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  • Urgent Warning To Anyone Going Through A Custody Battle

    Just when I thought things couldn’t get anymore messed up…

    PLEASE READ!!! Allow this to be a very urgent warning to anyone going through a custody battle. Or any person in general.

    This normal looking charging block has gone in between me and my son’s father’s house for months now with my son’s iPad that he watches movies on.

    Today I was reading an article on nanny cams and how helpful they can be. I began to do a fair bit of research on them. That’s when I came across one that was disguised as a usb wall charger. I thought to myself “wow, that looks alot like the one that we use for bean”

    Swipe to the second pic, this is the front of the block that appears normal but is just a covering for picture #3 which is in fact a camera.

    To say I feel violated and disgusted would be a huge understatement. Think of all the places you use your charging block, when it is in the wall while you’re changing, when you’re showering, when you’re driving. All the time.

    This absolutely fucking disgusts me to think that this has been in my house for this fucking long and I have not noticed. I am not afraid of him seeing how I treat my son, as he is very well taken care of. What I am upset about is the fact that I have been watched for months without knowing. I feel extremely violated. I could honestly puke.

    For months he’d say “I know more than you think I do” and I honestly just thought people were gossiping about me to him. Little did I know…

    To all the parents out there going through a custody battle: please be sure to check EVERYTHING that goes between your two homes so that you do not end up in this situation. Peeping toms don’t have to peek through your window anymore, they’re right inside your home without you even knowing.

    The police will be contacted, this will be dealt with and I will be sure to keep everyone updated.

    And to whom it may concern: you are a disgusting human being. This is disgusting and so fucking wrong! I hope you are ashamed of yourself!

    Update: I certainly did not expect this to blow up as much as it did! Unfortunately the RCMP are not going to do anything just yet, but we’re working on somehow getting him to be held accountable for his actions. At this point, as long as this doesn’t happen to anyone else, that is all that I care about! 💕

    If you or someone you know is in an unhealthy relationship please contact victim services toll free at 1-888-579-2888, you are not alone!

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/n.grypstra

     

  • Someone Please Take My Daughter Away

    Someone please take my daughter away

    I hate my daughter and I really mean it, Kirsty is 14 years old and a bleeding nightmare, she was diagnosed with ADHD 8 years ago although I don’t believe it’s an actual medical condition it’s just her being a brat.

    Kirsty and I live with my mother, Kirsty is a demon she punches, bites, swears like a drunken sailor and does nothing that she is asked to do, she constantly talks back, is rude and genuinely is not a nice person!

    She skips school, smokes, drinks and is sexually active with any boy she can get her hands on, I can’t cope with her at all.

    The school, social services and police are all involved and I’ve expressed that I don’t want her anymore yet my mum has now taken over legal responsibility for her, which means I still have to live with it!

    I am actively looking for somewhere else to live but on my income it seems impossible, I can’t wait til Kirsty grows up and moves away, all the love I used to have for her has gone and just resentment, fear and pain remains.

    This girl is not the child I loved all those years ago I am left with an ungrateful, nasty, disrespectful brat, my mum is just as bad to stand by her, she ultimately has chosen a nasty, manipulative, rude girl over her hard-working loving daughter.

    Kirsty will never amount to anything she will either be pregnant young and waste her life or more than likely have it taken away from her, I would not be surprised if she ended up in prison, she is the type of person that I would cross the street to avoid she has no hope, just a life of disaster and pain is in her future.

    Don’t tell me I’m an awful person to say this about my own daughter but you do not know her you do not see the pain she causes me, does anyone know a way to take the custody away from my mother or a way to have her removed from the house?

    Emailed in by Destiny (surname is to remain anonymous)

  • I Destroyed My Relationship On Purpose

    I met David in 2013 when I was 24 years old, David was a few years older than me and had recently got out of a long relationship with the mother of her daughter.

    I was what you would call a whirl wind relationship within three months we were living together and I had never been happier, Davids little girl Evie visited every Wednesday and every other weekend she was the apple of Davids eye and such a sweet, funny, kind girl it made me so happy to have her in my life but it also made me want a child of my own.

    By the end of 2014 David and I were actively trying for a baby and it didn’t take long for me to fall pregnant, April 2015 I gave birth to my own daughter Amber.

    Evie continued to visit after the birth of Amber and loved being a big sister, but Evie’s mother became a tad jealous, she wouldn’t acknowledge Amber as Evies sister and just called her IT, soon it was harder and harder for David to see Evie, the mum would always have excuses as to why Evie couldn’t visit.

