Tag: cuddle

  • None Of My Children Have Slept In A Crib

    None of my children have ever slept in a crib. I have always proudly co-slept with them and they are welcome in my bed until they outgrow the need. Some benefits of co-sleeping are:

    Encourages independence

    While it is commonly believed that co-sleeping will create clingy, dependent children, research proves that the opposite is true. Children who share sleep with their parents develop independence earlier and need less transitional objects because they do not experience separation anxiety. “When a child routinely goes to sleep in the presence of an adult, or with an adult holding her, it’s extremely rare to find thumb sucking or attachment to security objects,” explains Dr. Jay Gordon, author of Good Nights: The Happy Parents’ Guide to the Family Bed.

    Builds self esteem

    Children who have grown up in a family bed have increased self-esteem, experience less behavioral problems, are less prone to peer pressure and report more happiness and general satisfaction with life. They are less likely to suffer from stress disorders than children who did not share sleep with their parents.

    Promotes physical and mental well-being

    In addition to psychological benefits, babies who co-sleep appear to thrive better.

    Parenting expert and pediatrician Dr. William Sears explains, “Over the past thirty years of observing sleep-sharing families in our pediatric practice, we have noticed one medical benefit that stands out; these babies thrive. ‘Thriving’ means not only getting bigger, but also growing to your full potential, emotionally, physically and intellectually. Perhaps it’s the extra touch that stimulates development, or perhaps the extra feedings (yes, sleep-sharing infants breastfeed more often than solo sleepers).”

    Reduces risk of stress disorders and SIDS

    In his years of research on co-sleeping, Harvard psychiatrist Michael Commons has discovered that babies who sleep alone are at increased risk for SIDS and stress disorders. Co-sleeping babies sleep in physiological harmony with their mothers. The proximity of the mother and infant actually regulates the infant’s breathing, sleep state, arousal patterns, heart rates and body temperature. Babies who are left to cry alone experience elevated levels of the stress hormone cortisol, which causes damage to the developing brain. “It makes you more prone to the effects of stress, more prone to illness, including mental illness and makes it harder to recover from illness,” explains Commons.

    Easier for nursing moms

    Nursing moms who co-sleep with their babies report feeling better rested. Because they do not have to leave the bed to nurse, their sleep patterns are less disturbed and they feel more alert and focused during the daytime.

    Promotes family closeness

    Children raised in the family bed lifestyle develop close bonds with their family and report more feelings of connectedness and happiness than children who sleep alone. Sleeping together provides more hours in each day for family members to connect and share loving, nurturing moments under the sweet breath of sleep.

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  • I Had To Make A Choice Between Being A Mum Or A…

    Yesterday Molly over heard me saying that I was competing in my first track race in 6 years.

    She asked me why, and asked “is it because of me?”

    I answered honestly, and said, “well, Yes.”

    Her little face dropped and she appolgied.

    I then stroked her hair and said, “When you were younger we had to move out of Nannys house.

    It got too difficult being a single mama and trying to train for running so much, if your Dad was around it might have been different… but because it’s just me, I basically had to choose.

    I had to make a choice between being the best Mummy I could be, or being the best runner I could be.

    And I chose you.

    I’ll always choose you.

    Because you are my priority.

    You are the most important person and “thing” to me…

    I love running, you know I do, but I love you so much more.”

    Molly’s face lit up, she told me she loved me and she grabbed me in a big cuddle. 💗

    I continued, “So it’s not your fault at all.

    And you don’t need to apologise to me.

    I’m not upset or mad at you in any way.

    It’s been such an amazing gift to be your Mummy, and I wouldn’t change it.

    And now your older I can get back into running a bit anyway!”

    Molly then jumped in and said, “And I want to help you get to run!”

    I thanked her and we had the biggest cuddle.

    Then she lay her head down on my lap as I stroked her hair.

    She looked so content and warm inside.

    Reminded that she is important and loved.

    I do love running, but I love Molly more.

    And I’m glad she knows it. ♡

    **Picture: left, 2013 County Champs

    Picture: Right, 2019 County Champs**

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  • Everyone Warned Me That Cuddling My Baby Will Result In A Clingy Teenager

    ‘I’ve been rocking and cuddling my baby to sleep since that day he was born. I mentioned this to a nurse at my clinic recently. She said that she did the same thing with her son, and everyone warned her that she would still have a teenager sleeping in her bed. And then she told me that, a few weeks ago, her teenage son came home from school very upset.

    He didn’t want to talk, and just went to his room and listened to his music, typed on his phone and cried. The mother gave her son space, and night time came and she went to bed. Just as she was about to turn off her side light, the door opened, and her 15 year old padded into the room.

    He climbed into the bed with her, laid his head on her shoulder and cried. He told her all about the girl that broke his heart, all about the friends who laughed, all about the stresses of being him. She told him about her first broken heart, about friends who’d been cruel, and told him she understands. They talked in the dark for hours, until he fell asleep in her bed. Still sad but relieved after their talk.

    ‘So you see’ she said to me, when she finished the story. ‘I was so scared that I wound wind up with a teenager who would ‘need me’ at night, that I never stopped to consider how beautiful that would really be.’

    Above story by the beautiful L.R.Knost – Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources

    When we stop listening to the unnecessary noise around us, we begin to tune in to who is right in front of us.

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