The department of education don’t expel children from schools for bullying as they say. “Every child is entitled to an education.”

    What about our child’s entitlement?

    She’s been sent home numerous times after self harming at school. She’s not allowed a pencil sharpener as she takes the blade out and cuts herself.

    The department of education also told me. “You should teach your child how to be resilient against bullies.” Yes, they said that.

    Our girl has had a video taken of her sitting at her desk at school, legs slightly open, with a lovely caption about the smell. It was posted to snapchat. I spent 90 mins with the police as they tried to determine if it was photographing and distribution of pornographic material. Yes, a 12-year-old can be prosecuted if the content breaches certain criteria. Sadly our daughters didn’t, but she was subjected to weeks of ridicule.

    Repercussions? The girl who posted the video lost her playtime. The person who took the video? Nothing, because no one would tell who it was.

    It’s ok to verbally attack at school because they can get away with it via a screen so think the same will happen in the real world.

    Last week we spent over 5 hours in A&E with psychiatrists, doctors and nurses, because our girl “had a plan to commit suicide,”and on Tuesday I am in court applying for a protection order against a 12-year-old to keep her ( the bully) away from our beautiful girl. All because parents don’t accept responsibility for their children and schools can only do so much.

    The school has a safety plan for the bullied child, our daughter and the bully? She only loses recess and lunch privileges. This is infant school punishment!

    Please, in this awful age of social media (or anti social media as we call it) check your children’s messages. Their devices are a privileges, nothing more, nothing less, so please make sure they are being polite and respectful in their messages. Teach the children to ‘talk’ not use text or social media to air their differences.

    Bullying affects the whole family, not just the bullied. It needs to stop and it needs to stop now!’

    Credit: Leigh Davey

  • Mobile Phone Charging Warning-Beware

    Are you guilty of charging mobile devices overnight? Do you ever charge your phone and put it under your pillow, or in bed with you, whilst you sleep? DON’T! Whilst charging, devices heat up. It’s crucial that the heat is allowed to escape from the device to avoid it overheating and catching fire. By putting it in a hot place – such as under your pillow or in your bed – it prevents the escape of heat, and increases the risk of fire.

    Avoid charging your devices at night – if you have to, put them on a hard surface such as a bedside table or chest of drawers – not on a carpeted floor.

    If you have older children who use ipads or phones before they go to bed remove the devices from their rooms, children will often fall asleep holding onto phones or tablets, make it a habit to charge devices in a safe place and ensure you don’t over load sockets with too any plugs.

    The rate of deaths through fires from charging devices has increased vastly over the last five years, especially as many people use their phones as alarm clocks so have them close to the bed, you can buy an alarm clock relatively cheap and it is a far safer option.

    Please share this article to raise awareness and prevent more unnecessary deaths from happening