    David didn’t see Evie for months so he drove to his exs house and demanded to know why, the ex said she didn’t like me and until we split up he would not be able to see his first-born daughter.

    David and I sat down and discussed going down the legal route and fighting for Evie but we just didn’t have the money.

    I could see David was getting more and more depressed he was often angry or with drawn, he missed Evie so much, and I was the reason they were apart, I had to do something.

    I began fights for no reason, I became lazy, refused sex, I didn’t make any effort with my appearance and started going out in the evening, I was trying to push him away, I wanted him to leave me and to be able to see his baby girl.

    David couldn’t take any more of the arguing and lack of love and he left me, he still saw our daughter most days and was able to see Evie again, he now has both his daughters in his life, I have lost the love of my life but I could not sit back and see him so depressed, I loved him so much that I had to push him away.

    Some days I regret my decision because I loved him so much but he loved being a dad and now he gets to do that with both his children.

    David is the best dad i could ever ask for, I just wish his ex wasn’t such a bitter, twisted  or that court costs were lowered when children are involved. 

  • Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death

    LETS GET HER NAME OUT THERE SO SHE DOESN’T HAVE A ANIMAL FOR LIFE!!!!

    His name stands for You Only Live Once but Yolo the Staffordshire Bull Terrier life ended in agony and alone – and his owner avoided jail.

    A court heard how his owner Emma Miles locked him in the kitchen of her flat when she moved out, leaving him to starve to death. Only fur and faeces were found in his stomach and his internal organs had decomposed.

    Emma Miles (Forber) a 28-year-old mother of two, left the Staffordshire Bull Terrier locked in the kitchen of the council flat she rented in Oak Drive, Dursley, Gloucestershire when she moved to a new address in August 2016, magistrates Following her formal eviction from the property, council workers clearing the property discovered that the kitchen floor was covered in faeces and a brown sludge, and subsequently discovered the emaciated corpse of a dog wrapped in a plastic bin bag, which had been placed in a cupboard.

    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death
    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death

    When Stroud District Council’s animal welfare officers were called in to investigate the case Miles claimed that she had given the dog, named Yolo, to a former boyfriend.

    However rigorous investigations by SDC animal welfare officer Alex Myrie demonstrated that was not the case, and that Miles had left Yolo alone in the flat without food, water or human company over a period of weeks, which resulted in him starving to death.

    A post-mortem examination found that the dog’s stomach contents contained only dog fur and faeces, the only sources of food that would have been available to him.

    A wound was discovered that was consistent with a pressure sore arising from an inability to move prior to his death. The brown sludge found on the kitchen floor was consistent with the advanced decomposition of internal organs.

    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death
    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death

    A vet appointed by the council reported that Yolo ‘suffered a great deal in the slow, cruel and unnecessary process of starvation.’

    Miles was found guilty of causing Yolo unnecessary suffering which resulted in his death and was sentenced to 18 weeks of custody, suspended for 12 months and ordered to complete 180 hours of unpaid work in the community within 12 months. She was disqualified from owning or having responsibility for any animal for 10 years and ordered to pay ÂŁ1,000 towards council costs as well as a ÂŁ115 victim surcharge.

    Mrs Myrie, who led the investigation, said: “In my 16 years in this role, this is the worst case of animal cruelty I have had to deal with.

    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death
    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death

    “The last days and weeks of Yolo’s life must have been the stuff of nightmares. Staffies thrive on human company and the thought of Yolo spending his last week’s not only starving and thirsty but also lonely, breaks my heart.

    “It seems a cruel irony that Yolo’s name stands for ‘You Only Live Once’ when his life ended so cruelly and needlessly.

    “There are no winners in cases of this nature but we are very grateful to the courts for bringing Miss Miles to account for her actions, in particular banning her from having any responsibility for any animal for the next 10 years.” 10 POXY YEARS 😡

    Councillor Simon Pickering, chairman of Stroud District Council’s environment committee said: “The level of cruelty uncovered in this case is completely abhorrent.

    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death
    Woman Who Starved Her Dog To Death

    “I wish publicly to thank the diligence and dedication of our animal welfare and legal teams for their excellent work to ensure a successful prosecution.

    LETS BRING JUSTICE FOR YOLO

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    Just created a petition on change website.. please read & sign! Appreciate everyone’s shares and comments .

    http://chn.ge/2GXQtEv

     

  • Social Services Have Taken My Heart I Want My Baby Back

     

     

    Kerry Blackaller is currently going through hell her little angel her only daughter has been removed from her care and she is fighting to get her back.

    Blackaller said “Well since 8 this morning I’ve been trying to find the right words. This is the best I could do. 11 months ago today was the happiest day of my Life. You completed me finally after all these years. Some time passed in that time we passed I lost my battle to keep you with me. Please believe me it was not my fault I did everything in my power.

    Unfortunately the system let me and you both down. Since you’ve been gone I still have fought for you every day. My days have been bad but this day has hit me like a ton of bricks. Every month you was a month older we always used to do something. This month we can’t 💔 furthermore I’m now realising its only one month away until your first birthday and I’m dreading that day coming.

    Social Services Have Taken My Heart I Want My Baby Back
    Social Services Have Taken My Heart I Want My Baby Back

    Lyla baby my life is just not the same without you here. I don’t want to get up in the mornings, The fight I have left in me is minimal, but of course for you I’m not giving up and still somehow going. You are the only reason right now that I breathe. What I would give to hear a silly little cry or a moan or the smell of a stinky nappy.

    To just feel your presence and your arms around my neck, your head on my chest, your hands in mine, to hear the most amazing sound of all that beautiful laugh of yours, to feel your heart beat next to mine, to see the worlds most captivating smile, to feel the most beautiful skin I’ve ever felt, most of all the best sound I have ever heard in my life, you in the morning rocking the cot and calling MUM. I have deep trouble accepting the fact that your gone. How you’ll now call

    Someone else mum, how I won’t get to see you flourish and grow anymore, your 1st day at nursery, then big girl school, to know if your hurt or sad, jobs, friends, boyfriends, prom, career, for the rest of my life this will eat me alive. But I promise as long as you ok and smiling I will deal with it and wait for

    You to come and find me to make it up to you and show you all I done. I really hope you understand I done what I could. You have made me the happiest and proudest mum in the world. Every minute and second I spent with you was the best time of my Life.

    While I sit and write this with tears streaming down my face there’s still this smile that is permanently stuck there to my face and heart because of you. For this I thank you and I will cherish it all until I see you again. I miss and love you so much it hurts, and makes my heart skip beats. There’s not a single day that goes by that I don’t hurt, or think about you and smile, that I don’t smell or hear your infectious laugh. Not a day that I can’t wait to have you back in my arms. Or a day I wish I could turn back time, most of all not a day goes by where I don’t pray to have you back and that your safe and happy.

    Social Services Have Taken My Heart I Want My Baby Back
    Social Services Have Taken My Heart I Want My Baby Back

    Please god keep my baby safe and happy. Let her grow into all she can be. Let her know I’m here not giving up. I promise mummy will think about u and cherish every moment of you every day. I promise I will always be here. You’ve given me feelings I never knew existed. Until we meet again.. I have to say bye and god only knows how I’m going to do that. I love you more than any words could ever comprehend. Not only because you’re my daughter but you was my best friend too. And Forever that will remain. My whole 🌎 my ❤️ beat. My baby 👶🏼 mummy’s 👸🏼 forever and always 👩‍👧 💜💕💔💔💔💔”.

    if you are able to help Blackaller who is trying to raise funds for legal fees

    https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/kerry-blackaller?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=Yimbyprojectpage&utm_content=kerry-blackaller&utm_campaign=projectpage-share-owner&utm_term=X6NnxzweD

     

     

  • He Stole The Twins From Me It’s Utterly Cruel

    Grandparents are important to.

    Social media and the news are always sharing articles about fathers for justice and how some dads get a rough ride when a relationship breaks down, well I’d like to share my story.

    My only daughter Jenny was a lovely bubbly kind little girl who blossomed into a beautiful, funny sweet woman, not only was she my daughter she was my best friend.

    Jenny married her long-term boyfriend Simon in 2007 and went on to have much wanted twins Hope and Destiny in 2010.

    I loved these little girls so much and was proud to be their nanny, I dotted on the twins and helped out whenever I could.

    Jenny decided to back to work when the girls were two, I jumped at the chance to care for the twins whilst my daughter worked, I had Hope and Destiny Monday to Thursday from 8:30am until 6pm and loved every minute of it.

    January last year whilst at work Jenny cut her hand on a broken chair, we thought nothing of it but within 2 days she was rushed to hospital with sepsis, my only daughter passed away surrounded by her loved ones.

    I struggled to carry on with my days but the twins kept me going, I had to stay strong for them.

    My son-in-law needed me to care for the girls so life carried on that was until Simon met Erica in August, within a month of meeting her he had moved her in.

    I was no longer needed Erica replaced my daughter and my role of caring for the girls.

    Simon has pushed me out he won’t answer my calls and has moved away without telling me where.

    I miss the twins so much they are the only thing I have left and he has stolen them from me.

    I have got myself a job to try to save up to take my son-in-law to court for access but solicitor fees are so expensive, I will not give up trying, I will see the twins again or die trying.

    Grandparents are just as important, parents need to understand the bond and love we have with our grandchildren is strong and it is utterly cruel to deprive children from that love

     

  • Dads Are Important To- Keep Your Rants To Yourself

    Dads get such a bad press on social media and by multiple mums and woman around the globe but dads are important to (depending on his behaviour). .

    There are some terrible fathers out there, some total losers, some wasters and some abusers but what about the wonderful dads?

    One scroll through a Facebook mum group and you will see dads being slated left right and centre, especially on Father’s Day or at Christmas, but is it necessary to blame all men for one mans wrong doing or even to rant on social media on dads special days, surely on the likes of Fathers day we could keep our opinions to ourselves.

    There are dads out there begging to be a part of their children’s lives and often there is no good reason why they can’t be apart of their children’s lives other than the mum is bitter about the break up and is denying the father his rights to see his off spring.

    The second a mum rants about her partner or her ex most replies are “leave him” or he’s a waster you’re better off without him and a lot worse, sometimes we all need to hear the whole story to be able to make a judgement, just as not all men are bad not all woman are innocent and nice.

    Dads Are Important To Keep Your Rants To Yourself
    Dads Are Important To Keep Your Rants To Yourself

    Woman across the world are tarring all men with the same brush.

    Let’s remember ladies there are dads out there raising children alone, men who support their ex’s financially, mentally and even help with diy around their ex’s home, who spoil the kids and attend every school play, special event and remain civil and respect the mother of their child.

    There are men raising children which aren’t theirs and doing an amazing job to.

    There are fathers who are fantastic, who are hard-working, who are supportive, so come on ladies let’s show the good strong amazing dads some credit.

    Don’t label all men the same, find out the facts before we all judge and remember good dads, step fathers, partners and male relatives can provide a huge positive impact on your child’s well-being.

    Share this with an amazing father.

     

     

  • Social services have bullied and victimized me-Bring my baby home

    My 2-year-old son with special needs was removed last week after a desperate fight to keep him at home . All I ask is that you support me in my quest to have Levi returned home immediately . I need  the community, family and friends to work with me in helping make this happen.

     
    My little boy Levi is partially non verbal he says 3 words and was making sounds to try to say more. He has mild hearing difficulties but did not allow audiology to complete all the tests as he was fearful of the equipment they put in his ears. 

    As a lone mother I always made his health my priority never-failing to meet his needs. 
    Social services are saying that he has failed to meet his communication milestones but what they failed to mention was this was the other area he needed to work on and that his gross motor and mobility skills were fine . 

    Levi is under pediatric at RBH we were due to be issued a portage worker that would teach me and Levi Makaton sign language to improve our communication through the use of visual cards. We were also recommended a social group by Peads with special needs children so he could meet other young children similar to himself to help improve his confidence . I thought this was a fantastic idea and couldn’t wait for this to begin .

     
    Social services have bullied and victimized me . They tried to remove Levi before I had a chance to obtain any legal representation . They FAILED at their countless attempts to remove Levi then maliciously put false information in front of the judge that I hadn’t let in welfare professionals resulting in the third time them succeeding in the removal of Levi .

     
    I have frantically been contacting out of hours social services in hope that I would be given updates on my sons wellbeing but had no success.

    Dismally Levi’s health is deteriorating at his foster placement he has a cold and by the sounds of It a chest infection 😢The foster carer does not have his medical details and hasn’t taken Levi to the GP . 

    The handover did not happen as it should have and the foster carer has no details on Levi’s likes and dislikes, allergies or medical records which is appalling as Levi has special needs . She also does not have his red book or medical notes / letters . 

    Local authority should be ashamed of themselves . 

    My social worker told me that contact was not happening yesterday then abruptly hung up the phone . 

    I still arrived half an hour early and was told I was not allowed to take pictures on my mobile but could use the digital camera they provided . 

    The foster carer brought Levi 10 mins late and I was told this could not be made up due to room availability . 

    I dressed Levi up in his Halloween costume ghost 👻 and enjoyed cuddles . 

    I am really worried about his health as the foster carer wrote that she needed more details on likes and dislikes . I assume he was hungry as he was trying to pick the crumbs out the carpet . 💔 I miss him so much already I can’t wait for our reunion at contact on Thursday . Keep strong little man .

    Emotionally I’m breaking down, I’m finding it difficult eating and staying positive . 

    I am attending all appointments. 

    I went to the GP the other day and had concerning results back on my blood test

    My body is struggling to fight with the stress since mine and Levi’s separation . The doctor told me the results were concerning and he hadn’t seen such high levels in my thyroid results . My anxiety is rocketing sky-high and I feel powerless . Me and Levi are being targeted and discriminated daily.

    To follow Levi’s fight take a look here https://www.facebook.com/Bring-Home-Levi-Chapman-138208093569708/

     

     

     

  • Rapist Awarded Joint Legal Custody

    A  judge in America has granted parenting time and joint legal custody of an 8-year-old boy to a convicted sex offender who allegedly raped the child’s mother nine years ago.

    Christopher Mirasolo, 27, was awarded joint legal custody by a Judge after DNA testing established paternity of the child.

    It was prompted after the county surveyed the victim regarding child support she had received this past year.

    The victim’s lawyer said “He was never properly charged and should still be sitting behind bars somewhere, but the system is victimizing my client, who was a child herself when this all happened.”

    According to Kiessling, Mirasolo forcibly raped and threatened to kill her client, now 21, nine years ago when the woman was 12. Mirasolo was 18 when the incident occurred in September 2008.

    “She, her 13-year-old sister and a friend all slipped out of their house one night to meet a boy and the boy’s older friend, Mirasolo, showed up and asked if they wanted to go for a ride,” said Kiessling. “They thought they were going to McDonald’s or somewhere.

    “Instead, he tossed their phones away, drove to Detroit where he stole petrol from a station and then drove back to Sanilac County, where he kept them captive for two days in a vacant house near a relative, finally releasing the older sister in a park. He threatened to kill them if they told anyone what happened.”

    Mirasolo was arrested a month later, she said, when her client was pregnant.

    Mirasolo was sentenced to one year in the county jail but only served six and a half months before early release so he could care for his sick mother.

    Meanwhile, the rape victim’s family suggested abortion or giving the child up for adoption. She did neither.

    “To her credit, she said she didn’t want the baby to be a victim, too,” said Kiessling. “She dropped out of school, went to live with relatives out of state and worked jobs to try and support herself.”

     

  • Parental Alienation Is Killing People 

    A man named Brick Benn is trying to raise awareness of parental alienation.

    He issued this following statement.

    “This post is public so people can share it. This matters, this is happening everywhere every day and some of us just can’t take the pain anymore. We are the victims of parental alienation and our children are victims of some of the most vile, evil and twisted abuse put on them by people who are supposed to love them. This isn’t love.
    Last night one of our fellow victims of parental alienation had enough of the lies, the narcissistic ex constantly abusing him and his kids. His name was Bryan Carter.
    This story is all too familiar now, unfortunately the media won’t care, his ex is probably celebrating that she has won the “ultimate victory” and drove this man to kill himself.
    All he wanted was to see his kids.
    Think about that, all he wanted was to see his kids, like somebody actually has the right to stop us from seeing our kids for no other reason than their own self absorbed controlling hate filled games, they don’t have that right.
    This is what those games do to men and women everywhere on the globe, every single day, who gives a flying fuck about someone hunting a Lion as if that’s major news, an international disgrace that will cause outrage, and protests so people can feel self righteous, not bashing the Lion, it’s sad that the Lion was hunted but what are we coming to as a society when that is more important than the daily suicide of men because a lying narcissist has stopped us seeing our kids, this happens to some women too but in nowhere near as high levels.
    This man deserves to be on the news channels, the reason he and so many other loving fathers kill themselves everyday needs to be exposed, the conversation has to happen, this evil needs to stop.
    Parental Alienation is killing loving parents and destroying children’s lives.
    Rest In Peace fellow traveller, your struggle is over now.
    Evil narcissists beware, let this be a lesson, let us love our kids before you kill more people.
    To Bryan’s family I am so sorry for your loss, when the kids grow up I hope they don’t hate him for this, the pain he was feeling was something people can’t understand unless they go through it themselves, I understand.
    I hope you all find peace and wish you nothing but support and strength in this hard time.

    Original source Bricks Benn